Where do you meet men that date single moms?

Leigh - posted on 02/04/2009 ( 48 moms have responded )

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Ok so after years of partying it up at bars and clubs I've settled down and enjoy building snow forts and kite flying. My question is where or how do you meet men that date single moms? I REALLY don't want to go the online dating path but after 4 years I don't seem to be meeting anyone at the playground or the library. I have a strong group of friends but they are 10-30 years my senior and most are unhappily married. Come on girls.. you know who you are.. you found that awesome catch... where did it happen...how did it happen?

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Mike - posted on 01/09/2014

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Is anyone interested in chating? I'm a single dad looking to connect to someone!

Shalini - posted on 11/14/2013

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Im a single mom with a son aged 4 im confident lookgood and past 4yrs after my 1st relatioship its realky horrible I cant seem to find the one to lean my head on and everyone I turn to is only ready to use me at situation im ready for that I will only be giving myself to the one I marry, ive no friends and relatives as they regard me as a dirt bag due to my past but I earn a decent living like everyone. ive never been a wife in my life. I love children and would love to make a family be it here in my country or elsewhere. I just need true love its hard to find people that dont see race, colour and status. Anyone there to advice

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Rick - posted on 02/05/2013

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hey I am looking for a single mom to marry and settle down with, she can move in or i can relocate too. I am 26 years old male never married no kids. I want to start a family and marry so nothing best than a dedicated single mom, waiting rickr394@yahoo.co.uk x

Emily - posted on 05/21/2011

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Everyone longs to have a deep relationship with another. To be loved thoroughly & exclusively, but God says No. Not until you are satisfied, fullfilled, & content with being alone; With giving yourself totally to Me. I want you to stop planning & wishing & allow Me to give you the best you could ever imagine. Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I AM. Keep listening & learning the things that I tell you. JUST WAIT. That's all. When you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than you could ever expect. You see, I am working on both of you at this very moment... to have you ready at the same time.

I found the man I am going to grow old with on plentyoffish.com. We found out we had several (about 6) friends in common which made things a little less stressful for both of us because we both had only been on the website for a few weeks. Anyways, I would have never believed someone about internet dating a year ago, but now I support it. Just dont settle no matter what! God has someone very special and if your not open for it you could miss it!

Jennifer - posted on 10/28/2013

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Online dating, darling! The best part about it is that you disclose upfront that you have kids - so guys that don't want to date a woman with kids don't talk to you. It's the best bet, seriously. When you're out and about (bars or playgrounds or whatever) you never know if the person is single, if they're open to pursuing a relationship, or if they want to date someone with kids. When you go online, you cut a lot of that BS out. You know they want to date. You know they're single. And you know whether or not they have kids - and take it from me, you want to date someone who also has kids.

I've been divorced almost 2 years after marrying my college sweetheart and being with him for 11 years. So, I had to figure out how to date in my 30's as a single mom with joint custody of toddlers. Online dating is absolutely the way to go. I met a man this summer on OKCupid who will be hubby #2 - he's an amazing single father, we have SO much in common, and our kids adore each other. But we've talked about it in detail - given that we live 30 minutes apart and our careers and whatnot, were it not for online dating we NEVER would have met.

Give it a shot, it's not as scary as it sounds.

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Byran - posted on 08/11/2014

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My boyfriend and I have been friends since 6th grade. We both always cared deeply for each other but never wanted to risk our great friendship. So we always watched each other dating other people being there when we broke up with those other poeple. Just being what friends were supposed to be. When I fell in love got married and had a baby. he never liked the guy but stood by my side just being my friend. Then my husband (now EX) cheated on me and I decided a divorce was in order. When I told him I got divorced he came to see me and decided it was time to tell me how he really felt. We discussed what a relationship would mean between us espescially since he never wanted kids and I had a (at the time) 16 month old baby. He now loves my son as his own and is actually the only father in his life, and we have been together for almost to years now. Basically, You never know where that one perfect guy is, he could be standing right in front of you, you just have to let him find you and don't be afaid to take that chance. Good Luck, it'll happen when you least expect it.

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Sandy - posted on 06/03/2014

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hi just want to try if this will work....finding a real partner on net is just a big joke, and considering that being a single parent we're putting a lot problems that that person you might meet up will spoiled you and your kids. Many words can be pleasing and sweet words may you fall in love but its all temporal. haist..Im a single mom with 3 kids and my friends keeping me told to find a partner in life and i dont believe it. i can take care of my kids. so zero chances i know. but thanks im writting this here.

Alan - posted on 04/26/2014

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Christopher - posted on 04/03/2014

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Alan - posted on 03/14/2014

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Analiza - posted on 01/29/2014

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Im analiza single mom with 2 kids..just want to try if this really works..new here..my emaik add.anacolar@yahoo.com

Patty - posted on 01/25/2014

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I'm in the same boat! I'm way too afraidv to do the online thing! You Would think it would be a lot easier for me being that I'm only 25, but I'm guessing my standards are a lot more high! Let me know when you figure it out!

Mike - posted on 01/09/2014

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I am a single dad looking to talk to a nice single mom. Does anyone feel interested?

MADDISON - posted on 09/08/2013

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I HAD BEEN DIVORCED FOR THE PAST 5 YEARS WITH TWO GIRLS LIVING WITH. i AM READY FOR A NEW ROMANCE AGAIN AND LOOKING FOR A DECENT AND MATURED LADY TO DATE. IF ANYONE CAN HOOK ME UP I WILL BE MOST GREATFUL. I AM 46 YEARS OLD . GUESS DONT KNOW IF EVEN THIS DATING SITES WORK. WELL WHO KNOWS. SOME ONE CAN INTRODUCE ME TO HER FRIEND. MY EMAIL IS macosa004@hotmail.com

Mary - posted on 08/11/2013

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hi im mary single mom w/2kids im new here in this .i probably can find my soulmate soon.im pilipina i live in phil.im 35

Kathryn - posted on 07/01/2013

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hi ladies
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Robynn - posted on 03/12/2013

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I know you said you don't want to do the online thing, but I've set a few friends up through dating services sites and it worked! I'm not saying it's not work, but one of my best friends is getting married in Vancouver in a couple months to someone she met online. http://www.compatible-introductions.ca/e...

Jurnee - posted on 09/05/2011

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I have done the online dating, met some losers, some nice guys but no connection. and one really great guy Ive been seeing for about 4 mos. I was really surprised to meet a man online, I thought it all men on there would just be looking for hook ups, but thats not what I found. Sure, some were, but theyre pretty easy to spot, most were just regular guys sick of the bar scene.

Traci - posted on 07/16/2011

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Im new to this site but i really like some of the topics,but seriously i was just like alot of women i was married for 13 years i thought it was going to work out but it didnt so i went to get a divorce and 2008 and i was always on m yspace and i all the mens i was meeting was still dogs and tryin to use you,but when i stop looking he wrote me on myspace through zoosk and we talk on the phone for a whole year and i thought it wasnt going to last but in 2010 he came down south to live me and he is a nice guy and he helps me with my kids alot and he always giving me his checks never had a man like this and we still together today and we trying to have a baby now and we plan on getting married soon...so i would tried the internet. good luck

Jennifer - posted on 09/02/2010

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Well oddly enough I found my amazing boyfriend on a free dating site. Plentyoffish.com I told myself that I would never get on one of those and ever if I did I wouldn't meet anyone. But I figured I need to break out of my bubble and actually talk to some one on there and the second day I was on the Johnny wrote me. He lives in my town and we talked every day. He came to my house that Sunday and him, my kids, and I all went to the Blackberry festival that happens in my town every year. We hit it off the first time we talked and we like each other a lot. It was impossible for me to find a boyfriend and the ones that I did find turned out to be big huge douche bags. Johnny is the total opposite, he adores my kids(atleast he acts like he does, haha) and my kids adore him. Just try it out, you'll never know if you don't try. www.plentyoffish.com is free and awesome.

Pamela - posted on 05/07/2010

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Okay, for me, I actually find guys at a kids park!!! Even though they may have kids of their own, I find SINGLE men (will not date a married man!) there with their kids. You can tell how they are when it comes to their kids.

But I wouldn't go looking for a date. I would just go and strike up a conversation.

Amy - posted on 04/18/2010

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Utilize your strong group of friends, see if they have any co-workers or friends who might be possibilities. Also remember, one date doesn't make a commitment, so you can go to dinner with someone you would not expect to date just to see if you hit it off. Have fun with it. Other potential places - try the park, the grocery store, the zoo, baseball games? Whatever you enjoy doing. Maybe take a class - it doesn't have to be for a school program, many local colleges offer adult continuing education courses in a variety of topics - from wine tasting to golf, computer classes to literature. The best advice I can give? The more you get out and do things, the better your chances of meeting someone. Best of luck!

Krista - posted on 01/17/2010

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I've done the online dating thing. I had about 6 bad dates and then found a really great guy. I didn't end up with him, but we have stayed great friends. It's not for everyone, but worth a try. Just be very picky! This one great guy really raised my standards, which was a good thing. Yes its hard to find a great guy, but don't settle! I've also met some guys by being either set up by friends or family. Someone always knows someone. So bring it up with some close friends and see what they may have to offer. All in all...I tend to agree that you just never know who or when it will happen. Have faith that it will. Oh yeah...also a firm believer that getting out and doing what you love will get you interacting with people of similar interests. At least you'll make lots of good friends and have fun on the way.

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I am a young mom myself. i recently started dating my best friends neighbor...which was someone I would never expect to be with. I wasnt really looking when I found him. But it just kind of happened. He is a father of a 18 yr old. He made it very clear to everyone around him that he didnt want kids of his own. Everyone took it the other way and stated that he didnt want kids period. We have been dating for a couple months and he just met my kids officially for the first time. Now all my past boyfriends, I introduced the kids almost immediately. The kids would get close to them and then they would walk out. Thier biological father doesnt spend any time with them. He has partial custody but never spends quality time with them. My boyfriend now told me just a couple weeks ago, when my kids crowded around the vehicle when he was waiting for me to come out of the house, he said that he instantly fell in love with them. It was like he was missing something in his life until he met me and my kids. When I was single, my biggest fear was that I wasnt going to find anyone that would want a girl with three kids. But after a long wait and many bad boyfriends, the right guy has came into our lives and he wont be walking out.

Jade - posted on 09/21/2009

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Well lets just say that my boyfriend started of as someone that I never really thought about dating. If you asked him he would say my nose was to high in the air and I wouldn't give him a chance. I say he was just to shy and he didn't try to get my attention. He ended up moving away to Texas end he ended up keeping in touch with me for awhile then we lost touch with each other for about 2 years and he ended up in Louisville, KY. He ended up getting in touch with me February of this year. We talked everyday and in May he came up to see me for mother day and he decided that him traveling all the time and only being home 4 days out of the month would be good for raising a family so he ended up moving with me and my son and he has been with me ever since so I can't say that I found him. I would say that he found me a few years ago and just never gave up on me.

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Whether you're a single mom or a just another young girl, I think you meet guys when you're not looking. I feel like before I had my daughter, whenever I had the most guys interested in me, I was always really happy, just doing my own thing enjoying life. Guys see that and are attracted to your independence. Don't get discouraged. You'll meet someone when you're least expecting it and he'll sweep you off your feet.

Jennifer - posted on 04/22/2009

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It's different for everybody I think! The only sure thing I've discovered is that it happens in the last place you'd look. I've been to the bars... no good for me... tried the internet... had a few bad encounters that spoiled it for me... now I'm just sitting back and enjoying my princess lol. If you find another sure thing and want to share with a single mom/student/ full time employee who can't afford the skiing and has run out of ideas let me know:-)

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Meeting guys at a bar is always a hit or miss kind of thing...and what do you really have in common, you like to drink? I think the best thing is to pick something you love (for me it's snowboarding) and pursue it. Every winter I head up to my local ski resort and volunteer with their adaptive snowboarding program. Because I volunteer, daycare there is really cheap and I get a free season pass. Every year, the same snow loving folks and new folks come out to ski and snowboard. I meet so many guys every single weekend. That's where I met my current boyfriend.

Natasha - posted on 04/19/2009

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You can meet your Mr Right in the strangest places... If you see someone you like you just have to go for it. That's what I did and we have been going strong so far.

Best of luck and hope you find someone. I know how lonely it feels as I had been a single mum for most of my daughters life.. Good luck

Keri - posted on 04/17/2009

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There is a really great blog that I have been reading lately. This guy cracks me up and has some really good dating advice. www.mikethemasterdater.com

Theresa - posted on 04/16/2009

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I asked myself that same exact question too! I've actually known the guy that I'm with now for about 15 years. We have been "together" for a year now. Things just kind of fell into place after my divorce. Now it is a get to know you on a different level.

Donna - posted on 04/14/2009

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I for one am an advocate for online dating, there are so many different dating sites because they cater to all types of people and preferences.  Being single parent there is no time for yourself thats the reality of it, online dating is pretty safe in the sense that you meet, chat over the computer, exchange emails & take your time getting to know the person(s) and it can go as far as you want .



I met this guy a year ago on a site a year ago we are taking things very slow and it is going WONDERFULLY.  I've finally met who I believe is the right guy My Prince Charming.



And I must admit I've made a few good friends along the way.



I would suggest that you give it try, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

Cassandra - posted on 04/09/2009

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I just recently met a guy on match.com. He's a great guy and have been dating a week now and I really couldn't be happier. My daughter is 21 months old and they already adore each other. I swear this guy is my soulmate and I really wish I found him sooner! Match costs money but really in my experience it was worth it! Besides if a guy has to pay to be able to talk to you there is less chance he's a dead beat! Just my opinion though!

Kate - posted on 03/25/2009

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Sometimes people use the words Internet Dating like someone would use a curse word. There is no shame in not having the time to go scour the tri-county area for a man. There are great upside to online dating mainly that everything is out in the open. And you can check guys in the comfort of your own home. I have been trying online dating for about 6 months and have been talking to one man from the site for about 4. We are having our first in person date this weekend!



I recommend OkCupid, it is a free dating site that can at least get you used to how it all works before you sign up for a bill and you never know...maybe prince charming is a mouse click away. If you decide to go this way, be honest about your situation (i.e. children) and yourself children aren't a deal breaker for men. They just have to get warmed up to idea and sometimes men don't choose a single mom because they don't want to play second fiddle to your Little One. So make sure you let the guys know that you have time for them and want to make MORE time for them.



Good Luck!!

BEVERLEY - posted on 03/09/2009

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i met my partner in my local he had liked me for years i have 3 children and my youngest was only 13 months old he wanted me and accepted straight away that i came as a package it has never been a problem for him and we have been together for 2 yrs now hes moving in by xmas ,i wasnt looking for love but it turned up when i wasnt expecting it as it will for you ,ur day will come good luck keep me informed xxx

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Where on the internet do you find a guy? I am raising my 17 yr old daughter on my own for over two years now and haven't had any luck. I am 44 and don't want to do the bars and compete with all the young girls. My daughter is leaving in a few months for Marine boot camp and then I will be totally alone.

Natalie - posted on 02/17/2009

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You don't have to go out. Why don't you use the internet?? I found two weeks ago a very handsome guy at a internet platform. It's definitely the easiest way.

Jessica - posted on 02/11/2009

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I'm in the same boat as you. I'm not interested in the bar scene anymore and have tried the online dating. Just seems like there aren't a lot of guys out there wanting, in my words, an instant family. Plus all my girlfriends either have kids and are married or are totally into the bar scene. So where do we go? How can we meet that one person who wants to be with us and our child?

LeaAnn - posted on 02/08/2009

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Best of luck. I'm with you but it's been two years since my ex and I split up. If you have any luck let me know.

Roberta - posted on 02/07/2009

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Not only is square dancing a way to meet a fun group of people and make new friendships; it's also an awesome way to meet new men in a safe environment.  You can search for your local square dance clubs by google-ing "square dance [your state]" - you should then get something that will list the clubs in your state.  For Utah sq. dance clubs start-up new dancer classes in September - it might be different where you live.  Any way you look at it, it's great exercise as well. 

Alicia - posted on 02/06/2009

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My boyfriend and I have been friends since 6th grade. We both always cared deeply for each other but never wanted to risk our great friendship. So we always watched each other dating other people being there when we broke up with those other poeple. Just being what friends were supposed to be. When I fell in love got married and had a baby. he never liked the guy but stood by my side just being my friend. Then my husband  (now EX) cheated on me and I decided a divorce was in order. When I told him I got divorced he came to see me and decided it was time to tell me how he really felt. We discussed what a relationship would mean between us espescially since he never wanted kids and I had a (at the time) 16 month old baby. He now loves my son as his own and is actually the only father in his life, and we have been together for almost to years now. Basically, You never know where that one perfect guy is, he could be standing right in front of you, you just have to let him find you and don't be afaid to take that chance. Good Luck, it'll happen when you least expect it.

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