Can feel a melt down in the making!!!

Renee - posted on 03/11/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 6 months old. right now shes in that very needy stage, which sometimes i dont mind. however she also has a cold and is teething i'm going nuts! my boyfriend works thrid shift so i'm with her 24/7 4-5 day a wk. so even when her daddy comes home she still only wants me. whats even harder is i dont drive and we moved about an hour away from everyone when she was a couple wks old. for the most part i get a hour away from home a week or every other day, pending on the weather. (i live in new england) are there ANY suggestions at all to not have a complete melt down?! i'm almost at that point where i just want to go in the other room put pillows under my door so i cant hear her at all for the whole day.

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Heidi - posted on 03/12/2011

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Hi x
When my first daughter Lauren was born my husband was in the armed forces and he would be away for 6 months of the year it was hard as she was 6 months when he first went away and i didnt really know anyone where we lived,
I started to check out the mother and baby groups in the area and it helped me to get a good network of friends going it was good as we could share tips and experiances or just lend an ear when someone was low, maybe you could see if there was something like that in your area x
At 6 months your baby should still like to have a couple of naps in the day this is when you should be putting your feet up or catching up on some well needed and deseverd sleep x as for your baby sitter you need to start having them come round and have playtime with your daughter whilst your there so she is familiar with them and feels comfortable get your sitter to watch her while you nip to the shop so she can build trust and know that its ok coz mummys coming back soon then you should be able to leave her a bit longer each time,
Dont feel low and un happy get in touch with people and talk about it because your little girl needs a happy mummy us mums have all been there and its ok to have down days im sure your doing a great job x

Take care
Heidi from England x

Jane - posted on 03/12/2011

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when he gets hone, hand her over and get in the car, go for a coffee or just go grocery shopping alone. nobody is expected to work w/out a break. she will be fine w/him , she may be cranky but she's gonna be cranky w/him or you, correct?

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Amanda - posted on 03/13/2011

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Does your daughter have a swing? Does she like it? When you are close to "melting down" put her in the swing, turn it on, and leave her for a few minutes. If you don't feel comfortable with the swing, leave her in her crib. My son is 17 months old, but he is back to being clingy, and I just can't take it. I can't get nearly enough done during the day, and he is not as sweet/nice to daddy or other adults. Thank God, my husband has this week off. I am trying to give dad and son as much time together as possible!

Eve - posted on 03/12/2011

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I used to wear my baby (moby wrap) every where I go.. I take him to the library for story time around the the time he turned 6 month. When my husband gets home I make him wear our baby also (he prefered baby bjorn). We pretty much wear him everywhere until he was about 9-10 month. I find it much easier this way, my hands are free and our baby is happy. I even went out for shopping and got my nails done with him in my pouch.. I don't know if you try it yet .. If not, it's worth a try.

Charlie - posted on 03/12/2011

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Just breath Renee and try and get some alone time just for you so you can appreaciate her " clingyness" it won't last forever I promise and you will wishing for those days you had your little snuggler .

She will especially want to be close to you when she is sick , maybe you could start a project at home like a garden ( very theraputic ) or take a long hot bath and try and get her to do some bonding with dady when he is home also try buying a baltic amber teething necklace online , we use them for both of my boys and it is great .

Charlie - posted on 03/12/2011

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we dont even get that hun :(
try not picking her up all the time when she crys
if her bum is clean shes been feed and you know she not ill then lay her down and go in the kichen keep checkin on her every 6 mins to calm her then go again when she know that cryin wont make you pick her up she mite calm down :?)

Renee - posted on 03/11/2011

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i just wish she'd cling to her father as well or act how she does w/ him as she does w/ the baby sitters. we can't really leave her w/ sitters 10mins after we leave she cries the whole time. so 2hrs is all we get a week for a date night

Renee - posted on 03/11/2011

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new hampshire. i've seen the dr. they say i'm fine just that i need to get out more.

Charlie - posted on 03/11/2011

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aaarr chick bless
know what you mean my partner works away alot and my 10 month is the same it kills ive got 2 other kids and trying to divide all my time between the three of them is horrible cos the baby clings to me
it sounds like you have post-natal depression you really need to see your doc or at least speak to your h/v
were about in england do u live

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