am i over reacting?

Erica - posted on 08/24/2010

Thank you ladies! I'm able to take her in the morning so that is what we're going to do. Your opinions have helped a great deal!

Kristy - posted on 08/24/2010

I don't think you are over reacting. I think you should take her in morning and see how her anxiety goes from there.

Denise - posted on 08/24/2010

Hey Erica, I would not let my child that young be on the bus that long. I agree with you and disagree with all those other people. I drive my boys to school and let them take the bus home because of the very same reason. They get to sleep in a little longer ( kids need more sleep) I think it is rediculous for them to be on the bus that long. Almost an hour! I would definitley be dropping her to school myself if I could. I would rather she deal with her seperation anxiety at the school than at the bus stop where she has to think about if for an hour. At least at the school she will be upset for a few minutes but once you are gone she will be busy doing activities to take her mind off of missing mommy. Thats just my opinion.
Denise

Erica - posted on 08/23/2010

That's the thing these busses come to your home. So I would have to go to another mother's house that I don't know and she's the only pick up in town (we live in corn country so it's a bunch of tiny little cathlic towns peppered in the country) So If I go to a closer stop I've already taken her to New Bremen which is the town the school is in. We live in Saint Marys which is about 15 mins. north. I'm so worked up over this that my left eye is twitching and the right side of my head is throbbing...

I want what's best for her so we send her to this Early Intervention - if it wasn't for them she wouldn't even be walking now. And I was told today that there was a boy who would be on for 90 mins.! I'm lucky to stay home and we decided to do the bus b/c that's what every professional is telling me is best for her but what about in the winter? We live in OHIO we get bad snow and ice I don't want her on a bus that long!

Thank you soo much ladies for giving my confidence a boost and letting me know I'm not crazy!

Gena - posted on 08/23/2010

I also don't think you are overreacting. My children get on the bus at 6:55 a.m & school doesn't start until 7:50 a.m (We actually on live about 11mins from school)So they are riding the bus close to an hour both ways. I know my childrens' bus driver personally & she says the school is trying to save money so the buses are very full. I can understand this, so I am sure they are not doing it on purpose to your child but you know best. If you don't think she can handle it then you are probably right. I agree with Michelle see if you can take her to a closer stop so she is not on as long.

Stifler's - posted on 08/23/2010

16 months and going on the bus?! WTF. Separation anxiety lasted until I was in year 1. I was fine after a few days and made friends, just take her to school.

Michelle - posted on 08/23/2010

No i don't think your overreacting. I don't know if I would let mine ride that long if she's having a hard time.I would try taking her to the last pick up spot. I hope it helps.

Erica - posted on 08/23/2010

The oldest child on the bus would be 2 and 1/2 once they turn 3 they have to go to county preschool which is in another location. I talked to her teacher again today she said to take her the first week or two until they get the bus schedule ironed out she thinks after the driver gets use to the route she doesn't think it will be that early of a pick up.

Lisa - posted on 08/23/2010

My daughter started early education program at school last winter when she turned 3 for speech therapy. During her meeting to set everything up, there was no way I was letting her ride the bus with kids 5 years all the way through high school. So I drove her to school in the morning and she rode the bus home at lunchtime. She was on the bus 45-50 minutes. She loved riding the bus and when I asked her if she wanted mommy to take her to school or if she wanted to ride the bus, she told me she was going to ride the bus to school. In the morning she'd be on the bus for 10-15 minutes. In our district they reverse the routes in the afternoons so the kids only have one long ride a day.

I found that it wasn't my daughter, it was me. But then again, you have to do what is most comfortable for you. If it makes you more comfortable to take her, then take her in the morning and let her ride the bus home in the afternoon.

Erica - posted on 08/23/2010

I am planning on taking her the first few days of school (3) and the bus driver tells me she babbles the whole way after I walk away but then why is she crying when she sees a bus drive by? I'm glad you don't think I'm overreacting I believe I will take her myself if they cannot adjust the schedule. I'm just told i'm prone to overreact so I wanted opinions from other moms who stay home.

Amy - posted on 08/23/2010

I definately agree with Juliana that it is your child and your decision and YOU know best....If it was me I would take her in the morning and let them bring her home that way she understands that the school bus isn't a bad thing and that it is taking her home to her mom maybe she won't be so afraid of it after a few weeks. another thing that may work will they let you ride on the bus with her a few times so she gets used to it? I didn't even know a bus would pick a child up that young until your post. hope everything works out

Juliana - posted on 08/23/2010

That seems like an unneccessary amount of time for a child that young to be on a bus strapped into a car seat. If you are able to take her in the mornings then I say go for it, remember you are her mom. All those people can make suggestions but you have the ultimate decision. And separation anxiety? I think all kids at that age have separation anxiety. When she sees the bus, she is having anxiety then too. You dont want her to start hating school this young. So like I said YOU have the final say and if your not comfortable with her on the bus all the time then you take her instead.