girls in soccer

Bonnie - posted on 04/15/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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my 6 yr old daughter has just started playing soccer, she loves running around kicking the ball. The problem is she is the only girl on the team, although the other boys treat her the same (they are all good friends) she doesnt seem to have enough confidance to get in there and get the ball. this gets her down some times because she really wants to.

I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me on how to help her.

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Linda - posted on 07/09/2009

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My daughter is 23 and started playing soccer at 5 on a co-ed team. She was best friends with these boys and continued her friendship all the way through school. She even dated one of them for 7 years! When she first started playing, she just kind of stood around looking at the ball and I think the previous person was right. I think it was because she was new to the sport. But as she played and got to be better at it, she got more into it. Then a strange thing happened. The boys stopped passing to her (they were about 7) and it made her NUTS! So we finished the season and put her on a good local girls club team and she became a goalkeeper. I'll never forget when she came to me and said, "I love my team. They are all just like me!" She felt so strange at school because she liked to play ball at recess with the boys and the girls just wanted to walk around and talk. The next thing we did was get her into ODP (the Olympic Development Program) and she loved the training and the competition. We also had trainers for her (in middle school) and sent her to GK camp-- Soccer Plus with Tony DiCicco. I think soccer was excellent training for her life. She learned time management, organization and responsibility. She played in college for a year but injured her back as a freshman and had back surgery which ended her playing. She is a high school teacher now and coaches there, at the local college and for a U-23 team. Soccer was such a great thing for my daughter. I'm so glad we stuck with it when she was just standing around!

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Monica - posted on 04/08/2012

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my 2 oldest girls do soccer. and this may sound crazy but every time they touch the ball in a game i give them a dime! this really encourages them to get in there! Grace is kind of shy so she doesnt really know what to do while my steo daughter Kayla is very social and tends to talk to the other kids while shes playing! hope i helped!

Suzanne - posted on 01/20/2011

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Is there a girls soccer league nearby? You may want to look into that. I have a 5 year old and they have enough girl's for their own team. She loves it!

Jakki - posted on 10/14/2010

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My daughter played in a mixed team when she was 6-7, but then we moved her to an all-girls team and I must say it was great for her. The team don't win very often, but they are all very nice to each other and have a lovely time. The difference with the mixed team is huge, the boys used to hog the ball and never pass to a girl. Now all the girls get a fair go at the ball, and everyone is happier.

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tell her she was put on a boys team, because they all knew she was just as good as them, and they wanted her on their boys team...boost her ego a little. trust me, she'll love hearing it, and it'll show on the field :)

Dara - posted on 04/29/2009

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I have coached my youngest sons soccer teams for the last 6 years, from the time he was 5. It sounds like your daughter is enjoying her time on the field. Please understand that her lack of confidence or aggression may not have anything to do with being the only girl on the team. She is new to the game, and she is young. As long as she is having fun and learning the fundamentals of the game, there is nothing to worry about. Confidence will come as she develops the skills and hopefully a love for the game.

Angela - posted on 04/24/2009

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My 7 year old daughter has played on a all girls team for 2 years now. My daughter gets in moods where she'll get the ball no matter what and other times she acts scared. My daughter gets very frustrated after losing a game. She wants to quit every single time her team loses. I'm sorry I don't have any advice, but I'd love to see what the other Moms say.

Angie - posted on 04/23/2009

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I have two children in soccer - my son is 16 and my daughter is 11. I coach my daughter's team and I have found that at this age, many of the girls have outgrown the boys and will become more aggressive. I don't think it's something that can be taught, it's just the way God made some girls. She's new to the game, she'll come around.

Debbie - posted on 04/20/2009

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I have 2 daughters who have been playing soccer since they were 4 yrs. old They've played travel and club since age 6. I will tell you that my oldest who is 15 started playing soccer with boys at age 4 and then went to playing with just girls after that. She started playing coed soccer when she was 12 and I think by then she had the knowledge, skills, aggressiveness, and the confidence to keep up with the boys. My 8 yr. old hasn't played with the boys compet. but will play with the boys in the neighborhood. So I say let her try both and let her decide if she wants to play with the boys or girls. My 3 boys have played coed soccer or played against a team that had girls on it and let me tell you my boys have no problem treating them just like the guys. I've been enjoying watching my kids play soccer for 18 yrs and look forward to many more years. I hope she will stick with the soccer!

Jennifer - posted on 04/19/2009

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My daughter just turned 7 and she plays on a team with boys. I just tell her to do her best and don't let the boys scare her off. She is just as good if not better then some of the boys. Don't let the boys push you around, you have to be aggressive(just not to aggressive)of course, but get in there and try your best. Just seeing her run around and have fun is enough for me. She got kicked in the mouth last year by the ball and was scared to play this year, but I just told her you can't be scared or give up you have to keep going. It's all part of playing a contact sport. You're going to get hurt but it only makes you stronger. She has to understand that boys can be ruff, but don't let anyone stop you from doing what you want. Get in there and get it.

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