Age difference between siblings....2yr? 4yrs?

Stifler's - posted on 04/02/2012

Mine are 16 months and I love the age gap.

Ema - posted on 04/02/2012

i know this is a late reply...but what did you end up doing in the end?...i have a boy 4yrs old an a girl 2yrs old...an my idea was to get all the nappies out the way in one go...i feel that if i waited till one was 5 or 6 before trying again..it's like your starting all over again...might as well do it while your still young and have the energy to enjoy playing with the kids...(i'm nearly 28yrs old btw) x

Michelle - posted on 09/21/2009

my first two are 1 1/2 years apart (Jan. 04 & Sept 05). Now I have a 4 month old. I think its just go with the flow. Whenever you feel ready. I was ready shortly after I had my first one but I wasnt ready for my 3rd one for about 3 yrs. So it just depends how you feel about it.

Jennifer - posted on 09/21/2009

I have five kids and they are all about 1 1/2 to 2 years apart and even though with five it is alot of work but only until they were one. Then the older siblings took over with occupying their time. They were close enough in age that they always have played together. My kids have always been best of friends and entertain each other very well, I have loved it. I agree with the 5 years is way to far apart they are just at two different levels and you do more of the entertaining and trying to help the kids get along and relate to each other that happened in my husbands family.

Tegan - posted on 09/21/2009

when i had my first child i was in the belief id wait 4- 5yrs before id have my second with the idea that id be able to focus on each child individually. but then i fell pregnant and my children are 19months apart. now that this is happened and they are slightly older (2 &3yrs) i think its wonderful, they play together and entertain each. so i believe closer is better not just for theildren but you too, since it gives you a bit more time. the hard work at first pays off.

Alaina - posted on 09/20/2009

Thank you everyone who replied to my question. It has been a great debate topic at the family dinner table for the last few months now and with some of your adivce it has helped me become aware of somethings I hadn't considered or known about before. So thank you all again. Great help!

Rebecca - posted on 09/18/2009

Hi I am 22 and have a 2 year old daughter, I am pregnant for my son, due November 15. So they will be almost 3 year apart. I think that works well because then she will be off to pre-k in 2 year and kindergarten in 3 yrs then he will be going a couple years later. As I am a stay at home mom .

Erin - posted on 09/18/2009

I have a 2 kids and they are 11 months apart. I think down the line this will be great. Right now they are a handful. My oldest has started picking up the habits of the younger one (throwing food on the floor and tantrums). They play together so nicely though. The youngest is also doing things more quickly than the older one because she is teaching him how to do things.I think that you should do what works with you. I hope to have another baby, but I will be waiting a year or so. I find my time is not equally split and I feel guilty for that. I think that the hard work now will definitely pay off later.

Kayleigh - posted on 09/18/2009

I have a 4 year old, she is now in nursery :), i have a 2 yr old boy and a 2 month old boy, they roughly all average 2 yrs apart and i think that it is best as they will all grow up together, but do what is best for you :) x

Eleanor - posted on 09/18/2009

i have 5 year old twins and a 2 and a half year old. I found this gap really good, the girls were old enough to know what was going on and want to help with getting nappies, choosing clothes etc. and they didn't feel left out. They were also old enough to know that mummy can't come right this minute, she is feeding/changing/bathing the baby etc. Now that they are a bit older, they are close enough in age that they are interested in most of the same things, except William likes bugs and the girls don't. The girls were 2 years 6 months and 2 days old when William was born, but that was just luck. I belong to the 'get the nappies over with quickly' group.

Jane - posted on 09/17/2009

Just go with the flow I have 6 boys the eldest is 22years and the youngest is 22 months and they are all still at home ,the smallest gap is 14 months being the last two who have a diffrent dad they all get along great

Michele - posted on 09/17/2009

My two girls are 4 years apart. I felt the age difference this summer. I felt like my 5 yr old missed out some because my 1.5 yr old wasn't ready to do some of the things. She needed her naps and could hang at the beach all day. If we did thing it would have to be early a.m. or after naps. I think if I had them closer it might have been easier.
My 5 yr old loves having a sister and the age difference doesn't matter to her.

Susanne - posted on 09/17/2009

For me is was go with the flow. My boys are almost 4 years apart (Feb. 2004 and Nov. 2007) and get along for the moment pretty good. Just my 2nd boy likes to tear up everything that my oldest builds. But I really liked that 4 year gap because my oldest is able to do what he needs when I have to take care of the younger one. Now I just had my little girl (July 2009) and between her and my 2nd son is about 20 months and some days I feel a little crazy since I am still getting into the swing of things. Both of the boys just love her to death right now, but it was very hard in the begining for me to adjust to taking care of newborn and having a 20 month who wants full attention all the time. My ideal thought was get one out of diapers before another gets in them...LOL...I feel like some days all I do is diapers no stop :-) But I really wouldn't change a thing. Good Luck :-)

Carrie - posted on 09/17/2009

OK here is my story...I have 7 yr old.. a 2 yr old and a 6 month old...I say dont wait till little Jessica is 7 yrs old (due to your age you will 36) not only for your sake all the test i have they do after 30 anyways (just my opinion) but because it will feels like a WHOLE new family when i had my 2 yr old...now with my experience with my 2 y old and 6 month i would say that is a perfect age difference especially if the 2 yr old is potty train partially and you arent buyin any pull ups for them...when i say partially i mean my 2 yr old still has accidents but they are very few...



i would say until she is at least 1 1/2 start tryin for another (if this is what YOU want to do) only you can really decide when it best for you to have another one...or just let nature take its course LOL :)



my 2 yr old and 6 months old due date were exactly 2 yrs and 2 months apart :)

Skittles - posted on 09/17/2009

i think closer is better if they are too far apart then you run into the "my space" thing and where they are into way different things. Mysister and me are 5 days short of 5 years apart and i hated her so bad cause my mom did the birthdays together. she was into barney when i was into makeup and music.We are abit better now but still abit rocky. Right now I have n 8yr old DD, 3yr old DS, and a 15 month DS and I just found out that i am having another.The 2 boys get along alot better then my oldest with them.She says they just get into everything of hers.