Being naked in front of kids.

Lisa-Marie - posted on 05/27/2010 ( 134 moms have responded )

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I was shocked when a friend told me how embarressed she was when her 2 year old walk in on her having a shower - because she was naked.

I have never thought twice about being naked infront of my kids and both my hubby and I shower with them and have never covered up infront of them. My four year old has asked me why boys have a different wee wee to girls and why mummy has bobbies and daddy doesn't (which of cause I explained that mummy has bobbies to store milk for babies)

I think it is fine and healthy for him to ask questions and get answers and not feel uncomfortable or embarressed about his body. It has also been easier to explain about inappropriate touching.



Just wondering what other mums and dads do - do you cover up and not allow your children to see you naked or like us do you just not feel the need to do that?

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Louise - posted on 05/28/2010

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I think this is fine when babies are small but I think it should stop around 3-4 as questions do become more searching. Also having workied in a preschool children come out with the strangest remarks that can be taken the wrong way. Little girls that talk about daddy in the shower or daddies body parts automatically gets alarm bells ringing. Wrong I know but it happens. Just be aware that these innocent scenes can become something ugly in sombody elses eyes!

Michelle - posted on 05/31/2010

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Hi i have the same opinion as you neither my husband or i have ever made a big deal about nudity in the house my kids are all older now and as they grow up the naturally begin to be more private and get uncomfortable around us oldies being naked and censure the situation themselves, your instincts will tell you what age that becomes appropriate at. I can tell you though all 3 of my kids talk to me openly about any questions or problems with there bodies because they know there is nothing to be embarrassed about and i have teenage boys lol. good luck go with your instincts you know your own kids. some one gave me a great piece of advice when i had the same kind of problem she said you can tell how much a child needs to know by the questions they ask so when there young keep the answers simple and then your laying the ground work for when there older.

Kelly - posted on 05/28/2010

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I personally have never had a problem with it, and have found that as they grow up they naturally reach a point where they are more modest, and it becomes uncomfortable for them. They grow out of the need for you to wash them, and grow into the need for their own privacy in the bath/shower. this is an indication that they don't need to be around naked adults anymore (of the same sex). Opposite sex parent, I would say by the time the child is 3 or 4. I do think if a parent can try to loosen up about this issue, it will make it easier to talk about sexuality as the child gets older. For instance, because I breastfed my youngest for over a year, and the older siblings are 4, 12, and 14 years older than her, they got used to this particular issue quickly. My girls (now 4 and 8) are also very familiar with and aware of women's periods, body hair, breasts, etc, which I think will keep the lines of communication open throughout adolescence and puberty. Just my opinions!

Heather - posted on 06/02/2010

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Your response is exactly why ppl need to be more open minded and BE naked in front of their children. Covering creates the sense that something is wrong and to be ashamed of their bodies. It's the same concept with nursing mothers..ppl are not comfortable with it b/c we are taught as a society that showing body parts is purely sexual and/or we should be ashamed and embarrassed to about showing our bodies. You need to teach children at an early age that our bodies are wonderful and can do wonderful things and to never be ashamed of them but embrace how beautiful they are! Maybe we can finally create a society that is comfortable in their own skin!

I breastfeed in front of who ever is around including my children, I dress in front my children as well...my son knows the appropriate names for body parts and functions. He's 4 I have never gotten many questions but when I do I take the opportunity to teach him. I never act embarrassed in front of him b/c I don't want to create that feeling of being ashamed of my body.

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I see nothing wrong with being naked. If you raise your children to think it normal, they won't think it's "weird" or "awkward" - those are constraints that we put around nudity and teach our children.

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Shannintipton - posted on 07/19/2011

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Sorry people this is an old post so I am going to close. Just doing what I was told. thanks

Mell - posted on 07/19/2011

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I dont have a problem with being naked in front of my son who is coming up to 4 and i never bother to cover up if he walks into my bedroom while im getting dressed etc. My family is really relaxed about this kind of thing and i think its a good. When i still live at home with my mum at about 16 i still used to walk around in my pants and bra because it was never a big deal.
Plus it gives kids a chance to ask questions about their body etc.
Id like to think when my son grows up he can be as relaxed about it as we are now and will feel comfortable in his own skin

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I don't see the need to cover up infront of my 3 boys, they see me naked on a daily basis almost, and so far they are not uncomfortable with it and they don't mind me see them naked.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/06/2011

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My 8 year son has made the decision for me. I was taking a bath and left the bathroom door open so that I can hear my 4 year old. My son walked in on me and said "Oh gross!"

TealRose - posted on 06/06/2011

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I am a 56 yr old grandmother and we were very relaxed about nakedness in the house. If the children wanted the loo and we were in the bath - fine they came in. We never locked the bathroom door if using the loo or the bath/shower. They came in if they wanted to wash their hands and it was fine. [As they grew older they would come in and notice us and say .. 'oh, is it ok I just wanted to ....? ' No one minded or cared - we were born naked after all. As others have said it gave us a great chance when they were small to answer anatomical questions and whys! As they got a lot older may be just preteen/puberty they started to cover more and we respected that and were more 'careful' ourselves. But now our daughter is 31 and has two children of her own - I at least am back to being 'naked' sometimes - sharing shower room with her - and sometimes showering with my 5 and 2 yr old grandchildren. My husband has been 'caught' in the loo by them too - and not a word has passed really - because their daddy is as laid back as we were. Why make a big deal about it !

Micky - posted on 04/01/2011

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You know, I also have never thought twice about being naked in front of my son, and my mother never did about being naked in front of my brother and I either. She used to shower with us as well and I couldn't imagine being reserved around my child at such a young age. It gets a little bit different as they get older, of course. I mean, girls naked in front of girls is no biggie at any point, IMO, but boys and girls are different and honestly, after my son hits about four I'll probably stop being so open.

As a side note, my husband is really nervous about our son seeing him naked, although I'm pretty sure he thinks it's a different beast altogether for a man to be naked in front of his kids. I respect his decisions and try my best to help him with that.

Mary1959 - posted on 04/01/2011

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it make it easier when you explain the differences to them between boy and girls

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 04/01/2011

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I shower most days with my kids aged 4,2 and 1. Its quicker and saves water. Plus i dont trust the kids being somewhere else while im in the shower lol.
I dont want my kids to be embarressed about their bodies. My 4yr old and 2yr old know the difference btw boys and girls. I see nothing wrong with it.

Katie - posted on 03/31/2011

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lmao...I suppose it's again each to their own..I personally never cared less when my kids see me in the nuddy, though I have a piercing so that made for an interesting convo..lmao, the tampon issue was also a funny one but in general it meant that he was able to ask questions and not feel bad about it. I have a frind who has groen children and still doesn't really care.

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My husband covers up in front of our 8 month old daughter. Honestly I don't... I do think that parents should have some reserve... I do remember my dad walking around the house in his underwear as well as using the bathroom with the door open... it was very uncomfortable as a child see all that... then again I also remember the men's locker room at the fitness club we went to.

I have to change in front of my daughter after her swimming lessons. I don't really have much of a choice. If I did I'd choose for her not to. If I had a son I'd probably change how I did things by a lot; like covering up as much a possible while changing.

Sally - posted on 08/11/2010

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It doesn't bother me in the least, nor do my boys have an issue with it. We are all very comfortable being naked around each other.

Samantha - posted on 06/05/2010

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I just dont see the big deal in your kids seeing you naked. Its when they start asking thats the most important. If they see it until then and all of a sudden your hush hush about it, then they will wonder, and it will lead to them asking their friends, boys and girls, and them looking at each other naked, and I for one would rather have my kids see my body, and ask about my body, rather than asking their friends and showing their friends.

Me and my mom still change in the same changing room, we still sit and talk in the rest room when shes here, and we've even been in the shower together for a few minutes when we're crunched for time.

Heidi - posted on 06/04/2010

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I'd love to know how she managed to take a shower with out interruptions prior to this. We have two girls 5 and 2 1/2 and have just started to explain the concept of privacy and private parts to the older one. Before this I think its fine to let be naked and see you naked. But seriously, how did she manage a shower without interruptions....?????

Lydia - posted on 06/04/2010

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I think everyone is different. Myself shower with my daughter all the time, she is 6 and i used to with my son until he was like 4. Dad never showers with any of the kids and when he did he wore swimming trunks.

Alisha - posted on 06/04/2010

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My husband is much more modest than I but we have compromised that until they are about 5 or 6 they can shower with me, be in the room while I dress and so on. As a stay at home mom I don't see how anyone can safely watch their kids without letting their kids see them on the toilet or in the shower, but then a crib or playpen can't keep my little ones contained long enough for a shower!

Kelly - posted on 06/04/2010

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How on earth does your friend get to shower without achild around? I can't keep doors closed in my house, even if you are using the toilet (hwich actually I encourage for training reasons), nuch less showering! My husband and I have no problem with being naked with the kids, its a good way for them to understand the differences between men and women, and I don't want them to ever have body issues. Sometimes it is a neccesity -- I'm not going to wear a bathing suit to take my kids in the shower if they need immediate cleaning or we're trying to conserve time and water by showering together. Now Celie just turned 5, so my husband is going to try to be a little more discreet around her, but otherwise its a non issue with us.

Soleil - posted on 06/03/2010

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I have a 3 1/2 year old boy, and a 3 month old boy. I openly nurse in front of my older son. Not only do I think it is healthy for my son to see where my other son is getting his nutrition, but it's important to me he knows the human body is beautiful, functional and nothing to be ashamed of. My husband covers up, but he is my older sons step dad, so I understand where he might feel uncomfortable. My older son also knows all body parts by their correct names and knows that's what makes men and women different. I did stop taking baths with my older son, because he was a little too curious and would want to touch. Of course I didn't let him! Funny story though about correct names for body parts... we took him to Disneyland around X-mas, and when he met Minnie and Micky together, he stopped, looked at the employee taking pictures and asked, "Mickey has a penis and Minnie has a vagina?" Their mouths dropped as I calmly said yes, sweetie, Minnie has a vagina and Mickey has a penis. Lol. I wouldn't worry about it, totally healthy.

Natasha - posted on 06/03/2010

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well with my son who is now 4 i dont shower with him i did till he was about 3, he goes into bathroom with me sometimes and of course i help him bath, and our daughters dont bathe with daddy ever, its just we feel like we want them to treasure there bodies and keep them sacred from each other. its only stuff for your spouse or bf to see not the world :)

Ann - posted on 06/03/2010

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It depends on the age of your child... I have an 8 year old who is curious about everything, I answer her quesetions but do not go around naked in front of her, but as for my 10 1/2 mon. old I have no issue doing that at least until he's at 3... I shower w/ him and so does my husband, but my husband is very careful to not let him see his parts ;)

Samantha - posted on 06/03/2010

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thats why you teach them manors, whats good to talk about and whats bad to talk about. My best friend in high school, her parents and family were nudists(in their home that is) and they had 3 boys and 1 girl, all close in age. They were all naked around each other for the most part, and that was completely normal for them, just like its normal for some women to shave and in other countries its completely unheard of. Its just a matter of opinion.

Nichole - posted on 06/03/2010

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I think there is an appropriate age to cut it off at though at the same time. When they are old enough to start asking questions and wandering what it is. You dont want your kids to go around talking about seeing you naked to other children and what they saw do you????

Samantha - posted on 06/03/2010

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I dont have a problem being nake din front of my baby. Hubby does slightly, he keeps boxers on at least, but he doesnt even sleep naked lol.
I rememebr when I was as little as 4 asking my mom why daddy and bubbys no-nos were different than me and mommys. We were all naked the mojority of the time and didnt think twice about it. I remember all of us sitting in my parents bathroom while my dad was doing his business and just having a conversation and catching up on the day. We all new to be dressed for company and that other families dont take to kindly to us being naked in their house, like at a sleepover with friends, we wore jammies, mom taught us the difference at a young age, and thats how Im raising my daughter too, your body is nothing to be ashamed of, but it is also nothing to show to everyone.

Candice - posted on 06/03/2010

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my son was 2 when he noticed the difference. after that no more i cover up. it might affect how he grows up and i sure dont need a kid tramatized for life

Jess - posted on 06/03/2010

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I have never really worried about it but my husband has felt uncomfortable about being naked in front of our kids. Over time though he has relaxed a little. However, there will be a time when I will make sure my boys know what privacy is and I will stop taking showers with them and teach them not to barge in while I am getting dressed.

Morgan - posted on 06/03/2010

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I feel uncomfortable with my toddler being around me when I'm naked, but sometimes its just easier to have him shower with me, rather than give him his own bath.

Ella - posted on 06/03/2010

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I believe it is fine until a certain age 3-5yrs. is probably the limit I think.. after that I believe it should be stopped. I don't think that fathers should not be naked around their daughters after the age of two unless it's an accident cause it can start some contiversal issues.

Amy - posted on 06/03/2010

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Our kids had seen us naked and had encountered questions regarding body parts. And we answered them the besy way we knew how... But we never freak out nor tried to cover ourselves coz we think it's natural and okay...But I do agree that there's certain time/ when one should not be walking around naked infront of their kids. My daughter who's 3 still catch me naked during shower. But to my 6yr old son, I cover up evrytime now. (:

Carly - posted on 06/03/2010

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No it's not a big deal! The 2 year old child probably wouldn't have even known any different either. Like they are going to understand. Maybe when your kids are teenagers and it might make them feel awkward then try disguising yourself whilst getting in and out of the shower but unless it bother's them, then why not? That's so daft people get funny about there own kids seeing them naked!

Christy - posted on 06/03/2010

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All I have to say on this subject is thank GOD I don't remember what my parents look like naked!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lisa-Marie - posted on 06/03/2010

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Thanks for everyones comments. Just for those who were unsure of my comment about making it easier to explain about inappropriate touching: It was easier for me cause when my little boy would reach out to touch me (eg grab my nipples ect) it was then very easy to explain that those were my private bits and they were only allowed to be touched by me and that his private bits - which because he was naked I was able to point out - was his only too and ONLY he was allowed to touch that.
By using a visual I do believe for him it sunk in a little more and with 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 7 boys being molested I will do what ever it takes to teach my child about what bits shouldn't be touched.
People should also never think their child who is 3 or 4 is too young to learn that too because it around that age group that is most at risk. So I would hope all parents teach their children to protect themselves as much as they can.

On another point :) I am in Australia and maybe we are not so modest here with it being so hot so often and most people wearing as little as possible around their own home :) Just a thought

Again thanks for your replies

Dawn - posted on 06/03/2010

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Me and my partner have never covered up in front of our kids the only time we have had too is when our daughter walked in while we were making love but thankfully she never paid much heed to what we had been doing x

Lacey - posted on 06/03/2010

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Both my husband and I are constantly in the nude while we're in our house and its normal to our 18 month old daughter. She loves to open the door to the shower and babble at me while I take a shower. When we feel the time is right we'll cover up more but until then while we're in OUR house we feel it is perfectly fine and not rediculous or inappropriate.

Danielle - posted on 06/03/2010

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Lol this made me giggle, bobbies... my two yr old calls them that!!!
I dont have a problem with being naked etc in front of my boy, he has witnessed mummies belly swell over the last nine months and seeing it in the flesh i'm hoping has made him more "aware" so to speak that his baby brother is in there...
He loves getting mummies belly out for all to see saying baby lol...
When he gets older i will obviously teach him the rules on privacy, like knocking on the bathroom door if he knows there is someone in there etc but for now i'm happy for him to see ,e run free, its made him more confident about stripping off... xx

Kristi - posted on 06/03/2010

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It is considered sexually inappropriate by officials to allow yoursleves to be exposed or to shower with your children past the age of 1. I do not think it is a good idea to be doing this, regaurdless of whatever you think you might have benefited from it. It does not make it easier to explain inappropriate touching either. If a child is old enough to understand this, then they will understand without you being naked. That is just rediculous.

Jennifer - posted on 06/02/2010

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When I'm at home I am almost always naked especially since I'm a SAHM. My husband is comfortable being nude as well at home but doesn't get completely naked in front of our 8 month old so he wears his boxers. I take baths with him since he's too small to be left alone and since I breastfed my son he is already used to seeing boobs. Besides he won't remember when he's older, and I plan on being modest about my body when he's a little older anyway. I don't need him saying something inappropriate or suspicious once preschool starts!

Jennifer - posted on 06/02/2010

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It doesn't bother me a bit but my husband won't even be in his boxer shorts in front of our 8 month old daughter.

Chrissy - posted on 06/02/2010

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Ive never made an issue out of it ever... when i was a kid, my mother went naked around me all the time and still does, whenever the situation arises for it to happen. I went naked around my son, and showered with him until he decided he was not comfortable with it, around the age of 8. From then on he would only walk around the house in jocks, and shower by himself, and didnt want me to walk around naked anymore. So thats what i did. He is now 12 and on the odd occasion if he accidently spots me naked, now he quickly covers his eyes, turns and rushes off the other way going "AGHHHH!!!". Its quite funny actually to see that reaction out of him!! Me and my partner also shower with our 17 month old daughter, and he will probably continue to do that until he's not comfortable with it anymore. I will keep doing it also until my daughter isnt comfortable with it, or when I feel the time is right, whichever comes first. My partner still walks around the house in jocks, around his two older kids, and my son, and none of the kids have ever had a problem with that, or made an issue out of it. Now I dont wear anything less than a t-shirt and knickers around the house, because of my son and the other two kids 11 and 13. But when it is just my daughter around, i dont have any worries.

Kim - posted on 06/02/2010

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I don't have a big problem with it. My daughter will be a year on Friday and she's constantly my "audience" when I'm showering. The only thing that bothers me is the fact that she cracks up while I'm in there. ;)

Roxanne - posted on 06/02/2010

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I personally have no problem with being naked in front of my 23 month old son. Since he could crawl he has always gone to the bathroom with me. He loves taking baths with me!

Alvah - posted on 06/02/2010

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I have no problem with being naked in front of my kids. I have a 15yr old son and 12yr old daughter, and they have seen me naked since they were babies. It has never bother them.

Lauren - posted on 06/02/2010

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My husband and i are divided on the issue. I have a 6 year old boy and a 3 year old girl, both of whom have seen me (as they say) "naaaaaked" pretty much on a regular basis. It can't really be avoided as they are always with me. I don't go out of my way for them to see me, but when they're in my room as they usually are when I'm getting ready they do see me.

My husband on the other hand, has never let (not sure that's the appropriate word) the kids see him. I don't know why he thinks it's such a no no, but I can tell you that my kids have never asked me any questions (not yet anyway) and to them it's normal.

I do however think if they did see they're father naked now, there would be all sorts of questions.

My husband has mentioned to me on several occasions that I should not be getting dressed and undressed in front of them, but never seems to have a good enough reason to back up his statement other than "it's not good". I think this is definitely a cultural thing for him....you just didn't and don't do that. But as i've said to him many times, "it's my room and I'm not going to go get dressed in the bathroom and that if he's so bothered by it, than take the kids out". I would love the privacy and peace when getting ready, but would never have my kids leave the room for any other reason than that!

Jessa - posted on 06/02/2010

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Currently our daughter is only 3 months. So being naked around her NO PROBLEM!! I guess as she gets older my boyfriend won't want to be naked around her as much as he is now he'll be weirded out by it so I guess she'll only get to shower with mommy :) And up until I moved out I saw my mom naked so I don't think it's a big deal.

Cierra - posted on 06/02/2010

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well my son is now 8months (as of today yyyayy ) but in our home both his father and i took showers with him since he was about a newborn we azlso walk arnd naked if the time comes.. we asaid we will stop when hes school age lolol, but idk im always naked my mother would be naked arnd my sister nd i forever but i guess it is because we were girls ..

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I've never thought twice about it either. My B/G twins are now 6 and I'm trying to remember to be a little more careful around my son, but still shower with them every once in a while.

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My husband and I have no problems being nude in front of our boys (3 & 18 mos). They still have showers with either daddy or me, in fact our eldest takes the longest shower of all if he can get us to take a shower right after each other so he doesn't have to get out. lol

I think it only becomes a problem when you make it one. If nudity is no big deal to you, then it's no big deal to the child. I was raised showering with a parent until probably about age 6 or 7, because a shower was a treat for me. I also remember bathing with my cousins (boys) when I was 7 and we weren't interested in each others bits because we were too busy playing. Not only that, but we already knew about the different bits and just didn't care. However, I know that my Japanese upbringing is different to others and would probably be considered more liberal having been spattered with visits to the hot springs and public bath houses. My parents were very open about answering ANY question I asked and that's exactly how we want to raise our boys. I was never overly curious about sex as a teenager because I already had the information... and didn't want to be a teen pregnancy statistic. I wanted more out of life.

Locking yourself away simply because you're 'as God made you' would actually teach a child to be ashamed of their body, because there must be something wrong if you've locked yourself from view. It must be bad. Keeping your child from seeing your body because they might ask questions won't stop them from having the questions, it will just leave a huge question mark there for someone else to answer. If you go about your normal business of bathing and dressing, without drawing attention to the fact that you're nude (because it's no big deal) will teach your child that nudity isn't anything special or 'adults only'.

Take a moment to look at it through a child's eyes. Why is she running into the bedroom and closing the door to get dressed? I wonder what she's hiding? Why can't I see? It must be something bad, or else she would show me. I wonder what it is and what it looks like. -- Can you see how the curiosity would spiral? Who's going to answer the questions that will never get asked? My husband and I want to be the people who get asked the questions about the human body, sex and the like.

As it is my 3 yr old has already pointed and told me that my 'boobies' are for his brother to have a drink (I breastfed) but his aren't, and the 18 mon old has pointed to his dad's penis and then looked down and pointed to his own, so he's obviously become aware they have the same bits. I couldn't help but laugh each time.

Rebekah - posted on 06/02/2010

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When my son was little I didn't mind changing in front of him but i think at about 3 years old that they should not be around the opposite sex adult changing.
My daughter is 3 and I still change in front of her but I do not make it a habit.
But at a certain point it has to be kept more modest I believe.

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