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Alone with baby But Cleaning up after 5 other people:/

Ammie - posted on 08/17/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone i am Ammie I have a 6 month old son Me, My husbad, &; Son live with my husband parents &; little brother &; little sister. I stay at home with my son during the week days &; work during the weekend. Everyday I have not pick up up after myself &; my son I have to pick up after everyone else I am going crazy &; then when everyone comes home all everyone says is "well i see you havent done anything all day" or they give me faces! I am going nuts trying to please everyone I just wish we could get our own place &; not have to worry about anyone else or at least i would only have to worry about my son & husband..... I love my in laws i just dont think i should have to be a maid..!!

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Ana - posted on 08/21/2012

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Hi! One thing is to help out because you want to , & another is to feel obligated to do so. I would set some boundaries, by always cleaning after yourself, baby & husband, but not after your inlaws. You can one day cook dinner, another wash dishes, but not every day, or you'll be taken for granted. As I suspect is happening. Try not to complain to your hubby, 'cause he might take it as nagging, but do let him know how you feel. Don't snap at anyone, just stop picking up after them.

Brittany - posted on 08/20/2012

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I was on the other end at one point. Then it was my mom, my sister, her husband, her son, and myself. My sister was home all day, her husband worked evenings until in the night, my mom had a normal 9-5, I went to school from 6 am to about 5 pm. I drove my sister NUTS. She would yell at me daily because after dinner I would clean up my plate and go right up to bed (in which I was out by 8pm). She wanted me to spend the next 2 hours helping her clean up after dinner. I told her off and honestly still would with my current knowledge and maturity.

However, I did do a lot myself, I cleaned up after myself, did my own laundry, etc. I also made sure that she knew how much I appreciated her hard work.

She did the house work, because she was home all day. It made sense and she actually signed up for it.

Doing the house work because you are home is one thing, but it shouldn't be a crime to ask for help. There is a good chance you'll get turned down. But even if it is bathing the baby, or entertaining him for 20 minutes. Ask them to pick up their personal messes to make cleaning easier and quicker for you. You need to communicate with them. Like Gina said, don't be mean about it. My sister being mean was a big reason why I didn't even bother listening to her.

Gina - posted on 08/20/2012

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Maybe it would be good to tell them how you feel...don't talk back or be rude about it, but be firm and serious about your feelings and let them know that you need their cooperation.

Tina - posted on 08/20/2012

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Stop picking up after them. Let them see how much you do by not doing it.

Crystal - posted on 08/19/2012

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I agree and am going through the same thing mother in law and 11yr old sister in law, its one thing picking up after your husband and child but another for people that are old enough and not your responsibility right? Well if you have any advice for me please help me too

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