Breastfeeding Weaning Crisis

JoyJen - posted on 12/15/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hello! I decided to join Circle of Moms because I am ready to stop breastfeeding. I thought I could make it to 12 months, but I cannot. He is only 1 1/2 weeks shy of 12 months so I almost made it lol. ANYWAY, my problem is this: he has NEVER taken a bottle and now that I've gotten him to drink out of sippy cup w/ a straw, he just spits it out. He spits out water, milk and juice as soon as he drinks it as if it was a game. Sometimes, he does it when he is nursing. He is biting because of teething and he recently bit me so hard that I screamed and we both cried. I am a single stay-at-home mom and I do not know what to do. I am ready to wean. Should I just go cold turkey? Oh, and to make matters more difficult, we also co-sleep... PLEASE HELP! lol. Thanks

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Leah - posted on 12/17/2011

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The night weaning while co-sleeping is difficult but possible. You DO NOT have to stop co-sleeping if you don't want to just because you want to night or totally wean. I have done it. You might want to start out by nursing to sleep but when he wakes up during the night, you don't. This is quite hard, and he will most likely cry, and scream. Just hold him, comfort him that "Mommy is here, but no nursing til morning". Eventually he will go back to sleep. After about a week he should stop asking at night. It's not "crying it out", in the sense that you are leaving them alone to deal with their emotions alone. You are there to support him, and love him, just not to nurse him. Anyway, that's what we did, and I continued to co-sleep for a year after weaning, until he was so big that we both slept better when he went to his own bed! Hope this helps!!!

Kelina - posted on 12/15/2011

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when he bites, plug his nose for a few seconds. Just so he lest go. they learn real quick not to bite or the food flow gets interrupted. If you're set on weaning, try Brittany's idea.

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I warmed milk (to just body temp) for my daugther and gave it in a sippy. She fought it for about a week. But once she realized that she wasn't getting breastmilk, she took the sippy.

I ended up having to quit cold turkey. Although my daughter was only breastfeeding 1-2 times a day (mostly just in the morning). So it was fairly easy.

If he's feeding a more often, I would start with getting rid of nightime feedings then move to the easiest daytime feeding. My daughter's close and cuddle feeding was morning, but I know for most it is night. Which ever it is for you, make that the last one to get rid of.

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JoyJen - posted on 12/18/2011

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Thanks ladies! I am going to start over tomorrow lol. My son seemed to stop eating/snacking so I gave in and began nursing him again... I guess he's not quite ready so I am going to try again after Christmas.

Leah! Thank you for the co-sleeping advice! I was unsure how to approach that since he wakes up through the night still (more for comfort bc he doesn't really eat).

Betty, I think I am going to try to drop a feeding every 3-4 days too... I think that will work best.

Betty - posted on 12/17/2011

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When I weaned my daughter, I cut out one feeding every 3 or 4 days until there weren't any feedings left. Not only did that make it easy for my daughter but it also made it so it wasn't painful for me since quiting cold turkey can make the milk build up and cause an infection. For each feeding I cut out, I rocked my daughter to sleep instead of feeding her. It turned out to be an easy transition this way. My daughter also would not drink milk, water, formula or juice. The only thing that I could get her to drink was about 3/4 water and 1/4 juice.

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I agree w/ Sara about the cold turkey. Granted, that's how my son had to wean, but he was 3.25 years old when that happened. ;) He wasn't even eating food on a daily basis til around a year and not eating 3 meals/day for much longer, so no way I could've/would've weaned him at a year.

His big sisters, on the other hand, were fairly easy to wean. We started at 13 months and they were done at 15 months. We just dropped one feed at a time for a bit before dropping another. They were schedule fed and not co-sleeping though... and they used the binky for comfort instead of me. I was JUST milk for them and since they were using sippy cups... the transition was quite smooth.

My son used me for milk/food AND comfort (a lot) and we were co-sleeping (night weaned at 2), so it was a different story entirely....

Bonnie - posted on 12/17/2011

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When I weaned my son, I left the morning and night time feeding and took away the ones in between. The morning and night time feedings are the ones they are attached to the most especially for comfort. We started introducing whole milk in between while still breastfeeding and we warmed it a little bit so it would be at room temperature. We then removed the morning feeding and last to go was the night time one. We had no problems at all.

JoyJen - posted on 12/16/2011

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So, I got him to drink milk out of a glass with a straw since he seemed to be mad at his sippy cup. I did nurse him at night (and throughout the night since we co-sleep). Today I nursed a little after his nap out of habit... I hope that didn't mess up this process. He seemed to be okay with milk in a glass more as the day went on yesterday, so I am hoping that means he is a quick adjuster. Thanks again everyone!

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Don't go cold turkey. Slower is better for weaning. Stopping cold turkey will make it much harder on him and make you vulnerable to clogged ducts and mastitis. Try dropping one nursing session every 5-7 days. Take the one he's least interested where he may only nurse for a few minutes. When that time comes around have a snack ready and then maybe an activity to do for a distraction. Some moms find that their bodies adjust quicker and can eliminate a nursing session every 3-5 days. Usually nap and bed time are the last to go because baby's tend to consider those very comforting. Here are some other ideas:
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/weani...

JoyJen - posted on 12/15/2011

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Thank you! So far we've gotten through the day without nursing. It's been pretty rough. His nap wasn't long and he's refusing to eat BUT he drank close to 3oz of milk (organic vitamin D) out of a glass with a straw. I think he is mad at his sippy cup bc he swats at it when he sees it lol. I pumped and will try mixing my breast milk with a little bit of whole milk... Thanks for the help! Hoping to get through the rest of the day without any more meltdowns lol.

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