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Billie - posted on 10/14/2010
You've been seeing him for about 6 months and want to uproot your kids and move them away from their dad so you can be with this guy? If you don't want to drag things out "if nothing will come of it", why would you want to completely disrupt your children's lives if you still have to question that??? Very young relationship and changing there whole lives with no marriage. I'd have an out of body if I was your kids father.
Hannah - posted on 10/15/2010
Well it sounds to me like you've put A LOT of thought into it. Your family is right, it is a decision you have to make on your own. But from what you say, I think its a pretty good choice from they way you have it planned out so far.
I totally agree with Quanda! Do NOT uproot your children, potentially harming their relationship with their father which seems to be quite solid and stable, for something that may or may not work out.
Truthfully, what is in the best interests of your children? You are talking about changing their schools, their home, their schedules, their doctors, their social circles, their complete lives as they know - everyone in their lives will change with the exception of you. Is this man worth it? Is this relationship that solid? I really would err on the side of caution and do long distance for at least 6 months. If your relationship isn't strong enough to handle long distance, then what makes you think it will be strong enough to withstand the stress of a cross country move?
I don't know what ocuntry you are in, but here in the states, you need to have the father's permission usually to move children significant distances. this may also open custody completly, and I have heard of cases where the courts have put the children with the other parent rather than have them moved long distances.
Hannah - posted on 10/14/2010
I have been planning on moving to another state after I finish school. I have planned this for the past few years. I know have a 4 month old my a man who lives here and so does his family. Bottom line is, you have to move on with your life. Your not going to rip your children away from their father or his family. As long as you keep them involved in your children's life and make an effort for them to see your children, I say absolutley go for it. If this man makes you happy and you feel like you should do it, then go for it! You cant deny a life for yourself just because the father isnt moving with you. You have children that will see you living an unhappy life if you dont. If you want them to see that then you might as well go back to an unhappy relationship with the father. It is the same thing. Dont feel bad about moving if thats what will make you happy and your kids will adjust. People move all the time. Kids are in school and will make friends. Things will be okay.
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