Are you bored at home

Ieasha - posted on 02/18/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I went to school for cosmetology I really miss going to hair show, I miss being around really fun people being in that fashion world it's alway a positive feeling and right now I'm 6 months pregnant and after I have my new baby, I want to do what I love, which is being a stylist, i think I've giving up on myself just a little I still get my eye brows arch and hair done, but i don't get dress like I use to. I still shop for shoes but never wear them! It's been 2 1/2 years of being a stay at home mom I love my family a lot and wouldn't change it for anything, but I'm getting tried of staying home I need to get out. How do you feel about being at home? do you love it or are you bored.

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Cynthia - posted on 02/27/2010

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I've been a stay at home mom since 2005. The reason was to help my son who was diagnosed with Autism at 2.5 years of age. I don't regret the decision, but I do get bored. Both of my kids are in school all day now. My son is in second grade and my daughter is in kindergarten. I've been trying to find part-time work for the last 4 months for the time they are in school. Hang in their ladies. My hubby tries to help. He does his own laundry. Especially the stinky workout clothes. LOL

Leasha, maybe you could cut other moms hair at your house or theirs so you can keep your self busy besides house work.

Jami - posted on 02/26/2010

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I hemorrhaged after my daughter was born and although my midwife told me not to do ANY housework at all and not to pick up my kids (the boys were 3 and 19.5 months old) my husband didn't do ANYTHING. so no it doesn't get better.

JaLyn - posted on 02/24/2010

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wow this is crazy i feel the same way and i feel that the men don't understand what we are going through I wonder do they think this is what we are suppose to do for the rest of our life i am sooooooooo tired of looking at the same 4 walls everyday all day or only leaving the house to handle bus. 4 my family or running around with the kids i need a break don't get me wrong i love my kids and am blessed to b able 2 stay home with them but sometimes it seems like its a bit to much

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Ieasha - posted on 03/01/2010

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OMG Latisha sad face : { for you, I no how that feels when your hubby is not there to comfort you, It hurts sooo bad It makes you wanna cry, scream, kick, and bite like you just wanna let it out just to let him no how much pain your going through, I no thats how I felt. This is so crazy how a lot us go through the same thing and some how and some way we always pull thur and have you tried talking to him about it, let him no that you miss him an you spending time with him even if he's in the kitchen talking while your cooking thats time, going to the store, watching movies and make it a funny movie so you guys can laugh together! maybe he don't no how to express himself to you maybe you should take charge in that department cuz my hubby loves when i sound like a sweet lil girl with the cute lil face he calls me a big baby but it work. You love your man try new things make it work roll play it don't have to be sexual that your husband it may open new door for guys. Good luck.

Latisha - posted on 02/28/2010

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jami i know how you feel if my mom wasn't there the to 2 weeks after i had Kylie i don't know how i would have made it. My husband didn't help with the baby or any house work my mom did it and i had a c-section.

Latisha - posted on 02/28/2010

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Leasha i know if im in pain he doesn't do anything for me but if his back is hurting or his neck is stiff it's honey will you rub my back. Sometime it feels like i should just be a single mom.

Latisha - posted on 02/28/2010

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I know how that feels to have your husband pay for everything you have to do everything when he wants to do it and how he wants to do it.

Latisha - posted on 02/28/2010

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I'm bored and lonely. I'm ready to get back to work. My husband doesn't want to spend the time with me and I'm in a new state where I don't have anyone. It's just me and my daughter at home. I love her to death but you can't really talk to a 9 month old. I hate being at home I use to work two jobs and be so independent now I'm depending on my husband to pay everything and it kills me. I'm hoping to get into school soon and were suppose to be moving back home so I'll have someone to watch my daughter so I can work. It'll kill me to be away from her but it's better to get out and work then to be depressed.

Ieasha - posted on 02/27/2010

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I am so sorry to here that cynthia, you should have the SUPERWOMEN award and i'm so happy to hear your hubby help out, I going to pray for you and your family to continue to stay strong for the little ones. You are the back bone to your family. And I heard selling things on ebay was good you can go to yard sales pick up little what nots and sale them on ebay and that can be on your on time and hours. And I did the work from home when I was in cosmo school and now I have my baby I don't want to lock in a area so I can get the job done I will feel like crap, once I start I get in a zone and my focus is on my client

I would love to take some classes at vidal sassoon after the baby is born.

Stephanie - posted on 02/26/2010

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I think the first few years after i came out of work was hard, but now i love it. I couldnt imagine going out to work and leaving my kids for me it would be weird.

Ieasha - posted on 02/26/2010

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Wow Jami, my heart goes out to you, you are a TURE SUPERWOMEN, I can be scrubbing the floors and walls of the shower and after doing all that I'm in so much pain I mean I can't even stand anymore and no offer of a back rub or anything. You are not alone.

Ieasha - posted on 02/24/2010

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JaLyn do our job ever ends, my hubby do not help with any house work and I'm about to give birth in not long, I'm still running around here with my cape on hoping my super powers doesn't run out. LOL they think our job is easy but you can't pay them to do it for week.

Ieasha - posted on 02/24/2010

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Oh Lauren, yes I can work out of the house, but that will not work with my baby running around and I'm giving birth in 2 1/2 months.

Ieasha - posted on 02/24/2010

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Wow Lauren, yes our life do sound the same, and by me giving up on fashion has took it's toll on me, and I always say you feel how you look, I will like to encourage you to do something for yourself something that will make you feel pretty remember we still have our to please and therefore we can't have them looking at sweats and T's all day! It's really for and at the the same time he'll like it.

Lauren - posted on 02/24/2010

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Oh yes...sounds like my life!



I became a stay at home mom with my second child 2 1/2 years ago and while I absolutely love being the one to take care of her (and my son), I really miss the daily adult interaction.



I had a great job that I absolutely loved, paid well, nice people etc. and now my life is my kids.



Sounds like you get the chance to go out and have a little enjoyment. I'm lucky if I can get my eyebrows done regularily!



My problem? My daughter is so attached to me that she goes everywhere with me. She's so attached that she very rarely goes to her father!



A year or so ago, I gave up my highlights, makeup, dressing up jewlery etc. What's the point really.



My question to you Leasha is are you in any position to work out of your home?



I can totally relate to feeling as you do, "what if something happened to my husband"...I hate being so dependant...in fact that very thought crossed my mind this morning! I'd be in big trouble!



Anyway, it's nice to know others are feeling the same way, but on that note...I've got dinner on the stove that I must tend to and laundry needing to be washed! LOL

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I understand where you're coming from. Try to hang in there. There only young once and time will go by before you know it,and then their all grown up. Don't think of it as your not being a stylist, it's just on the back burner for a little while there will be a day when you'll get to do it.In the mean time go to community websites.Learn online to keep you updated on the latest in hairstyling. Make it a point to have a girlfriends night out even if it is just once a month. Just a simple walk helps me. If i'm getting tense i just go for a walk. Try different hobbies to pass the time. More importantly your kids will remember and appreciate having you around and the memories you will create. I hope this helps.

Ieasha - posted on 02/22/2010

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Please don't get me wrong, this is really hard work, all hat's off to stay at home moms you really have to be SUPERWOMEN to handle all that in tells of running a household. but being one place all day everyday is driving me crazy and I'm speaking for me only, some moms love spending that time being a mom and making sure that there family is okay there is nothing wrong with that at all.

Jami - posted on 02/22/2010

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I am very very bored stuck at home all day every day. my house is clean but I feel like I don't really exist...

Teela - posted on 02/22/2010

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I feel very lucky to be able to be a stay at home mom! I know so many women that wish they could stay at home with their kids but can't because of financial reasons. I used to work outside of the home, so I know how it feels to take my kids to daycare everyday and pick them back up. For the most part I always wanted to stay at home with them until they were in kindergarten and then pursue my career. I have a degree in biology and planned to go to med school. Now my husband is asking me am I ready to go to med school. I totally know where you are coming from. I think that I am ready to pursue my career. You have to do what's best for you and your kids. While being at home I learned how to garden, started studying interior design(tried it out on my home and I love it). I took up hobbies like most of the women in my subdivision have done(most of us like interior decorating, gardening, etc...) I would say to you,"don't give up your dream to be a stylist"!

Ieasha - posted on 02/22/2010

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Another long day of laundry, cleaning and cooking and now that we only have one car it's very stressful for me, my hubby expects me to do this he say's it's a women's job, I feel like a butterfly in a cage my whole life is base around his, he pay's for everything now if something was to happen to him, my world would come crashing down.

Ieasha - posted on 02/21/2010

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Yes, daycare is very expensive and then again I want my girls to tell me what's going on there.

Maureen - posted on 02/18/2010

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I totally understand what you are feeling, and it's nicew eto hear somebody be so honest! I am at-home after teaching elementary school for 16 yrs, a career I found very fulfilling. I'm home with almost 4 yr. old triplets! The first year I couldn't go anywhere, then the second year it was a safety issue, walkers wander! Now I'm able to get out every day, but the days are long and sometimes monotonous. I cannot wait until my kids can get their own food and drink! LOL! Anyway, what helps me is knowing that it will end too soon, and I can always work. My husband is good at reminding me how precious these years are, and they are saying and doing the funniest things now - I'd be really sorry if I were missing it! Hang in there. before you know it, the new baby will be heading off to school. Oh, join a moms' group. This help me tremendously!!! Go to one of the webistes, meetup.com or bigtent.com and find a group in your area.

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2010

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i know exactly how you feel i love my kids and i love being here with them all the time but i get stir crazy too! its like i dont know what the outside world is outside of home and the store! i have the option to go out during the day but its more of a pain in the ass when you have to drag 3 kids along with you! i really miss the work feild and would love to return to school but daycare is way too expensive and i dont have anyone to take them all day! so i know how your feeling all too well!

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