Daily Schedule...Housecleaning

Kalley - posted on 06/02/2010 ( 125 moms have responded )

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I have a 6 week old baby girl and my husband has been commenting on the lack of housework I do while I'm home with her. It has been overwhelming but over the weekend I tried to make up a schedule so that I can get some things done during the day. Yesterday was the first day (he works t-sat) and it worked pretty well. I was surprised by how much I was able to get done, but my daughter was in the swing most of the day in order for me to do so. I'm just wondering if any of you abide by a scheduled day to get things done and/or what your days look like, especially if you have a young baby or are a first time mom like me...but I'd love to hear from veteran moms too!!

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I have daily and weekly goals. You can't really expect to have a perfect house when you have a little one that needs you. But you can keep a tidy-enough house with a little effort. I do think your husband needs to realize that you caring for you baby is more important than a perfect house. To give you an idea, here is what I try to do daily and weekly. Keep in mind, my baby is 2, not 6 weeks old. So I have a little more flexibility than you. Plus, it's taken me 2 years to get to this point!



Daily:

Cook meals

Dishes cleaned and put away (at night after bedtime)

Kitchen floor swept and counter tops wiped down (again, after bedtime)

One bathroom wiped down (we have 2, so I alternate...and when your baby gets older, you can do this during bathtime)

Toys put away (2 year old is really responsible for that)





Weekly:

House vacuumed and mopped

Dust

Sheets changed on all beds

Grocery shopping



And then once a month or so, I clean out a closet or reorganize the cabinets. And laundry gets done on an as needed basis. It's not daily, but usually every three days or so I'll do a couple of loads.



But most of this stuff gets done during naps or after my daughter has gone to bed for the night. When she's up, it's her time.

Kristin - posted on 06/02/2010

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Dishes were done daily, floors swept as needed (same with mopping but less frequent), vacuum as needed, bathroom all of it weekly and spot cleaned as needed. Until I got a washer and dryer, it was weekly, now as needed.



Frankly, if my husband was foolish enough to comment, he would be in charge of getting it done until the kid was old enough to entertain themself for a 20 minute stretch. If you are breastfeeding (especially with those night feeds) cut yourself some slack and focus on getting the rest you need and healing up. You can go about doing whatever you need to do during the day. Bub's may really enjoy being in a carrier while you are vacuuming or sweeping. Just leave the pile o'debris until baby is out of the carrier. When ours were that little, I gave myself twenty minutes 2 to 4 times a day to do housework. I even went so far as to set a timer with our second. The first was ~30 months, so not so good at being unsupervised for long stretches.



One thing that will really help you is to explain to your husband just what happens while he is at work. It isn't as though you are sitting on your bum eating chocolates all day. You are constantly feeding, burping, dressing, changing, cleaning, and soothing an infant. Repeat this cycle about four thousand times and that's your day. Yes, your daughter may take naps, but she may need lots of snuggles and holding. Right now, it's ALL about her and her needs. She is learning to trust that you will ALWAYS come when she needs you. That is infinitely more important than the dishes or floors.



If it is really important that this stuff get done for him. Clean on the weekend when he is home and can care for baby. You are only available for feedings and only if you are breastfeeding. No, he may not park her in a bouncy seat or swing. He must actually parent his child. Sometimes a taste of your day is just what is needed to rebalance the daily household chores.



Most of all, this will pass and you will get more time to do what you need to do as she gets older. Just be patient and enjoy the closeness you get to have now.

PATRICIA - posted on 06/02/2010

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Why would he make comments on it? you have a new baby and your sleep deprived. I have 2 kids and i tidy when the nap and tidy before bed, But only if (i) feel like it. If you hubby wants it done on his terms, tell him to hop to it!

Elisabeth - posted on 06/02/2010

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Good to hear you’re putting some effort in. I'm can't stand people using children as an excuse to have a messy house. It’s nice for everyone in your family including yourself if you keep your home clean and tidy. I have a daily schedule and a weekly schedule. My daily schedule includes the usual, prepare meals, laundry and 2 ‘power hours’. One in the morning that includes making beds, wiping down bathroom benches and so on. And one just before your husband gets home that includes vacuuming and mopping, cleaning up toys, wiping counter tops etc. Then my weekly schedule I clean a zone a day.



Zone 1 - Kitchen/dining/laundry

Zone 2 - Master bedroom/ensuite/office/hallway/bathroom 2

Zone 3 - Bedroom 2/bedroom 3/bedroom 4/ hall

Zone 4 - Bar/family/games room/formal dining/formal lounge,

Zone 5 - Outdoors/garden/car/windows/pool



You have to remember to clean small things when you clean each zone like the top of doorframes, marks on walls, light switches. You will find if you do this frequently it will stay a small job instead of turning into a large one. I find it takes me two hours on each zone, so between that and cooking and power hours I clean for about 5 or 6 hours a day. This might be a bit to much for you, it depends on how long your husband is away, mine is away for at least 12 hours a day which is why I spend so much time cleaning because it still leaves me with a good 6 hours to spend with my children, playing and so on. Or other things that need doing like grocery shopping. Just find a balance for you, if you can only spend 3 hours a day cleaning, spread the zones over ten days instead of just 5. Or shorten the power hour to half an hour each, anyway you get my point, sorry it’s so long. Try going to www.flylady.net Good luck.

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I've never had a true "schedule" but I do make lists. It was too hard for me to keep to a cleaning schedule I just couldn't stick to it for hundreds of little reasons. Instead, I make a list each night of things I want to accomplish the next day. Some things are everyday things, like making the beds, cleaning the kitchen, and "preschool" with my son. Other things are done weekly, but it doesn't matter what day they get done on, like bathrooms, dusting, windows, laundry, vacuuming (I HATE vacuuming), walls, switch plates, knobs and baseboards. And I also put appointments and errands on the list, like TKD classes, ball games, Dr appts. etc.



Monday, all of the chores go on the list, and I do as many of them as I can. This is my "stay in the house day" since we are usually out a lot over the weekend and cabin fever won't set in, plus my house is usually trashed b/c I don't clean much on weekends (family time). I also try to avoid play dates and story times on Mondays so I have lots of time to clean.



Tuesday, We have storytime & TKD, so I put those on there as well as the daily stuff and any weekly chores from Monday that didn't get done.



Wednesday, if any weekly chores are left, they go on the list. Most of them are done by Wednesday, so I usually go to the grocery store and I tend to schedule play dates, story times and other appointments on Wednesday or Thursday.



Thursday is my "relax day." I rarely have any weekly chores left by Thursday, so I do the daily ones early and spend the rest of the day at the pool or park. Or, if I need non grocery items, we will visit the mall, downtown, or Target and not have to hurry. (also good day for errands, play dates, story times and other appts.)



Hubby comes home early on Fridays, so I catch laundry up for the weekend and do the daily stuff before he comes home, then we all chill together.



Saturday and Sunday are Family days. I don't do anything but the "must do" chores, like making the bed and keeping the kitchen clean, on weekends. The rest of that time is spend out playing together. :)

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Carrie - posted on 06/15/2011

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p.s. it's a little overwhelming right now but once you and the baby are sleeping more it gets to be easier to handle. It seems to be to much to handle right now but you're also not in the best frame of mind when you're sleep deprived. It takes time and practice

Carrie - posted on 06/15/2011

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I have a 5 year old and as 101/2 month old. I have split my chores into days of the week. Most of my stuff gets done while my youngest naps so they have my attention most of the day. my 5 yo helps when she's interested, so we have time together. I find doing a few things a day is the best way to handle it.

ex:

Monday I scrub the kitchen counters and floor

Tuesday i do the kids laundry

Wednesday I do bed sheet changes and pick up the kids rooms

Thursday and Friday I do mine and Hubby's laundry so he's got clothes for most of the week

Friday I clean the bathrooms and every other friday grocery shopping

Saturday and Sunday are our family days so I only do dishes and cook those days



It also leave me room in case I have an errand I need to run during the day and don't get to everything I am not overwhelmed.

Laura - posted on 06/15/2011

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I have a whole wall of cleaning lists that I do everyday and I do follow them. I also do everything else around here from cooking to cleaning to buying the groceries. It is hard when you have a newborn baby and your sleep deprived he can't expect you to do it all your not a super hero you do need help and he should help you I mean its the least he could so you did have his kid and went through the long intnse labour.

Casey - posted on 06/15/2011

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i honestly think that with a six WEEK old, you should tell him to give you a break. Your body has been through hell, your mind still blanks about stuff, you're sleep deprived and probably two days over due for a shower. Tell him if it bugs him that much , then he can do it until you and baby have figured routine, sleeping and general well being. Otherwise you will do it when you can. :)

Christy - posted on 06/15/2011

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It's very good to work out a schedule for your housecleaning! Your baby girl may not cooperate in the swing on a regular basis for you. Some other ideas are to take her with you into the room you're working on and just lay her on the floor or while she's not rolling, on the bed. Floor time is good for baby! Since we don't let babies sleep on their tummy, tummy time while they're awake is good.

Do you have a sling or front carrier? If she's fussy, carrying her on you hands free makes it so you can still accomplish things around the house.

The thing that works best for me to is to clean as I go. While I'm cooking dinner, clean up around the kitchen. When I get up from a room, take something with me to put it away. This makes the "housework" portion of cleaning much easier. It would also be helpful to teach hubby to do the same! I get frustrated if I have to do a lot of clean up from messes my hubby has made.

Cory - posted on 06/15/2011

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MMmmm.. I'm fortunate that my husband has NEVER complained about my lack of housework while caring for a newborn! *He would cease to live quite frankly. Anyway, a scedule is a good start BUT, don't beat yourself up if you don't get to everything everyday. The care & well being of your precious newborn is the main focus. So, what if there's a few stray dishes lying around or maybe the vacuum has been neglected here/there.. ! Time is fleeting & lets face it the "mess" will still be there tomorrow.. Spend all the time you can w/ your lil one... If your husband has anything to say.. Give him a shot at taking care of the house & lil. miss to see what he gets accomplished ! I go to work part-time to keep my sanity.. ! Good Luck

Lisaandjordan2000 - posted on 03/24/2011

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I am giving my husband a big hug when he gets home. He gets home from work at 5:30 pm to ensure he can have time with his 3 boys. I am making dinner when he gets home and he just takes over with the boys. We alternate nights of bathing and putting the boys to bed, and on my bath nights hubby sometimes gets out the vacuum. He knows the hard work that goes into my day because he has done it too. For those of you with complaining husbands, figure out your cleaning schedule and turn it into a roster with HIS name on it too. Personally I do need a schedule to get organised and to ensure things are getting done that may be ignored. Life is too short to stress about it though and time with your kids is more precious than a shining house. Also, if your kid is having a nap don't waste your time doing housework then. This is time to yourself which should be spent doing just that. Even complaining husbands get lunch breaks from work!

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all I can say is i'm happy to have a husband who isn't afraid to pick up a dust pan and do some cooking too! I have 4 kids ages 4 and under (including 6 month old twin boys) no nanny, although that would be nice. Having a routine IS the best thing. Meal planning is my biggest challenge so I plan the weekly meals on Sunday and try to stick to it so I'm not stressed out trying to cook something while babies are crying and the 3 yr old is needing me to wipe her butt. Having a packed freezer with casseroles is HUGE for us. about the cleaning house part, I try to remember what my mother always says " the kids are only little for a while, time is precious with them, when they are gone in 20 years you'll have all the time in the world to clean your house"

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all I can say is i'm happy to have a husband who isn't afraid to pick up a dust pan and do some cooking too! I have 4 kids ages 4 and under (including 6 month old twin boys) no nanny, although that would be nice. Having a routine IS the best thing. Meal planning is my biggest challenge so I plan the weekly meals on Sunday and try to stick to it so I'm not stressed out trying to cook something while babies are crying and the 3 yr old is needing me to wipe her butt. Having a packed freezer with casseroles is HUGE for us. about the cleaning house part, I try to remember what my mother always says " the kids are only little for a while, time is precious with them, when they are gone in 20 years you'll have all the time in the world to clean your house"

Andrea - posted on 03/18/2011

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The trick is 15 minutes at a time, and don't let things pile up. So do the breakfast dishes straight after breakfast, lunch dishes straight after lunch and so on. But a little and often, working around babies needs will work wonders. Oh and baskets!! I kept a basket in every room and when I did a tidy up everything went into the basket which I then put away in the next lot of 15 that I got. Also as weird as it sounds, swish your toilet (quickly) and give your bathroom a superquick wipe every day which means no scrubbing for hours! Check out the flylady site. flylady.com SMART lady!!


At 6 weeks I was barely functioning and showering let alone keeping the house spotless to I'd tell hubby to mind his until he has walked a mile in your shoes!

Michelle - posted on 03/16/2011

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I have a 3, 2, and 3 month old. I have a loose schedule of what I try to get done. I have a few things each day that have to be done (laundry and dishes) for our basic survival and some things that I try to get to every day (living room). I've also been trying out that flylady.com. It has been working pretty well so far. I tried baby wearing with my middle daughter and the swing and bouncer with my oldest son. Fly lady is the closest I've come to something that works so far for schedules. It's important to be realistic with yourself. There's only so much that can actually be done. Then you prioritize. Don't be too hard on yourself if stuff doesn't get done. Remember you're one person. You can't do it all and you're not perfect (nobody is). Good luck.

Dawn - posted on 03/16/2011

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I have three boys in school and an infant daughter and I have no choice but to stick to my schedule. However I put my daughter in a sling and that way we chat while vacuuming, sing while doing dishes, and smile at each other while folding clothes. No one expects it to look perfect when you are done. My husband jokes if the clothes look heaped that I must have been dancing with Amber when I did those. LOL

Caitlyn - posted on 03/16/2011

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Well first of all... your hubby needs to take a step back for a second and realize the workload your under. It's hard for both men and women to understand eachothers daily routines especially when hubby is knackered after work and your tired too. I've got a 16 month old boy and am due for a scheduled c section for bub number 2 in 4 days (eek) but all I can say is to do little bits and pieces everyday but if u can try and do it so you can have 1 day at least free of housework... maybe on a day when hubby has a day off!!! I aim to have my little jobs done before hubby comes home from work so then we can spend some time together but at the end of the day your first priority is your baby! for example one day you may vaccumm and sweep, the next, washing clothes, the next may be dusting and cleaning bathrooms etc... if you keep to a routine like that the housework doesnt seem as daunting and you still have plenty of time to spend with your daughter and hubby is happy too! Enjoy as much time with your little one before she starts getting into all sorts of mischief! :)

Lydia - posted on 03/16/2011

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baby wearing is great to get some things done.
schedule can help you to get things done, but i never did stick to any schedule... i kind of go with the flow. i would not trade quality with my baby for housework on a regular basis. they grow up so fast, you have to enjoy every moment when they're little. what helped me to stay on top of things is to get rid of as much clutter as you can and always clean up stuff right away - so things don't pile up. i when i carry my baby around one of the best things to do is to clean up all the small stuff flying around (coffee cups, hubby's socks etc, newspapers...) and put away dry dishes etc... so that when she is playing happily by herself for 10-20 minutes i can quickly vacuum or clean the dust. I try not to clean when she naps, naptime is me-time!

Jamie Lynn - posted on 03/16/2011

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Hi Kalley, I have a schedule as well for chores! I am a working single parent and I realized early on how important it was to get a routine down not only for myself but for my child as well. Your doing the right thing...try and put all your chores on one or two days a week so that you have more play time with your daughter. Take breaks in between too so that she isn't in her swing all day and so that your not overwhelmed with the chores! As she gets older you can change it up! My daughter is six so she is a big part of our weekly chore schedule. In fact she reminds me everyday what needs to be done and she is a great helper! She helps decorating the list and picking out what needs to be done. She enjoys it and therefore I enjoy it too and I do not feel guilty for spending time cleaning my home and doing chores! I would also recommend that you assign a few things for your husband as well. It's all about compromise. He has a job but so do you, your a full time mommy and that is a major responsibility! It is important that he is also involved in the house chores when he has down time too! It's good for your daughter to see daddy helping out mommy! Also, make sure you have down times for yourself...even if its while she naps :) Hope this was helpful, welcome to the mommy world!

Jamie Lynn - posted on 03/16/2011

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Hi Kalley, I have a schedule as well for chores! I am a working single parent and I realized early on how important it was to get a routine down not only for myself but for my child as well. Your doing the right thing...try and put all your chores on one or two days a week so that you have more play time with your daughter. Take breaks in between too so that she isn't in her swing all day and so that your not overwhelmed with the chores! As she gets older you can change it up! My daughter is six so she is a big part of our weekly chore schedule. In fact she reminds me everyday what needs to be done and she is a great helper! She helps decorating the list and picking out what needs to be done. She enjoys it and therefore I enjoy it too and I do not feel guilty for spending time cleaning my home and doing chores! I would also recommend that you assign a few things for your husband as well. It's all about compromise. He has a job but so do you, your a full time mommy and that is a major responsibility! It is important that he is also involved in the house chores when he has down time too! It's good for your daughter to see daddy helping out mommy! Also, make sure you have down times for yourself...even if its while she naps :) Hope this was helpful, welcome to the mommy world!

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Try different kinds of baby wearing. Remember they are only little for a short while hold them as much as you want now. (Just try not to have a pig sty for a home)

Misty - posted on 06/09/2010

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I am a first time mom of an 8 month old and I have to admit, in the beginning I was completely overwhelmed when came to balancing spending with my baby and my household chores. I eventually came up with a schedule that works pretty well for me. I try to take care of most of my chores while my son is napping, that way I don't take away from the quality time I spend with him.

Monday- Clean the living room & den
Tuesday- Sweep, mop, vacuum and laundry
Wednesday- Clean kitchen, dinning room & laundry room
Thrusday- Sweep, mop, vacuum
Friday- Clean bedrooms (3) & bathrooms (2)
Saturday is family day and I just spot clean
Sunday- Sweep, mop, vacuum and laundry

On a daily basis I cook, pick up toys and load the dishwasher. My husband has chores too. He is responsible for cleaning the cat box, taking out the trash and outside chores.

Lauren - posted on 06/09/2010

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Maybe the question you need to ask your husband is what's more important an immaculate house or your child?

I manage to keep the place "tidy/presentable" as well.
I do most of the house work while my kids are/were napping. I've also divided my house....I do the main level one day and the upper level the next, although I will admit the upper sometimes goes longer. Laundry can be done at anytime.

I have a husband that has complained in the past and who's compared me to every other mother who he seems to think keeps or has kept a clean house and taken care of their kids. The biggest comparison of course is to his mother who took care of four kids blah blah blah. Good for her I say, but my response to that is "how often did your mother spend time with you, played with you, read you a book." Sadly, he has no memories. My kids will!

Stephanie - posted on 06/08/2010

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Don't worry about schedules. Work around the baby's sleeping schedule. You will know the time of day your baby needs you most, and as she gets older she will also get some play time and alone time. Housework will work itself in there.

Tammy - posted on 06/08/2010

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Decide what is important to you do those things. Your baby is still little and you need to recoup from labour and lack of sleep. Your house will still be there in the morning and so on, but if you are not looked after ... everything will suffer! Talk to your hubby about it, and ask him to be a little understanding. Everyone needs time to adjust to having a new baby.

Don't stress about it, and most of all enjoy this time with your baby looking at her, loving her, dressing her, bathing her. If you are stressed these feelings will filter onto your baby and she'll start to cry and be a fussy baby and this will make you irritable, so just be relaxed and smile.... this time is for you and baby.

Try to at least stay ontop of things like the kitchen and laundry and maybe even make your bed... although this ones is debateable if you don't feel like doing to much... Besides if it's just you and your hubby cos baby is too little.. how much mess is there anyways. If your hubby makes the mess ask him to clean up after himself. You are not his servant... you are his wife! If you can afford it - hire someone to come clean once a week... windows and dusting etc.

Lori - posted on 06/08/2010

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I normally do house work when my 4 month old is napping or I will carry him around in my little what I like to call "front pack." It's a little bit more difficult to get some things done but it works and you can bond with your child at the same time. I have a working husband too and we have one day a week that I get to rest and take a day where the only thing I do is be a mom. He will do the cleaning such as laundry or what not on that specific day and it works out great. I get to sleep in and rest and he does a lot of the mommy duties and the house get's tiddied up. You may try that with your husband if you think it might work. Other than that I would do some cleaning up when the baby is napping....good luck

Jacqueline - posted on 06/08/2010

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I have to admit most of the time I'm on strike. My daughter is 2 1/2 and lately I've been watching the neighbors daughter too, she's 18 months. The 2 girls together can destroy the place in 0.5 seconds. I try to deep clean at least one room a day and tidy up the rest periodically throughout the day. A little here and there when I have a chance. Dishes are in the dishwasher before I go to bed and put away in the morning when I get up.

Soleil - posted on 06/08/2010

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I have 2 kids, an almost 4 year old and a 3 month old who I'm nursing, so needless to say it's a busy household! I just try and clean as I go. I make the bed right when I wake up, clean all the dishes after every meal, and tidy as I go. Of course on different days I have bigger chores I tackle. I do the bathrooms every tuesday, thursday, and sunday, the kitchen I do everyday because I use it so much, vacuum and do the floors on the days I don't do the bathrooms, and laundry every other day. It keeps thing pretty clean and my husband has never complained, and leaves me time to spend with my boys.

Carrie - posted on 06/08/2010

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look into this website.... www.flylady.net it really helps with gettin the house in order...i have a 7 yr old, 3 yr old and 15 month old and my house is pretty much clean most of the time...not perfect but clean and tidy that way when you walk in the door you feel welcome and not enterin a disaster area...

Elizabeth - posted on 06/08/2010

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I'm a new mommy as well, my daughter is 7 weeks old today. I don't have a schedule yet either but I'm still trying to get my energy back, I was on bedrest almost the entire pregnancy and my body still isn't used to being up and moving all the time yet, so I figure I will get there one of these days. I usually do a full cleaning 1-2 times a week and the rest of the week do tidying up. I also do laundry usually twice a week. My hubby hasn't complained. I still have a day here or there where I just don't feel up to doing much and he gently reminds/asks if I can get a load of laundry done if he absolutely can't make it the next day without it getting done, otherwise he doesn't say a thing. But my hubby thinks of my job here at home is as hard work as his since he was home with us the first week or so after her birth and he saw first hand how tiring it can be. I also never make him get up with her during the night since he works so hard, he needs his rest and can't squeeze a nap in during the day like me lol. But I have noticed the last couple of weeks it has gotten much easier and I'm sure it will for you and any other new moms on here too.

On a cute/funny note, our 6 yr old boston terrier Faith bonded with Maddison while I was pregnant so now that she's here she thinks she is the nanny haha. If I'm in a different room cleaning and the baby girl wakes up, she comes running to tell me and stares at me very serious-like if I don't move fast enough for her standards ;)

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I have for kids ages 5,3,2, and 5 months. i don't sleep at night because at least one of my kids is up during the night. So i know that it can be hard to get the housework done.
I pick one day...usually saturdays to get any type of REAL cleaning done. Like bathrooms, floors,dusting, laundry, ect. And I don't do it all in ONE saturday. I do laundry every saturday. During the week I will make sure that clothes are in the laundry basket or closet and make sure I do dishes and that the counters are wiped off. And I'll take some time at night to straighten up and put toys away. this is by no means happens all the time. there are days even a weeks at a time that i have to get "caught up." It's just about getting organized and know that you don't have to EVERYTHING everyday. Just pick one thing a day and GET YOUR REST!! Things will calm down and be easier eventually. Good luck!

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sorry to say bt omg u av just had a baby who is 6 weeks old, u shud say to him ive just had our baby u want this house clean u know where the hoover n stuff is do it ur self if nt den leave me be i will do it in my own time. of course its going to be overwhelming i have 2 kids my daughter who is 4yrs and my son who is 7 months and today for the first time whilst i was cleaning and my partner was home from work i made him do everything i do in a normal day look after the kids and ensure the house was clean whilst i sat back and watched after 10 minutes he quit he cudnt do it all, n he said to me im sorry for sayin it wud ov been easy t clean the house n luk afta the kids so now hes like have a break darling etc bt i didnt gt into a schedule until my son was 3/4 months old i was shatterd n didnt know where to start, bt dont rush around doing things cause you;ll wear yourself out take it easy do things in your own pace at your own time enjoy your lil girl whilst shes a baby as people say lool x

Kim - posted on 06/08/2010

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"Honey, I am too tired to do everything I's like to do, so would you rather I clean the kitchen or make love to you?"

Don't be surprised if the cleans the kitchen!

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I have a son who is almost 2 and a daughter who is 2 months and between the two of them they keep me pretty busy but I try to find time to at least do dishes and laundry every day. I noticed that when I keep a schedule it's easier to do a little bit of cleaning every day rather than 1 long hard day of cleaning. When I first started the schedule it was a busy week but once you get through the week it'll be easier and won't take as long. I divided all the rooms in the house among the days of the week that my husband is working and I would save the last day for sweeping, mopping, dusting, vacuuming, and one easy to clean room. On his days off you should be able to relax too. You don't have to lose sleep over getting your house clean and it's not like everything has to sparkle and shine for him. One thing that helps keep things clean is to remove clutter and make a pile of your husbands papers, tools etc. right where he and everyone else can see it when they first walk into the house. If he complains about the house being messy have that pile of stuff that you can point to and say that is all yours. If he's really being a jerk then don't pick up anything that belongs to him. If he leave dirty clothes on the bathroom floor (my husband does that a lot) leave them there and if he complains about not having anything clean to wear then tell him that he knows where it needs to be in order for you to wash it. If you and baby are having a rough day there's no need for you to have to stress out and get your cleaning done. Give your husband a few jobs to do around the house, like taking out trash and cleaning the porch (those are my husband's jobs). He needs to help you out some. When I have a lazy day or days where I sit around and play with our babies all day long and not clean because I just don't feel like it. I power clean about an hour before he's expected to be home. Pick up toys and any mess that the kids made and clean off counters and throw dishes in the dishwasher. Let me tell you...I do that a lot these days now that I spend most of my day playing with the kids and when they're napping, I'm excercising. Just try to do your things while the baby's sleeping, it helps a lot....but with a 6 week old you are probably just now getting into the swing of things as you just went through a pretty amazing and traumatic thing. Don't push yourself to do something if you're not feeling up to it. He should understand or at least try to.

Samantha - posted on 06/08/2010

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I have three daughters aged 5 years 2 years and 4 months old and what works for me is I get up before the kids and start laundry and get my work out and shower done I clean the house during nap time i.e sweep/mop kitchen wipe down counters and do dishes and wash the bottles from the morning after dinner I let the kids relax while I do dishes and and vaccuum the floors....After they go to bed is when i do the counters mop again and clean the bathrooms and basement every two days i always feel like i am either cleaning or tending to them...my husband works sevens days a week 18 hour shifts he is a navy boot camp drill instructor so he really is no help so schedules always work best for me for everything

Tanisha - posted on 06/08/2010

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im also a first time mom to a 6 week old babygirl, with a boyfriend who works tues.-sat. it can get rough. i just try to do as much as i can while she's sleeping. my first priorities are always dishes, bottles, and just picking up. if i had a rough day and didn't get something done, i'll ask my bf to do it when he gets home from working..taking out the trash after work is not a big deal. being a new mom is hard, ask him to help out a little and tell him to stop complaingin because while he's at work you're trying to keep a house and tend to a baby. tell him if somethings not done to his expectations, to do it himself! you have enough on your plate!

Alisha - posted on 06/08/2010

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looks like we are a lil different. int he begining with my daughter i was able to have my house clean like a show room. now that i ahve 3 children (almost 4, 2.5 and 7 months) i find it way hard to keep it liking suoer clean. I just do a lil hear and a lil there. im tryint o gte on a schedule but it doesn't even seem to happen. just tidy up when you can and maybe clean one room a day well baby is sleeping. also instead of the swing start tummy time now. . i start tummy time with all 3 at a couple days old. . they still had the cord and all. good luck

Sara - posted on 06/08/2010

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This should be a joint effort. It's not 1951, you didn't take him to raise. I say do what you can, and don't overdo it. You are learning to be a mom, and that is learning a new way of life in itself. Keep in mind that you have to take care of you first. I know that sounds really selfish, but if you can't take care of you, you damn sure can't keep up with the house and the baby. I am in my last few weeks of my second pregnancy, my fiance understands, thing aren't going to get done by themselves, so if he wants something done THAT bad, he has 2 hands. He works 7-5 most days, and comes home and is daddy, and all else that he needs to be. DO WHAT YOU CAN, even if it doesn't all get done in one day, or even one week, you will get there, and things will get easier...especially when the baby gets older....they learn to help with house work! lol

Rachele - posted on 06/08/2010

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i am a mother of 3 young kids. 2 boys, 3 and 1 and a 4 month girl. my boys are ok sitting on the couch for a few min while i do one load of dishes and my girl is either in the swing or in her bed sleeping. it wont hurt your baby to cry for a few min, if you need to clean something and your child wont stop crying every time you put them down, just put them in their bed and go clean. if they are still awake when you're done, then get them up/ sometimes you can get lucky and they fall asleep and then you can get more stuff done or take a nap yourself.

Brianna - posted on 06/08/2010

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Hey I"m a first time mom, my baby is now 7 1/2 months old. For the first like 2months after I had my baby our house was a total wreck! But it's supposed to be like that! lol You just had a baby you NEED to rest, your body is still healing. It's tricky to keep a house clean when you have a baby as I found out. Just remember not to stress yourself out about it, it gets done when it gets done. Just do a little bit every day and before you know it, it wont take long at all to keep things picked up, or the dishes done. If it's not a life/death situation, there is always tomorrow! I do at least one major chore everyday, usually once I get going I want to keep going. But if my baby needs something, i stop everything and give him the attention he needs, even if that takes all day sometimes (he is teething and wants his mommy). Just start small, do one thing everyday, like dishes, or straighten things up, a load of laundry. Once you start to feel more energetic, and like yourself it will be more of a habit and if you feel like it you can do a few more things each day. :-D Good luck, and don't worry, my house still isn't always spit spot!

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My best friend's niece came by yesterday afternoon for a visit and she always snatches my boy right up. She spent three hours with him in the living room floor, playing, giving him bottles, hugging him, talking to him.... as if we weren't even there!
and it made me think of you, Kalley. If you have a teenage girl in your life, I would be willing to bet she would LOOOOVE to come visit and 'pretend babysit' while you got some work done.

Michelle - posted on 06/08/2010

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I have a 4 month old and it's my first child. I didn't really get into a schedule tell about a month ago. I get up feed, play and change him as soon as he goes to sleep I do laundry, dishes, have my coffee and do what I can. Don't stress about what you can't get done, which I did for a while. Do what you can. Tell your husband your still trying to get a schedule down but first and for most what baby needs comes first. You will have days where you can't get anything done but it'll be there tomorrow. DON'T STRESS!

Allison - posted on 06/08/2010

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I do laundry every day. . . theres no escaping that!! Then besides that i try to clean one room a day. . . tidying, dusting, floor, everything. This way you don't get overwhelmed. Today it's upstairs bathroom day. I'll be busy for about an hour with that, in addition, the kitchen and livingroom get vaccumed every day as i have a crawling curious little nine month old. I have a 7 room house. . . this means it's pretty much clean all the time.



I used to be horrible. . . I would clean the whole thing every day (OCD much?) but i had to stop, i was killing myself and ignoring the caring nurturing part of being a momma. The one room a day schedule is a reachable goal. . .



good luck sugar

Lee Ann - posted on 06/07/2010

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i honestly tried to have a sched. in the beginning, but i found myself getting more and more angry when things didn't work out like i wanted them to, i found the best thing is to work around my child's sched. which was always something different day to day, i would take naps when she did & do housework as i was able to and came to it, sometimes my daughter would be totally content in her swing/bouncer or playpen other days i couldn't put her down.....the only thing i never got her use to way doing house work with her in my arms, if i was running the vacuum & she didnt want to be put down i would just have to do it anyway and place her in her crib ect. i know it might not be the best thing to let her cry but normally she would get over it in like 5 mins and then would be cooing and such.......anyway good luck dear.....things get done when they get done, if your hubby has something to say about tell him to pick up the duster & get to work

Tamara - posted on 06/07/2010

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Males!!Some how they think we have six arms, loads of energy and a baby that sticks to a time schedule. She just 6 weeks, this time is the most precious time to connect with your new baby. Housework will always be there. I started with a schedule but everyday something different would happen and my schedule would go out the window. With my husband, I try to find ways so that he can see what it like in my shoes. I guess making a list of the things to do helps.I usually pick a day to clean the house properly (vacume, dust etc..) and the rest of the week I do something if i want to.I do think we put too much pressure on ourselves to have a clean house.

Shalaina - posted on 06/07/2010

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I do not have a schedule what-so-ever. My husband has never said anything ESPECIALLY when our son was that young. He would have gotten a kick in the pants! He probably does more cleaning than me. He spoils me!
Just try to clean in between. The cleaning here and there can really add up. Remember that you DO need your rest, also and never to forget to enjoy your little one (I feel he was only tiny for a few days and I miss it SOOOOO much)! Your hubby should pitch in and help, too. With both of you doing small things each day it should work out just fine. Just wait until all of the toys come! It's impossible to see our carpet sometimes, haha!
You can also ask a friend/family member to watch your little one for a couple of hours and get a lot done that way.
Good luck, hun!

Christina - posted on 06/07/2010

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Schedule!? I have two kids plus a stepson (my youngest is 4 months old) and i don't work on a schedule. You can't have a schedule with kids... it doesn't work well. Especially with you having a six weeks old, there's no way that will be feasible. You are still feeding on demand! And if your baby is at all collicy, that will be impossible!

I tidy and clean when the kids are napping or in bed. And my hubby helps when he gets home. It takes two to make a baby and raise a child!

Lillie - posted on 06/07/2010

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Keeping a schedule is hard with any kids but ecspecially with a new born. I have four kids and have a hard time keeping up. Your vest bet is to do a little each day, in between naps ( which you should be trying to do also when you can). I do find laundry to be best left for the late evening time when my kids are settled for the night. Hope this helps! Congrats on your new baby and good luck!

Crissy - posted on 06/07/2010

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I tried to have a schedule and with my first is was fairly easy. But then my family grew and we now have 3. I still try to have a schedule but my kids ages, routines, and own schedules don't really mesh. Now I'm trying to figure out a new one so that everybody is on the same timeline. I do however make sure that I spend at least one hour a day cleaning. You can get alot done in 1 hour.

Outi - posted on 06/07/2010

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its really hard to get any housework done with a new baby. My house was a mess for a long time after my kids were born and even now when my youngest is 3 years, it still gets messy. After I spend hours cleaning up, the next day you wouldnt even know it.. sigh..
What works for me is to do a little bit every day. Like one day I vacuum, next day I clean the bathrooms, then I mop floors, etc.. do dishes everyday so they wont pile up but most things you really only need to clean about once a week and then do light maintenance for the area the rest of the week.
And leave him alone with the baby for one day for the whole day and see how much he can get done, maybe it'll give him some perpective lol

Penny - posted on 06/07/2010

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ok will you can do what you can i have 3 kids and there all not the same so some think work and some that did dont work with athers so take one think at a time and if you do one thing in a day afrst it will get bater

i had got sick and my husband stad home and said that ok this is going to be pic of cake so two day in he was tierd at the and of the day when i goted bater about week or so he sad i going to work that morning and sad im sorry i love you have a good day and now he come home and hopes me with the kids take tham out or just plays with tham for a bit so i can do some stuf now we are good and i dont have him talling me i dont do what he thought should be done will

Cherie - posted on 06/07/2010

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my boyfriend is the same way. he doesnt understand that if my daughter wants to play i will play with her before i clean. this is my first child i'm 20yrs old and i live with my boyfriend who works 12hrs a day and usually the first thing he says to me when he comes home is why isnt the house clean. he doesnt know the time i spend teaching and caring for our child. But he is getting better at understanding that my job as a sahm isnt to keep the house spotless its to care for our daughter. do a little bit each day. your baby is only 6weeks old and cant really be without you he should understand this and give you some time before you become super mom who can clean take care of the baby and have super on the table when he comes home. dont stress it. tell him to relax it will get done. or just have him take care of the baby when he comes home so you can clean then he might know how much time goes into a newborn.

Marcy - posted on 06/07/2010

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I have a 19 month old and a set of 2 1/2 month old twins. My husband had a hard time understanding why I didn't get more done during the day until I sat down & talked with him. He has been much more understanding & supportive since we had our talk. We have to communicate about it on a daily basis; he now asks what I would like his help with each day after he gets home from working an 11 hour shift at work. If there is a day he's too tired, he'll let me know. He even gets up during the night to help if I need/ask him. The best advice I can give is to figure out what works for you, but most importantly, you need to let your husband know how you're feeling.

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