did any mums have alcoholic drinks during their pregnancies

Erin - posted on 02/09/2010 ( 100 moms have responded )

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im wondering if any mums had any alcoholic drinks durinks during their pregnancies, ive heard that 1 or 2 driks doesnt harm the baby but then ive heard that 1 or 2 drinks can harm the baby! jus wonderin wats every1s opinion is about this

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Maura - posted on 02/09/2010

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A pregnant woman can definitely have a drink or two once in a while. All of the research on fetal alcohol syndrome was done on severely alcoholic women. The research also found that the most vulnerable time for a fetus is in the first few weeks, when most when do not yet know they are pregnant (better to stop drinking when trying to get pregnant). Doctors in Europe do NOT forbid alcohol during pregnancy, and even recommend red wine for women who are overdue. In the olden days in colonial America and Europe nobody drank water (it was polluted) or cow's milk, they drank beer, grog, mead, wine, or fermented ciders as their daily drink since fermentation kills bacteria (tea and coffee later, first as delicacies). These babies were not all deformed and they produced many a genius. Americans have a long history of prohibition and overreacting to things, the anti-alcohol for moms movement began only in the 1980s and at first was not a total ban. The politics of being sued and of women not being considered sensible enough to understand moderation led to doctors and the AMA to eventually recommended no alcohol. This didn't happen in the rest of the world, yet Europe has a better infant and maternal mortality rate than the US. Moderation and common sense should prevail. Alcohol does not cause most illnesses that babies are born with. But beware that militant Americans will be very angry if they see you drinking and you might not like how they treat you. Before I knew I was pregnant I suddenly had an aversion to alcohol (as well as meat, fish, shellfish), so I was lucky not to have to abstain from a favorite drink. Around my sixth month I had a glass of champagne to celebrate my birthday, and a few more glasses before the birth. Good luck, remember it's your decision not everbody else's. My daughter was born healthy and with a very high IQ (and my mom drank and smoke during the entire pregnancy and I turned out pretty good).

Bethany - posted on 02/12/2010

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A glass of wine is safer for a developing baby than any medications women can take during pregnancy... and is much, much safer than an epidural or any other drugs used in labor. Just to put it into perspective.

Maura - posted on 02/10/2010

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I believe this quote to be completely innacurate and irresponsible. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is a very severe (and rare) condition that is caused by excessive alcohol intake.



"Better safe than sorry . NO NO NO alcohol is suggested during a pregnancy. Often a few drinks MAY HAVE BEEN consumed prior to knowledge of a pregnancy, but ANY doc. will tell you to LAY OFF ALL alcohol until the baby is born (or after you are done breastfeeding, if that is what you are choosing to do). There has been research done that suggests that EVEN ONE drink during the course of the ENTIRE pregnancy can cause Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I sure wouldn't risk it for a stupid glass of wine, beer, or mixed drink. Seriously I would wait."

Krista - posted on 02/09/2010

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I would drink a glass of wine every now and then which the doctor will tell you its fine. wine in moderation is actually good for you. my mom drank while she was pregnant with me and im perfectly healthy.. my grandmother also drank alot while she was pregnant with my mother, not just on occasion but pretty regularly. back then it wasnt such a big deal. but my mother is fine. i did have a friend that her mother was an alcoholic and drank alot her whole pregnancy, she is normal, but her ears are lower, like in a kid with FAS. but she isnt retarted. so i say go for it, dont get trashed. but a few drinks on occasion wont hurt

Lori - posted on 02/15/2010

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During my 1st pregnancy (almost 18 years ago) my drs said no to EVERYTHING.... they even wanted me to call the office before I took a Tylenol for pity's sake. I had one small glass on wine on our wedding anniversary at about 8 months and felt guilty. I didn't drink soda, take any over the counter drugs (or any other kind), ate healthy stuff and still ended up with a 6 pound baby (go figure). With my 2nd the doctors told me "moderation in everything"... a glass of wine once or twice later in the pregnancy probably won't hurt but why take the chance (do we really NEED that glass of wine?). I ate McD's (we used to joke that "baby wants beef"), drank caffeine (in limited quantities) and was healthy as a horse - had a 8 pounder! #3 was about the same - just watched that I didn't eat too much of anything that was terribly unhealthy, maybe had 1/2 a beer the entire time and no issues. Had a glass of champagne on New Years with the last baby and a glass of wine for Christmas and he's just fine as well. I certainly don't advocate drinking on more than special occasions and then no more than one small glass but to make women feel guilty and stressed over something like this is a control issue on the part of other people I think. However, it's not something you need to have and if you don't want to take any chances than don't but medically speaking most doctors will tell you a small amount once or twice during the later stages of pregnancy won't hurt and if they do they're just trying to make sure you don't sue if something does go wrong :-) And drinking until you are tipsy or drunk is another issue - most of us commenting here would have the sip of champagne as a celebration type thing than to "feel good". I think it's interesting that on almost all issues what our grandparents were taught was something totally different that what our parents were told by their doctors and we have all been told something else.... car seats, smoking, diet, discipline, toilet training etc. Wonder what our children will be told is acceptable in another 20 years that we think is outlandish :-)

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Dusty - posted on 01/10/2012

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I don't really know if it can harm the baby, although I would rather NOT take my chances. Unfortuanetly, when I was pregnant with my first child, I didn't actually realize I was pregnant until I was almost 5 months along, & before I found out I drank pretty heavily. I was just out of highschool, & living with friends, it was definitly known as a party house! I quit drinking after I found out I was pregnant, & I haven't drank with any of my other pregnancies. Nothing turned out to be wrong with my first child (thank God) but I would have felt terrible if something was wrong.

A - posted on 02/22/2010

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I had one or two drinks with both my kids and they are perfect. Keep in mind most women had a few drinks before they even knew they were pregnant (during the first trimester when the most critical development is being done). it's a judgment call, if you have any doubts about it then don't do it or you will spend the rest of your pregnancy worrying. My mother drank heavily for the first 4 months (she stopped when she found out she was pregnant with me) and she smoked about a half pack a day and her doctor told her NOT to quit. I am perfectly healthy, I was when I was born and I rarely get sick (even as a child). Each baby is different, some will react to any amount of alcohol and some will remain unfazed. Know the risks and make a decision for YOURSELF not what everyone else says.

Stacey - posted on 02/15/2010

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Early on in pregnancy (usually before you even know) the baby is living on a yolk sack while the placental connections are being made. this is why Adia was fine even though I had drank heavily one night of the first two weeks after conception. Some doctors say that 1/2 cup of RED WINE (i believe a couple of times a week)won't harm the baby but ONLY AFTER you are six month pregnant because the baby is completely developed with only the brain left developing. Supposedly this is a small enough amount that it wouldn't harm further brain development. I wouldn't by any chance risk drinking if you know you are pregnant. The truth is that alcohol IS connected to a lot of problems and you want a healthy baby.

Shelby - posted on 02/15/2010

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Personally, I would never drink during a pregnancy....I mean, why not go ahead and give it to your newborn in a bottle. Makes no sense to me...However to each their own. If you want to risk your baby's health over something as ridiculous as a drink, then no one can stop you. Doctors warn against things for a reason. I have seen children with FAS and to me NOTHING is worth my baby's well being. Is getting a little tipsy worth getting a baby drunk???

Jodi - posted on 02/15/2010

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Michelle, a) sorry it's taken me this long...long week with my daughter (teething :( ) b) I understand that wasn't your point, the point I was trying to make to you is that it sounds VERY judgemental to assume that just because chooses to err on the side of caution and advise other women to do so as well, even passionately suggest women don't drink for the safety of their baby, feeds their child crap (which you only assume because you choose to feed your child a healthy diet). We're here to offer our opinion/advice about drinking while pregnant, NOT make judgements on what other mothers feed their children based on their views. Just something to think about before you make further judgements on moms like me.

Jamilea - posted on 02/15/2010

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i am 9 months expecting and i have had a few throughout my pregnancy, i have known many women that were beyond cautious and their babies were born with health problems and on the other hand many that were completely relaxed and have perfectly healthy babies, sooo while no i do not support getting hammered i do believe a lil fun is not a sin!

Brandy - posted on 02/14/2010

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i had a drink here and there and my son turned out perfectly healthy. I only drank wine or red beer though. please steer clear of mixed drinks.

Sherry - posted on 02/14/2010

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though I didn't drink at all when pregnant short of maybe a sip here as a taste or something or other. But the OBGYN and Pediatrician said that one or two glasses of wine in a week is OK. Red wine though tends to be better because of something to do with a property in it that acts as an antioxident. I never put it to the test so don't tak emy word for it.... But that's what I was told by two doc's.

I would suggest though that if you have had a few not to have any more. It's really best to abstaine from drinking while pregnant regardless. I'm not sure how much research has been put into fetal alcohol syndrom so be careful.

Jessica - posted on 02/14/2010

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I was 2 months pregnant and my friends were doing shots of Jack Daniels whiskey. i felt left out so i had half a shot. I was worried as hell after that and regretted it. My baby was premature and I had preeclampsia. i had to have a c-section because she wasn't moving with the contractions.

Kristie - posted on 02/13/2010

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i have really bad morning sickness.. but it didnt last only morning it was 24/7. 4 about 6-8wks. i dont eat or drink.. im in and out of hospital in this time..(for all three kids)
for my 1st, i had a big drink of alcohlic drink b4 i found out i was pregant. and then didnt drink the rest the time.
4 my second... i did same as 1st then stoped til i was about 6-7 months then my 18th bday came around ... i couldnt help my self i had 1-2 drinks then stop til the end...... everything turned out fine..
with my 3rd.... i drink a few nites a wk after the 18wk scan all was fine.
i thought if a baby can get though no food for 6--8 wks in the 1st part then it handle a few drinks here n there in the end. during each pregany i eat heathly did all the rite thing otherwise
now all my kids r health and doin wat they r meant 2.

Kelly - posted on 02/13/2010

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I would have an occasional drink but really craved beer, so I got the non-alcoholic kind to quench my thirst! If you know your fetal development, you know that most of the harm to the baby would be done in the first 2 trimesters since during the 3rd trimester, baby essentially just grows. However, they are making brain cells and connections in their nervous systems like mad all the time. The truth is that doctors do not know how much is harmful to the baby. It's best to just stay away from it, but an occasional drink hasn't seemed to hurt my daughter. However, some of the behavioral problems may not show up for years. My mother-in-law drank 3 drinks every day while pregnant and her boys are still hellians, even as fathers in their late 20s.

Lauren - posted on 02/13/2010

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When a pregnant women drinks alcohol she runs the risk of harming her baby mentally & physically. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is very serious & damaging to her devloping baby. Some women drink alcohol during pregnancy & their babies are fine, others aren't so fortunate. The safest option is to stay off alcohol whilst pregnant. Read up on the disorder if you want more info.

Christy - posted on 02/13/2010

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I didn't the first time but know a few moms that did often (just 1 or 2). Their kids are healthy, normal and walked earlier than my son.

Paula - posted on 02/13/2010

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I've always believed that a unit or two during the week is not going to do any harm and research on the potential harm to the baby is done on women who drink A LOT. However, if you're anything like me I was too sick to want any alcohol during both my pregnancies. If you're unsure, don't do it - no alcohol for 9 months shouldn't be too big a deal.

Hayley - posted on 02/13/2010

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well from what everyone is saying about drinking some drinks pregnant woman have to drink like guiness as it is good for low iron which is very bad for the baby and doctors will recommend it to you plus one every now and then and in the baby book it says to drink one glass of red wine a week.

Michelle - posted on 02/13/2010

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Jodi, no i don't feed my kids organic. But i also stay away from processed food. but that wasn't my point. My point was that sometimes people's views are skewed. For example, people think if you have a glass of wine while you are pregnant you are a horrible parent. but then those same people will go and say "hey yeah if your kid likes to sleep on their belly go ahead and let them" when it is proven to cut the chances of your child DYING from sids by HALF. I just don't get why people are uptight about one glass of wine

Joni - posted on 02/13/2010

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I never had a craving for alchohal,no would'nt even attempt while carrying my child.I loved my fix of chocolate though!I personally feel that pregnancy is a blessing,and I should take as good care of baby and me as possible!I had many people say they didn't think there was anything wrong with just one-but I agree with my Doctor...one is too many.

Brittany - posted on 02/13/2010

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im only 18 years old. i have a 16 month old boy. And before i got pregnant i was considered an alcoholic, i had to attend AA meetings, but never did. I got trashed a week before i had my missed period. and then about a week after that i found out i was pregnant, i started crying. My son really saved me. if it wasnt for him i wouldnt have stopped drinking. He gave me the strength not to use alcohol. I never even had ONE drink the whole time i knew i was pregnant with my son, it was really hard for me. I always had cravings, and would get real upset & my hands would start shaking and everything when i wanted a drink but knew i couldnt have one. id cry to my boyfriend about it. But even after all that, i still never touched it. I think it's wrong to drink alcohol while you're pregnant. i dont care if its proven to not harm the baby. Just knowing what alcohol does to you when you drink it, should make you not drink it while expecting. Its common since. But everyone has their own oppinions . i just dont feel it is right. My son was born at 6lbs 13oz. 21" long. and he was perfectly healthy. and still to this day he is. i do honestly believe that alcohol can harm a child.

Kelly - posted on 02/13/2010

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i hear that one glass is fine. our parents drank, smoked, did drugs while pregnant with us and we turned out fine. just don't get crazy. I have been craving wine so much this 2nd pregnancy but have yet to have one. saving it for my bday in july!!!

Heidi - posted on 02/12/2010

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Alcohol is obviously not good for the baby. We all know that. I had a few glasses of wine throughout the course of my pregnancy and everything was just fine.

Jodi - posted on 02/12/2010

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I wouldn't drink any alcoholic beverages when I was trying to conceive, while I was pregnant, now that I'm breastfeeding (unless I have stored milk and can pump and dump) and also again that I'm trying to conceive, to me, it's a personal choice of "I don't need alcoholal and my baby certainly doesn't need it either!" If your doc says a glass of wine is okay...and YOU'RE okay with the decision...go for it!



And Michelle, I guess I must be one of your 10% of moms who doesn't feed their children processed foods...we eat organic...do you?

Michelle - posted on 02/12/2010

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its fine to have an occasional drink during pregnancy. Red wine is actually good for your blood and circulation. A recent study found that beer is good for your bones. I bet 90% of the mothers on here that say "i wouldn't even touch alcohol" are eventually or already do feed their children way too much processed food. Look at the lables if it says hydrolized or hydrogenated oil its worse than drinking the occasional glass of wine. I'm just saying, there are worse things you could do...

Laura - posted on 02/12/2010

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uNFORTUNATELY I became pregnant with out knowiwng it in November 03'. I had an insane night of drinking the following new year. I MEAN BLITZED! Shot's beer mixed drinks you name it. I was terrified to find out in January that I was pregnant. Our daughter is now 5, beautiful & HEALTHY! After talking to my Dr. He just wanted to look for signs of a problem. Make sure you TELL your DR. Is the only advice I have. Also, I craved beer while pregnant. He said have a drink, just 1! All is well. I think it's a personal choice.

Cleo - posted on 02/12/2010

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Just wanted to throw a nice fact out there. Yes alcohol is bad to indulge in while you're pregnant but there are NO PROVEN FACTS as to how much alcohol is or isn't bad for your baby which is why the doctors recommend for mothers to steer clear from it altogether during pregnancy. I just wanted to point that out because of something I read in here earlier and I wanted that part of the fact to be out too. :-)
http://www.babycenter.in/pregnancy/nutri...

Briana - posted on 02/12/2010

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I was told a glass of wine is actualy good for you but no more than that. my docter actualy told me I could ave a glass of wine on new years but just thinking about it made me sick.

Mindy - posted on 02/12/2010

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I have a girlfriend who BRAGS about how much she drank while she was pregnant- whiskey, tequila, wine.... I think it's awful. Now, my 2nd son, my doctor actually recommended I drink a glass of red wine once in a while. I can't remember now WHY. But there was a medical reason why she suggested it, but I had such horrible heartburn, I couldn't do it. My friend's kids are fine- all 3 of them- despite how heavily she drank. I consider her lucky. You only get one chance to bring a healthy baby into this world. If any damage is done, you don't get to go back and fix it. If you MUST have a drink, wait until later in your pregnancy, when the baby's vital organs are more fully developed, but my advice- just don't. Just in case, just for your baby.

Sarah - posted on 02/12/2010

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I drank a little in my pregnancy but it was a little and it was the only thing i craved. my child is 3months old now and there is nothing wrong with her. I agree that binge drinking is unacceptable and can cause damage to your baby!! If you are too worried or unsure then don't have anything. Everyone's opinion will be divide on this and you will never get a clear answer.

Natasha - posted on 02/12/2010

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i was 3 1/2 months along before i found out i was prego so yes i drank Alot (you name it i drank it) then my dr. said every once and a while you can have 1-2 drinks (not liquer) and be fine the baby too, my mom drank through her whole preg. that lasted 11months we are in the hosp. book of records i turned out fine and my oldest is smart as hell so it's up to you and your dr. they didn't know not to drink and smoke during preg. back in the old day's and we are here just be smart about it

Cleo - posted on 02/12/2010

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I had one alcoholic beverage when I was about 4 or 5 weeks pregnant but that was because I didn't know I was preggers at the time but no I haven't had an alcoholic drink since. I sure can't wait for a blue moon though...yums lol

Zoe - posted on 02/12/2010

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I never drank any alcohol while we were trying to fall pregnant, and i never did while i was pregnant either. I just didn't want to take the chance of anything harming my baby.

Maria - posted on 02/12/2010

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I tasted some wine when I was pregnant, but it was just the tip of the tongue. Otherwise, I'd avoid all alcohol. We don't know yet at what level alcohol can affect a child's cognitive functions. And then we have to figure out at what point during gestation the baby's brain is vulnerable to acquiring fetal alcohol syndrome, and what other factors affect the baby's outcome in relation to alcohol ingestion by the mother. Until we know these answers, it's best to avoid alcohol altogether.

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NO binge drinking during the preg.it has been shown only one drink a day taken by moms has not caused F-A-S.There research was F-A-S was found in baby's of Alcoholic mothers.

I do not drink everyday even while not pregnant so that wasn't a thing for me but i would say very rarely on an occasion.i wouldn't even drink everyday personally while pregnant.As i said i had two glasses of wine separately for the whole 40weeks 3days.

Elzanne - posted on 02/12/2010

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My friend is currently pregnant. We've had a couple of drinks since she found out she's pregnant. Not everyday but occasionally. Light siders and only 1 or 2 at a time. No heavy stuff like a bottle of rum, brandy or vodka every night. I believe when your told "no drinking during pregnancy" they mean no excessive drinking during pregnancy.

Megan - posted on 02/11/2010

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Before I had discovered i was pregnant i had gone out and had just a couple of drinks and was violently ill at the end of the evening (Guess she was trying to tell me something!!) I felt so guilty and worried once I did discover she was in there that I didn't drink at all for the rest of the pregnancy.
With my second child I didn't drink at all until I was about 32 weeks then maybe I had two beers in the last 8 weeks. I told my midwife and she didn't freak out :o)

Jocelyn - posted on 02/11/2010

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With my last pregnancy, I had one glass of wine (at a wedding), and one random spiked hot chocolate. That was it.

Alicia - posted on 02/11/2010

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When i was pregnant with my son, the reccomendation was to drink only moderately. I delibeartely chose to wait until the first trimester was over, and had probably 1-2 drinks maybe once a month. I craved beer (i never drank it much before) all through my first pergnancy. He was born perfectly healthy and strong. Now that i'm pregnant again the recommendation has changed to NO alcohol. This time i Have only had about 2 standard drinks the whole time (I'm 37 weeks) I gave myself the freedom to have a drink if i felt like it, and haven't felt like it.

The reason the recomendaton has changed to NO alcohol, is because in tests they found that one standard drink relaxes the fetus to the point where it will stop practice breathing for half an hour. (I havent had a drink since i found this out)

My OPINION on this is: Pregnant women should not drink. There is a world of difference between drinking, and having a drink. From conception for the rest of your life you will have to make decisions on your needs vs. those of your children, and the best choice for your children is the one that gives them a happy, healthy mother, who models for them the way they should live their lives.

If having a drink once in awhile gives you pleasure and enjoyment, then do so, but if not having one will kill you, you probably shouldn't.

Michelle - posted on 02/11/2010

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I never drank while pregnant either time. I've heard an occasional glass of wine is okay. My sister had a glass of wine occasionally with her kids and they're both fine. But if you're looking to be 100% sure things are okay then don't drink. Every time you drink you create a small risk (doesn't mean that it will or won't happen for sure but you've created the possibility). Obviously the more frequently you drink the greater your risk.

Allison - posted on 02/11/2010

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I very rarely would have a small glass of wine if I felt I really needed it, but through my pregnancies I think I had one each pg. Also very early in both pg that I carried to have children I actually had gotten fairly drunk at weddings before 5 weeks for each. Neither of my children have any defects but I was very lucky that my children were both healthy

Sandr - posted on 02/11/2010

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Go with the one that says drinks hurt the baby and there is 100% certainty that your chilf will not have FAS.

Megan - posted on 02/11/2010

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I have a feeling I was pregnant and confirmed with a home pregnancy test. I hardly drank before getting pregnant and defiantly did not drink while pregnant. No drinks are going to far out weigh having 1 or 2...
Not knowing you are pregnant is a whole other situation but knowingly drinking while pregnant is just irresponsible. If you don't care about your own life at least care for the unborn babies life.

Ericka - posted on 02/11/2010

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I absolutely never drank when I was pregnant. I would never want to chance doing harm to my children.

Ashley - posted on 02/11/2010

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With my first pregnancy I drank alot over the holidays (Christmas, New years) But as soon as I found out I stopped. This pregnancy I was trying to get pregnant so I stopped then except for my friends Bday party I had one beer, little did I know I was pregnant then but only days pregnant lol. I choose not to drink personally, and during my breastfeeding if I wanted to drink I made sure to pump in advance!

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I did drink when I was pregnant merely by accident. With my daughter I had a few drinks on Xmas eve and then found out I was pregnant 4 days later, I felt like the worst mom ever for not knowing I was pregnant. My daughter did turn out fine and I had a son after her, but then there was another time I was drinking and that was the night I actually conceived and that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. My doctor always told me not to fret about the things I did before I found out I was pregnant. If you still do it after you know you're pregnant tho then just remember it can harm the baby and this baby didn't choose to be conceived so you need to protect it. Also since my miscarriage I had another miscarriage and now have not been able to conceive so don't take it for granted when you do have the chance to bring another life into this world.

Danielle - posted on 02/11/2010

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actually i got pregnant the night that i was drinking if that counts but no....after i found out i was pregnant i definetly didn't drink alcohol

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yeah while pregnant with my first I would have a glass of wine every now ant then,my second no as I couldn't keep anything down when I was pregnant with him. Both my kids are very intellegent and met there milestones early.

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