why do people be lookin at you crazy when you whoop your kids,whats wrong with whoopings

Clarissa - posted on 04/28/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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whats wrong with whoppings honestly because punishements dont always work and im not going to keep repeating myself and they steady doin what they wanna do. i be seein people hollerin they heads off and they ids dont pay them no attenton

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Clarissa - posted on 05/06/2010

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see now thats what i mean. And for everyone that say they dont spank or whoop their kids i got a question..If you told your child to stop doing something and they told you to shut up i bet you would be mad as hell. Some people might tell there kid you dont talk to me like that im your mother blah blah blah, Now if yo child is 6 years old and they told you to shut up i dont think you need to explain that you are their parent im sure they know who you are lol and what if your child called u a bitch what would you do tell them thats not nice and send them to their room for time out?( now they've called u names more than once and these are older kids remind you) i bet you would be ready to smack they lips to the back of they head lol i know i would

Clarissa - posted on 05/06/2010

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and u say whooping yo kids is pathetic if they grades bad uhhhh no pathetic is when yo damn child hittin u in the face tellin u what they is and aint gone do. Now i dont say whoop them for any lil thing they do but kids arent dumb by a long shot they know what they be doin. And im that type of person to keep telling you the same things over and over and over. These people on maury n stuff crying cuz they kids outta order...i put these ova here in check..and some of yall dont want yall kids to fear yall but i want mine to know my mama dont play no games about my school work so if i bring in bad grades this whats gone happen. You givin the same ole lecture and they sittin there like yeah whateva its goin in one ear and out the other. And i do sit down and help tha kids with they homework but when they go to school im not there to help them with everything...but i bet they know that they betta act right or else they aint goin nowhere they gon get in trouble..i mean come on now get fareal bringin in straight f's thats a damn shame that mean when they in school they aint doin shit but goofin off and playin. Now bringin in a report card with b's and c's thats also acceptable

Clarissa - posted on 05/06/2010

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u dont want your child to fear you but you dont want them to run over you either. Do you ever think that sometimes talking jus dosent do it. People keep saying whoopings lead to violence and it Dosent...Do you know how many people dont whoop their kids and they kids become crazy and murders and when they go to court and they get punished they be lookin all crazy not only cuz they gotta go to jail but because they never have gotten punished they always get by and they parents let them slide

Veronica - posted on 05/05/2010

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i have no problem with whooping/spanking your child in public or not as long as it's within reason i go by the first time they do something wrong i tell them what they did is wrong and explains it to them the second time they do it i repeat number one but with a lil more conviction in my voice the third time i explain again and they get a spanking...the thing is kids are not freaking dumb they know right from wrong yes at every age my son every since he was bout 3-4mon knew exactly what i meant by the tone in my voice so if i said no don't do that he would look at me and stop...he is 9mon now and it still works he knows when i mean no but for others he would laugh and go ahead to do the wrong thing ex: hit someone or continue to try to do the wrong thing because he knows he can get away with it...no i haven't spanked him and i won't til he gets bigger but i refuse to let him show out in the store now or later in life but i take him to stores and movies and places in public so he will know how to behave before i leave out the car i have a pep talk with him just like i did with my nieces and nephews of what i expect from him i have always showed him im in charge and he knows it...ppl fail to see that in these studies it depends on a lot of different factors that leads these children to that acting out and aggressive behavior like environment family life, there genes the temperment of their parents their peers so much but anyways i was whooped for doing bad things of course i knew it was bad so i deserved it and im not screwed up im living my life i have a college degree, serving my country, and raising my son, and i do it all on my own...know don't get me wrong some ppl just whoop kids for stupid stuff and don't explain anything to the child so they don't know its wrong so those parents should be held accountable but for kids running around in the store crying because they cant get a toy or just yelling to be yelling and hitting and kicking their parents can use some talking to thier parents need to have control and obviously talking to the child aint working and timeouts arent so they should try to show the child who's in charge stop trying to be friends and raise you're child for success not faking them out but thinking they can just act a fool and get whatever they want

Julie - posted on 05/04/2010

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Based on the facts that have recently come out that show that children who are spanked on a regular basis are more like to be aggressive and violent... I think I'll pass on "whoopings".
Hitting a child because their grades are bad? That's pathetic. How about sitting down with the child and ensuring they are doing their homework and their studying? No playing, tv, computer, or video games until it is completed. Make sure they are getting adequate sleep. Instead of "whooping" your child the instant they do something wrong. How about teaching them what is right and what is wrong? From an early age, I set expectations for my son. Before going into to the store I would tell him he had to stay with me, I was not buying him anything, and that if he acted up we would leave.
Children are not born knowing what is right. So if all you do is consistently tell them what NOT to do, how will they ever learn what is right if you have not taught them what is right?
Don't get me wrong, I have spanked my son. And I'm sure there will be spankings in the future. But those are saved for serious offenses. My child will respect me, however, I never want him to fear me.

Alana - posted on 05/04/2010

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i dont think putting fear into a child works at all......and i know this from experience it does not teach ur kids to do the right thing it just teaches them that to get what they want they should use violence.....part of being a mum is teaching our kids how to deal with things and part of that is showing them first hand..monkey see monkey do!! i had a situation with my stepson he threw a massive tantrum at the shops because he wanted something and i said no i didn't yell or smack him but calmly said that we were going back to the car and going home because nobody wanted to watch him act like that i promptly took him to the car and went home after he had settled down i spoke to him about his behaviour and said that i cant take him shopping with behaviour like that......needless to say he never threw a tantrum at the shops again cause he knew i would just take him straight home and he wouldnt get to go shopping again......where as my girlfriend who smacks her child for that behaviour still has problems with her child

Clarissa - posted on 05/04/2010

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well my opinion is this a child or a toddler is very smart when they do things and u say NO STOP and they do it anyway they doin it because they know they can get away with it and everything has consequences. Now if your child sticks some car keys and sticks them in a socket and you say stop but they turn around and do it again and you ask them "what did i tell you" and they can tell you what they did was wrong and they can tell you that you told them to stop that means they know what they was doin they was jus bein hard headed and many people that dont disipline their kids be the same one getting embarrassed in the grocery store cuz they kids wanna fall out act a fool cuz they know well i aint gone get in trouble i can do what i want. and whoopings are affective and punishments trust me i know. My nephew was gettin F's in school now he's 9 but has been gettin in trouble in school since 1st grade he wasnt getting whoopings or nothin they would jus let his slide talkingabout he's jus a child but me bein his auntie didnt play that i tell him you go to school to learn not clown and act a fool and throw a fit when u dont get what u want..Now that was his warning he still wanted to do what he wanted to do so he brought in a report card with all f's and d's i whooped his behind and took his toys made him read more books while his friends was outside he was in the house. So he went back to school the next report card was all a's and b's and 1 c. i asked him what made your grades get better he said beacuse i dont like bein on punishment and i wanna play with my friends and i dont wanna get any more whoopings and since then every report card been lookin jus right and he's been passing grades without having to go to summer school. And kids talk back now days and shit which i couldnt do when i was a child or else i got popped in my mouth therefore i didnt do it. By yall bein the parent i dont think yall should let yall kids talk to yall anytime of way and they be acting all grown. Now dont beat the kids but spankings whooping punishments will put them right in line quit tryin to be jus their friend be their friend and parent. When they get older theyll b like my mama and daddy was cool as hell but when i acted a fool they didnt play and when they act good reward them but dont be steady buyin them all that big stuff and giving him or her everything she want when she cursin u out or he stealin yo car and they wanna raise they hand up at all thats all im sayin

Meghan - posted on 04/29/2010

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I think hollering at you kids is inaffective...and personally I also thinking spanking is inaffective. As tiring as it is a part of our job as mom's is to have patience! I spend a good part of my day redirecting, distracting and explaining things to my son. I haven't ever had to hit him, nor have I had to scream at him. Does he always listen right away? No! But he knows that I respect him and he can flub up or test me and I wont haul off and hit him. He is a well behaved boy, but he is a toddler. He is going to test the limits and I just personally don't understand how hitting him for doing so is proper dicipline-and there is a big difference between dicipline and punishment!

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