Anyone know of any STAY-AT-HOME MOM quotes?

Anne - posted on 12/10/2012

I'm Chief Operating Officer & Chief Executive Officer (COO & CEO respectively) of the Young Family

Emily - posted on 12/08/2012

Being a SAHM is the hardest job I have ever had, and I've been an RN and NP for years, which as you can imagine, are difficult jobs. No job has been as difficult and as fulfilling as being a SAHM. What do I do all day? What working parents pay daycare workers to do, but I do it better. I'm my children's mom. I take care of them. I discipline them and teach and train them how to be decent human beings. I do it, not a daycare worker. I work hard every day all day, and I go to bed exhausted every night between running a household, including managing the finances, the shopping, meal planning, cooking, cleaning, etc. It's really hard work, and frankly, sometimes when I'm particularly discouraged or exhausted, I think to myself that it would a lot easier if I just went back to work and my kids went to daycare. But I know that my job as a SAHM is the most important job that I will ever have in my life. Raising wonderful people who will change the world, yep, that's my job!

Tracy - posted on 12/05/2012

I have really enjoyed reading all of your comments! I have been mostly a SAHM for 18 years now. Lately it seems like I hear more and more people asking me things like, "What do you do all day?" and "Why don't you get a job." I have to admit, I started to let these comments get to me. It never bothered me when both of my boys were younger, but now my youngest is in the fifth grade and people are starting to judge me for staying home. I talked to my husband about this and how I was feeling bad about myself because of what others have been saying, and we both came to the conclusion that we love that I can be here for my kids at any time. All of these people are acting like because my child is in the fifth grade that he is practically grown or something, but I believe these next 6 years or so will be a very vulnerable time in his life and we both agree that having one parent available at all times really makes a difference in how children turn out.

Beth - posted on 11/16/2012

Feel proud to be with your family while working! Very few lucky people can do this and you are one amongst them. Enjoy your work and try not to listen negative things.

Rene - posted on 11/15/2012

I tell people I have a job sevral as a matter of fact. I want to know what values my kids are rasied with. I don't lend out my car and my kids are way more important.you may not be a fulltime mom but I love being one. You can't buy back time. Hope one of these help!

Heather - posted on 11/14/2012

"When in doubt choose the kids. There will be plenty of time later to choose work..." Anna Quindlen

Kerry - posted on 11/13/2012

I usually tell people, I do a very important job inside the home. I am a domestic engineer. A very detailed, time consuming, highly skilled job. I am also a nurse, cook, maid, master scheduler( not sure this is a word, but oh well) so I really don't need another job.

Samantha - posted on 11/13/2012

Try telling them that you didn't have Children to let someone else raise them :) I've only had to say it to each person once...they get the hint ;)

Patricia - posted on 11/10/2012

i know how you feel i have 0 kids and i do it all and work part time it is a pain in the rear sometimes i just want to be impolite

Cyndi - posted on 11/09/2012

I hear that stuff from my inlaws about twice a year mainly because the kids are all in school now and they think i need to work. My hubby jumps right in and tells them that she does work she takes care of 3 kids every day and most days puts in more hours than he does because i do it all! Most people just dont get it and i too get agrivated when i say stay at home mom and i get the oh shes lazy look. Its true most people...including a lot of women feel that they have to work to prove themselves. I dont i do all my own home repairs( hubby works a LOT of hours) so i cant wait on him to do them i renodeled my house and put my own lamenate floors down in about 12 hours too. Its hars not to getupset but your not alone :)

Katie - posted on 11/05/2012

Tell them your children will most likely be more successful in life because you HAVE THE TIME to spend with them and really know everything going on in their lives. I do not know of any quotes but I sure get snarky comments all the time about it. I apologize if my awesome life is making them angry :) Not! lol

Fit2BMe - posted on 09/28/2012

"I've seen the village, and I don't want it raising my children."

Christina - posted on 09/25/2012

me too! i worked for 22 years of my life! and worked hard! i went back to work 8 weeks after my daughter was born. i moved and noone knows that mom...just the sahm. i get asked what do you do all day by a friend in front of people all day. i told her you get your kids up, get them ready, make their bfast and lunch, get them out the door, do their hw, take them to their activities, bathed... my other friend who works...said i do all of that. to which i had no remark. but they still do not do the all day nurturing and dealing that we do. i wouldn't have it any other way. but how would they like me saying....how do you go to work all day, put your kid in before and after school program so you can work out before work, only spend 3 hours tops with them before bed? how are you never involved in class mom. how are you letting someone else raise your kid? i have worked full time, part time, and sahm...none are easy. why do people judge? you have to be happy with yourself and your choices i guess.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/08/2012

You already said it. It shouldn't matter to anyone!! You and your husband agreed to do it, and apparently you DO bring in income as well!! I am a SAHM of 5. Have been for 7 years and LOVE it. My hubby and I sat down and decided we could make it work and it was MORE important for one of us to be home to raise our kids/the next generation of humans. And if someone doesn't think that job is important, they obviously are a) jealous b)stupid or c)not important enough to care about their opinion anyway! Enjoy your beautiful job of staying home. Don't worry about what people say and YES, you do have a job. 24/7 no holidays, no bathroom breaks, no snack breaks on call everyday, all day.

Meri - posted on 06/03/2012

I love your post. My sister-in-law often makes comments about what a supermom she is, as she works and has two kids and would never read a parenting magazine, as she doesn't need anyone telling her how to parent. Yesterday she said 50 shades of gray was written for soccer moms. Jealous much? I just grit my teeth and smile.

Tenesha - posted on 06/03/2012

Omg your job is very important I wish I got to stay home longer I stayed home for a year and a half before I went back to work. It was the best time of my life. Wish it could have been longer .

Keri - posted on 05/31/2012

Like where you send your kids to school, what you feed them, how you discipline them, choosing to stay home is a very person choice that doesn't need to be justified to anyone else. I have run in to it a lot recently since we decided, actively, to pursue Catholic school for our son. Life isn't about income/money and if it was, there would be no stay-at-home-parents (mom or dad). No, being a SAHM isn't easy - maybe just remind people of the daily household tasks they perform every day, then tell them to add constant childcare to it - or tell them to imagine what it was like those first couple months when they were still on maternity leave and were caring for the baby 24/7. That should shut them up, at least for a while.

Jamie - posted on 05/25/2012

My motto is: A career is your heart song it is what you would do even if you didn't get monetary pay for it. So I choose to be a SAHM, A trade is what puts food on the table, clothes on your back and a roof over your head. I used to tell people My husband and I have a great arrangement his trade is to make 100% of the money, and my career is to spend 100% of it...on our home and our (3)children. Usually they laughed and walked away.
- I gave them a laugh
- It gave them something to think about.
- I showed my kids how to handle criticism/conflict and everyone walks away with a smile on their face.
-Everybody wins.

Jamie - posted on 05/25/2012

There was a short story I got to read on a site unfortunately I never wrote down the author but here is the story that I shared with my daughters and a few others enjoy~

It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response, the way one of the kids will walk into the room while I'm on the phone and ask to be taken to the store. Inside I'm thinking, 'Can't you see I'm on the phone?'
Obviously not; no one can see if I'm on the phone, or cooking, or sweeping the floor, or even standing on my head in the corner,because no one can see me at all. I'm invisible. The invisible Mom. Some days I am only a pair of hands,nothing more! Can you fix this? Can you tie this? Can you open this?? Some days I'm not a pair of hands; I'm not even a human being. I'm a clock to ask, 'What time is it?' I'm a satellite guide to answer, 'What number is the Disney Channel?' I'm a car to order,'Right around 5:30, please.'
I was certain that these were the hands that once held books and the eyes that studied history and the mind that graduated summa cum laude -but now, they had disappeared into the peanut butter,never to be seen again.She's going, she's going, she's gone!?
One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return of a friend from England. Janice had just gotten back from a fabulous trip, and she was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in. I was sitting there, looking around at the others all put together so well. It was hard not to compare and feel sorry for myself.
I was feeling pretty pathetic, when Janice turned to me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said,'I brought you this.' It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europe . I wasn't exactly sure why she'd given it to me until I read her inscription:
'To Charlotte , with admiration for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees.'
In the days ahead I would read - no, devour - the book. And I would discover what would become for me,four life-changing truths, after which I could pattern my work: No one can say who built the great cathedrals - we have no record of their names.
These builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never see finished. They made great sacrifices and expected no credit.
The passion of their building was fueled by their faith that the eyes of God saw everything.
A legendary story in the book told of a rich man who came to visit the cathedral while it was being built, and he saw a workman carving a tiny bird on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and asked the man, Why are you spending so much time carving that bird into a beam that will be covered by the roof, No one will ever see it. And the workman replied, 'Because God sees.'I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall into place. It was almost as if I heard God whispering to me,'I see you, Charlotte. I see the sacrifices you make every day, even when no one around you does.
No act of kindness you've done, no sequin you've sewn on, no cupcake you've baked, is too small for me to notice and smile over.
You are building a great cathedral, but you can't see right now what it will become.
At times, my invisibility feels like an affliction.But it is not a disease that is erasing my life.
It is the cure for the disease of my own self-centeredness. It is the antidote to my strong, stubborn pride.
I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder. As one of the people who show up at a job that they will never see finished,to work on something that their name will never be on. The writer of the book went so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime because there are so few people willing to sacrifice to that degree.
When I really think about it, I don't want my son to tell the friend he's bringing home from college for Thanksgiving,'My Mom gets up at 4 in the morning and bakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkey for 3 hours and presses all the linens for the table.' That would mean I'd built a shrine or a monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home. And then,if there is anything more to say to his friend, to add, 'You're going to love it there.'
As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we're doing it right.
And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel, not only at what we have built,
but at the beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of invisible women.
Great Job, MOM!

Bethany - posted on 05/18/2012

I certainly don't feel sorry for mums who want to work, if they're happy with their child-care solution. I just hear from alot of working mums who are not happy with their child-care solutions and would rather not have to work.

But if a person is truly at peace with their life, then great. I guess I have a habit of looking at other people's choices from my own value-set. My mum raised me, and I'm raising my daughter. I'm just grateful that I have that choice. If I told my husband that I got a new job, and our 3 year old was going into care that I was happy with, he'd say Great, Good on you.

Muskaan - posted on 05/18/2012

sometimes it's not a choice to work..I mean it's not really pleasant for a mom to leave her newborn to go out work.In fact there are some situations where she has no choice.When you have a baby the mom n dad have to do sacrifices to provide all th needs to the baby.And working is not sin,it's just earning to do things for the baby.working mums are mums too!!my mom HAD to leave my brother 3 months old to go work in a cold place as a poultry just because my dad's job was going down,they had loan to pay and buy formula which was really expensive.So,that was not a choice either!!!!YES,I know it i s a pain working mom ask you questions.....first see how OLD her kids are!!it is not a sin a sin for both !!u stay with ur kids is a very good thing.....and you work for your kid's basic things is more important.It's like different people with different situations!!So, candice just asked an idea what tro tell them when they ask her questions which really annoys her!!!you should not take anything personal and help her out!!!! :)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 05/18/2012

Why would you feel sorry for someone who is making a choice to do something she wants to do?

Bethany - posted on 05/18/2012

"oh, we can live comfortably on just my husband's wage" says it all really.

It's not a very big wage, but we just live within our means. I feel a bit sorry for mums who have to work outside the home. Especially single mums with no choice in the matter.

I feel really blessed/lucky to be in my situation as I know in my circle of friends, it's a rare one and I know that my friends are envious, if anything, and certainly not judgemental at all.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 05/16/2012

Sarah, if you've ever worked as a till worker or at a computer all day (as my mom does) I believe that you would have a bit more respect for working moms. It's pretty rude to berate another woman for her choice when you don't want them doing that to you.

I'd just say I'm planning on going back to a job with money and a health care/ dental care plan as soon as all my laundry gets caught up. My laundry should get caught up around the same time as my approval for my permanent resident visa.

Sarah - posted on 05/15/2012

voicemail- not available at the moment..I am busy cleaning and doing the stay at home mommy thing..please leave a message..Thanks and have a great day!!

"you know you're a stay at home mom when grocery shopping is the highlight of your week!"

"I may not have a brand new car, a nice hosue, or fancy clothes, but I have lots of memmories with my children that will last a lifetime"

"I'm a stay at home mom so I am busy 24/7 what's your excuse for being tired and bitchy?" (that will shut up a working mom too if their job is working at a cash register or a computer.

"my husband can't afford a nanny, housekeeper, cook, or a h**ker so I'm a stay at home mom"
or
I can't sit at a computer or stand at a cash register all day so I better get to....(whatever you have to do that day!)

RoxAnne - posted on 05/08/2012

We are Domestic Godesses, ladies! lol!

Alison - posted on 05/08/2012

I am a proud SHAM!!!!! would not change it for the world. My friends they did not under stand and always aked how could I stay home, dont you go stur crazzzy. well some times but most of the time I am happy and so are my kids.I love it. I think we do just a much work as the people that go to work and we can do it PJs if we whant to. I do get criticized too but I stand my ground and say at lest i know what my kids are doing and I know them as a person. I have three kids 4, 2, 1. I can not evin finsh one cup of coffie a day. no time. There is nothing rong staying home. and there is nothing rong in working eather. it is what you choose to do that counts. Im up at ten to seven every day I go to bed at ten thurty evynight. I cook I clean , play with the kids love them teach them skills that they need to learn. Also pay attention to the hubby when he comes home from work. now if thats not work what is?

Michelle - posted on 05/08/2012

Here's a good music to listen to when people say "So you're just a stay at home mom?". Those people don't know what they're talking about. We the SAHM's are raising happy kids and the future of our nation. Download the songs to your Ipad or Ipod touch from the album Music 4 Mommies Vol. I and Vol II by Sue Fabisch. You'll be glad that you're a SAHM. Hope this helps. :)

Sarah - posted on 05/08/2012

I am busy raising children who don't make asshole statements like you just did.
Idk if that's too blunt for you, but we deal with this too. We own two houses outright, just bought a mortgage for another and own one of our two cars. But we hear comments about beig on welfare, sitting around doing nothing etc. I get on my Internet less now than I did when I worked. And I have less down time. But some people honestly have no idea.
Maybe "I stay at home I'm lazy, I go to work I'm neglectful.. Why don't you tell me exactly what I do and how it's wrong."

Muskaan - posted on 05/07/2012

Hi,am a new mom of a 4 months old baby girl.And already,people asking me " aren't you bored at home??" or "what do you do all day??" or "you should for a walk you have a lot to do to shred you baby weight" RRGGGGHH This gets me on my nerve.I just say am enjoying my time with my baby,you have nothing to worry about what I do all day,you have been a mum and you were home for 3 years so am doing just what you did then.Am not accountable to anyone.It's my life and I can do whatever I fell it's ok for me and my babyAnd,about the walk,I say I got a treadmill at home,and How can i lose weight when I have to eat to keep my milk supply high am breastfeeding,and my husband likes me the way I am.I have put on 4 kg which I know it's normal plus I had a C-section and a cyst removal how do you expect me to go to gym and so on.this is ridiculous to ask these kind of questions,If am staying at home it's obvious that my husband is able to provide all the household expenses.I don't know why they ask these kinda questions when once they were moms too .....crazy..you just don't worry about them.zats it!!these kind of people do exist in this world who likes to meddle into personal life of others....good luck and take care best wishes

Dee - posted on 05/07/2012

my quote: "I didn't give birth to give someone else a job." it stands to reason if I go back to public work, then someone has to care for my child for me. I know some people have no choice but to get out and earn a paycheck. they have my respect. I'm grateful I have a choice. for me, it really isn't quality versus quantity. children need the whole parent, not just the fun part. I think the biggest difference between me and many income earning mom's is that I respect them, but they don't usually respect me. therefore I've stopped being nice about it. if someone hints that I need to go to work, I just tell them I do work. and when they start paying my bills, then they can start telling me what to do. till then, they need to butt out. I told a woman once that perhaps I should go back to work. staying home and raising my kids did not allow me enough time to meddle in other people's lives. she hasn't spoken to me since. the peace has been nice.

Aimee - posted on 05/07/2012

Its funny as you read what others have said .... almost all of them say I am lucky (in some way) to be a SAHM. I have never heard a mom that worked outside the home refer to herself as lucky to go to work.

Fezeka - posted on 05/07/2012

I am about to start reading the book "All women work" or should it be "All mom's work". We often ridicule what we don't understand (true for politics, religion, cultures). I don't know that we will ever change all the misconceptions out there. Work on educating and changing the perceptions of people you love and care about, it's important that they understand you. Grow your support network of people that understand where you are coming from - so you don't feel like you are going crazy!

Rachel - posted on 05/06/2012

I'm not a stay-at-home mom. I go to the pharmacy, the grocery, the doctor, the park, etc. What I AM is a full-time mother! I have plenty to do, thank you very much.

Kelina - posted on 05/06/2012

I love Reba's answer. A domestic consultant for a small company specializing in conflict resolution. I had a great one from an e-mail that I got years ago but lost it somewhere. darn.

Happy - posted on 05/06/2012

In this situation, my favorite quote would be, "Kiss my ass!"

Vanessa - posted on 05/06/2012

Domestic Engineer. I like that one. There's so much negativity towards stay at home moms, I begin to believe sometimes. I'm also beginning to believe what John Taylor Gatto said in his book- i cant remember if it was "Dumbing Us Down" or "Weapons of Mass Instruction" but this country doesn't want stay-at-home moms. However, It is THE most important job. Be strong.

Wendi - posted on 05/04/2012

I am a stay at home mom with a college degree in science and one year of grad school. My oldest son was born the summer after I started my Master's degree. I worked through school and had worked since the age of 16. Since I have done both, work, and not work outside the home, here is what I tell people when they ask me if I am going to "use my degree": when I want a BREAK I will get a job to earn money. My reward right now has been not missing a minute of my sons' childhood or their first milestones. I have seen their first steps, heard their first words, dried their tears, and held their hands, and been home for them when they get out of school. I have not missed a single school event or sporting practice, game, or tournament. My sons are learning invaluable lessons in community service by my volunteer work at their schools "using my degree" in geology to teach kids about our amazing planet and participating on PTO boards, one year as President, and by volunteering in the community at large as well, when I can. At today's Kindergarten Mother's Day Tea, my youngest son had completed the sentence "Thank you Mom for....." by saying "Thank you Mom for...doing everything!" Being a stay at home mom is the hardest, but definitely, the most rewarding "job" I have ever had. Plenty of time for a career when my kids are older, if I choose. Right now, what gifts I am receiving from my children for being with them, and there for them, are priceless.

Princess - posted on 05/04/2012

i feel the same way...like am asking them for something!...stay out of people business & watch what's goin on in your house...(i am happy-my husband is happy & the kids are happy)

Amber - posted on 05/04/2012

I am a SAHM of a 3 yo and an 18 yo, I am know crazy right? however, I tried
to go back to work after my son was born. I saw a baby the same age,
broke down in tears, quit my job and have been home ever since.
People are always asking me if it drivers me crazy to be a SAHM,
I ALWAYS respond with, "no, it's the most important job in the world, I
may not have a corner office, or a 6 figure salary but I get to wake
up to a hug and kiss, with an I love you... and I will take that over
any 6 figures its more rewarding. " don't let anyone make you feel
bad you are doing a wonderful thing :-D

Kymberly - posted on 05/03/2012

I am a stay at home mom of two amazing kids. I haven't worked outside of the house in over 12 years. When we decided to have kids I was lucky enough to be able to stay home and raise them and not have a nanny do it for me. Be proud that you are home raising your own kids because you have the most rewarding job in the world. Most if the mom's that have to work are probably jealous that you can be with you kids and be there for every special moment.

Tonya - posted on 05/03/2012

C.S. Lewis said it best "The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only - and that is to support the ultimate career. " I have been a SAHM for 13 years and I still love it. Whenever anyone asks me when I will be going back to work my response is always, "I am at work." I don't know anyone who would quit a job they love to go get a job they are ambivalent about.

Janice - posted on 05/03/2012

This was on the radio here today. Each year, Salary.com does a "what is mom worth" evaluation for mothers day, to give a theoretical income amount for mom. This year, they figure the average stay at home mom works over 94 hours a week in various capacities, and the average salary is over $112,000. To bad we don't actually get paid that! http://www.salary.com/stay%2Dat%2Dhome%2...

Christy - posted on 05/03/2012

I am self employed SAHM. I make more than most doctors, but income is not my point. You are doing a wonderful job and in this economy you are blessed to have an income, and have time to see you kids. I would tell all those jokers out there where to shove it! Because you not only work, but you take care of the kids. This means you work twice as hard per each child (one child is a 40+ an hr job per a week). So maybe those jokers need a reality check!

Elizabeth - posted on 05/03/2012

Thanks Ladies, I hope the story helped.. ;)

Angela - posted on 05/02/2012

Elizabeth Love your post too! sounds like my house and kids time to time.

Michelle - posted on 05/02/2012

Don't forget the title of Chief Home Officer!

Tara - posted on 05/02/2012

This sounds morbid, but tell them all the people your husband would have to hire to REPLACE you ..... Nanny, cook, maid, etc.in that vein it is very important that we mothers have life insurance because our husbands would have to pay for at least some of the things we do. I have read a want ad for mothers and it talks about being available 24/7, not getting sick or vacation time, etc.

Rachel - posted on 05/02/2012

I love being a stay at home mother!!! It's all I have ever wanted!! I had a Dr ask what my job was< I said I stay home with my kids. He says " O! Your job is harder then mine!!" LOL We are on call 24/7 we don't get sick days, vacation days. =) Keep your head up!! We have the best job!!!!!!

Connie - posted on 05/02/2012

There is a guy my husband is good friends with who kept saying he heard about this job and that job. After trying many times to explain that I was not going back to work because daycare cost more than I would make I finally told him that if those jobs were so great maybe he should apply and NOT to list me as a reference, I love my "job" and was not going to do anything else until our girls were all in school. He never bother me about it again.