1st time stay at home mom needs help headed to the nut house

Michelle - posted on 08/26/2012

I know exactly how you feel! I went threw this for a while and it's getting much better. When my son throws a huge fit i walk out of the room and ignore him and after a few days he stopped bc he knew it got him no where! When he throws something at me or in the house, whatever the item he has to put it in the trash (its usually a toy). It's the only thing that works for me, I've popped his butt, did time out, took away toys....nothing worked. But when i got the idea to just trash it he freaked and has now stopped for the most part. Every time he back talks me i warn him firmly but quietly that he will be going to bed early and will miss dessert or movie or whatever i come up with. When i start feeling like i'm gonna snap there's a gym him with a daycare that's very cheap and i can take him and drop his butt in the day care and work out all my frustrations! You've got to get her under control before i'd start doing play dates.... i tried that and it was sooo embarrassing and the other moms backed away from us! lol Try and see if your church has a childrens choir or something she can join to get her involved with other teachers and authority, that she has to respect and listen to!! That helped me alot. When it all fun and games and free time my son is out of control and i'm asking my self if it's to early for wine! lol Good luck to you and your daughter!

Katherine - posted on 08/26/2012

I felt like that with my first. I was so stressed all the time. It's just not worth it. Like Michelle said take her to play groups, try meetup.com they have plenty of them and dues are only about $12 a year. I love it and it helps me stay sane. I have a 6 year old and a 3.5 year old so I KNOW! Try to take some time for yourself too. At least once a week. Most of the meetups have a mom's night out.

Amanda - posted on 08/26/2012

I'm 31 have a 4 yr old son and my daughter turns 3 in a few weeks. I moved from London UK to Australia, I have left behind all of my friends and family and my husband works stupid hours on shift work so is never home.

To top it off I have no one to help me out so I do it on my own. My son has ADHD and sleep apenea so it's all fun and games in my house believe me.

Does it stop me doing anything??? No. Do I let my kids control the dynamics of my house because it's the easiest thing to do when I've had enough??? No.

Is it easy?? No.

Do I wanna crawl up in a ball, ignore it and wish it would all go away or someone would help me out and give me a break??? Nearly every day



For starters you need to take a deep breath and regain control over your daughter. Set ground rules and let her know what is and isn't acceptable behaviour. If she misbehaves she needs to know there will be a consequence to her actions.

After that get out there and start living your life. Take your daughter to a playgroup, the park the zoo, where ever you can it really doesn't matter.



The only person stopping you going out and meeting people, having fun and enjoying your daughter is you.