Silvia - posted on 08/07/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
Hello ladies!! I am a stay home stepmother, I started to be SHM 8 months ago, I have two step childrens one is 8 and 14, well I was wonder if someone can help me how to make a better relationship with them as stepmother, I had clear in my mind that they will never see me as their own mother which they only see her once o twice a year because she just dont care about them, well the point is now that I have more time to spend with them I feel like still I dont have that relationship, I know they only childrens they are realy respectfull to me, they obey me, and they are good kids, but sometimes they make me feel like I still dont mean nothing to them as stepmother or friend, before we get married with their dad, my mother in law just to take care of them, and now they are under my care, but there is a situation that make me feel the way bad sometimes when we go out with their grandmom (mother in law) they stick with her and they act like they not with me,and other situations like that make me feel like I had not made a good relationship with them, well Is me being jealous? or what can I do to make more bound with them, I know that the age influence a little be, the 14yrs old is a teenager, and well everybody knows about teens!!! I try to be a good friend and stepmother with them, but still feel I missing something, if any stepmother up there could give a good advice I will apreciate it, thank to every one, and nice day!!