Myetta - posted on 06/23/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have 4 kids. *6,4,2, & 2 months* The youngest two and my fiance's. We've been together for 4 years and living together for 3.
Right now he's the only one working, I'm home with the oldest and the youngest, the middle two girls are in daycare. He's out of the house from 6 am till about 5 pm m-f.
When he gets home he takes off his book bag and sits in his recliner and plays video games. Im usually cooking dinner and hand out snacks when he comes in with the girls and get them settled with cartoons or a movie. I finish cooking and fix his plates and the 3 kids and then usually go get the kids clothes ready for school. After the kids eat it's treat time and bath time followed by bed.
All of this is done while I'm wearing the baby taking her off to run to go potty. I have to ask him to watch the baby while I take a shower or a bath only to be told when she goes to sleep. The only problem is while she's in the sling she's asleep but as soon as I take it off she'll wake up so no shower for me, or dinner or whatever. After the big 3 are in bed I usually wash thte dinner dishes and make sure the toys are picked up. And lay down to nurse the baby before she goes to bed. Now he sleeps in the living room and I sleep in our bed with the 2 youngest ones and in the am after he leaves I'm cleaning up his blanket, pillows and it seems like a collection of dishes and clothes. "I never get time alone, even grocery shopping I take 1-2 of the kids and he still calls asking how long before i return.
He's told me he just wants to relax when he gets home because he works all day but I have no peace ever to myself even while peeing someone is at the door asking for this or that.
How can I get more help without nagging him and giving him his time as well?