cos he works !!!

Louise - posted on 08/09/2010

This one is easily solved! The next day off the boyfriend has you prepare everything for your child and leave him in charge for the day whilst you go out. Leave him a list of what needs to be done and off you go. After two hours of a screaming demanding baby he will be kissing your feet when you come home. If he protests that you are going out remind him that there is nothing to this stay at home lark you just put your feet up all day remember. Give him a shot of reality!

Gemma - posted on 08/09/2010

hugs to you both! Thats horrible, you have two choices here ladies, either... Talk to him, tell him how his behaviour is making you feel, OR, for one day, do nothing unless it is baby related, let him see what the home would look like if u did nothing all day! Go out shopping with the baby or go to the park, and just chill out for a day, when he comes home, inform him that you and baby have had your dinner and he will need to sort his own out. (i advise dirtying every plate before he has to do this so he needs to wash them up before he can eat!)

I remember asking my DH to help out on his day off and he was reluctant, i understand that he works hard but so do i, his response was "its my day off" my response was "im on call 24 hours a day 7 days a week with a child to look after a house to run, when do i get a day off?" i wrote down a list of all the things i had done that day, tidying toys, sorting out breakfast lunch and dinner for kids, changing bums, bathing kids clothing kids, doing laundry, doing ironing, tidying up, dusting hooveing, washing windows and skirting boards etc etc and he soon changed his tune. If you want help u gotta ask cause i genuinely dont think men notice the little things that need done!
I had to threaten to leave mine, trying to explain to him that he was making me feel like a single parent. Because of that i also explained that because of the extra work he created for me on a day to day basis it would be easier for me in terns of workload if he wasnt around! and i wouldnt be stressed about him not doing anything because he wouldnt be here to make me stressed.

so try a little communication and if it that doesnt work its time to play hardball ladies, you deserve RESPECT LOVE HELP APPRECIATION AND UNDERSTANDING! Don't settle for anything else!!!! Good luck!
Gemma xxx

Stifler's - posted on 08/09/2010

you just wrote my life. bahaha. my boyfriend wakes me up at 430AM to ask where his clothes are etc when they are under his nose, wakes the baby up in the process, thinks i should make his lunch and do all the cleaning and cooking and parenting. comes home at 630PM and thinks tea should be on the table baby should be fed and in bed and i should wash up while he watches tv then i should come to bed to cuddle and not get pissed off when the baby wakes 12 times a night because "i have all day to sleep". and yeah we never have sex or go out or do anything other than watch tv/movies/downloaded tv series/eat cob loaf and play uno at friends places/travel to faraway places which are boring and i'm sick of hearing how people lurrrve being a mommy and they wouldn't change a thing and it's the best job in the world blah blah blah.