Who is the sperm donor?

Latia - posted on 11/30/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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If a woman had sex a month apart with two diffrent men, can i determine who the father is?

i am leaving out the reasons on the whole incident out, i just need help because this is the first time this happend to me.so no rude comments.

i had sex oct 4 with my ex boyfriend and i found out i was pregnant at 13 weeks.the doctor said "estimating" that nov 4 was my last period and the conception was between nov 18-20 which is around the time i had sex with my friend, i was drunk and pushed him away before we could do anything but there was still precum

the due date was aug 11 but the baby came aug 17 is this right?



who would be the father? i'm still going for paternity ,i just need your opinon

the only other person besides my ex was my friend in november.would this make my friend the father? i'm still going to do the paternity test but i just want your opinion

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Amanda - posted on 11/30/2010

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Latia, the only way to be certain is to have the test done. I would think it would be your ex but I could be wrong, plus the due date and birth day are only a week apart. I can sympathize with you on this particular issue, my husband and I were separated for a short time and I was partying with a friend when things got out of hand. My husband and I got back together and put it all behind us till I discovered I was pregnant a few months later. We never had a paternity until we divorced. At that time, my daughter was 2 1/2 years old and we found out that my friend is her dad, after lots of heartache, things are finally settling down (almost a year later). My advice to you is take the test and swallow your pride early, it is so hard when your baby is older. I pray you are helped by my advice and good luck in your testing.

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Christina - posted on 12/04/2010

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If both are bad news, have you considered not getting them tested and just raising your son alone? Sounds like your baby belongs to your friend. If you had a period after sleeping with your ex, the chances that he is the dad is slim to none.

Ambrosia - posted on 12/04/2010

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I think it would be you friend. But that is just based on the dates you have given. Good Luck

Jean - posted on 12/01/2010

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i would say do the paternity to be sure but it must be your friend cuz the due date and dob is around the time you concieved with the friend. but i could be wrong i had the same issue as well i had sex at the end of march with a friend and then in april with my ex who was a friend with benifit bond well i did the DNA and it ends up the ex is the father now i am going through battle upon battle because he is no type of father he dont even know how to hold a baby and he never comes by to say hi so go on girl do what you got to do keep the baby in mind and dont let others stress you out and keep this as a reminder if it is the friend or the ex let them know and let them try to be there if they want to hope i helped

Felicia - posted on 12/01/2010

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i just had to go through this. because of a girl i thought was my friend lied to me. i thought only one guy was my baby daddy cuz i had her ask the other one if there was any chance and she said he said no. i recently found out she lied when my son started looking like him. so i reached him a couple days later. im glad i kept his number. we got a dna test done and it turns out to be his and not the guy i thought. good thing cuz the other guy was an ass. i recomend GFI testing. its only like 80bucks to order online! dont wait too long like i did cuz my babys father wish he knew about him a long time ago and now he has a girlfriend so we argue about the gf cuz i dont want her around my son :) can you really blame me tho?

Latia - posted on 12/01/2010

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they both are bad. the one who is more likely has 7 kids. and one looks like him. problem is both men are white with brown eyes and hair so its hard

Amber - posted on 12/01/2010

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I'm in the same situation. I was with this guy for a year, but there was no sign of him committing to the relationship so when I met the other guy, I walked away. There was a week between the two and I found out I was almost 2 months pregnant, 2 months later. I've been comparing pictures of my son and both the guys since he was born. So many signs (eye color, shape of ears and hands, etc) point to the guy I was with for a year, but some of the facial expressions give him the other guys features. The only thing you really can do is wait for the test results to come back like I am. I wish you luck either way it goes. Instead of asking yourself who the father is, you should ask yourself if they will be a good father to your child. If there's any reason they won't be, then you need to have a game plan for when the results come back.

Latia - posted on 12/01/2010

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i had two diffrent dates at first and they decided to stick with aug 11..which he was born aug 17 so i guess everything was right

Keri - posted on 12/01/2010

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I would say that based on what you have shared that it is most likely your friend's baby. If the doctor is estimating your last known period with ultrasound test that I would take that as a pretty solid date. Ultra sound gives a very accurate conception date particularly if your due date stays consistent throughout your pregnancy with additional ultrasounds. In my case the ultra sound tech told me the date I most likely conceived just by measuring the fetus, she was exactly right.
I think though you need to get the DNA test done anyways for piece of mind and for any support and custody case you may pursue later.
Stay strong and good luck with everything

Latia - posted on 12/01/2010

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what makes you think its my ex and i dont understand what you mean about due date an birth date being a week apart? thank you for not judging and encouraging me. i still feel horrible but i'm trying to get past all of it for the sake of my baby

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