11 month old will not go to sleep on her own
Dina - posted on 01/25/2009
You could try to do a routine at night. Jammies, a story, then down for the night. When you put her in the crib put on some sleepy time music. Classical music, or lullaby music (which ever you prefer). We learned the hard way with my first. I held rocked or nursed him to sleep. It was hard to break him out of it. When we had my daughter, I made sure I put her to bed the same way every night. It REALLY helps. She rarely cried. We now have a thrid, and we do the same with him. Another thing I did was, put a basket with toys in it where he can reach them. (I attached it to the side of the crib) If he isn't tired right away, he gets his toys and plays with them. I put soft toys so that he doesn't hurt himself when he does fall asleep. Then I go in and clean up before I go to bed. Good luck with getting her to sleep on her own. I hope you find something that helps.
Lady Mary E.A. McNamara - posted on 01/25/2009
Let her cry it out. She won't go to sleep on her own because she has trained you to do exactly what she wants. Give the child some credit. She is very smart. Feed her, change her. Tell her that mommy loves her and put her in the crib and shut the door. I always stayed outside the door to listen (even though it was extremely hard for me) but then I let all 3 of my kids cry it out until they put themselves to sleep. Give it time. It does work.
User - posted on 01/25/2009
What I did with my son was a routine. From birth he needed to be rocked to sleep during the day, but at night when I had a set routine he would fall asleep on his own without me even in the room! crazy I know. Just remember she WILL sleep. If she cries she WILL stop. Does she wake inthe night? My son has a bath every night to differentiate between day and night then dimmed lights, straight into getting dressed, bottle and straight into his cot without any talking. If my son doesnt want to sleep we have dimmed lights/ no lights on in his room and I stay with his. He does cry sometimes dont get me wrong. I just pick him up to reassure him and put him down untill he goes to sleep. All in all from bath to sleep usually takes about 20 mins. It is hard! but worth the crying. Does she have a dummy? My boy did until he kept waking in the night for it! That soon got taken away lol He sleep through Id say 9 in 10 nights. Let me know how your going! x
I liked to bounce (on a workout ball) my 2 boys to sleep when they were really little and my 3 month old daughter - it is fun to snuggle! :0) To get them off of being dependent on me I would bounce them until they were dopey - you know the droopy eye look - and then place them into bed and they went right to sleep. After a couple of days of that, I would bounce until just before they got droopy-eyed and then put them down. Within a week, I was putting them to bed wide-awake. I did let them cry for a bit when I put them down if they woke a bit, but it didn't last longer than 20 minutes. My 3 month old rarely cries going to bed now and I put her down wide awake - we still have a snuggle bounce just before bed, but just to snuggle for a minute and then down she goes. It does work, but you may have to have a few tears, not many, just a few.
One other thing - you can go "cold turkey" and put your daughter down with no rocking. It does work and it will take you about 3 days, but that method works too. Just put her to bed after a good snuggle and then leave the room. She'll probably cry hard for a bit - you can go in after 5 or so minutes and just lay her back down or rub her back and just say mommy loves you and then leave again. She may keep crying and then you can go back in after 10, then 15 minutes, etc... She'll figure out pretty quickly that it's bedtime and not time to be up. I had to use this method with both my boys around 18 months as they thought they would try to out-smart mommy :0). It worked and within 3 days we were back to normal - going to bed happy and no tears.
I hope something helps!
Cheryl - posted on 01/25/2009
Sometimesbeing a mom is hard. This is one of the hardest. Your baby only wants safety. You can provide this without rocking her but it might kill you. Put her in the crib, sit next to it but DONT look at her. She WILL cry at least 15-30min. It will feel longer but don't cry until after. Every night, move farther away from the crib untill you are outside the semi-closed door with only one hand in view. This should take longer than a week. You should also start bedtime the same way every night. Like a story or a song. That way your baby getts used to the rutine. This will bring her confort. When the week is over you will be so proud of your own stranght. Good luck!!
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