Are their any moms out there that are currently pregnant now after a pregnancy loss?

Aimee - posted on 06/11/2012

I lost my daughter at birth. I have went on to have two wonderful boys and im 10 weeks pregnant again. You are never going to feel 100% comfortable until you actually have the baby in your arms. Can you ask your dr to go for an ultrasound or call and see if you can come in just to hear the heartbeat. When I was early in my pregnancy with my oldest son I had a terrible dream and the dr fit me in so that I could be reassured that he was still with me. Good luck Krystal.

Ana - posted on 06/07/2012

Well, I am Christian, I pray for a healthly pregnancy free of defects and complications. I listen to the Lord (Jesus) and I try to listen to my Dr.

With that said, if you are doing everything that You can do, there is nothing more You can do, and worrying won't help or prevent anything.

I am sorry for the loss of your son. I think your growing baby will be fine.

Anytime you feel like Crud, paying attention to your symptoms and looking into them with medical websites and your Dr. or Nurse should help to ease some of your worry.

And I beleive in speaking things into exsistence, speak health and wellness over your growing child. Saying, you will be healthy, you will be strong, you will be my joy, and I am waiting to see you....

Takling to your baby helps as well, they can hear you....Tell this baby, "I need you to grow and let me know if you need me to help you, mommie is here."

Some may say corny, but hey, last time I checked, people liked to be talked to and encouraged, and babies (even in the belly) are people..

Katrina - posted on 06/07/2012

I've not had this situation,but my son passed away at 10 and a half months of age from heart failure (he'd been sick all his life) and a failed attempt at CPR by mysef andmedics, and I fell prgnant just a couple of monthsafter he died. I too found it really difficult to be happy, and als found that I felt like I was betraying my son who had passed - as if I'd just moved on. After talking it through and thinking it through with a professional for a number of sessions, it turned out that I was subconciously not bonding on purpose. Seems deep down I figured if this child dies, it won't hurt so bad if he dies like his brother. Once I'd pinpointed that I realised that it's gonna be darn awful if I was to lose him, even if I didn't bond - cuz I'm his mum - and I'd also feel bad cuz I missed out on bonding time. So I made a point of trying to tell my "bump" that I DIDlove him but I was sad about losing his brother, I would try REAL hard to be happy. As stupid as all that sounds, I figured when thingsare out of your comfort zone, the more you try it, the easier it gets. And, it worked. It's not an easyroad you're on, but keep supportive people close by and be kind to yourself. My rule for myself is, nomatter how hard life gets, you just gotta pick yourself up,dust yourself off and put one foot in front of the other. Good luck with it all xxx

Happy - posted on 06/07/2012

Like Amy, not pregnant now, but I just gave birth 5 weeks ago after several miscarriages (I also have 2 other kiddos). You are not LOOKING for something to go wrong, you are just nervous. It is a normal reaction. You will feel better once you deliver. Blessings to you and your LO.

Amy - posted on 06/07/2012

I am not pregnant now, but I lost my first TWO pregnancies. Now I have two beautiful boys, ages 5 & 7 years old. Don't worry, you will be FINE! :)

Amy

Bethany - posted on 06/07/2012

I'm 14 weeks now. Not quite a Christmas baby. I was pregnant over last Christmas. Well, kind of, I was slowly losing that one over Christmas and New Year. That was a Christmas to forget. My situation wasn't as traumatic as yours. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Mine stopped developing at around 6 weeks, and then I slowly bled until 11 weeks, when I had a D&C. It never changed size from the 6 week size, and there was never a heartbeat, right up to the day before the D&C. I had scans at 6, 8 and 11 weeks. So not overly traumatic, but still a bit of a downer.

I have a perfectly healthy 3 year old.

I find myself Googling things like "Miscarriage without symptoms" and telling people who ask how I'm going that I assume I'm still pregnant, but will be happier when I've given birth. I have seen the healthy ultrasound and the heartbeat and size were great at 11 weeks. I have had all the right symptoms for a 'healthy' pregnancy. My Dr is happy. But me? I'll be happy when I've given birth.

Rachel - posted on 06/06/2012

BTW, I lost 1 at 12 weeks, went in for an ultrasound and found out it had been dead for a few weeks. I had to have surgery to remove it. Then I had a rough pregnancy with a 5 lb 3 oz daughter born at 38 weeks after months of bedrest and shots in my abdomen and mag sulfate washes, etc. Then I lost another. I went in to the ultrasound and found out it was dead. Should have been 18 weeks and didn't make it past 14. Again, I had to have a D&C. No chromosomal anomalies, no explanation. Then I had a healthy boy at full term, in a less-than-ideal, but mostly good pregnancy. The last one I lost at 9 weeks. It never felt quite right, although I was definitely happy to have another one. I felt a bit crampy and started bleeding and I knew I was losing that one. I'm glad I didn't have to have surgery that time. I can tell you that once you have welcomed that baby into your heart, it doesn't matter at what stage you lose it. It's always the death of a loved one, not just a 'pregnancy loss' or 'fetal demise.' And I don't appreciate hearing 'it's nature's way of taking care of it when something is wrong' as if to say 'it wasn't perfect so you wouldn't have wanted that one anyway.'

Rachel - posted on 06/06/2012

I've lost 3. First thing to know is that your feelings are not all about logic. Our brains understand percentages and odds. Our hearts understand only the pain of 'it happened before and there was nothing I could do about it. I am powerless so I can't let myself feel happy again because the heartbreak of finding out was too devastating.' You lost a bit of innocence when that baby boy died. You lost a bit of your heart. And, like a soldier who saw atrocities during battle and yet finds himself back in the fray, you are back in a situation that turned out traumatic last time. You probably have a little PTSD. You are looking everywhere for signs that this is going wrong so that you won't be surprised by a loss this time (and maybe you think you could do something differently). Your heart is not listening to the logic that says you won't likely lose another child that way, and part of it is that the pregnancy hormones are the ones driving the bus. They can make someone *without* your history feel insane. But they are actually good signs that everything is fine. My advice is to think about your pregnancy with your first girl and to relax by yourself and do some visualization exercises. Try to 'see' yourself holding your new baby. 'See' your family all gathered around his bassinet with smiles. 'See' your baby's face. Talk to her and let her know how much you need and want and love her. Talk to your other baby (in Heaven if those are your beliefs) and let him know how much he meant to you during his time on Earth and let him know that he is your child forever. It really helped me to 'see' my angel babies kissing the forehead of the one I was growing before sending him down to Earth to be with me.

I understand this. With my last child, I would basically hold my breath at every doctor's appointment until I saw the heartbeat (I had a lot of ultrasounds). When I heard the heartbeat I would just break down, sobbing with relief. Finally, my doctor told me I needed to calm down because I was going to give both myself and her a heart attack!

My rainbow baby turned out great, beautiful, and healthy. Yours will as well. You just have to believe it. :) If you need further help, there are pregnancy loss support groups online and sometimes hospitals have them. About 50% of fertilized eggs never make it to birth. There are a whole lot of moms like us who have been through miscarriage. *HUGS*

Amy - posted on 06/06/2012

I am so sorry about the loss of your sweet baby boy :-( What you are feeling is normal. You may get some relief once this baby is big enough that you feel movement constantly (right now it can be hard to feel the movements sometimes). But it wouldn't be unusual if you feel this way right up until delivery. I would try to focus on getting through the anxiety, rather than try to change the feelings or make them go away. If you believe in God, than lots and lots of prayer, if not than maybe meditation and relaxation techniques can help. Also, your doctor should be able to let you come in to check the heartbeat more frequently, just for your peace of mind, and you can also buy or rent a doppler to check on the baby whenever you need to. Your 20 week ultrasound may give you some peace of mind, when you are able to verify that all is developing as it should. Best wishes to you!

Krystal - posted on 06/06/2012

I should have my Doppler within a few weeks. I had massive anxiety the past two days so I called the doctor and he told me to come in so I could be reassured! :) So i heard the heartbeat this morning.. That should help me for a week or so! LOL

Brianna - posted on 06/05/2012

honestly everytime i started to worry i would stop myself and say to myself "you are having a happy healthy baby" over and over in my head or out loud if i was alone and it seemed to help me alot. also once i started feeling baby move it also really helped me feel reasured. oh and another thing that help was i got myself a doppler for $60 off ebay so i could check up on baby anytime i wanted :)

Krystal - posted on 06/05/2012

What happened in your miscarries? How did you get beyond worrying? I guess I will just have to wait it out and hope things go smoothly and I start to relax.

Beth - posted on 06/05/2012

I know how you feel, and I feel much the same. I miscarried my second pregnancy at 10 weeks in April 2011, and am now 25 weeks pregnant again. I have felt very uneasy for this entire pregnancy. No matter how many doctors tell me that he looks great, sounds great and is healthy, I am still worried that something--anything--could go wrong. I've definitely been more wary of everything than I was during my first pregnancy, which was pretty much picture perfect. Though, as time goes on, I have been able to relax a little bit and enjoy the pregnancy. The 20 week ultrasound helped so much. I hope as time goes on you can let go of the worry a little too.

Brianna - posted on 06/05/2012

what your feeling is normal. i had my daughter nov 2009 after that i had a miscarriage jan 2011 and micarriage dec 1,2011. then found out i was preggo again dec 30,2011 so im now 27 weeks preggo. every little pain or anything would make me panic and think something is wrong and it was so hard to be excited about the pregnancy when i was always so afraid to loss the baby again and be heart broken again. but now that im this far i feel alot better about things it just took time to feel safe to be happy again. best wishes im sure everything will be fine