baby cries when mil holds her

Nelly - posted on 09/17/2012

Im so sorry that you are going through this, but at the same time so relieved I'm not the only one. Since the time that my daughter was 3 months she would cry incontrollably if my MIL tried to hold her. From the get go, I could see mil was over- bearin. She wuddo things like wake the baby up when she came over because she was so happy to see her or force the baby to stay in her arms even when she tried to wiggle free. Now my daughter is almost 2 and this phase continues. In the beginning I would do just about anything to appease my MIL. It's an important relationship that needs to be nurtured, but by now I've witnesses enough events to let me know that my baby's instincts are probably right. My MIL has has demonstrated poor judgement, once she left my baby in the arms of strangers at a buffet restaurant and walked away to get food. Things like that. I've decided that I'm not comfortable letting her care for my baby without my supervision.

I trully hope this does not occur in your case and that your baby outgrows this phase quickly. But if not, maybe it might not be a bad idea to listen to your baby's instincts...



Best of luck to you!

Lindie - posted on 07/27/2010

Time and patience, lot's and lots of time and patience!! My twin girls used to scream histerically when my Dad came to visit. He is a big man with dark olivey complexion and a deep booming voice!! now at 2yrs old he is their favourite!

Lydia - posted on 07/27/2010

oh man,i know how you feel. my daughter wont go to my mil either, she cries right away most times. sometimes she's ok for a few minutes and than starts crying. she is ok with most other people though... i do think that babies are very sensitive to whats going on with people... they feel if your stressed etc.



well with my mil i think it's because she is so "consuming"... she wants to be with her much more than what i think is good and so when she sees my daughter she's be all over her and doesn't give her space. i think my daughter feels that she's not free and doesn't like it. well, what made it better for us is that when we visit my mil I keep my daughter for a while on my arms before grandma gets to hold her for a bit. i also watch that she's not to much over her but gives her space to play and be and enjoy...but sometimes still she cries.



it could really be that your daughter senses that your mil is sick. i don't really know what could help. maybe try to build some relationship between the two without holding... like let your mil talk to her and play a bit with her before she holds her.

Eileah - posted on 07/27/2010

well thank you so much for trying to help i dont know what to do either but much apperciated

Cheryl - posted on 07/26/2010

I wouldnt be suprised if thats it, its something that doesnt seem right, so it scares her. unfrotunatly i have no idea how to help you get past that.

Eileah - posted on 07/26/2010

well shes sick and doesnt smell the best.... can babies sense things about people??? i dont know i just feel horable for both my mil and my daughter

Cheryl - posted on 07/26/2010

is there something diffrent about her? an animal smell or a smoker perhaps? or it may have to do with her hair. my neice hates her grandfather - any man with facial hair!