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Has anyone reached the peace stage

Anne - posted on 10/11/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have been reading some of the other single mums parts of the community and I fully understand that the missing fathers can be massively difficult to deal with and can drive you to the edge as I have been there. My kids father isn't a nice person but I realised sometime ago what my father always says is right. He can't annoy you if you don't let him. If you let all the things role off you, you don't get upset and the knots in your stomach won't hurt any more. You don't waste your life getting angry at someone that really doesn't matter. It not easy but OMG it is so worth it. Is anyone else at this stage?

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Beth - posted on 02/16/2012

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I usually don't hear anything off my ex husband (father to my three girls), but occasionally he will raise his head. Mostly it tends to be when he wants his own way. He didn't like the last time he wanted contact with the girls that it was on my terms and not his. After the last bit of contact that he had with the girls (letters), the girls haven't heard anything off him for over 18 months now. About 8 months of no communication from him, he sent me a message over facebook, asking to see the girls - said no and to start all over again from scratch. He's threatened to take me to Court/CafCass several times, because I'm not letting him see the girls (basically he's playing the hurt father who hasn't done anything wrong). I'm still waiting for the letters, as I haven't had any over the years!!! Let's just say that both the solicitor I've spoken to and the police say that I'm in the right and not to let my ex have unsupervised contact.

Sham Sham - posted on 01/05/2010

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My sons father has not seen him since he was 3 months old , he's now 19 months.

I used to get worked up about it and not understand y he didnt want to c his child and blame myself, but now i have left the doors open for him and have come to the realisation that if he doesnt want to c his son thats his loss, because i have a beautiful little boy who has so much love to give and i get it all.

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