Iiz - posted on 08/01/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
Ok so Im 25yrs old and a single mom of a 7yr old boy and 6yr old girl. Their dad split when my son was 5, he would talk to his ex on and off until I was finally fed up! I didn't deserve to be treated the way he was treating me. He was emotionally abusive at times. We had our moments where I thought we could really be happy but this girl kept creeping around even though we lived states apart. She had the nerve to look for him knowing we were together and expecting our 2nd child. Not to mention she was a single mom at the time from a deadbeat dad (one of my ex's excuses to talking to her was because he felt sorry for her, yea right!) so why would she dare step into someone else's relationship. Anyway fast forward since then I've been doing great! I have a good job, I'm living with my parents just because I really can't afford my own place, I have my own car, I learn to become Independent to a point where I'm able to support my kids. I'm dating a great guy(: but i sometimes find myself crying at night. I don't know if it's just that I'm overwhelmed or because I haven't completely gotten over what my ex has done. He left his kids to be with that girl which he's now living with, has a daughter with her, and is taking care of a daughter that is not his!! He will not see his kids, he will not call them. He even tried getting out of child support by saying our son was not his!>:( he would always try to make himself the victim. I honestly tried to put everything behind me for the sake of saving a relationship between him and the kids, I tried to be a "friend" his response was that he couldn't. He was around for the first 6months. He verbally agreed with me to help with their expenses, the month he was suppose to start he completely bailed. Since then it's been a battle. I've been looked at like the crazy baby mamma when I haven't done anything to them!! They were the ones to make up stories to make me look bad and he tried to say I'm the reason he won't see his kids when I'm the one that wanted to keep some peace so he can be there for them I was the one being civil. I can't say I hate him. But I do hate him for what he has done to our kids. I just can't seem to completely get over it all. I feel so stressed out at times. It's hard to find someone to relate so I keep so much bottled up which I know it's not good.