WHY DO MOMS ASK OTHER MOMS IF IT IS OK TO BEAT OR WHIPP THERE CHILDREN?

Amanda - posted on 10/02/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I do not understand how anyone can ask a question like "is it ok to beat my child or whipp my child or yell and scream at my child when they don't listen" WOW and you wonder why they don't listen to you. When they are exposed to too much neggativity they strive for it, meaning they don't know what possitive emotions are. they have never had a possitive family life. The only thing they know is mean, anger, acting out, yelling, screaming, hitting, biting. I realy think if you knew how to communicate with your child in a possitive manor they wouldn't act like they do. I think personaly if you have to hit your child you should not have had children in the first place. Children need love and understanding, compassion and happiness. I have 2 children and have never beat or hit my kids, my oldest is 12 and straight A's in school, my youngest is 5 and is so well behaved. I am so proud of my kids and couldn't imagine laying a hand on either of them....

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yeah, I met someone once that tried to prove that she didn't "beat" her kids. By the end of the conversation I knew that she does and is trying to justify and cover up the really bad issue, she shouldn't have kids!

Ashley - posted on 10/03/2009

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I totally agree. My son is 12 months old and just started to go through this biting stage and when I asked other moms how to curb it the majority told me to bite back.. or smack him in the mouth. Both of which I do not think should ever be done to a child.

Amanda - posted on 10/03/2009

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I am talking about all the mothers that actually say they scream and yell and hit there children havn't you read any of those....they are horrible stories, not just a little spank but actual hitting, one girl said she does it to her botfriends daughter because the child won't listen to her, another one said that she can't stand her kid he is needy so she hits him.....This is what is making me angry. One girl pulled her post because she knew she was in the wrong. This is that stuff I am talking about... when I posted this.

Melissa - posted on 10/03/2009

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Quoting Quanda:

Okay I;m about to play devil's advocate for a sec here...when I was growing up it was normal for kids to be spanked. Yes normal. My mother would pick out a switch on the way to the park when we were little so that you knew if you acted a fool you were going to get it. My mom would talk to us, encourage us to talk to her, play with us spend time with us, and showed us love in more ways than I can count. There was never a question of whether or not we were loved. You just knew there were certain things you didn't do without earning a spanking. We learned values that most of the other kids we grew up around didn't learn from their mothers who didn't tan their hides. We respected our elders, showed courtesy and kindness to others, and there was no back talking to adults AT ALL, whether my mom was in the room with us or not. We knew better. No we weren't perfect but neither is anyone else. But we didn't do any of the things you described above either at home or in public and to this day I can tell you that I look around at many of the people I know and watch them do petty, mean things to each other all day long that I would never dream of doing because I have a deeply rooted sense of right and wrong. Got it from my mama. Be careful of judging others for doing something different than what you do. Some people spank their kids as discipline. It doesn't mean they love their children any less than you do. Be well.


i agree....

Billie - posted on 10/03/2009

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Okay I;m about to play devil's advocate for a sec here...when I was growing up it was normal for kids to be spanked. Yes normal. My mother would pick out a switch on the way to the park when we were little so that you knew if you acted a fool you were going to get it. My mom would talk to us, encourage us to talk to her, play with us spend time with us, and showed us love in more ways than I can count. There was never a question of whether or not we were loved. You just knew there were certain things you didn't do without earning a spanking. We learned values that most of the other kids we grew up around didn't learn from their mothers who didn't tan their hides. We respected our elders, showed courtesy and kindness to others, and there was no back talking to adults AT ALL, whether my mom was in the room with us or not. We knew better. No we weren't perfect but neither is anyone else. But we didn't do any of the things you described above either at home or in public and to this day I can tell you that I look around at many of the people I know and watch them do petty, mean things to each other all day long that I would never dream of doing because I have a deeply rooted sense of right and wrong. Got it from my mama. Be careful of judging others for doing something different than what you do. Some people spank their kids as discipline. It doesn't mean they love their children any less than you do. Be well.

Megan - posted on 10/03/2009

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mothers who ask those questions i think are mothers who are trying to find justifacation for their own actions against their children!

Mitch - posted on 10/02/2009

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I could not agree more, I have three children, one 23, one 18, and finally one 17, my youngest has a learning disability and can test the nerves, I have never spanked my kids..I have raised my voice to get my point accross, but never screaming or berating them. I have always tried to teach by example and so far they are extremely wonderful children, young adults now. I am proud of them..

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