Stacey - posted on 10/20/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )
II love being a wife and a mother but sometimes I wonder if there should be more. I am 33 yrs old have 4 year old and a 7 week old boys. I live in a rural town where my closest neighbor is my mother-in-law. Don't get me wrong I couldn't ask for a better mil but to be honest i get lonesome. My mother lives about 30 minutes away so she just doesn't visit very often. I know it's not that far but she just doesn't, and i think my mil thinks she is intruding by coming by too often, even though i would welcome the company. My husband works long hours- usually leaves around 5:30 am and doesn't get home till around 7:00 pm and is in bed by 10:00. I realize he's tired but so am I and he just doesn't see that i'm starved for adult conversation. when he is there, there's time for a shower, dinner and a little t.v. and I'm stuck doing everything else. Hence the maid feeling. I do all the feedings with the baby and caretaking of both boys along with just about everything else that has to do with the house. I love my husband and boys and don't regret marriage or having children but I can't tell you the last time we had an evening out. Does anyone else feel this way? Any suggestions as to how I can get my husband to participate more in family life? How can I get out of this rut?