Nadia - posted on 06/16/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I need some advice. My soon to be ex is not a bad father, just a rubbish husband. He would frequently give me th silent treatment for over a week as I said something he didn't like, and after spending 2 years trying to sort have given up.
We both work full time and still live in the same house following some kind of non talking routine. We share things like nursery drop offs, meals evenly, and usually I have the kids sat and he has them on Sundays. So in a way it's 50/50.
Only things like swimming lessons, lunches, doctors appointments, birthday parties, buying clothes, bathing are all things only I do.
My son is 22 months and daughter nearly 4. She is so clingy towards me and doesn't like him putting her to bed, and doesn't like daddy days.
We have started seeing a mediator to agree custody and he wants nothing less than 50/50 week about and 2 nights a week we have dinner together. While it absolutely sickens me not having the main home with me, he is also not a supportive person and I really believe for the age thy are they need a main primary home with their mum.
Any advice on what I need to say to ensure this?