Britney - posted on 10/19/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )
I operate a very busy day home and have recently taken on a child that is having a lot of issues being away from his mother. We are on week 4 of him being here and week 4 of him crying constantly all day, every day. I'm hoping that I can get a little help/advice on what I can try to help him settle in and make this work!
Here's a little bit of background info:
He's 2 1/2 years old. And the youngest of 2. He's been in a day home since he was 1 and, from what I understand, spent the majority of his time crying at the old day home. I don't know much about his home life. I think I'm understanding that his parents are contemplating separation. Father works away most of the time. From what I can see, his is babied a lot and talked to in baby voices. He doesn't seem to understand direction when spoken to in a normal adult tone.
Here's what I've tried:
Asking Mom to bring a blanket and/or stuffy from home for him to attach to (attaches to it, but still cries). Consoling him for the first 2 weeks (this creating a full out melt down most of the time). Ignoring him. Putting him in time out (not very effective, nor did it make me feel like I was doing him/me any good). Offering options of toys, books, shows, etc. Opening the door and giving him the choice of staying or leaving (this completely back fired as he took off down the sidewalk.....don't do this!)
I'm at a loss. 4 weeks of non stop crying. 5 other children wondering what the h*** is wrong with this child. And several bottles of wine (in the evening.... ha! ). I'm truly considering letting him go as the stress on me and our routine is starting to be too much.
Please offer suggestions that you think may help. Please don't criticize others suggestions or start debate/conflict. Thank you.