Cuddling With My 6 Year Old Son?

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My oldest son Asher is 6 years old, he and I love to cuddle with each other on the couch or in bed while watching tv and we eventually fall asleep together. Out of my 3 sons Asher is very affectionate and loves when I give him hugs and kisses when we cuddle, he also loves to lay his head on my bare belly and kiss it. But my Mother In Law thinks it is wrong and inappropriate for a mother and son to cuddle. I think she is wrong and my husband supports me 100% my son and I will continue cuddle and give each other hugs & kisses.

What do you think?

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Bobbi Jo - posted on 12/30/2011

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Keep doing it!! My sons are 5 and 6 and we do the same thing in our house, sometimes their dad will pull the bed out of the couch, watch and fall asleep with the boys. As I am writing this my 5 year old came up to me and said "Mommy I love you!". It just means you have a great bond with your child(ren), don't let anyone tell you anything else!!!

Jenny - posted on 05/17/2011

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I think cuddling is a great! I still cuddle with my 11 year old daughter and so does dad. When I have to go out of town for business she wants to sleep in our bed for security and I feel thats fine. If we teach our children love i okay they grow up to be loving people with a caring side. My mother in law also worries about dad and daughter snuggling she thinks it's wrong but we are there parents and love is part of our job!! Keep snuggling and enjoy this time for one day he will grow out of it. Do what your heart tells you and not what the world does. I snuggled with my dad as a child and a teenager and I'm perfectly fine. Now that my dad is gone I miss that little time we had.

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My son is the same age and he and I love to do the same thing. In fact, you could have been writing about my son instead of yours!! I say keep it up! Cherish this time and be thankful he is so affectionate. Some day he will make a great husband and be affectionate and romantic with his wife. You and he are doing nothing wrong. Didn't your mother-in-law cuddle her son when he was young? If not, I feel sorry for your husband and for her as they missed out.

Chrissie - posted on 05/15/2011

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It's his love language. Some people feel you love them when you give them gifts or $. Some people feel you love them by saying it. Some people need affection. My son is 5 and he loves hugs and kisses as well. He will pop up out of the middle of no where and say "mom" and I'll say "what baby" and he says "I love you" =]
Kids NEED affection. I say she's crazy. As long as he's not 13 and wanting to take a shower with you I don't see a problem.

Michelle - posted on 05/15/2011

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carry on think she is being very silly my oldest son is 7 and he still likes a cuddle and kiss comes up in the morning to bed and cuddles ignore her.

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Hannah - posted on 01/04/2012

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My 8 year old son and I still cuddle every night when I tuck him in. He's not much for kisses anymore, and hugs seems to be going away too. So I'll hold on to his cuddles at night as long as I can!!

Bobbi Jo - posted on 12/30/2011

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Keep doing it!! My sons are 5 and 6 and we do the same thing in our house, sometimes their dad will pull the bed out of the couch, watch and fall asleep with the boys. As I am writing this my 5 year old came up to me and said "Mommy I love you!". It just means you have a great bond with your child(ren), don't let anyone tell you anything else!!!

Cellini Toni - posted on 05/20/2011

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There's nothing wrong with cuddling & kissing your son..We should cherish & savor these moments because 1 day our sons are gonna outgrow all these..i cuddle & kiss my 4 - year old son every moment that I have..& I will hold on to it for as long as I can..It's 1 of the best things in the world - just lying in bed & cuddling..Don't mind your ML, some people are just not affectionate..

April - posted on 05/18/2011

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I think cuddling with your children is great! Keep on Cuddling! They will always need Love, care, attention & precious affection!

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I love cuddling, hugging, and kissing my sons. Asher when we cuddle always says "I love you mommy"

Stifler's - posted on 05/18/2011

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I give my kid cuddles and kisses heaps and tell him I love him a few times during the day. I don't think this is weird or wrong. Logan has learned how to blow raspberries on our arms, legs and bellies like we do to his belly lol

Amanda - posted on 05/17/2011

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There is nothing better in this world thank giving and getting love from your child. I cuddled with my sons when they were that age and now my 13 y/o gives me a hug and kiss (on the cheek) everyday when he leaves for school, comes home from school and goes to bed, all 3 of my kids do. My kids know that I am a safe place for them no matter what goes on in their lives. They are much more open with me than most kids are at that age, and I believe that part of the reason they are is because I have always showed them my unconditional love. Cuddles and all!

Julie - posted on 05/17/2011

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I think that's beautiful,I have a 5ry old & we are the same,time just goes way to fast let's enjoy them.

Cynthia - posted on 05/17/2011

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I cant believe cuddling is an issue....ur mom in law has issues....hugs n kisses from mama are awesome...any kid will tell u that....glad 2 hear hubby is supportive....dont ever let anyone put doubts in ur head when it comes 2 love....especially towards boys...with moms like u there will b more compassionate n empathetic men in this world so thank u 4 raising boys who love 2 cuddle...4 the future of my girls...

Andrea - posted on 05/17/2011

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Cuddle him!! I have a 8 year old son and we cuddle all the time! I hope and pray when he is a grown man he will hold me and hug me just the same as he does now. I am 26 years old and I hold and hug my mom and dad just as I did when I was a child. If someone thinks thats strange, they sound like they has a personal problem. ;-) Deep down we all long to be cuddled and held. We only live on this earth once, I think if parents cuddled their children more these days our youth would be so much better off. :-)

Chey - posted on 05/17/2011

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wow how can you even see this as wrong!? thats crazy... thats bonding... smdh... I mean maybe if he was like 15 or something lol

Charlene - posted on 05/17/2011

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have you heard about the 5 love languages? your son's love language is physical touch. I see nothing wrong with cuddling your *baby*

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that is so sweet Jenny, I cuddled with my mom and dad growing up, I remember being 15 and still cuddled with my father. and my older brother has 9 year old daughter and they cuddle all the time too. I love your post Jenny :)

Michelle - posted on 05/17/2011

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your mil probably comes from the thinking that my father came from. he felt it was weird for parents to snuggle and cuddle with their kids once they get to a certain age. just something our society sees different from years past. He will let you know when he feels it is inappropriate long before you do, unfortunatley. i hope its a long time, cuz my baby boy is 5!

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Thank you so much Jessica. My son is a mama's boy too and he loves being with me all the time, he and I love the special bond we have together.

Jessica - posted on 05/16/2011

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My son and I do the same thing! he is a mama's boy and loves cuddle time with me...there is something wrong with her if she thinks its wrong or inappropriate! its a great thing to have such a special and strong bond that you have with him so more power to you keep it up he likes his special time with his mom!

Dawn - posted on 05/16/2011

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I think your husband ROCKS! I have 2 boys (7 & 5) and I ask them ALL the time if the get enough hugs & kisses and they always say they could use more, so you go girl!! CUDDLE AWAY!!

Dawn McDevitt
http://www.AllKidsMatter.com
Helping Moms Work from Home Since 1999

Lana - posted on 05/16/2011

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It doesn't matter what choices you make as a parent some people will think you are doing a wonderful thing and others will find issue with it. If you, your husband and son are good with it enjoy it while it lasts.

Lori - posted on 05/16/2011

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His love language is physical touch. Keep hugging him! Have you read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

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Thank you so much Shellee, it does feel really good that Will supports me and has my back on this. To me it is a very special when Asher and I cuddle.

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i think it is very special when when a mother and son do that. normally kids these days think we really do have coodies. lol i say keep cuddling as long as you can. i think there would be something wrong if he didnt want to cuddle. i still cuddle with my mom and im 19 years old but i am a girl and not affraid of showin my mommy some love. you are in the RIGHT!!! and its awesome that your husband supports you. thats gotta feel real good.

Kimberly - posted on 05/16/2011

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i love to cuddle with my son i hope to god he never thinks he is to big at age 6. i am very affectionatet like that. i make sure i give a thousand kisses a day, and a million little bear hugs lol.

Celeste - posted on 05/16/2011

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Nothing wrong with that at all, and enjoy it for as long as he is happy to do it. Your little boy (as well as you) will only benefit from this loving relationship now and in the future, so dont let anything or anyone put you off being affectionate with your children - boy or girl! All the best :)

Carmina - posted on 05/15/2011

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its beautiful some people just lack affection and dont understand it, my son and i am the same and i hope we can still cuddle on the couch when hes a grown man and im an old lady lol :)

Jane - posted on 05/15/2011

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Cuddle him while you can. Very soon he will discover that "real boys" don't cuddle, and he will be off on his adventure towards manhood.

Generally by third grade boys push mom away.

Savannah - posted on 05/15/2011

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I don't think it's wrong at all! I think there might be an "age appropriate" time, but 6 years old isn't it! Everyone is different with what's "inappropriate," some people think it's OK for family to kiss on the lips, some don't, some people think it's wrong to let your kid sleep in the bed with you, some don't. In the end it's up to you and your husband with how you want to raise your child.

Jenn - posted on 05/15/2011

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Your MIL is wrong - my son is 5 and he loves to cuddle with me too. I love it and try to enjoy it as much as possible because I'm sure it won't be long before he's too cool for cuddling with Mom.

Laetitia - posted on 05/15/2011

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i dont see a problem, my younger brother was the same with our mother, he is 17 now and he is still affectionate with her, ... he has severe anxiety issues due to attempted abduction when he was 2 so he needed that extra attention and it still affects hi now and gets severe anxiety attacts, i think if a child wants cuddles its always best to do it, girl or boy, my husband thinks a boy shouldnt from a young age, but i think all children regardless the gender thrive on it.... my little brother now is a really good kids, mums never even had him disrepect her in anyform, and he likes to stop and help old people get carry things in the shops when he knows they are struggling... i

Candice - posted on 05/15/2011

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Showing affection will now will be a great learning aid later when he starts to date...he will understand that it is nice to be loving and gentle with the opposite sex...who doesnt want a good man that will give great hugs??

Brandi - posted on 05/15/2011

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i wish my kids would cuddle with me! i have 3 boys, 9, 6, and 9months, enjoy it while it lasts! as for there grandma she is crazy! children are put on this earth for cuddles, hugs, and kisses!

Ruth - posted on 05/15/2011

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Theres nothing wrong with it my Sons will be 4 and 6 in June and I cuddle with them as much as I can and Jarred has kissed my belly a ton of time lately as his little brother is Due on Tuesday so he always kisses my belly befor he leaves for school, It is wonderful your little guy is this way, Boys are brought up two hard now days!!

Toni - posted on 05/15/2011

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I would continue. I think that the more cuddle/love time they get, the better off they are. :)

Judy - posted on 05/15/2011

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I will cuddle with my kids for as long as they want, and no one can sway me. They're only little for so long, and we will reach a point where they won't want to anymore. I'll enjoy all the snuggles I can get! :)

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I think that is what a lot of kids are missing today. Cuddle and snuggle as long as he will. My 15 year old son swore he would never reject a kiss from me no matter how "uncool" it was. At 14, he rejected a kiss because his friends were around. I "died" of heart break right there. Embarrassed him so bad. I even laid on the ground and twitched. He walked away. I stood up and yelled he was to big to kiss his mother. Hasn't happened since. My kids will know they are loved. Everyone will know my kids are loved. I don't care what anyone says. My kid isn't going to secretly be so angry and/or depressed that he kills all his classmates. I am also very involved in their relationships. They are open with me and I with them. I'm doing the same thing with my 3 year old. The only difference is, my X wouldn't let us share beds, but with 5 babies in 3 years, I understand. Noah gets to do the share bed thing. He is a totally different spirit. I like.

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It seems a lot of people from older generations have strange hang-ups about affection and breastfeeding and just everything. I don't know where it comes from, but I suspect it's a hold-over from the Victorian Age -- or maybe Freud?



I've heard some crazy stuff that Victorians used to believe: like a mother co-sleeping with an infant son will cause him to be gay, or fall in love with the mother.



Anyway, enjoy your cuddles and wonderful bond, and only start worrying if he wants to kiss your belly when he's 17, not 7. Infinitely more likely, at that age he won't even want to be seen with you, so enjoy it while it lasts, mama! They grow up so fast.

Angelique - posted on 05/15/2011

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I thik you are teaching your son how to be affectionat and gentle and loving towards women which is necessary. I thinkyou are doing the righ thing. Besides they grow up so fast and times like that are so precious. I cuddle with all my girls!!! Good for you!! Especially good that your husband supports you.

Carly - posted on 05/15/2011

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Cuddle cuddle cuddle! You and your son are so lucky. Please don't listen to your MIL, I will be cuddling my kids until they are 20 if they let me! Not enough love in this world...

Alice - posted on 05/15/2011

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nothing is wrong with that!!!!! ur mother in law is crazy lol, if he is 20 and still doing it then be worried but u only get this time once when he is older he aint going to want to cuddle so go for it!!

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