20 month old son has horrible tantrums. Any suggestions??

Mandy Robinson - posted on 08/12/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 20 month old son has recently started throwing these horrible fits. You can't talk to him, redirect him or anything. He kicks, screams, bites, throws his body to the wall. I just started ignoring him. Any suggestions? My daughter was not like this at all so this is all new to me.

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Kelli - posted on 08/13/2012

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my son started doing the same things. I started walking away when he would start his temper and he would follow me. I would then try to talk to him and he would start up again. I started looking back to what started the issue. most of the time he would get upset was because he felt that he wasn't being heard. even though I was listening and trying to balance things between the kids, he felt slighted. I wanted him to know his feelings where valid. I would communicate reassuring calming words to him and repeat them over and over and over again! okay honey, I understand honey mommy hears you honey. Repeating one of those sayings along with his name. At the end of any temper tantrum I would tell him to communicate with mommy next time. you have to tell mommy what's wrong or mommy can't help you. I want to help you mommy loves you!! He is now 29 months old and communicates with mommy.

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Wendy - posted on 08/14/2012

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You are not alone this is the age when tantrums start. Like Kelli M said you need to just talk to him in a calm manner and just let him know that his feeling count also try to make a note when the tantrums are happening some times is that they are tired or over stimulated. Look at his diet some children have a reaction to red die in foods. . Dont try to hold or restric him that will only make it worse unless he is hurting him self. Always stay calm do not try to scream over his tantrum walk away and dont give him attention and when he comes to you stay calm tell him that you love hime and want to help him but you cant if he is screaming and crying ask him to talk to you about what is bothering him. I dont know much about your child but I read a book where it also said if a child has a speach impairment even in the slightes way they have a hard time communicating or expressing them selves so they get frustrated and throw tantrums. Only you know your own child stop and analize the times, places and reasons for the tantrums and try to work them out. Stay calm, tell your child that you love them and always use encouraging words. Best of luck to you please keep us posted.

Norvella - posted on 08/12/2012

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When my kids do that I walk away, tell them they won't get attention from when when they be bad.

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