considering going back to school but am too dependent on my husband who is not supportive

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I have always been a "late bloomer" and now at 29 and a mother to a 15 month old living on the priarie in middle america, I now want to obtain a higher education. After graduating from high school and only finishing 1 year of college I decided at that time school was not for me. That was 8 years ago, hence the late bloomer. But now after having my son I realize how important it is to educate yourself. And there really is so much I want to learn about and I can't stop reading! I want to be self-sufficent and travel but first you have to make money! Desk jobs that I've had in the past are not going to do anymore! I am done with those! I love the arts and would love to study art history but I've been told nothing i the art industry will make you 'real' money. I have a true interest in animals and want to study animal behaviour. The two people who are supposed to be closest to me are saying college is not necessary, "just read books" they say. Mind you they both do not have a degree. But everyone else in the world is saying go to school!! It's an accomplishment and that shows for something!! Plus learning from a teaher has benefits that learning outside a classroom does not, right? But being a stay at home mom who has a very frugal husband who does not believe in school or more debt. Which makes living my dream seem impossible, and my independence further out of reach. My husband is not a modern man. He wants to live on the prairie forever farming and ranching. I do not. I've considered being a single mom and working and going to school and living my dream even though that would be really hard. But I dont know if Im ready for all of that.
I hope my son will take education seriously. I dont want him or I to be out on the priaire for the rest of our lives. Please, This is NOT a 'pity me' post, I just want to hear from all of you moms who have gone to school and had no support. How did you do it? Was it worth it, all the time spent away from family and debt? Or can one just read books related to the subject and learn just as much and go out in the world and prosper?

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Tabitha - posted on 08/15/2011

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i am a stay at home mom and i do a lot of classes online and fafsa pays for it. once i run out of online classes then i will start going on campus and do day care.

Tabitha - posted on 08/15/2011

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go back to school and get help from the state. my school is paid for by fafsa. they also have programs for assisted day care so you can go full time.

Jennifer - posted on 08/12/2011

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I am a SAHM and I am in school. My husband works. He is also in school. It is the best decision I ever made. We are lucky because my in-laws watch our son while I'm in school and my husband is working. My husband watches him when he's not working or in school. It all works out great for us. There are so many options for school now on the internet that if daycare is not an option and you don't have enough help to watch your son, you don't have to even leave the house. If you really want it, you can make it work. In the end, you will have so many more options and opportunities that the time and money is worth it. Also, you can get grants and not have to pay for anything.

Karen - posted on 08/11/2011

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Hi Jessica, there are lots of options available to go to school. You can apply for government grants and financial aid to help pay for school. Also, most schools offer online classes. I say go for it, but have all the information to show your husband. I am a 31 y/o SAHM to a 3 year old, and have #2 on the way, and I am going to school full time, while my husband works.
Just a quick question, would you really leave your husband to be able to go to school? It sounds like there are other issues that may need to be addressed before you make a decision. Being a single mom and working will not leave a lot of time for school. If anything, you'll end up not going to school at all. Make sure you think long and hard about what is really important to you and your family.

Britt - posted on 08/11/2011

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Get the education and job your want to pursue, if you do the job you love its really not considered work.

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2011

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Are their stay-at-home moms who go to school while the husbands work? My husband does not believe in daycare but I am not totally against it. Am I asking for too much to consider school in the near future?

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