Anyone else feel like they have NO life? Out of touch with the rest of the world?

Regina - posted on 08/13/2009

o yes I do. Sometime I think I am going to start talking like a little kid again. I think that is why i read so much.

Tatiana - posted on 08/13/2009

Yes i do, especially bein that im only 24 yrs old and everyone my age is goin on vacation every month & always has new pics 2 put up on thier facebook. I just here, everyday... nothin exciting AT ALL

Lorraine - posted on 08/13/2009

definitely! especially now cause my hubby is in the military so all of my really good friends are thousands of miles away. just gets a little lonely.

Susan - posted on 08/13/2009

I sometimes get in those moods because my husband is in the military. I have some good friends and family but its hard to talk to them sometime. It would be nice to have someone I can talk to who is dealing with the same thats a good wife to their soldier. Cuz I have 3 children and Im a good christian person and its still hard .It would be nice to have more mommies to talk to.

Laura - posted on 08/12/2009

YES!!! I have 4 kids... (ages 4,3, and 7 month twins). My hubby works nights so he sleeps all day. It is hard to leave home with all 4 kids by myself, so i sit at home all day every day until he wakes up. I have a few friends that have kids... but even a playdate at the park is such a hassle! I often feel so incredible jealous of others that have it easy with one or 2 kids. Then I take a look at the 4 little smiling faces around me and it makes me feel a little better. But to answer your question... Yes, I definately feel like I have no like, and am out of touch with the world. (thank goodness we have Facebook, right?! LOL)

Monica - posted on 08/12/2009

It happens. I try to find things to do outdoors all the time.
I realized that just because I'm a mom...I shouldn't forget about myself. and you shouldn't either. The world is sooo beautiful to just let the days pass us by.

Jasmin - posted on 08/12/2009

I felt this way before I found MOPS which is Mothers of Preschoolers. It is a fantastic group for moms that are expecting thru kindergarten. It is a great place to develop friendships with moms who were in the same stage of life. Check out www.MOPS.com and see if there is a group near you. I know many groups do not charge for meetings while others may have a small fee to cover crafts. I hope this helps all you wonderful ladies!

Jasmin

Breanna - posted on 08/12/2009

No life outside the home....that is really sad........when my hubby gets home I feel like I beg him to talk to me.....I miss adult conversation!!!!

Heide - posted on 08/12/2009

YYYYEEEESSSSS, and I am only 27! The only folks I know are bar hopping, parting , working outside of the home, dinners, movies. I only have two kids and my husband and I both work. I still do not know how other parents find time to have a life or find the $.

Gina - posted on 08/12/2009

Besides my kids and my hubby I have no life whatsoever... I stay home everyday with my kids...

Chrystal - posted on 08/12/2009

I feel that way all the time! I am a military wife and if it weren't for my friends that live far away I wouldn't have any. I only have one friend that lives close to me and I'm about to move again so then she'll be over and hour away. I spend almost all of my time with my kids. I love them tremendously and feel guilty when I'm not with them but I could really use some adult time every once in a while.

Julie - posted on 08/12/2009

Yes, I often feel this way. My hubby and I started a family early, so we don't have lot of friends who have kids our age. A lot of them have just begun to have babies. It's frustrating at times because I feel alone a lot. My hubby is now working in a different state so now more then ever I feel lost and alone. I love being blessed to stay home with my kids, sometimes I just feel depressed and unmotivated a lot of times.

Karen - posted on 08/12/2009

often times YES!!

Bonnie - posted on 08/11/2009

Being a stay at home mom is so rare now there is no one to share life with in that way. Not many people understand what you do or the concept of your family beliefs (if that's why you stay home) My husband was in the military most our marriage so we never knew anyone but at least on base it wasn't uncommon to be a stay at home mom. Now that he's out and we are back to our home state we are not close to our familes that live near by so it's odd and old friends did not grow up so it's awkward to bump into them. It's almost like living in a bubble. We also live in the country so I don't see other people often so I wonder around on facebook and poof circle of moms lol. This year though I will be home schooling my two boys we live in a redneck town and I was very disappointed in the education system. I may not be able to afford private school but I can afford the best home schooling system their is and that's the next best thing. And I am just happy to have them home again.

Kesha - posted on 08/11/2009

Im glad to have just joined this group.. i agree with most...I love my family and love being home but every once in a while i want and NEED a break..

Rhonda - posted on 08/11/2009

i feel the same way! When i was working I had alot of friends and was able to go out alot and do things. Now that I stay at home because of 2 babies that came as a BIG suprise. Noone i use to hang out with or talk to really have anything to do with me. All i really have is my husband and he works nights and 12 hr shifts plus he is a manager so i know how it feels.

Sara - posted on 08/11/2009

This is my life in a nutshell. I never realized when my husband and I made the decision for me to stay at home that I would be totally giving up my sense of self or identity. I'm no longer Sara, I'm Noah's mom or Holly's mom. I love what I do but sometimes you feel like you're the only adult living on this tiny island of toddler people and that the rest of the world is just sailing past. Sadly I have become so thankful to Facebook and other sites because at least I have started to feel somewhat reconnected with the rest of the world.

Jayme - posted on 08/11/2009

Yes, I am just getting out of a rut, where I didn't spend any time focused on myself. I'm going to Colorado from NJ for a weekend at the end of the summer. After that, I plan on trying a little harder to find some me time. I think the trick is to find that me time, and not feel guilty that you could be doing a thousand other productive things.

Tracey - posted on 08/11/2009

Yes Yes Yes my hubby drives a truck over the road so he is here only 2 days out the week, but he does give me my time but I have to ask its like he doesn't even have a clue. I do get to go to the YMCA for classes thats fun. then I trade off with my oldest son favors to watch the kids for me a couple of hours. which is good for us both.

Michele - posted on 08/11/2009

Yes, most of the time!! It gets frustrating. I can only clean and play for so long. It's been really hot here, so I don't want to get my one year old out running errands unless we have to.

Edythe - posted on 08/11/2009

always....my hubby is out there living..and me i'm coooking cleaning watching kids yelling at kids etc....sometimes it gets to me then my ids do something adoreable and i'm ok.

Shahala - posted on 08/10/2009

I tell you what, I cant win for losing!!! My husband travelled quite a bit and I was at home alone with my two girls. I also lived in a rural area, I felt so isolated and alone. He would come home on the weekend and he would want to stay at home since he was gone all week and I wanted to go out running around with him, it was always a conflict. I got pregnant with our 3rd and we decided no more traveling, I moved to Las Vegas so we could be together....he got laid off. So NOW even though hes home ALL the time, I still have no life.

Marrissa - posted on 08/10/2009

sometimes i feel like when my husbands at work that it has just been forever sence ive talked to another adult but its all good bc ive never new how much one could laugh in one day till i had my kids

Kathleen - posted on 08/10/2009

YES!!

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2009

I posted a link in my last message. It tells more on the website and where one local would be for you.

MOPS stands for Mothers of Preschoolers. MOPS International exists to meet the needs of every mom - urban, suburban and rural moms, stay-at-home and working moms, teen, single and married moms - moms with different lifestyles who all share a similar desire to be the very best moms they can be! MOPS recognizes that the years from infancy through kindergarten are foundational in a mother-child relationship and are filled with unique needs.

MOPS helps moms through relationships established in the context of local groups that provide a caring atmosphere for today's mother of young children. MOPS also encourages and supports moms through resources such as books,
Here is the page for how to find one near you
http://www1.mops.org/web/web_group_searc...

Christy - posted on 08/10/2009

what is mops and where can i find it?

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2009

Oh and some advice to moms with preschool age and under children if you are Christain or if Christians don't scare ya find a MOPS! Seriously it's great. You meet so many mommies in that same stage of life and some are young and some are older. So it's a nice balance of women. My MOPS meets during the school year during the day and they have childcare during it for 50cents a kid. I've made so many friends there and have play date regularly. Also we meet out once in a while for coffee with no kids. But I wouldn't have found half of them if I didn't join this group.

http://www.mops.org/

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2009

The only time I get feeling like this is when I go somewhere like a wedding, bridal shower, board meetings where ever adults only are and most of them don't have children or have children that are older. I feel like I have nothing else to talk about and no one can or wants to relate to me and I can't relate or want to with them. Then I feel like wow Geeze is that all I am is a mom. Not that being a mom isn't something great and important. But you know what I mean.

Actually recently I was in this situation and will be again for the wedding. So I have decided that I am just loosing myself and I need to gain some of me back. So I have become more outgoing in getting some mom groups together. We all need sometime away from the kids. Also I am actively looking for an art class. I used to love to draw and paint and I need to do that again for ME. I think my kids are loosing out on not seeing all the things I can or could do just because I am not taking time for them. I definitely think it's important to have some real time for yourself. Even if it's just finding the time to open up a book that doesn't have rhyming words and big fuzzy characters it it LOL

Christy - posted on 08/10/2009

waves my hands frantically im a stay at home mom not by choice my husband decided to go off and go find work in boston and he completely doesnt understand how chasing a 16 mo old could be tireing i mean i love my son but being cooped up with him all day everyday without a break or me time wares on u after a while i live with my mom and she only has one car so there is no getting out for anything during the day i feel like im losing my mind i dont really have any friends to talk so there either single or newlyweds and dont feel like going out i need some kind of interaction for my son and me help!!!

Suzanne - posted on 08/10/2009

Quoting Teresa:

*jumps up and down with both hands raised*!!! Yup thats me no life. I have 3 kids that are constantly bickering over everything. My husband is the same way he doesnt understand that he has all day to talk to adults and he can choose to go wherever he wants without wrangling 3 kids into the car. God forbid you should say anything about how you have no life cause then you hear why dont you get out there and make some friends. HMMM let me see when do i have time for that, between the time I wake up in the morning get 3 kids off to school, start cleaning, take my shower guess what its time for the kids to come home then its homework, dinner and whatever wasnt finished before they got home.

Sorry for the rant but I feel better now LOL

Man, If I could email that to my husband!  He treats me like I'm a bad mother because I feel I need some time for myself!  He gets mad that I am jealous of his going to work!  AAAAAAAARRRGGGGHHHH!

Rant any old time you like my friend, you deserve it!

Teresa - posted on 08/10/2009

*jumps up and down with both hands raised*!!! Yup thats me no life. I have 3 kids that are constantly bickering over everything. My husband is the same way he doesnt understand that he has all day to talk to adults and he can choose to go wherever he wants without wrangling 3 kids into the car. God forbid you should say anything about how you have no life cause then you hear why dont you get out there and make some friends. HMMM let me see when do i have time for that, between the time I wake up in the morning get 3 kids off to school, start cleaning, take my shower guess what its time for the kids to come home then its homework, dinner and whatever wasnt finished before they got home.



Sorry for the rant but I feel better now LOL

Suzanne - posted on 08/10/2009

Quoting Sue:

It would be great if all the moms from this post could get together!! I am a SAHM with 4 kids. Ages 9, 5, 2 and 3 months. I feel totally out of touch with the outside world. Most of my friends are still partyin' it up or are just starting to have kids and can't relate yet. I even find myself getting jealous of my husband for going to work b/c he gets to talk to adults all day! I've always felt that one of us should stay at home to raise the kids, I just didn't realize just how isolated I would feel.

I hear ya!  My husband doesn't get it!  He says it's 'just work', but really?  He can get in the car, go for lunch, go for coffee.....I have to drag a 2 year old and a 3 month old with me...my older 3 can get themselves together, but it's like pulling teeth to get them to do anything!  It would be good if we could all meet for a drink or some good food and some shopping---a spa?  Some US time!  Hopefully we will find a way out, if even for some short stints.

Keep in touch!

S

Nubia - posted on 08/09/2009

i have two boys but i feel like i am disconnected from the world i don't have any friends but my husband i do have my mom and sis but its not the same i wish i could make friends but i don't really know anyone where i live and most people my age just want to party and stay out

Angelica - posted on 08/09/2009

I do feel like I have NO life!!! I have at 11 mth old son and Im pregnant. I live in Texas and its so hot here that I dont even want to go outside!! I told my husband that I need some kind of adult human contact soon or I'm only gonna be able to talk baby talk soon!! LOL

Elenna - posted on 08/09/2009

It's some how nice to know that it isn't just me, lol. I feel like I don't even have time to take care of myself in my own home!!! Between my nine year old, my nearly two year old, my military husband and online school I don't have any time for me!

Autum - posted on 08/09/2009

All the time. I don't get to see the real world much my kids are my Pride and joy most of all I Have JESUS he is my world My father mother sister and brother with out him in my life i don't know where i would be.

Jasmine - posted on 08/09/2009

yes... my husband is in the military and so we had to move far away from home. i'm a very shy person and i also cant drive so i'm trying to figure out some way to meet people here because we're gonna be here for a while

Martha - posted on 08/09/2009

not me, my world is my family. anyone (friends and such) who can deal with than WELCOME if not....I don't really need them in my life.
of course I do have a very supportive hubby who takes care of them now and then so I can go out to grab a coffee or dinner with friends; but most of our outting include them :)
FUN!!!!!

Pamela - posted on 08/09/2009

I most recently became a stay at home mom after my company downsized. Right now it's convenient and I feel I have more time for my kids and not squeezing everything in after working a 9-5. My boys are 4 and 7. They pull on me every second and soon as my husband leaves the house they fight and jump and I feel like I am losing my mind and usually lose all energy and don't feel like going out the house when they work my nerves like that. I have them involved in activities but the weekends are so stressful.

Connie - posted on 08/09/2009

I feel the same way. I am glad you brought up the issue. I am an older mom (48) with a 10 year old son and a 5 year old daughter. I think in my case I came to feel this way because most women my age have nearly adult children and a life out side of the home. I want to stay a SAHM, but decided felt I needed to contribute to the household income (I think as a result of peer pressure and economy). So I am now a WAHM. This has helped me feel like I am in touch with both worlds now. I get to stay involved with my children and the household and have a business that I work when I want with a group of supportive team members whom most are like me SAHM's & WAHM's!! I wish you the best!

Suzanne - posted on 08/09/2009

If you need to chat more corinne, add me on fb! I share your pain, and hair loss!

Jana - posted on 08/08/2009

Most of the time I don't mind not having a life because I love being able to stay at home with my daughter. The only time I really feel like a "stay at home mom" is when I go out with a large group of friends and I have nothing to talk about because my daughter is 2 and not really up on current events. So it makes starting a conversation kind of hard. But I wouldn't trade my life for anything, I love it, and I have Facebook so that helps a lot!

Katty - posted on 08/08/2009

YES GIRL! i feel that way sometimes. but i try to go out as much as possible with my family and then just time for me and my girls to hang out! i believe its so necessary other wise i'll go crazy! i feel you..trust me!! god bless!!

Justine - posted on 08/08/2009

That is me. I have joined meetups.com to start meeting people since sitting at home and watching my daughter won't do. I just moved out of state and know no one so I feel this times 10.

Corrine - posted on 08/08/2009

That sounds like me....I have absolutley NO life, and no friends. I graduated high school in June of 2005, and once I left for the military in September 2005, I lost all of my friends, as I lived in Illinois for 4 months, (where I met my husband) and then we were both stationed on the same island in California in Jan 2006, until Feb 2009 when I was honorably discharged from the U.S Navy. After getting out of the military we moved back to his hometown, Austin TX. I am from a small township outside of the Duluth MN city limits, so I am FAR from home. My day consists of cooking, cleaning, going to school full time and taking care of our 19 month old son. He goes to school full time and he is working odd jobs for his parents business until summer semester is over, then hopefully he will be working full time. I feel like I am here just for him to walk all over. I say that because when we lived in California, he was stay at home dad, and I worked 50-60 hour work weeks, and a lot of times I would have to put in 12 hour days on the weekends as well. There were a few times that a couple of the girls I worked with would want to have a "girls night out" but I was not allowed to go, yet here, where he has friends, he will leave in the early afternoon to go play on the lake on his dads jet ski with his friends, then come home, change and go out to the bars until 3 am, leaving me home to care for our son. There is one person I know here. I babysit her 3 roudy boys and we get to hang out and talk maybe once a month or so. But it is usually just at her house or mine....where the kids are running wild. On very few occasions, I can talk my husband into watching our son for an hour, so I can go to the tanning salon, and just have 20 minutes of relaxation and listen to music. I dont think there is a lot on my plate, but I am getting so stressed from an everyday life, that seems to be repeating itself over and over, my hair has begun to fall out again. It happened while I was in the military, (and I had lost at least 1/2 of the thickness of my hair) but once I got out, it stopped, but started again about a month ago. Im not talking a few strands here and there, Im talking WADS of hair, like my grandmothers when she had breast cancer. I just wish he would be more willing to take on some responsibility around the house. Im a mother, wife, cook, and maid...sorry I rambled on so much, it just felt so nice to get it all out!

Jane - posted on 08/08/2009

we had to buy a new compter a few months ago and i had NO idea what was what when i was standing in front of them. in only two years i went to being on top of everything; technology, music, movies,etc to a complete dunce. i am definitely out of touch w/my old world and the "real" world. but when i turn on cnn or fox news or the local news, the "real' world is so heinous, that i turn it right back to Sprout. i figure my little bubble of the world is going to pop soon enough in 6 years when i have to go back to work, so i'll enjoy now and worry about catching up then. i joined a SAHM group and that helps me keep in touch w/my new world and i've made some great friends as have my daughters that i intend for us to have for a lifetime.

Ciara - posted on 08/08/2009

I make sure to take out ME TIME because I too felt this way for a long time.. I still do sometimes but I make the effort to visit a friend for a night of girl talk or go out to a movie once and a while.. I think it's important

Stephanie - posted on 08/08/2009

I can relate as well. My husband works deep nights, which means he gets home at 7am and sleeps all day. It is super hard because i am the sole person to care for our 7month old. We are making a what we like to call friend transition...lol...which means most of our friend that we had pre baby are still out being single and then some of our friends just had babies like us but are so busy doing that we really dont have time to hand out. Especially because my hubby has tues and wed off, so that makes it hard for us to have any life together.

I just try and remember that this is not forever, and I focus on spending time with our daughter, I try and get out of the house but you can only go to the mall, and wal-mart so many times. I want to find a MOPS group in the area so I can get plugged in early that way when my little one is old enough to start I will already know some people.

It can be discouraging I know, sometimes I feel like i am going to pull my hair out...lol...then i just have a glass of wine and watch desperate house wives...lol..they always make me feel better. :O)

Jacqui - posted on 08/08/2009

Yup. My daughter is one, and I'm just hoping I figure out how to balance life with baby soon--especially since I'm planning on having another one! Yikes! I just volunteered for my local fringe festival the other day, though. That's four 4-hr shifts where I'll get to be on my own, doing my own thing, while hubby puts the baby to bed and all that. I'm really looking forward, even though I'm nervous about the added stress of having an extra thing to fit in! I think it'll be alright though. I have to remind myself not to be afraid of stress and inconvenience and being busy or I'll NEVER feel in touch with the world ever again, and I think I would just die. I would suggest this for anyone else, too. Find a group, volunteer, do some community theatre, whatever. There are tonnes of little couple-hours-a-week things we can do to get out there! Just takes effort.

Nicole - posted on 08/08/2009

Yes! I feel like that quite often. My husband's in the military and we don't have many friends. All the people he knows have dysfunctional families (don't get along, cheat, etc) and they're not really people we want to hang out with. I do have a couple girlfriends I hang out with once in a while though. I would love to find a mommy and me group!