Cleaning all the time!!!

Anne-Marie - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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is it just me or does it seem that we are always cleaning, i clean the kitchen and the next day its a mess again, i clean the living room and within hours its a mess again, i ask my 8 year old to tidy her bedroom and all i get is 'Oh i dont want to' WELL i dont want to clean either!!! so sick of cleaning and tidying up arter my 3 kids and hubby, anyone else feel the same as me?

sorry for the rant just needed a moan :)

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Lothiriel - posted on 04/01/2011

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Yep. Which is why I clean, ONLY ONCE A DAY. and that is right after my kid goes to bed at 7:30. I wake up to a clean home every morning...and whatever gets dirty, will wait till 7:30. I will go crazy if I clean after every mess my kid and husband make! No way! Life's too short to spend it cleaning your home ALL DAY LONG.

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Naomi - posted on 04/21/2013

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I have no idea why kids do not grasp the idea of cleaning. Its so easy. I keep telling my four kids ranging from 8-2 that all they have to do pick their toys up after they play with them. Put their clothes in hampers when they are dirty and take their food for the older ones and scrap the food off in the garbage can. I feel like all my kids think I am is a maid. A mother is another existence in a far away land that often spends time with her children. As a child I cleaned up my messes helped my family by taking the garbage out, setting the table for dinner and wiping the table. I have no how to teach my kids to clean up after themselves without complaining, whining, or yelling that usually ends in nothing getting done in the first place.

April - posted on 04/03/2011

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I will be cleaning the kitchen while my two boys are off in another room making another disaster for me to clean up. I could pull my hair out.

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haha, i clean once a day too..after gabby goes to bed..if i tried to keep the place spotless the way i did before i had her...i would drive myself mad

Michelle - posted on 04/02/2011

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I know how you feel. I clean up a room and on average it takes an hour before the kids or husband have messed it up again. My kids are all 3 and under so they're not much help. My husband lets them get into stuff so he doesn't have to deal with it and then makes a big mess himself. I would leave the mess and let the husband deal with it but he doesn't care if it's a mess or not.

Sharon - posted on 04/02/2011

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Well Ladies have I got a surprise for u guys lmao... I woke up this morning to be greated with no baby no kids bothering me with head still on the pillow i opened one eye to check i wasnt dreaming my darling fiancee had takin the children (yes ladies i said children not child lol) out into our living room put a dvd on and proceeded to CLEAN the house 2 loads of laundry done n drying as we speak lol and its not even my birthdayhahaha. well as u can imagine i spent all morning in bed and everytime i taught i heard some1 i pretended to be asleep lol...

Sal - posted on 04/01/2011

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how on earth do you get the kitchen to stay clean until the next day???? that seems like an urban ledgend, i never seem to stop cleaning, my kids think i'm a very modern witch as i ride my vac around all day.....the house will never be clean and tidy and stay that way while i have kids home everyday, i know some of those weird people who always have a super clean house and i don;t know how they do it except they work have a cleaner and the kids are at school or at care 5 days a week, thats not the life i want....

Stifler's - posted on 04/01/2011

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i'd be teaching the kids to clean the house ahahaha. i know a chick with 4 kids and their house is immaculate... the kids have to clean up their own stuff.

Tarra - posted on 04/01/2011

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I know the feeling so well i just cant believe your kitchen stays clean untilthe next day though.(lol) I have a 8yr old boy, 2 3/4 yr old grl and a 18mth old boy, By eldest is a dumper, dump it on the floor and leave it - after asking 50 times they picked up, by 18mth old is a distroyer of everything and loves to spread the cheer (mess), and my 2 3/4 yr old will try to clean but makes more mess then we started with. We are mums; we vaccum 3 times a day, wake in the morning put on clean clothes and wear them dirty for the other 20 hours we are awake, have hair that take 10 brushings to get the rice bubbles or chocolate out and have hand that have layers of skin soming off each day and want to scream when we put them in water, but it will get easier one day nad just put the smile on your face when you imagin your husband doing a wk of it and hard he would find it. :-)

Sharon - posted on 04/01/2011

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I totally get you!!! i was only just saying it to my friend and we came to the conclusion "cleaning your house when you have young kids is like shoveling snow when its still snowing" so i decided that when my children are in bed i will clean a little so that the next day i dont have so much to do but by the time lunches are made and breakfast is done i may aswell have sat on my ass all night... And dont even get me started on the laundry basket aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa lol and when i ask my partner to do something he looks at me like ive just asked him to sell his soul to the Devil himself lol thanks for letting me rant feel much better now lol..

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2011

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Definitely not just you. I'd love to just stop but then I would live in filth and clutter because no one else cleans or picks up after themselves. Specifically DH. I did read: "Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing." (Phyllis Diller)

Angela - posted on 04/16/2010

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I think for me the hardest part of cleaning all the time is that it is not very much appreciated. All my friends work and I know they think my life is so easy. My husband comes home and has dinner, has a clean house and clean clothes, I do all the shopping, errands, etc. I use to be an Operations Manager for a large company and I swear being a stay at home Mom is much more work. At least when I worked outside the home I was able to have a lunch break and nine times out of ten I did not have to make my lunch and clean it all up! I love being at home with my 17 month old, I enjoy it! I just wish my friends, husband could really appreciate all I do. I tried once going on strike and all it did was make my hubby angry, he did not get my point except he did say he missed my cooking.......

Christine - posted on 04/16/2010

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gosh i feel the same way.every day im doing the same stuff over and over again and by the end of the day im stuffed.my partner used to say why are you tired you dont work..it pissed me off so bad that i refused to clean for a entire 3 days.doesnt sound like many days but when you have a 3yr old, my sis and my partner not doing anything at all it really made a difference..i think any stay at home parent has a full time job we dont get a break from the cleaning and cooking and looking after the kids.needless to say he helps around the house now finally.

Trina - posted on 04/15/2010

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Lots of us have the same issue re: cleanng behind our families. When my fiance want to call me and "vent" about his day, i politely say,hun call me back later i'm working. and he's like ok. Had to have talks w/ him to get to that pt to understand it's a job. There's a difference betwn being at home and hanging back vs. being at home and working, i.e. takin care of home. Before i became a work from home mom (recent), i'm a s-a-h-m. Ppl ask, and I say I'm a home-care manager or I'm C.O.O, chief operating officer. It comes down to balance, time management, appreciation, and motivation. I'm in the same boat as u all. Vent, it's necessary. U don't want to end up angry, bitter, resentful, or depressed. I know. In balance, make sure u do something that defines and validates who u are. We are not our skillets, nor the mop, nor sponge. Stay-@home moms (& dads) will remain an under appreciated area. There's a stigma and misconception.But shoot, i know at the end of the day, my body hurts as much as my guy's. I'm bending,lifting, and stretchn too. He's said my day's not as strenuous..but it's still a day. My job as COO requires that i'm on call 24/7. I go to work soon as my feet hit the floor. There's no glam, paycheck, employee of the month, or other accolades. Do i wish i had more than this new venture? heck yeah,for lots of reasons. i try to hold it together and excuse somethings. our daughter is 19 mo. but she wil learn to put her toys up. i got tired of the thrown clothes in our room. so of his uniforms, there's a separate bin in the corner for him to do all that it's his one responsible area for cleaning. on top of it all, my guy is sick, constantly but he pushes himself to go earn for us... so, i sigh deeply roll my eyes, fuss to the air, and pick up a dirty sock and etc. Be strong ladies, our famlies need us. and I need sleep. ... signing off.

Dina - posted on 04/15/2010

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I hear ya there. Any stay at home parent can relate to it and want to vent right along with you. Am a mother of an 11 year old boy and to my 41 year old husband. Cleaning it seems is always on going with no end in sight especially with older kids and all their friends making a mess along with your child. Husbands look at us at the end of the day with a look on their face of "Why are you so tired?" "You stay home all day I don't get it, what do you do with your time?" .... OK I just vented.....LOL

Medic - posted on 04/15/2010

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I know you are just ranting....and TRUST me I know your pain but since having my second child I seem to have come up with a better system I spend no more than 30 min a day cleaning if that and my house is CLEAN because I can't stand it not clean. I make my 3 year old clean his own room and he does every day before bed and he only takes out one set of toys at a time if hes not playing with it he puts it up, I pick up my room once in the morning and once right after I lay the baby down for bed. I clean the bathrooms as my son takes a bath or as I shower. I do the dishes as we use them and I do the floors two-three times a week depending on need. I have small hampers one for each person it is my sons job to put his clothes in it and tell me when its full and I pretty much have it worked into rotation that I do a load every other day. I fold it as it comes out and I hang up what needs to be hung at night. Now granted when my husbands home he does way more of the cleaning than I do so all of you ladies that complain about your husbands being messy atleast they are home not away fighting. I would take my husband home and being messy any day.

Alina - posted on 04/15/2010

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I feel the same way, too! I'm a live-in maid that my hubby gets to sleep with ;) My kids are four and two, and they both pick up better than Daddy does! My kids clean their own room, but if I have to tell them too many times to pick up a toy that's in the living room or hallway, it goes in the trash! My husband throws his clothes anywhere there's a clean surface in the bedroom, the same with his shoes. I waited TWO WEEKS for him to hang his clothes. I finally had to break and hang the things up myself YESTERDAY! Rant on sister!!!! We feel your pain . . .

Kristi - posted on 04/15/2010

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I feel like all I ever do is clean...but nothing ever gets done! I live in a very big, very old house, on a busy street. The staircase (which I'm about to clean today) can be swept one day and then look as if I've done nothing the next day. The dishes pile up from who knows where. The thought of laundry is laughable. Need I go on?!?!? My husband tries to help out when he can (usually when it gets so bad that it starts to bother him too). But to answer your question...yes, it's never-ending!

Carrie - posted on 04/15/2010

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I have found a site that has helped me with housework and keeping up the housework... check it out www.flylady.net ....check it out and see if it is for you...

Kel - posted on 04/15/2010

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Wow Jeanie, you are a powerhouse!! I do a top to bottom cleaning once a week. The rest of the week it's all I can do just to maintain...and I only have one child! Of course I do have a husband and an adult stepson living at home along with two dogs, a cat, turtle, fish, and a hamster....None of whom have the slightest idea how to pick up after themselves. My 8 year old daughter doesn't have the neatest room on the block, but it amazes me how her room is ALWAYS in better shape than her 24 year old brother's.

Jeanie - posted on 04/15/2010

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I know how you are feeling. I decided a few months ago that I wasn't going to do a darn thing for two days just to see what happened. It ended up taking me a week to straighten everything back out. As for your 8 year old- I clean my 10 year olds room once a week. He knows that when i go in I take a trash bag and if something isn't where it is supposed to be it gets trashed. Now. I have this system set up to where I clean the whole house on Mondays, Wed, and Fridays (that is top to bottom cleaning.) On tuesdays and Thursdays I just do dishes and sweep and mop. Saturdays I pick up the the toys that are lying around the living room. And all is happy.

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omg i was just saying that today last night and day b4.... i feel like a full time maid!! i got 3 kids bf that dont know how to clean up after himself 2 dogs. and they are all slobs!!! frickin hate it. Everyday i clean same shit!! pardon my language...

Angela - posted on 04/15/2010

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I feel your pain! Can I rant with you? It just seems to never end and drives me crazy! What is worse my husband feels that since I am a stay at home Mom it is my job to clean his words not mine! once in a while he will fold clothes or do some dishes but it is a once a month thing.

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