Am i crazy or am i entitled to be upset

Yomommyy - posted on 11/28/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Ok so me and my bby daddy have been on and off due to multiple problems. One of them being his family. So our most recent break up was due to some inappropriate behavior by his brother who happens to live with us. He decided to bring a drunk girl home who could barley walk n was being loud, at this point i was already mad becuase i felt it was disrespectful espicaly because i have a 4 mth old daughter sleeping as this scandal is going on. Anyways they decided to go upstairs n have sex and let me and my (bbydaddy) boyfriend at the time know bout it..i asked my bby daddy to tell his brother to keep it dwn and he took no action so i took it upon myself to bang on the wall n tell them to stfu!! She ofc sepnt the night. After this we got into a very nasty argument and broke up and suprisingly the girl had the nerve to come back to the house the next day and act shameless bout it!!! She continues to come to the house and act rowdy loud and obnoxious..i feel as if this is now a family home. I do not want certain behavior exhibited under our daughters roof and there should b rules set. But the disrespect continues..i talked to him about this and he seems to think that as long as his brother pays rent he can continue to smoke weed,drink, and bring this female over. My bby daddy already made it clear that his brother is not going anywhere and that i can leave..Iam trying to move out soon but its going to take a few mths? But am i wrong for seeing this behavior as disrespect? He continues to act as a wing man for his brother

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Amba-rose_24 - posted on 12/09/2016

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That is bad fathering on his part. Why wouldn't he want to protect his daughter from being exposed to that?

Kvolm2016 - posted on 12/04/2016

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You are not wrong for wanting to have a safe and healthy environment for your daughter. Does your bby daddy have a good relationship with your daughter? Does he care for her, play with her, have good daddy/daughter interactions?

Michelle - posted on 11/28/2016

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So legally your boyfriend can decide on who stays there and can ask you to leave.
Even a temporary stay should have a contract drawn up but there's nothing you can do about it now.
Really your boyfriend should grow up and behave like a Father/Adult but you can't make someone grow up.
I suggest that you get yourself a lawyer and get the ball rolling with custody, visitation and child support if you are not going to be with your boyfriend anymore.
You can't control how others live their life, all you can do is the best for your child.

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Yomommyy - posted on 12/24/2016

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Thanks for everyones replies. Nothing has changed and the arguments have continued n at the moment i have nowhere else to go..im so angry that he thinks this behavior is acceptable around our bby..their excuse is that "she is too young to know whats goin on" and that pisses me off! Its not only bout that but also the lack of respect n moral.. Amer rose im not sure why he doesnt see it that way i guess he still has alot of growin up to do.. Kassandra vana he does interact with our bby, he takes care of her when im at work n my bby loves him! But i just feel like in some ways he still has his prorities mixed up. When it comes dwn to his family like his mother,aunts, or siblings or the bby n I..his family always seems to win

Yomommyy - posted on 11/28/2016

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And no he signed no contact but this was suppose to be a temporary stay for him

Michelle - posted on 11/28/2016

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Did his brother sign a contract when he moved in stating what behaviours you expected from him while living with you?
You can be upset but it doesn't mean that they have to do what you say either. You are all adults and can choose to behave the way you want.
Who's name is on the lease?

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