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Marlo - posted on 04/20/2012
I would take a look at your state and its laws on visitation. My 1st daughter didn't know here dad until she was 5, didn't pay anything, was no where to be found, and he still was able to get joint custody in the court room..It's really hard to prove addiction and drugs in court unless you have some sort of physical proof (and I wouldn't say anything about addiction if you have to go to court unless you have proof).. What can make it easier is you file first demanding what you want before he demands his. If you don't want visitation, try to get sole custody. If you DO want visitation, file for child support and visitation under your terms.. Depending on what state you live in the rules could be more in favor of the moms or a no-fault type parenting where they encourage fathers to be in their kids lives regardless of reason..
Jeorge - posted on 04/19/2012
He is going to have to go to court to get visitation. You do not have to hand your child over to a criminal and a criminal because he paid 500 dollars. If he asks and I don't think he will refuse. He will have to go to court and fight for visitation.
Beth - posted on 04/17/2012
would think that the court would take into account what is best for your daughter. As you've mentioned him and his family have addiction issues - mainly drug and alcohol and your ex also has a criminal record. They will take that into account and work out what is best for your daughter. It may be that if they do grant visitation rights that it would be supervised and to some degree court controlled, where it would be safe for not only you, but your daughter as well.
If he really wants to have visitation rights, do it formally and make sure that it's done in a manner that is appropriate and safe for your daughter.
Amanda - posted on 04/16/2012
Hmm, im not an expert on these kinds of things, but usually the court will look at what is in the best interest of the child, and from what you're saying, he doesnt seem like he would be a responsible parent or even a good influence on your daughter.
I really hope that things work out for you, I know its scary to go through things like this. I'm having a problem with my daughters dad and trying to make our parenting schedule stable instead of the mess that it is now.