Being told to get a job

Tracey - posted on 08/10/2010 ( 162 moms have responded )

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hey im new to this... i have a 1yr old and am constantly being told that i need to go back to work instead of sitting on my ass all day!!! ASIF!!!! God being a mum is soooo hard. It is still the best job EVER!!! Anyone get nagged to work???

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Erika - posted on 08/12/2010

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im sorry you're in that situation! i have actually offered to get a job and i get griped at for that! my husband wants me to stay home with our son! like someone else said, we wouldn't have had him if we wanted someone else to take care of him. there is nothing more rewarding than being a mommy. talk to your partner about this for your own sanity... give him a piece of your mind if necessary ;-)

Laura - posted on 08/11/2010

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I didn't get nagged (too much) when my kids were at home.Now that they are both in school I get that "look" when people find out I'm still a sahm. I tell them, I'm busier now then when the kids were at home! And I've thought about being a para for our school district when my youngest (who will be in 5th grade) get to the jr high (7th grade). That way when the kids are home, Im home too. As my hubby said its when kids are in jr high and high school when they need the most supervision,lol!
I worked until my oldest was 6 months old. It was horrible, I cried everyday on the way to work (and it wasn't that I didn't trust who was watching my son, it was my aunt, who is an amazing person and took great care of him) it was that I KNEW that I should be the one taking care of him! My hubby and I agreed that I should stay home. I told people the truth that I knew where I should be, and that was what I was doing. I would also say that I don't knock working (outside the home moms) for their choices...that is where they feel their path is. Sometimes (NOT all the time) I would find that someone I knew was making those comments not because they were concerned with me, but were unhappy in their own choice.

Yaima - posted on 08/10/2010

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Just because you are not bringing a pay check home it doesn't mean you are not working. If that came from my husband, I would say to him, "you wanted children right?"

But i know he is not like that.

People don't understand how expensive it is to pay for daycare. But if you do happen to be able to make enough money, what about staying home with this little thing that needs so much attention and love from you.

Just remember, people don't run your life. Now if the father of your baby is the one who thinks like this. Then leave him with your baby for an entire day. And you will see how things change.

I love my kids, i adore them. I have been a stay home mom for like, 7 years now. I have had jobs, but on and off do to my situation. But sometimes I think, i rather be working and going shopping at the malls. So yes, i would not have a pleasant answer either if someone told me that.

Hope this helps, and good luck sweety.

Kimberly - posted on 08/10/2010

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My ex husband did it to me all the time. He would tell me that nothing I did mattered unless I brought home a paycheck. I stayed home with my kids anyhow and we got divorced when our son was 3. Being a SAHM is hard work. I see no point in working outside the home to make a check that will only cover the cost of daycare.

Bridgette - posted on 08/16/2010

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Yes. I'm just a little blunt and honest. I tell people like that... "I'm sorry but God gave me these kids to me to raise. I don't need money enough to sacrifice my kids to people I don't know. Besides studies have proven children raised by mom have less problems in life and they are healthier overall. I don't want to read about my children's first steps or words. I want to experience it. I want to be my kids mom...who takes care of them the most is the mom, not the one who gives birth."

Yes its rude and harsh at times but at least I shut them up. One lady even quit her job bc she realized she only knew her kids by paper notes written by a teacher.

I work from home, not bc we neeeed it. But bc we want to be debt free in 5 years, plus what I do is helping moms. So it becomes a ministry to me instead of work.

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Crystal - posted on 07/05/2011

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Do you work from home Evone? That's what I do. Not easy, but it works. I'm an affiliate business owner with Xpress healthcare and my main job is writing - articles, managing social media for companies, product descriptions for sites, that kind of thing. Once you get going, the pay can be great but it is NOT something you can just boom! and make a ton of money on overnight nor is it super easy. For some maybe, but not for most. However, it can be done. We're expecting that my husband will be able to become a sahd and work on starting his business up this fall so it can be done.

maybe then he will shut up about it.

Evone - posted on 06/23/2011

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my husband just started telling me i needed to get a job after telling me he wanted me to stay home and take care of the kids..even made me quit the job i had..now he pushing me to get a job when the economy sucks sooo much right now..and we dont have enough for a childsitter to watch the kids after school.. have a three yr old a four yr old and a ten yr old.....confused and in need of guidence.. dont know what to to?

Evone - posted on 06/23/2011

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tell me about it. my husband says the same thing but im understanding that he might need the help n thats his way of asking but here is the difficult question..how do i get the job with him working long hours and no one to watch the kids. and him not willing to cut his hours to make it happen....now thats a dilemma

Meghan - posted on 08/25/2010

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Thankfully I have not, but once my oldest goes to school I was thinking about going back to work part time, just to help with more income and to save more money. But that is what I've been thinking but my husband loves me staying home and anyone else who thinks I should go back to work doesn't need to be concerned with my family. Daycare's these days are so expensive that it is sometimes worth staying home. I'm hoping to be working at the military day care once my oldest goes to school. Hope things get better.

Jessica - posted on 08/25/2010

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i get told to get a job all the time..luckely my mum says i dnt need to coz i already have one.if it wasnt for my familys help i would of become depressed and thought i was bad mum. ive got the best job in the world!! all i do now is say u try doing what i do!! bet ya cant!! LOL. some people are just jealous!!

Claire - posted on 08/25/2010

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hi i'm a stay at home mum with 2 disabled kids 1 with slight cerebral palsy and the youngest child with slight developmental delay and i get looks when we are in town shopping. my hubby likes me to stay at home and look after the kids as our eldest goes to a special needs school and i need to be home in case he has an accident at school. our youngest will be starting nursery school in september at the same school that the eldest goes to. so i will still be a sahm so that i can be at home for when they come home and we don't sit on our asses all day it is the hardest job ever and we don't get days off to do what we want theres still the washing, cleaning etc to do .

Holly - posted on 08/25/2010

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i know what you mean. i dont think women has to do what the man or who ever is saying this to you have to work, unless your in need of money and its urgent! other then that, being a mom is the most important job ever! even if your in need of money. to me, i feel that when someone says that to someone, they are jealous! because they have to work! ive been treated like that last year and the year before.. when i was pregnant with my second child, my fiances sister got very jealous and upset because i didnt have to work! she told my fiance that her friends had to bust a@@ while being pregnant till they went in labor! his grandmother even said mean things about me not working to his mom and dad and his mom loves me a lot and has snapped at the grandmother! my mom was picked on badly by my father and his family also one of my aunts. my dad would pick on her because she cleaned when she felt like it but it was everyday just not right when my dad wanted her to jump! and he also hated her reading when im napping! he was mean and because of his horrible abuse towards us. they divorced! be carful if this is what your hubby is doing. if so and your able to seek help, do so ASAP because being upset and getting angry and jealous over a "mother not working" because "taking care of your little one is the first priority" isnt necessary to get upset about! its the most ridicules feeling ever.. if you want to work then do so but dont let anyone run you over!

Margaret - posted on 08/21/2010

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I don't necessarily get "nagged" to get a job, it has just been coming up a lot lately. I am only 25, and Before I got pregnant, I was working a great job for only a year(being fresh out of college) making $55k. When I was 3 months preg. I was placed on bedrest, and had to give up my position (becuase I knew I wasnt coming back for a long time) Right after I delivered my son, the company I was working for closed!! Luckily, my husband makes a substantial amount of $$, so he has been supporting us for the past year. Although, jusut before I found out I was preg. we accrued a large amount of debt: Student loans, 2 new cars, a new house, and construction loans and credit cards. We always paid 4x the min. payment, although things are different now. We are paying them off, but now with me not working, we are paying less than we used to. Sometimes only the min. payment. Things are a struggle sometimes, but somehow we get by every month. I have put 100+ resumes out there, but there are no business looking to hire someone with my expierence, I have my masters degree and now I cant even find a job!!! Part of it is my fault, because I am not willing to settle for a min. wage job...it wouldnt be worth it...working part time just to pay for daycare! There are a lot of jobs in the city (NYC), although they are all full time and about 45 minutes from my home. I want to go back to work, but I dont want to if it means I will never get to see my son!!

Amy - posted on 08/21/2010

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i get comments from my hubby like..." well u go out and earn what i earn and ill stay home with the kids, id love to stay home with the kids" knowing fullwell i cant earn wat he earns( dont get me wrong we are average middleclass ppl not rich) yet he cant handle the kids on his own if i do go out( once every 3 months!) SO annoying

Joy - posted on 08/21/2010

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yes, yes. that and since I obviously wasn't busy, of course I should watch their children for them so they could go to work. I know it seems so hard. Chin up. You can do this. Great encouraging advice on aboverubies.org she has super advice for being the gatekeeper of your home and empowering your calling as a mother for these children! Yay! This too shall pass. you are doing a mighty work, mama!

Sue - posted on 08/21/2010

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you already have a full time job which you are on call for 24/7. is the person telling you this gonna take over half the child care and half the house work you do? i got told that and looked up the cost of child care as well as the extra cost in gas and added about 30% to the grocery bill and i couldnt get a job that payed what we needed for me to increase the actual income in the house. i am sure you can find plenty of sources to give you an accurate cost evaluation of going to work outside the home. but then you would have 3 full time job and that doesn't even calculate the time you missed with your child or his with you.

Kitty - posted on 08/21/2010

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YES so you need to swap Rollls for a while and then see who has it easier....

Deb - posted on 08/21/2010

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I believe that if you can get by and pay all the bills w/o any hardships then staying home is best. I hated the idea that someone else was raising my twins.

Kathleen - posted on 08/20/2010

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Tracey,
The most important job you'll ever have is raising your child(ren). Don't let anyone guilt you into thinking you should have another job, unless it's decided in your family, that it is necessary. Any "stay-at-home mom" worth her salt is not sitting all day on any part of her anatomy. Keep up the good work and God bless you! kathy mulhair

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Good for you for being a stay at home Mom. The most important job a Mother has is raising her kids. My kids never went to daycare. I've always worked from home so my kids could be with me. I feel bad for you Mom's who don't have a choice or the luxury of being home with their kids. God Bless you all!

Crystal - posted on 08/19/2010

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I work from home as a freelance writer. I only work part-time because I also am finishing my degree. Hubby works at a good enough paying job that between his full-time income and my part-time, we've managed to pay off a good bit of debt, get out of poverty, and have a comfortable life. No we don't have a lot of luxuries, but we don't need them.

I've worked from home since our son was born 2 years ago and I still have people who nag me about working! Apparently writing website content or advertising isn't a job, lol. I'm paid; that's work. My mother-in-law and I have gone around and around about it!

Even so, well worth it. I still use a pen and paper to plan out my articles and my son mimics with his crayons. I'm here to take him for walks to see the squirrels or jump in the puddles. He already is chattering (though you have to have an interpreter sometimes, lol) and he's happy and knows he's loved. If you can afford to stay home and focus on your little one, then do it! It's annoying when people assume you do nothing all day, but let it flow like water off a duck's back. You do what in your heart feels the best for you and yours.

You'll always have someone who complains that you stay home. If you worked, someone would complain that you didn't stay home. Do what you feel is right.

Vanessa - posted on 08/19/2010

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Tell him if all I do is sit on my ass then why is daycare or a babysitter cost so MUCH!!! Not to mention the child doesnt watch itself, and the clothes dont put themselves away etc.... I would make a list of everything you do on a daily basis and say if I work I do not want to hear how hard your day was or how tired you are! If our child wakes up we take turns we will do the housework evenly and the parenting as well. Or say fine go on strike and have him do everything you go to your moms or somehwere for a day or two your child will be safe, but it will be a wake up call, what you do is so important and they need to realize that! My husband stoped asking me even though I have school loans but w/#4 on the way we simply cant afford daycare, all of our family moved out of state so it would cost almost $700 a week for daycare, well I would not make that plus food and the extra wear and tear on our only car he realized he just has to work overtime and we cut on everything! Its called sacrafice either you want your child in a happy home raised by there parents or fancy toys and cars but the child will grow up w/ no connection not value family but value material THINGS

Kelly - posted on 08/19/2010

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Some women are not fulfilled as a SAHM, some feel the need to work outside the home to curb pressure in their own lives and therefore transfer that pressure onto other moms that do stay home. Don't ever let anyone outside your family guilt/pressure you into a decision that effects your family. If it is your spouse pressuring you....try talking to them and letting them know your desires and reasons behind them....I am what some might call lazy....I don't plan a lot of activities for us to make our days crazy...we chill out most of the time....and we love it!!! I wouldn't have it any other way...as long as my child isn't behind educationally/socially....we're happy<

Jennifer - posted on 08/19/2010

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If they are giving you a hard time now I am anxious to hear what they say if you decide to homeschool your little one when it comes time for him/her to go to school! I have been a stay at home mom and homeschool mom for 11 years. My inlaws are not to keen on it but my side of the famiy is o.k. with it. My husband was o.k. with it for a little while and then we had to sit down and have that talk again and I am still holding my own ground and all is happy. I don't want anyone else raising my baby including the government when it comes down to schooling. Who has the right to even say your not working. RAISING a CHILD is the HARDEST thing I have ever had to do in my life and I have 3 of them. My pay is hugs and kisses and GOD's blessings! You hold your ground and get off your butt and raise your baby with NO questions asked! :) Enjoy them while they are little because they grow in a hurry which I am sure you are learning quickly. Good luck to you!

Mabyn - posted on 08/19/2010

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No one has ever come right out and said "you need to find a job" but they always give me the impression that they think I SHOULD have one. My inlaws are always asking "so, have you found work yet?" or "have you thought anymore about going back to work?" as if staying home and taking care of my 1.5 year old daughter wasn't an option. My husband is a teacher and he's just starting out so sometimes money is tight and I understand it would be better to have a second income but I just can't bring myself to put my daughter in daycare. I don't like the idea of paying someone else to watch her and see all the cute things she says and does in the run of a day! Although, since we do seem to be struggling a bit financially (and we live so frugally as is!) I've started looking for evening and weekend work. Yes, it means that I'll miss most of her bedtimes but her father will be home to put her to bed and she'll have at least one of us home with her all the time. This is the best option for us at this time. In a perfect world, though, I would be able to stay home and look after her and we wouldn't have to worry about money. Maybe someday! ;)

Lesa - posted on 08/19/2010

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Thankfully I've never come across someone like that. In fact, mostly the opposite. Most people, moms, are jealous, wishing they could stay home with their kids. I have to wonder if those being critical are jealous and being terribly pitiful. Enjoy being home with your child and doing the most important job in the world --- being a MOM!

Amy - posted on 08/19/2010

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as long as you are paying your bills and you n your husband are on the same wavelength about you staying home, who cares what others think! My daughter is almost 18 mths old and I have just now gotten a job where I only work opposite of my husband. We didn't feel comfortable having our girl at daycare all the time and it's working out great for us. We also have a lot of student loans we're trying to pay off though so my income helps alot. As long as you aren't staying at home w/ the kids while the electric's getting turned off or they dont have shoes on their feet, what's their problem? Once in awhile my husband gave me crap about "sitting home" all day and the next day I didn't do a damn thing around the house, no laundry, dishes, dinner or cleaning and he got the point very quickly of just how much I do around here. Haven't heard a complaint since:) Being a SAHM is alot harder than it looks...I consider going to my little part time job as a vacation that I get paid for and my husband gets one on one time w/ her that they never used to get. Power to ya if you want to stay at home!

Renee - posted on 08/19/2010

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All my life, that was what I wanted, I dreamed about it! But I am not the mom I thought I would be. My kids are autistic, and with my reactiveness, it is counterproductive.

Eva - posted on 08/19/2010

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Most of the nagging I get is related to school and then work. I'm a 25y/o married mom of 3, and after performing poorly in the spring semester (feeling bad for spending all my time in classes/a major that I care nothing about instead of being home with my younger ones -4 & 2). Don't get me wrong, I have every intention of finishing school, but I want to least be there for my children first until they're old enough to start school and if I'm going to put in the money and effort, I want to major in something that I actually enjoy, not just something to get me a job. My husband supports me either way, but we're all much happier without having to rely on a "paid professional" to watch/raise our kids. We're not rich by any means, I do the heavy duty "coupon-ing" and earn money from home whenever possible, but it just feels so much more rewarding.

Renee - posted on 08/19/2010

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Actually, I have the opposite problem, I get pressured to stay a sahm. I am currently a sahm, and I had a sahm growing up. I grew up wanting to be just like my mom, cuz having a stay at home mom was the best, but my personality is not fit to be a mom, ot full time. So I have decided to stop living in my mom's shadow, and now I am going back to school, and gonna go back to work after my Masters Degree is done. I am not my mom, she was patient, nurturing, loving, kind, slow to anger...I AM NOT, I have no patience, and am not as nurturing as i should be, I am reactive, scream more than I should....I can't do this, and for my kids it would be more benificial if I work, and then when I come home I will appreciate them more. I have a lot of respect for SAHMs, and it was always my dream, but it isn't for me, and there is a lot of shame in that. Feeling like I'm failing my kiddos, and also the same I feel from my family, for not being a "good" wife and sitting at home being a full time mom. But by no means do I think that being a sahm is justing staying at home sitting on your ass!

Lisa - posted on 08/19/2010

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my husband told me the same thing for a yr after my daughter was born. then he said *ya know what? never mind. id rather have you home with her instead of daycare. no sense in working for a check and hav ing to pay $40 a day for her to go 5 days a week. and have no meny to show for working* i love being home with autumn. she is my pride and joy. and she learns just as much at home, as she would in daycare. dont \let people tell you what to do its your life not theirs! doi what makes YOU HAPPY!

Anne - posted on 08/19/2010

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my husband started saying that and i told him that it would be next to impossible for me to find a job with no sitter and him having the car monday through friday, yea i could get a job on the weekends but most jobs won't let you just work on the weekends only; so he dropped that for now

Lisa - posted on 08/19/2010

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being home with my little girl, has helped her alot. she is 3, knows how to spell and write her name. knows her address, our home phone number, and both mine and hubby's cellphone numbers. not many 3yr old can do or know that! my nepehw is 5, and he doesnt know his address or anyting. i am prud of my girl, and i am proud to be a stay at home mom. im not shelling out $40 a day for her to go to daycare. not worth working for a paycheck if all you are going to do is add another bill on to the list of bills you already have!

Naomi - posted on 08/19/2010

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I did work part-time for a while, but my husband and I were able to split childcare duties due to working opposite shifts. When he moved to a day job while I was on maternity leave with our second son, I ended up quitting my job. It didn't make any sense for me to work because the cost of daycare would have been most of my salary.

Even though it's difficult for us financially, we are so thankful for me to be able to be home with our boys. And I've realized that I work harder being home with them than I ever did at my job! Being a SAHM is not for the faint of heart!

Lisa - posted on 08/19/2010

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I have a 3yr old little girl, and i have been toild many people that i should get a job instead of sitting home all day. being a stay at home mom is just as hard as having a job! in fact, to me, being a stay at home mom, is harder!!!! i have been home 2 1/2yrs with my little one, and she will be starting pre k in sept. i will have two hrs to do what i need to do while she is gone....will make things easier, as she is constantly wanting to help clean, and i can never get anything done! you arent the only one who has been told *get a job* some people just dont realize how hard it is being a stay at home mom!!!! that and trying to find a job with flexible hrs if you dont want to spend the money for daycare~!

Amber - posted on 08/18/2010

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yes and it is so annoying. when i was pregnant my husband told me not to worry about getting a job that i was already doing my job. then when my due date started getting closer my mother-in-law started in on me about getting a job. that it will be nice to get away for a few hours during the the day. this coming from a mother of 6 who does not work. well after my lil man turned 11 months i got fedup of now everyone telling me i should get a job. lucky me the only place that would hire me was Mcdonalds! yea me right! (little advice NEVER work there it sucks) i worked there for like 8 months and went in one day and they said that i had quit and sent me home! well ive now been a stay at home mom again for just over a month and im being told that i need another job! im sorry but i really dont want ANYONE other then me and my husband to raise my son. thats how it should be. ive always thought that a babysitter was some one that came and watched your kids for an hour or two not for 8-10 hours a day. and im not dissing any of the working mothers that send their kids to daycare im just a lil old fashioned. i think its great that i have the oppertunity to go to school and get a job but thats just not me i would much rather stay at home and be a house wife.

Aimee - posted on 08/18/2010

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Jennifer - some of us do not intend to go back to work even after our children are in school. I don't think it is wholly necessary to a mother's sanity... personally.

Aimee - posted on 08/18/2010

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Is it your husband nagging you? I am grateful that I do not have your problem. My husband and I discussed our "roles" before we married... and both agreed that be believed in the mother/wife staying home with the children and taking care of the home. Luckily, we were both raised in traditional homes and both families completely support that I stay home. I am sorry for your situation.

Chelsea - posted on 08/18/2010

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it is hard, but if you cant afford it then you kinda have to sacrifice till things settle again. i wouldn't want to work either, but if its like your husband/bf asking you, maybe you should ssee it from their side, bringing in the income by yourself is extreamly harder i believe. im thankful i can stay home, but i suggested i baby sit a friends baby boy for them and they want to pay me, so im bringing in some tiny cash which will be great help when we just want to have fun and blow money. and since ill be like a auntie chelly, its not like it is work..

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Tracey you have it right. You have the best job ever! And the most important one too. There is no one else that will care for your children as well as you except for Grandmothers. Who else but you can teach your child your beliefs and morals, no one. Continue to be proud that you are able to be home with your child. I raised three and when I had a business they went to work with me. Otherwise I worked out of the home in my business to be there for my kids. We even home schooled for 9 years. Talk about getting flack! There are plenty of things that you could do from home if you really needed to have a job. Stick to your guns and speak your heart. Or smile and change the subject. That will drive them mad! Good for you for being a stay at home Mom. God Bless you!

Leeann - posted on 08/18/2010

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Luckily, on army bases, wives staying home is common place and that is because hubby works 6-6 when hes around and then obviously we dont see him for weeks, months, or even years at a time. When he is around, he wants me off so we can do what we want to do. We have discussed me going back to work, but for now we agree that staying home is the best thing for both our relationship and our son. If I worked nights, I would never see my husband. If i worked days, my son would be in daycare, not that daycare is bad, but we can't afford it, not for the hours we would need. Right now, we are both trying to finish college and when both of our sons are old enough for school, the goal is for me to get in the school system so I can still be there foro ur sons as much as possible. And for the lady whose husband does 50/50 child raising and caring for the house, all I have to say is LUCKY. I am home so I clean and that's how he sees it. He does yard work, when its not provided by the base we are living on and That Is It lol.

Jennifer - posted on 08/18/2010

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Raising my children is my job. I think the people nagging you are probably just jealous that you get to stay home. I wish I has some time to just sit down and do nothing. My kids are always needing something from me and that is what I'm here to do. I love be a sahm and wouldn't change it for the world.

Melissa - posted on 08/18/2010

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I haven't read the other readers' responses, but I think I would have to say something like this, "Why should I go back to work? So I can earn just enough to pay someone else to take care of my child?" Hopefully that'll shut them up!

Candice - posted on 08/18/2010

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If we had to get someone else to raise our kids we wouldn't have had any. I will be going back to work in the fall but only part time so my daughter will only have to be with a sitter for 3hrs 3 days a week cause husband will be home to care for her after that. We are now trying for another baby so I will have enough hours for maternity and be able to stay home with both my children!

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I have family members and friends who nagged me all the time. I finally just told them to drop it. It's kinda hard to be that blunt with people sometimes, but once you say it, then they realize how rude they sound for getting in your business.

Jennifer - posted on 08/18/2010

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I am not planning on going back to work until all of my kids are in school, and am lucky enough to live in a small town where SAHM's are the norm. I do think that going back to work is good when your children go to school, if only to retain your sanity. I would tell those that have been bothering you to f**k off and mind their own business. They're probably just jealous that they didn't have the opportunity to stay home, so are trying to make you feel bad about being able to.

Nicole - posted on 08/17/2010

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no i do not my daughters condition and lack of sitting prevents me from working till she is on school...cause no one else can take her =/ and it drives me nuts. i miss working but i love being at home with my daughter too.

Sammie - posted on 08/17/2010

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I guess I wouldn’t call it nagging, but I have some friends and family that ask me if Im still looking of if I have found anything.. When we have told them I’m a stay at home mom, I love it, and were making things work.. My husband to be wants me to stay home, we both know with the price of daycare it wouldn't do any good for me to work as well - my checks would be going right back to that..
Every once in awhile when money is tight or hes had a bad day at work he will say why don’t you get a job or I stay home n you work.. But as soon as he said it he forgets about it and says he dont mean it.. :)

Tiffany - posted on 08/17/2010

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It is no ones business when or if you go back to work. If you and your spouse can afford it, then forget about everyone else. I will be going back part time soon (my daughter is 10 months now) but that is only because we are trying to catch up on all our bills and start saving for a house. We plan on trying for another baby this November/December and I will work up until I give birth and then I will do what I did now and take time off. I don't want to miss a minute with my child, but I also think she is a huge Mama's girl and needs some time away from me. If you're not ready to go back to work, or even if you don't want to yet...don't feel bad at all. You will when you're ready and it's no one's business to tell you what to do.

Bridget - posted on 08/17/2010

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No, to this one. THANK THE LORD. My husband and I agreed that when we had our first (have a son from another relationship) that i would not work. I have always grew up around daddy work and mommy not. My husband TOTALLY AGREEs with this way as well./ He does tell me IF I WANT too i am more than welcome to go get a part time job 3 days a week while our son is in school... Being a SAHM is a job . We do not just sit at home and be lazy. We care for the children, clean (even if it takes all week and still looks like nothing is done), cook, ect. Its a job itself we just do not get paid for it.

Candace - posted on 08/17/2010

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it isnt really their choice to tell you to get a job or not, the first few years are special with your baby and the time to bond with your baby, my daughters aunty(who i dont claim as a sister anymore) nagged at me for the longest time saying i should get a job and support my daughter and it was my fault for her not having as much, but thats not the real reason cause she didnt bother asking me, now she is a mom and has to go through what i went through in her own way though, but yeah dont listen to them, it is your choice to get a job or not and if you want to be there for your baby that is alright because your the mom and nobody else

Megan - posted on 08/17/2010

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I get nagged to work all the time so i found a really part time job but honestly it feels like my husband wants me to have a full time job watch the baby clean the house go to school full time and cook =P

Amy - posted on 08/17/2010

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My youngest is 10, I am just now going to work! When my kids were little, I did have home daycare in my home. It helped pay the bills and I was able to be home with my kids. It also provided playmates mfor them. Just a thought! Enjoy your baby, don't listen to others! being a mom is a job in its self!

Jamie - posted on 08/17/2010

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Not really anymore! I took on 2 extra tots to sub some income. My hubbie would rather have me home with them than us paying a babysitter to raise our kids. Use your home time to go back to school wether its ged, tech school whatever, There is online classes for everything.In a perfect world us stay at home moms can stay with them at least till they are in school, but for those of us who have to work, use your time to make your job status better, train from home on online classes, many colleges offer them and you can find something that works for you and make more money once you do go back to work! Dont stress you have the best job ever! Enjoy it! lol

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