absent father

Jaqueline - posted on 04/09/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My daughters father and I were together till she was 3 yrs old. Through those years he was either working out of town, in jail, or chasing the next high. Very few of the days was there "normal" daddy/ daughter time. Now that I have moved on her father has decided that he doesnt want to be involved in a broken home, a cop out yes, but I was kind of relieved to hear this. I would never keep his daughter from him if he was clean, but I also dont want him in and out of her life and constantly disappointing her or being a negative influence. The man that is now in my life is very accepting of my daughter, he cares a great deal for the both of us and is a great role model. My daughter does at times ask for her dad, but usually when she is in trouble with me. I'm just looking for some advice on my situation.


Jane - posted on 04/15/2012




When the dad is a deadbeat like that - she won't miss out on anything by not having any contact with him! My son is now almost 13 and hasn't had any contact with him since he was 2. He has no desire to see him now (he was recently given the opportunity when his father got in contact) and is happy without a 'dad' in his life. When she asks for him, just say that daddy's not here so she's going to have to put up with twice as much love from you, even when she doesn't want it.

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