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How do you avoid feeling guilty?

Ryba - posted on 11/29/2008 ( 2 moms have responded )

I went out last night and my 7 year old son was crying that he didn't want me to leave. I haven't been out in so long that I don't remember when the last time was. I felt bad because he is not usually up under me. I ended up going out anyway, but how do I avoid that feeling of guilt when I do want to go out and how do I know if I am putting my social life ahead of them?

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Anee - posted on 01/18/2009

I try to go out at once a month especially when an opportunity araises. It important to allow you and your kids to build different relationships with the people who you obvisously entrust them with. We single moms need a support group because nobody can raise a child alone. I believe that with all my heart. It's too lonely and hard when that's the case. Also, try looking at it like a chance to destress and unwind with a friend or friends and how much more happier you are after having a good time while knowing that your child was left in good hands. I find it's easier when I know my nine year old is staying with a girlfriend that also has kids so its more of a playdate which he loves! Enjoy the breaks when they come as long as your little one is left in good hands!

Carolyn - posted on 12/01/2008

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I believe if you're not out every weekend, or developing a routine of being away from them that it is fine to have a social life. Would you feel guilty if you were going out to diner with some girlfriends, probably not. I don't think your putting anyone infront of your son by going out and meeting new people. As parents we do have to take our times and make sure we make wise decisions as to who we introduce into their lives however. No need to feel guilty.