Bebe - posted on 10/16/2012 ( 23 moms have responded )
I know I'm not the world's best. I've made mistakes. I know that I'm not the most clever, imaginative, or sometimes even the most on top of it. But, I put my kids first and I try. I'm constantly thinking about how what I do will shape my kids. I try and give them as many experiences as I can afford. My kids are fed, clothed, clean, and loved. They know they are loved. We believe in respecting their individual personalities, rather than squashing them on the road to helping them become who they'll be. Are my kids perfect? Hell no! My kids sometimes misbehave. My kids occasionally get upset and have a fit. And, what I'm told by the extended family around me when these things happen is stuff like
"My kids never behave/behaved that way."
"Well, it might *partly* be his or her teething/being tired/being hungry..."
During a rough patch that my one child was having a while back (tantrums, etc.), one of those same family members flat out refused to be around us one weekend.
I was most recently commented on--in a passive-aggressive way--because I mentioned that one of my children is having trouble sleeping in their own bed lately. We recently moved and since the move, this child wants to sleep with us about half the time. We're working with them on it. So, when I made this brief comment, the two extended family members exchanged looks, smirks, and I then heard:
"Do your kids know how to sleep in their own beds?"
"Our kids *never* slept in our room unless they were sick."
I felt kind of deflated after that.
I hear from my parents every-so-often about what a great parent my sibling is. I don't ever hear the same about me. Well, once, I was told that I'm a loving mom--and how they were pleasantly surprised by that. Again, it's deflating. It hurts my mom-esteem. Or, am I just a subpar mom and I don't even realize it?