18 month old still not sleeping all night through

Daisy - posted on 03/10/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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So my son is 18 months old and although he is still teething (only has three teeth) and has been suffering with that since he was 3 months old, we still don't get the sleep we would like. He starts out in his crib and there are nights where he will sleep until at least 5am in there which are awesome nights for us, but other nights where he will get up crying at 1am or 2am and then we transfer him to our bed. (yes i know not the right thing to do) but we always take him back to his crib). The thing is that he continues to sleep til 7am or 7:30am when we all wake up but we would love to see him sleep all night til the morning in his crib. He has never liked his crib but the comfort we have is that at least the first half of the night he's there, he shares his room with my 5 year old daughter so that doesn't help because although she sleeps all night, they both tend to wake each other up when they have nightmares or are sick.

We still do rock him to sleep but in all honesty not really, he falls asleep on his own on my lap and then we take him to his crib. My husband keeps telling me that he will get there because my daughter was like that the only difference we didn't take her out of her crib constantly but she did wake up a few times a night when she was his age. The pediatrician told us that basically he would outgrow this when he would get to Sammy's age and that some children are just like that but it would be nice if he started sleeping all night.

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Katherine - posted on 03/10/2011

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Co-sleeping may be the only way to get some sleep. And who's to say it's wrong? You can always give him some off brand of Tylenol for his teeth. My 2yo still doesn't sleep through and my eldest didn't until she was 3.
But it sounds like the teeth are whats doing it.

There is NOTHING wrong with co-sleeping ;)

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Yup, your doctor is right. He will outgrow it. My eldest wasn't a good sleeper and didn't sleep all night until he was 2. You seem to have found what works, co-sleeping, so why not just keep doing that? There is nothing wrong with it if done safely. I'd say just do what's working for you until he's a bit older.

Also, it sounds like he's having an awful time teething. Only three teeth at 18 months?! 18 months is typically when kids are cutting the back molars and it's rough going. I saw a little boy just sit and whimper off and on for over 2 hours because he was cutting those. AND cross cutting is painful too! So your son may have some of these issues too. Poor little mighty might. :-(

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Erin - posted on 03/19/2011

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I tend to think that all kids will grow out of waking in the night ifound with my 3 kids whenever they where teething it was the hardest time of all my 1yr old still wakes but he has learnt to go back to sleep with out a cuddle or some milk but my 3yr will even now and then and will come back into out bed if there is anyway of moving your son out of your daughters room and try to get him use to go back off to sleep when he wakes in the early hrs of the morning it will take time its hard i know but i cant think of anything else that would he you other than time and try and have a rest still in day when he has his sleep

Daisy - posted on 03/19/2011

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Yes i think you're right because he does it during the day as well, he just does not want to nap in his crib either...it's like we put him there but when he wakes up and realizes where he's at, then he starts crying but it's not a spoiled type of cry, it's like a fear that breaks my heart. My husband gets upset during the night but then in the morning he realizes and feels bad but i just let him cuddle to me. The problem is that he does not stay still even in the bed with us. It is constant and i mean constant moving from one place to another even with his eyes closed i mean he can go on like that for hours and it drives us nuts...I think it stems from when he was a baby and my daughter was 3 years old at the time, she was having i guess a rough time with everything, we were also moving and packing and she kept throwing tantrums and screaming and Gabriel would not be able to nap as a baby should. I'm talking weeks old, he would wake up in fear so it stuck to him and his sleep just has never been the same apart from teething and anything else. Regardless, i will talk to his pediatrician on his next appt because he doesn't sleep and we don't sleep either. We just hope it gets better i don't mind us not sleeping i worry about him...

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There might be some other reasons for his wanting to sleep with you when he wakes at night. The primary one is that he might be afraid. My eldest is like that. He just feels safer when he's near mummy. Your son might be going into a separation anxiety phase too. My 2 yo is doing that one. It manifests in the day as well as at night. He goes to a day care lady twice a week, and every time I drop him off lately he screams and cries when I leave. He knows I'll be back, because he used to be okay with it, but now he's not. If I have the time, I'll stay for a while until he's settled into an activity and he's better, but that doesn't get to happen very often.

It's hard to say what goes through a kid's mind. He could have a few issues... Teething and scared when he wakes up alone. If it's not an issue for you, just they to wait it out. This too shall pass. If you really want to transition him there's a great book called the No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers" that gives heaps of different things to they depending on your situation. I actually used thebNo Cry Sleep Solution when my eldest was a baby and it worked well (he was even a bad sleeper when he slept with us!).

Enjoy the cuddles for now. They aren't little and cuddly for very long.

Daisy - posted on 03/18/2011

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Well Donna for one awesome night, we have had a week of not good nights. Actually, i can't say that because he does sleep all night but does not want his crib when he wakes up in the middle of the night. So we'll see how we tackle it, i always say that once he gets his toddler bed, that's it, that is where i will draw the line as i want him to want to sleep in his bed.

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Woo hoo! We all have our good and bad nights though, don't we? I think little ones have a harder time because of all the stuff that's going on with them, so it's a bit like two steps forward, one step back. The dance doesn't seem to stop at age 4 either. It's just different issues.

At least you've had confirmation that Gabriel will eventually get to the stage of sleeping through the night in adult terms.

No, I didn't think SM33 was available there. At least you found something that does give him some relief.

I'm so happy that things may be starting to settle for you.

Daisy - posted on 03/11/2011

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I have to say that the night after i posted this, Gabriel slept from 8pm til 5:30am in his crib..we are sooo proud of him and still after we brought him with us, he kept sleeping til past 7am. I truly do believe it is the teething and i do hope he outgrows it. We know that we will have good nights and bad nights but at least we know he is capable of sleeping all night. Donna i haven't seen that product here but i tend to give him Motrin and it actually does help him alot and i rub it on his gums as well.

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I don't know if you have the product in the states, but an excellent teething gel is SM33. It comes in a really small tube because you need bugger all to work. If you can find it, give it a go because it really works! I've used it on my youngest and my husband's used it on his rotten, impacted wisdom teeth.

I know how you feel about copping flak over co-sleeping. We actually bed share in this house (4 of us in a queen bed and sidecar cot). But really, unless those naysayers are willing to come to your house to deal with the nighttime parenting for you, they need to shut their gob. You have to do what works best for you.

Oh, another natural sore tooth remedy that works is clove oil, but not sure if you can use that on a little one. It is a good numbing agent, like SM33, only it's natural.

Good luck!

Daisy - posted on 03/10/2011

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Thank you Ladies, i thought so too about the co-sleeping but i get so much critisism over it that it is tiring to hear. We are not really co-sleeping it is mainly just when he wakes up in the middle of the night and some nights he does go on til almost the morning but yes he has had and still has alot of issues with teething. Mainly the bottom ones have given him alot of problems. We have to be giving him Motrin. It's just that he is so restless all the time with his eyes closed that he doesn't find a position to just sleep soundly. Thank you so much for your advice and for understanding...

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