Can't get into cleaning? :/

Courtnee - posted on 09/05/2012 ( 35 moms have responded )

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I am a SAHM, with a husband who is an oilfield electrician. He busts his a** everyday to give me and my son what he have, and I appreciate it. But, I can not STAND cleaning. I know it's my duty, bc I am a SAHM, but it just bugs me. I get it done, don't get me wrong, but it puts me in such a bad mood. :/ I never have the energy either. I've tried energy drinks, turning up music, doing a daily routine, everything. Help??

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Cram it all into a small amount of time. If you only have to do it for an hour a day, it won't seem like such a big time sucker--you won't be looking at spending the whole day on something you hate.

Pick 5 rooms. Set a timer for 10 minutes and go into the first room on your list. Speed clean the entire 10 minutes--you'll be amazed how much you can do in 10 minutes when you are not constantly stopping to think about the 3000 other things you'd rather be doing. Repeat for all 5 rooms. The next day, pick a different 5 rooms. I recommend doing your bedroom every day, and just pick 4 different rooms each day--that way you have a nice, made bed to sort laundry and fall into in the evening. Toss laundry in throughout the day, if you only do one or two loads, you should be able to fold and put them away in about 15 minutes.



Do all the cleaning crap at once, then enjoy the rest of your day--if it gets messed up after you clean it, don't worry about it, you'll be cleaning it up tomorrow anyway, so just leave it till then (unless it's food or something, you don't want bugs).

Bobbie - posted on 10/03/2012

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You are suffering from SSDD (Same SH*% Different Day) I am 53 and still get into these moods though now my housework can be completed within an hour or so top to bottom. No where near the volume of work I am sure you do.

FACTS

~The world doesn't come to an end if you don't do it all and spend time having fun with your little ones instead.



~ This little wonderful people have a bad habit of growing up so fast



~Just because you are home all the time and know it is your job doesn't mean it has to be thankless. As I learned while in the work force everyone needs that pat on the back to stay motivated. Your husband works hard but sees results and gets input to keep him going. You are working hard and not getting any positive input. I bet your husband doesn't come home and exclaim. Why honey, the stove top is so clean I can see myself in it, how do you did it all???!!!



To stay motivated and you are going to require positive input from someone, so why not you?



Why not do as I did and save all the work for one day a week and cram it all in? Seriously, I did laundry, cleaned out the fridge, did all the floors in one evening after everyone went to bed :) Afterward I sat down all dirty and sweaty and realized I also got in my areobics as well. I would then climb into the shower for a fast clean and reward my now pruning hands with a cuticle push back and trim. Come to think of it I STILL set down and trim my cuticles after deep cleaning. I don't wear gloves. I make myself a drink of whatever sounds good but no caffeine and set back and massage lotion into my hands and feet. Hubby seemed to enjoy having his time in his cave (office with computer and tv for sports) when I requested his absences for this main event :)

The big payoff is when you can really appreciate yourself in the morning. When you get up to sparkling clean floors fully dried to a shine, spotless kitchen and no toys in sight you feel you are ahead of the game and so appreciated. The day following the big clean there is light easy to clean up breakfast, outing somewhere with the kids and no fuse crockpot cooked dinner so the day feels like a day off of sorts.

Just remembered something cute. When my kids were little they got so use to this ritual of mine that my son would pump his fist and "Yes! We are going out to lunch!" when he saw the kitchen chairs in the living room lined up in a neat row to allow for full floor cleaning. Then he and his sister played "Choo Choo" by sitting in the chairs and taking tickets and having fun while I made breakfast.

Another thing that really helps A LOT is to become aware of little habits you and the kids have that create work for you later. I learned to have the laundry basket in the bathroom and the spray pretreater tucked behind it. As they stripped down for their bath I would check for stains, turn them right side out, especially socks, empty pockets and spray any possible spots that carried either food or possibility to stain. Just spraying the food spots kept smell and bacteria from developing.

Another big help is a trashcan every 10 feet or so :) Just those little plastic ones that grocery bags fit in to. Seems everyone in the family has something they would rather drop innocently such as gum, and the like because the trashcan is not near by :)

Sal - posted on 10/03/2012

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Ohh and declutter is key.... Every time I see hoarders on tv I throw something out...

Elfrieda - posted on 10/03/2012

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Get rid of a lot of your stuff (more stuff means more cleaning) and do the timer thing. I'm with you, I hate housework, but flylady.net helped me a lot. Just don't try to do it all at once. Also, once you've got a routine going, it's easy to say, "Honey, I don't have the energy to wash the dishes but it's on my list of evening chores. Would you do it?" and most likely your husband'll be happy to do it, it's just you need to tell him what needs doing, and that's impossible when you're just looking around miserably at an enormous mess.

Bobbie - posted on 10/03/2012

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I don't want to put any ones panties in a twist so I am not saying anyone is lying, but please, vaccum every day? Dust every few days? If pulling your sweatshirt sleeve over your palm and running it across the t.v. counts then yeah, I dust every few days.

And if I had to take an ounce of an awful tasting medication there is no way I would tell someone to sip it, stretching it out. Going back for a sip every hour or so. Heck no! I would be gulping that puppy down so fast that I would run danger of getting the little plastic lid down as well :)

Just sayin'

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I'm shobi.im new to circle of mom.now I have 7 month baby

Last week he hd fever followed by vomiting And diarrhea .now he is alright.but suddenly his face and head is too hot.rest of the body

is normal.i dono what to do.suggest me please.

Lindsey - posted on 10/19/2012

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I feel you on this, I never used to be such a ( and I hate to say it because im not when it comes to my kids) but LAZY! Because with all the work of 3 ive neglected things like putting laundry away and made a really big clutter mess! Its not "dirty" but yes sometimes dishes pile up but they eventually get done, but i have lost my motivation and energy, i hate myself for it! I want so much more and just as plain as a house can be because with all the kid stuff, any space will get used! But i hate it and it makes me CRAZY because i know i have the power to change it and everyday i just sit and look at it w disgust, am i the only one? I mean i have spurts here n there where i can get stuff done but i dont because i finally have a minnute to breathe! I just have to push myself and stop making excuses, try and make it fun and i guess start out small, because i tend to get overwhelmed ya kno?

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I can't get into it either. I try to do one room a day so I don't become more frustrated. Laundry is a whole different story. For me I just do what I can and make an effort to keep things tidy. Good luck. I wish I could hire a maid too.

Railene - posted on 10/08/2012

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This may sound weird but is it possible you have adult ADD. I was going through some of those same things and had a hard time getting started on any projects. When I did start them I was driven to annoyance because I couldn't stop thinking of all the other crap I had to do and how little time ( I thought) I had to do it. Turns out I was suffering from mild ADD. Fast forward 1 year of meds and I can get stuff done and it never takes as long as I used to think it would. I can organize and make better use of my time even if I hate doing something, I get it done.

Barbara - posted on 10/07/2012

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Have you heard of Flylady? Flylady.net There is a lot to read but she always says" If we make it fun, it will get done.

Best Wishes

Barbara O'Donnell

Barb50wired@AOL.com

Ardra - posted on 10/05/2012

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I CLEAN ON MONDAY'S,meaning washing all laundry etc.. Fold and put up clothes Tuesday, straighten up & get my son out the house daily,dishes nightly,go out with the girls every two weeks..

Ashley - posted on 10/05/2012

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Just keep your house picked up through out the day. I cleany whole house really good twice a week, scrubbing the kitchen and bathroom, dusting and doing the floors. The rest of the time, im kepp my house clean by doing dishes dishes after every meal and picking up 3 or 4 times a day. That way, its,much easuer when theres not alot of dishes to dread over or a huge mess. I also make my kids clean up after thereselves. My 2 year old is really good about picking his toys up and loves to throw trash away. I hate cleaning too, but I love having a clean house and found that works best for me.

Bobbie - posted on 10/03/2012

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@Sal, wow, you must really like the lines in the rug :) Seriously, I looked it up on how often carpet should be cleaned. The answer was daily for families that use a high traffic area in center of the room as well as hallways and entrances to pick up tracked in dirt.

But they did say that you only need to hit those high traffic areas and the rest of the house to be vacuumed twice a week. I guess I should also mention that I had hardwood floors put in throughout my house, even in the kitchen and cleaning them are a breeze. No vacuum required :)

Sal - posted on 10/03/2012

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I do have to vacuum every day ..... Sometimes more, I don't know why I just must live with pigs....I even had to get a professional back packvacuum (i feel like astro boy ) iI kept killing domestic ones.... I'm going to blame my open fire in winter but yep daily. Infact just put the vacuum away for the day

Sal - posted on 10/03/2012

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I'm with you on having bins all over the house, I have one in every room and behind almost every door and under almost every coffee table or desk and also making good habits, it is easier to do something automatically if its a habit, like your presoaker I link jobs together too, make the bed when go for my shower every morning unpack the dishwasher as the jug boils go to the main part of the house via the laundry every morning g and throw I a load of washing that way I have 3 jobs done without thinking before breakfast....

Jodye - posted on 09/20/2012

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I space my big things out over the week. I only dust every couple of days and sweep everyday. I also vacuum every day. But if you space it out I don't think it's too bad. I, too, do NOT like to clean and I know it needs to be done. So I do it but I space it out over the week. And one day of the week is when I do all our laundry... it works for me.

Cas - posted on 09/16/2012

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Have you tried cleaning to your favorite tunes.... That always helps me enjoy it a little bit more.

Ana - posted on 09/13/2012

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I think you need something to do outside the house to get your head in a better space. Being depressed makes everything harder, I think once you get that part under a bit more of control, then cleaning will not be all that bad..



I am a SAHM too and I have a 2yr old daughter and am 21 weeks pregnant. My house feels like a castle! I feel like I can't get it all clean, and my daughter just takes down what ever I put up, hubby too.. I get so fustrated.. but right now I keep up the basics, I can't get my winter cleaning done right now the way I want because I'm pregnant, but am putting everything unnecessary off until Jan/Feb.. I will catch up later..



But doing something outside the house could help that depression. Going out with friends, exercising, having other expectations/accomplishments should help. Join a dance class!

I have been there..

Angela - posted on 09/11/2012

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Oh dear I know the feeling, I like the 10 min suggestion guess I am going to give that a try. Hopethings fall into place for you.

Chels - posted on 09/09/2012

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I reward myself with a glass of wine after its done. Or better still, the job I really hate - putting away the washing...I just have a wine while im doing it!

Iris - posted on 09/09/2012

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I have 2 boys, 3yrs and 10wks. Everyday I think about what I "need" to do and what I "want" to do and go from there. Dishes, sweeping, disinfecting counters, and picking up toys get done everyday then when I finish I do whatever "want" project for the day, laundry, dusting, grocery shopping,anything like that. The older child helps pick up toys and other small projects because I make it a game. I understand about being tired, and hating to clean but I try to think about it like a job and take a little pride in what you accomplish. Don't beat yourself up if you don't get everything done, you deserve time to relax too. Also hubby does work hard providing for you but it isn't being unreasonable to ask him to pitch in here and there, like loading the dishwasher or running a load of laundry

Roxanna - posted on 09/09/2012

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Change your meds! I did and it helped alot, but my biggest problem is that I am lzy and a procastinater!

Tracie - posted on 09/08/2012

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Since you hate it that much, do something really small on the side to earn $100/month for a cleaning lady.



And by the way, it is not solely your duty to clean. You bust your a** every day, too. Hubby should be pulling his weight at home, not just at work.

Tinker1987 - posted on 09/07/2012

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Im glad i came upon this im in the same boat.my boyfriend is on the oilfield busts his ass provides more money then we need and i get up and just lounge around.i get the basics done but i should be doing more i never feel energised, i think i am in a rut. i need too make a routine, if i got up super early too excercise and shower then start my day id probably feel better its just doing it, im such a night owl and so is my son so i have a hard time getting up earlier then he wakes me!

Nicola - posted on 09/07/2012

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*The 10 min idea sounds great. Try flylady.net There are some great helps there.

*Sometimes you've just got to do it.

*Music helps me get going. Something with a good beat (footloose helps me).

*Have something to look forward to when you're done - a cup of coffe with your feet up, read a chapter of a good book, play time with your baby.......

Karen - posted on 09/07/2012

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Wow. Antidepressants are a very Bad idea for you. Sorry to hear that. Maybe look at like others have said, don't focus on the 3000 things you have to do yet, focus on just one or two at a time. I vacuum every day, but only dust every two days, clean the bathroom on Wednesday and Sunday, do a load of laundry or two every day. The dishes get rinsed and put directly into the dishwasher so the sink is never full, when the machine is full, turn it on. As for toys, make it game!!! Have your toddler help pick up and put away as many toys as he can in 5 minutes, with you helping! IF he gets all of the toys out of at least one room, he gets a special treat (extra time outside, playing in the bath or snack like an apple etc, what ever he likes most and will see as a reward!). I really liked the advice from Sal, just do the work and wait for the motivation to catch up. Focus on the fact that you are accomplishing something and focus on that instead of all the other things you still have to do. So what if you didn't vacuum or dust, You got the laundry done and toys picked up!!!!!

Sal - posted on 09/07/2012

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I heard a Great bit of advice last week, start with the action and wait for the motivation to catch up....it seems too simple but just start doing it a little at a time and feed off the feeling of accomplishing sOmething, I think we spend so long trying to work out how to make it easier and really there is no easy way get into the habbit and enjoy the clean even if you dont enjoy the cleaning

Courtnee - posted on 09/06/2012

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My son is 19 months old. I have tried 3 diff antidepressants, and they all made my depression so much worse that I was on the verge of suicide.

Karen - posted on 09/06/2012

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How old is your baby? Could it be PPD resulting in the lack of energy? After my son was born I had ZERO energy, even after he turned a year old. I felt connect to my son, I wasn't emotional or anything like that. I just had no energy, no desire to clean or grocery shop etc but I still played wiht my son, my doc said it could still be PPD (Post Partem Depression). I thought he was nuts, but agreed to try something. He put me on an antidepressant, and I am a new woman!!!!! I have energy to get things done and I feel fantastic. I still Hate cleaning, but at least now I have the motivation just to get it done so my husband and son have a clean home to live in. Good luck!

Courtnee - posted on 09/06/2012

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I have the money to hire a maid, but my husband so wouldn't be ok with that. I should clean, it's my job. I was raised so that the man goes to work to provide, and the woman stays and cleans and raises the kids. And I completely agree with that... But I just never have the energy to do it, and it puts me in a bad mood. I just hate it.. :/

Beth - posted on 09/06/2012

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Do you have the money to hire cleaners? Some people just don't want to clean, and if you can't get yourself to do it, it still needs to get done, especially with kids in the house. Hiring outside help could make it more bearable for you to do the little things once in a while.

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