did anyone have a c section? was it emergency or chose?

Michelle - posted on 01/16/2010 ( 1843 moms have responded )

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i had to have my 10month old delivered via c section due to failed progress at 8cm. i found it hard to cope afterwards and felt a failure for not delivering 'normally'. I just wondered how other mams have coped since having a c section?

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Casey - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had an emergency c- section with my 1st. Then went on to have a successfull VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section). My kids are only 16.5 months apart. I had to fight for it, but it was important to me to have a vaginal birth after feeling forced to have the c-section. You are in control of your experience. Remember that.

Jess - posted on 04/01/2010

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My first was an emergency c-section because my son and I were in trouble. I did not think anything of it except that I was worried about my son's survival. Because I got pregnant so quickly after my first I had to have a second c-section at 37 weeks. I did not feel like a failure because it is not about how you gave birth to your children. It is about how much you love and care for them once they are born. Don't beat yourself up about something you could not control. Just be joyful about the wonderful little person that you get to share the rest of your life with!

Natallia - posted on 04/01/2010

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WOW.......I KNOW WAT U EXPERENCE I JUST HAD ONE THREE MNTHS AGO AND THAT WAS THE SECOND TIME FOR ME SO NO I FEEL THE PAIN TWICE!!!!!! BUT IITS NO JOKE AND I FEEL PAIN AND I FELT THE SAME WAY U FELT...I ASK THE QUESTION TOOOOO.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had an emergency one too after being induced... i am glad i had a good midwife and nurses because i was to the pushing part and my son's heart rate wasn't responding to the contractions and he wasn't descending... during the c section we found out why.. he had the cord wrapped around his neck twice and tucked under one arm... so don't let having a c section get you down... for me it was a life or death situation... and i am very grateful to have my little one here today!! I love every day.. and happy we are a family.. He will be 4 months on April 14th!!

Laura - posted on 04/01/2010

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My now 15 month old was a c section due to the fact that, even though I was fully dilated and effaced, she was just not progressing. After 3 hours of hard pushing to no avail, it was decided that was the best answer. She was never in any distress, thankfully. She was born 2 weeks early, but was ready.

Stephani - posted on 04/01/2010

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I was schuduled for being induced cuz of high blood pressure sweeling and all the goodies. We started at 9am and on we went boyfriend all excited and nervous cuz its first and didnt know what to expect well about midnight my water broke and we were like wont be long and i said it doenst feel right and got checked nurse called for ohter nurse and we looked at each other and he was so scared and wwe cryed they told us they were going to have to do emergency c section and he really got scared they took me back and all i know was that my babys daddy was the first to see her and he didnt let her out of his sight

Stephani - posted on 04/01/2010

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I hade four natural births and then my fifth baby was c section emergency c section and it was the most scares thing they induced me and finally i felt my water broke but told my nurse it didnt feel right so she checked and next i knew i was upside down she was in the bed holding my cord ya the cord was coming first what really sucked was cuz this was my boyfriends first baby and he missed out on it all and i still hated it if they would of just been smarter cuz of my health with all my pregancies and my last one almost killing us both i had to get fixed and now my boyfriend wont be able to experence it

Melitta - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had to have an emergency 'c' section after 48 hours of labor and only progressing to 4 cm. I too felt like a failure after having my son but then a nurse explained to me that be it hours of labor and tough vaginal delivery or undergoing 'major' surgery with a long and painful recovery time, we all achieved the most important part, we got our children here!

Just try to focus on the fact that our precious babies are here in our arms because no matter the mode of transportation, they arrived :)

Natasha - posted on 04/01/2010

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hi there i had to have an emergency c-sec with my youngest who is 15 and a half weeks...due to the same thing but at 9cm and his head was sideways so couldnt come down the birth canal...I felt the same way as you...but then thought abt it for a while and thought maybe it was for the best...both my children had to be born with help my first was born via suction cap...the thing I felt most hard to cope with was not being able to pick up my lil girl and give her cuddles...but once the 6 weeks were up...I got over it...but would still prefer natural over c-sec anyday! Probably doesnt help but just thought it would be a good idea to tell you how it felt for me!!

Natasha - posted on 04/01/2010

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hi there i had to have an emergency c-sec with my youngest who is 15 and a half weeks...due to the same thing but at 9cm and his head was sideways so couldnt come down the birth canal...I felt the same way as you...but then thought abt it for a while and thought maybe it was for the best...both my children had to be born with help my first was born via suction cap...the thing I felt most hard to cope with was not being able to pick up my lil girl and give her cuddles...but once the 6 weeks were up...I got over it...but would still prefer natural over c-sec anyday! Probably doesnt help but just thought it would be a good idea to tell you how it felt for me!!

Tina - posted on 03/31/2010

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Hi, my 2 kids were c section. Boy was under 10 days and girl was over, so had no choice. Boys felt terrible, but both hubby and ma were allowed in for support, so I was gr8ful and being of maori (nz) culture, the doc says "he was bungy jumping out" (yeah, cord wrapped round ankles), but he was ok, but pain for me 4 about 2 mths, sore bak etc. Girl, well, my hubby woz already in hospital with a stroke, so my friend attended the birth, and she woz due 3 mths after, so another gud support and well had to be strong, with hubby spending next 4 mths recovering! This situation made, and has still made me a stronger person, than wot I woz eva! WOMAN ARE STRONG, WE ARE THE STRONGER GENE!! WE CAN CONQUER ANYTHING, IF WE'VE BEEN THROUGH A C-SECTION, I RECKON!!

Suzanne - posted on 03/30/2010

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HI, My first was an emergency after a day and the doctor didn't want to put any effort into it so lied to me and told me I was too small! So I believed once a C-Section always a C-Section and had the next two scheduled. I then found out the truth and had the next 3 at home without any complications!. The last one I had a C-Section so that my tubes could be tied and it was a great experience! I also learned the emotion code and have released the feelings of inadequacy and not being normal! If anyone wants help with that just email me@protectionbiz@yahoo.com. Good luck everyone, Suzanne

Ana - posted on 03/30/2010

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I had to have a c-section with my 2nd child my 1st child had shoulder destortia and I had a very traumatic experience with my 1st childs vaginal delivery he had the cord wrapped around his neck I couldn't get him out so 3 nurses had to ram on my stomach to get him out he wasn't breathing when came out. I so traumatized I didn't want to have another baby.I felt like I failed him I disappointed myself. I had planned for a natural child birth and it didn't happen. Something that suppose to be such a beautiful experience turned out to be my worst nightmare. When I got pregnant with my second child and they told me I had to have a c-section and that it would be safer. I didn't want to do it, but I had to do what was best for my child. The recovery was harder to deal with, but getting to see my child come out with no complications and breathing made it all worth he was perfect. Of course I wish I could experience a normal birth like you see on TV, but it doesn't always happen that way. Maybe next time you'll be able to delivery vaginal. I wish I could, but the most important thing is that your child is healthy and that's really all that matters. Take Care.

Muriel - posted on 03/29/2010

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I had to demand my C section. I have a VP shunt. I was told by everyone, including a Neurologist that I would be able to deliver normally as you put it but with my high blood pressure I didn't want to chance it.

Anne - posted on 03/29/2010

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I had three c-sections first was a surprise, the other two were planned. I fell down the steps and broke my leg a week after having my third child so when the doctor tells you to just take it easy, please listen and do just that until you heal

Mandi - posted on 03/29/2010

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I had an emergency c-section at 30 weeks 3 days after being in preterm labor for 3 weeks. I felt like I failed at keeping my son safer and inside my tummy but he's a healthy one year old now and now, the only thing I regret is not stayin put and not working out cause now my scar is all messed up because I split it 3 times.

Phyllis - posted on 03/29/2010

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I had to have an emergency c-section. I had toximia and I was bleeding internally from my liver. I almost had a heartattack while they were trying to find the source of bleeding. I went through the most horrible post partum depression ever. This was my third child. I didn't feel like a failure but I was constantly afraid that something was bad was going to happen. I did finally get through it. You are not a failure by not delivering normally. Its better to have delivered safely than to take a chance with something going wrong with you or your baby. Your still a mom and nothing can take that away from you. Your baby doesn't see you as a failure. As a matter of fact your baby sees you as its hero. Please just love your baby and don't worry about how he/she got here. You did a good job. Remember that.

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michelle - i had a c-section also due to failed process but i was fully dilated and was unable to push after 52 hours of grueling labor. i didn't feel too badly about it at first but when my daughter was about a month old, i was watching a movie where the mother gave birth vaginally and i just burst into tears. i had to realize that having a c-section, though not what i wanted, was the safest thing for me and my daughter. she is safe and healthy and that is what really mattered. you did nothing "wrong" sometimes life doesn't work out the way we would want it to. just know that you, as a mother, made the best decision for your baby. and if there is a next time, you can always try for a VBAC :)

Heather - posted on 03/28/2010

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My third child was an emergency C section but we had asked the doctors to let us have one because I kept pushing and we were not progressing and I was physically worn out. I even had a nurse say to me, "so you can't have it the normal way," as they were preparing me for the surgery. Well six weeks later at my checkup with my OB (he wasn't present at the delivery) read me the notes of how the surgery went. He said that the cord was wrapped around his head 3 times! If we had progressed the normal way I would not have my son Spencer. What is more important, the way he was born or that you and your child is healthy? Rest assured that you and your child are well. What a blessing it is to have a way to have children that have a difficult time being delivered! It is not your fault. Everyone has a different experience with the pain and circumstances in delivery. Sometimes there is a misconception that we have total control over what happens when the contractions begin. That is not always so but never are you less of a mom for having a C- section and do not let anyone tell you that.

Marlee - posted on 03/28/2010

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I have a now 4 month old dd that I had emergency C-section with. I went into early labor and she was breach so out she came that way. I think I cried for a week. she is the last of 8 and all the others were done natural so yeah.

Brandy - posted on 03/28/2010

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I had a emergency c section to to my little boy being face down dont remember too much about what went on as it happened so fast, after he was born they rushed him to NICU cause he had shallow breathing.

Brittany - posted on 03/28/2010

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I have had 2. The first was an emergency c-section. My son was breach and they could not stop my contractions at 36 weeks. I really wasn't prepared for it. But looking back it was the best thing that we could have done for me and my baby. When I just recently had my daughter the entire experience was completely different. I was more prepared because I knew exactly what I was going to be going through. You shouldn't feel like a failure.You still went through the labor and just because your little one got pulled out instead of pushed, they are here just the same. Everything happens for a reason and perhaps if you had had your baby "normally" there would have been complications that you couldn't have known. I believe that is why some things happen. Hopefully my information has helped you. I'm sure you are doing a great job with your little one, and the fact that you are feeling this way just shows how much you really care. Oh... and remember you DID do all the work, you just needed a little help at the very end. :)

Angie - posted on 03/28/2010

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i had twins jan 8 2010 my son was born vaginal but my little girl went tranverse had a knot in her cord and no heart tones so i had an emergancy c section but thay had to cut thrue her placenta so i lost alot of blood and she was with out oxegen she was in the nicu for days. anyway when i saw her for the first time i did not really no what to do i did not see her come into the world (i was under anistesia)so it took me a little bit to bond with her i did not even get to hold her for a day now i worry that my feelings when she was born still affect me like i make shure i dont naglect her.it has affected me but i still love my little peanut lol

Cassie - posted on 03/28/2010

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I had twins. Brian (baby a) was natural after 36 hours of labor. When he came out Bradly (baby b) flipped. By the time they turned him again I was back down to 8. After 6.5 hours later, they decided to do a c-section. I felt upset at first but after I slept, got a drink!, and some food, I felt it was a good decision. I was weak and it hurt for about a week, but I was "lucky" since I was out before the boys, so I had time to recover before they came home. I was the only one out of my mom, sister and I to have a baby 'normally'. You did not fail in any way! You have a beautiful baby and it doesn't matter how he got here, because you didn't fail in protecting him for 9 mths!

Retta - posted on 03/28/2010

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i had a c emergency c section with my first, after 24 hours of labour he got stuck and wasnt going to fit down the canal, i also had a c csection for my second which was planned as my uterus rupchurd with my first (which i only found out shortly before i was due with my second, this also turned into a emergency csection. YOU are not a failure and what is normal anyway, as long as your baby is healthy and thise beautiful eyes stare back at you who cares how they came in to the world. Leanne I am sorry for you loss, and to anyone else who have lost their babies my heart goes out to you.

Lyndsay - posted on 03/27/2010

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i have 2 boys, both c sections. i think it hits you hard the first time around, but when you see the baby, and all things good, it changes everything... i was told that if i would become pregnant again, that i would need another c section,and be put to sleep,, as there is to much scaring.. on the inside.. but you're in no way a failure.. think positive, and be the best mum that you can be..

Kristie - posted on 03/27/2010

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I have had 3 my first was cause my baby wouldnt engage and every week i went back they would say next week till they took me for an ultrasound, as soon as I saw him i cried i was like how am i gonna get that out and the dr said he is to big he will split you in 2 he looks at least 10 pound i am gonna give you a c section and when i had him he was 9 pound 15 and a half, i was 18 my second was because that what my ex said it had to be and my third even though i wanted to try natural i wasnt alowed cause i had alreadt had 2 c sections, people who say you get out of it the easy way having a c section have never had one at least with a natural birth after you have it the pain is gone with a c section its there for weeks, i fell over in the shower and near busted my stiches that hurt

Kristie - posted on 03/27/2010

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I have had 3 my first was cause my baby wouldnt engage and every week i went back they would say next week till they took me for an ultrasound, as soon as I saw him i cried i was like how am i gonna get that out and the dr said he is to big he will split you in 2 he looks at least 10 pound i am gonna give you a c section and when i had him he was 9 pound 15 and a half, i was 18 my second was because that what my ex said it had to be and my third even though i wanted to try natural i wasnt alowed cause i had alreadt had 2 c sections, people who say you get out of it the easy way having a c section have never had one at least with a natural birth after you have it the pain is gone with a c section its there for weeks, i fell over in the shower and near busted my stiches that hurt

BobbiDee - posted on 03/27/2010

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I had an emergency c-sect due to fluid levels. I sure felt like a failure, especially since we had planned on a natural, drug free birth. I dont even remember seeing my litle boy untl hours later. My husband has been wonderful making sure i knew that i wasnt a failure because i had sheltered and nurtured this beautiful life we had between us.

as for delivering "normally" in the us, my husband tells me, the c-sect rate is around 45%... so what is normal?

BobbiDee - posted on 03/27/2010

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I had an emergency c-sect due to fluid levels. I sure felt like a failure, especially since we had planned on a natural, drug free birth. I dont even remember seeing my litle boy untl hours later. My husband has been wonderful making sure i knew that i wasnt a failure because i had sheltered and nurtured this beautiful life we had between us.

as for delivering "normally" in the us, my husband tells me, the c-sect rate is around 45%... so what is normal?

Sheralee - posted on 03/27/2010

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I have a 10 month old to through IVF and also had a C Section but I so dont feel a failure and you shouldnt ether,you babys perfect right,I was two weeks over due and had to be booked in to be induced 3 days later after 3 lots of inducings I still had not diolated so they gave me one more lot and sleeping pills and pethadeen and I sent my mother inlaw home to get some rest , my husband had gone home to feed our dogs and we live 25mins away from hospital ,anyway that was a 8pm and about 9pm I woke(dont know how because I was so druged up) with wetness down stairs and I was like OMG Id better go toilet so I did when I got back to my room my waters broke arrrrr and the real pain started shit It was sore lol hit the button dont know how many times so the nurses came and I was in labour cool I though finaly lol so my husband and mother inlaw are on ther way back as fast as they could.I was taken down to delivery but Id only diloted 1cm Oh No so they just had enough room to put a clip on baby he was in major danger, I was so out of it to relise before I knew it I was signing a waver for my C Section thank G my Husband was there by then but I remember I did feel scared maybe becase of the drgs but within ten mins of signing the paper my perfect son was born, he was so late lol we called him Layten my bundle of joy is finaly here and me a my husband were so happy to meet him not matter how we got there we got what we wanted from the start,Our perfect we son :)

Jawnnette - posted on 03/27/2010

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Hello! I had to have my first child via an emergency c section. So far, the scariest thing that I ever personally experienced. My son's heart rate began to drop and the doctor and nurses ran into my room. They pushed my husband and mom to the back of the room. They then wheeled me away into the operating room, strapped down my arms and put a mask on my face. Then within seconds, I was out. My son was delivered within 10 minutes from them running into my room. I woke up by myself in a room. I had no idea if my son was alive. When a nurse finally came in my room, I was too afraid to ask if he was alive. So I just asked how much he weighed. She then told me that she will take me to my room where my husband, mom and my son were. I was so happy! Later that night, it set in what I had gone through. After some tears, I realized that I was just happy that my son was alive. So no need to think that I was cheated in anyway. Rather I was blessed!!!

Kimberly - posted on 03/27/2010

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Im glad that your feeling better about having a c-section.. i have had 6 of them.. and never did i feel a failure..i just wouldnt open past 1cm.. i tried twice to have natural birth.. the first one i was in labor for 18 1/2 hours.. and they finally took her.. i was just happy to have my baby.. the second one i was in labor for 22 hours.. and with my water being broke it was an emergancy to take her out.. and im glad they did.. since she was very sick when they took her out... but never ever feel like a failure.. it doesnt matter how you have your baby just as long as your ok and the babys ok.. your still a great mom..

Shellee - posted on 03/27/2010

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My 1st child was born by emerg. c-section. Her heart rate dropped to 60bpm and she was in distress as well as myself not progressing any further than 6 cm. Did i feel a failure for not doing it naturally? Course I did...but it was such a relief when they told me they were going to section me....and I managed to come away from it healthy and with a healthy child who is now 10 years old. I am a mother of 4 children, the last 3 born naturally and am expecting my 5th in 4 weeks. Don't worry about it....the drs and midwives will always do whats best for you and bubs at the time....and they probably made the best decision in your case as I believe they did in mine. I hope this helps.

MARYELLEN - posted on 03/27/2010

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my 3 month old was c section. it wasn't emergency or chose really. after 12 hrs of induced labor i found out i couldn't pass her naturally and she was 7lbs 9.4 oz. i still have bruising from it and took forever to start healing but it doesn't slow me down anymore. i just hated having to get help to even take a shower.

Ruth - posted on 03/27/2010

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I had both of my girls by c-section, first one planned (had Vasa Previa), second one emergency (at all most 11 lbs she went into distress, heart beat was over 200). I did not feel anything like a failure in these deliveries, I did what was nessecary to have have both girls delivered LIVE!!! But I am a little disappointed that I hear so many of you talking about feeling like a failure because YOU ended up having a c-section. Ladies, I'm sorry but this is your CHILD'S birthday, it's about them and doing what ever you have to for them. DID YOU do everything in your power to bring your child into this world (including letting the dr.'s help you) then you are ANYTHING but a failure. Go hug your babies and you will forget albout the way the got there and just enjoy that they are.

Lisa - posted on 03/27/2010

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I have had 3 c-sections because I had an early separation of the placenta and started hemorraging with my first born so I had no choice in the matter. And I am glad that it happened the way it did. Planning for the other two made it easier to set up babysitting for them. But I never had feelings of failure because I did not deliver naturally; I knew I had escaped the pain of natural birth and even though recovery from c-section is harder, knowing that you have healthy children is the most important thing in the world. Each of my kids were in the NICU for up to a week because of fluid in the lungs and then they came home healthy. That is all that matters. Trust me, having all the pain in natural child birth, though you can have the benfits of modern medicine to help, doesn't make you more of a success in motherhood. Any way your child is delivered, so long as they are healthy should keep you happy and make you feel truly blessed. There is never failure in doing what is right and best for your children. So don't dwell on having a c-section, just think about that little bundle of joy you've got in your life now and enjoy every second of it because without that c-section you might not even have that little bundle of joy; and having him/her changes your whole life for the betterand show you what true unconditional love is!!!

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Hi! I have a similar story. Failure to progress, which led to a c/s, which led to 2 more c/s's. I'd like to encourage you in the fact that you still delivered your baby. And, it's still your birth story:) Talk about it, if you write, write about it, you'll feel better. I didn't even realize how much "stuff" I had stuffed down in me from my births until 6 years latter when I was becoming a doula and had been asked to write a reflective essay about one of my births. It was very healing. The most important thing is the fact that you and baby are healthy, but it's ok to acknowledge the loss of the birth that you were expecting also. If you want to do a vbac next time around, I highly recommend you look for midwifery care and hire a doula.

Suzette - posted on 03/27/2010

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I had an emergency C-section after being in labour 16 hours.I failed to progress further than 4cm as my son's head lodged on my rectum and couldn't go any further. My epidural didn't work and my blood pressure eventually went to high, causing an emergency C-section. They wheeled me out to theatre, gave me anesthetic, I was out for the count and my husband had to sit and wait in the waiting room. There went all my fantasies of bonding with my child first thing... But, I must tell you. My C-section was the greatest relief that I have ever encountered. I cannot believe that I didn't schedule it that way from the beginning. Believe me, I am all for natural birth and its benefits, I tried, but it wasn't for me. I woke up around an hour after my son's birth, my husband had done bonding with him since 10min after me being wheeled into theatre.

I was up within 12 hours, had a shower and proceeded to give my son his first bath. The c-section wasn't that bad to me. I didn't really suffer from pain. I rested well after the hours in labour and could enjoy my time with my son. Don't feel guilty. We all have our paths laid out for us. Something much worse could have happened if you continued with natural birth.

Be happy that you're both healthy. Enjoy the time you have now. Beware Post Natal Depression, it got me around 15months after my son was born. You did what you could and good on you for trying to go normal. That takes a lot of guts in the first place. This is the 21st century. If something might go wrong, we want to know about it. Well something went wrong. You took evasive action to protect your child. Your child won't even remember which way he/she was born, just that fact that they're here and you brought them into the world, be it normally, or via additional pain and effort of a c-section. The love is the same...

Mel - posted on 03/27/2010

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I too had an emergency c-section due to failed progression of my baby girl who is now 9wks old bless her, I was only 3cm dilated had all drugs going in end they rushed me to theatre as baby was non active an dipping heart rate.



I found it difficult to tend to her after the birth an to see my husband do it all because i couldnt was really upsetting. I got an infection in my wound ended up opening up again which set me back to square one again.

So it was hard to cope with but im so lucky to have a wonderful husband who done it all looked after both me an my daughter an the housework.



It does get easier, if you have friends an family who can help out then do ask for help don't be affraid to ask! You need ur rest an time to recover it will benefit u an ur baby if u take help that is offered an not suffer in silence. :)x

Ruhi - posted on 03/27/2010

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Hi! i had my baby via C section...i was not having dilation and my baby's heart beat had gone very erratic......you don't have to feel guilty. your doctor did what what was right for you and the baby at that particular moment. you should be happy that your baby is safe and healthy....take care of the baby and yourself...all the best..

Sharron - posted on 03/27/2010

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yes i had a c section will b 3yrs in oct i didnt like the idea of it but my baby woz not copin and had 2 happen so as long as my baby woz ok i didnt mind havin it

Ami - posted on 03/26/2010

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I have had 3 children all of them by c-section. My first one was an emergency. He was not breathing and his heart rate dropped to 50. That was 9 years ago. I had to c-sections with with the other 2 because they were afraid my uterus would rupture. You have no reason to feel like a failure because you had a c-section. A lot of women have c-sections. The way you deliver your baby does not determin your success as a mother. It is everything after that does that.

Nicki - posted on 03/26/2010

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Why would you feel that giving birth to a healthy baby through a c-section a failure? Actually, it's a great success that you delivered him/her safely. Isn't the goal is to deliver a healthy baby, regardless of how that baby came out? The baby chooses how he/she wishes to arrive in this world, not the mother! So I don't think you have to think that you were a failure in any way just because you didn't deliver vaginally.



I had a c-section delivery (after being stuck at 9cm for hours) and feel great that I delivered my son safely. I don't have any regrets or question why I couldn't deliver him vaginally because what's important to me is that I have a happy, healthy son to show for my efforts! Everyday, I focus on spending my time playing with him and thank god that I have him in my life.



As women, we do what is needed for our family and if that means a c-section then it's a c-section. In fact, I'll probably choose to have a c-section again for my next baby.

Rachel - posted on 03/26/2010

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I had to have a c-section with my 14 month old and although I was disappointed, it was the best thing I could have done! I was diagnosed with mild pre-eclampsia and two weeks later I was a severe case. I was only 34 1/2 weeks pregnant at the time and was not ready to have my baby yet. After two days in the hospital where they were trying to induce me, but at the same time insure that I would not go into seizures, I finally decided on day 3 that I would do a c- section. This was not my plan at all!!! I really wanted to go completely natural for my first child and the only part of my birth plan that worked out was the wonderful doctor who delivered me. At first I felt as if I had failed, but then I realized that although it didn't go as I planned, I made the best decision for my daughter, which in reality is all that mattered to me. My husband and I are currently trying for baby number 2 now and I can promise you that since I was told that more than likely I will have the same problems that I had with my first, this time I won't wait 3 days to try to deliver naturally, I will volunteer to have a c-section right away. Please don't feel as if you failed, sometimes you can't control the way something will happen, but most important of all, you gave birth to a beautiful baby who is happy, healthy, and loved. It doesn't matter how it happened, the end result makes it all worthwhile. I hope this helps you a little.

Leslie - posted on 03/26/2010

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i had to have a section two weeks early. my now 4 1/2 month old was measuring 41wks and thought to be almost 10 1/2 lbs. Also i was not progressing at all. No dilation, no thinning, and she had not dropped any. it was disappointing not too deliver her "normally". I had planned to have a natural birth. But in the end I was okay with everything because all I TRUELY wanted was what was the safest for her and me. And this time it was a section. So don't feel like a failure, you gave birth (no matter via the method) and that makes you successful.

Justina - posted on 03/26/2010

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i have a 2 1/2 year old... i had to c secion after 12 hours of pushing.. bc my tail bone was in the way.. i absolutely felt like i failed at first and was very upset.. i also felt like it hampered my bond with my daughter the first few months. i did not cope well... at first... but now i will say it was totally worth it.. c-section or not.. she is the most amazing thing in my life!!!!! time will heal... but i know alot of moms who opt for c sections for less stress on baby, chose, etc... you are not a failure you conceived- carried-and gave birth to a miracle 10 months ago... :)

Whitney Rose - posted on 03/26/2010

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I was so sure I would have a perfectly normal childbirth. I was even up for at least trying without an epidural (although I doubt I would have gone through with that). I spent so much time thinking about it and preparing and motivating myself for the event. But then, at exactly 37 weeks, things took a surprise turn for the worst. I noticed a strange change in my vision and I checked my blood pressure and it was 180/120. I had been showing signs of preeclampsia, but by that point, I had severe preeclampsia (with no other symtoms). I had to go to the hospital immediately, since with blood pressure like that, I could have stroked out or the preeclampsia could have progressed to numerous things, including major organ failure. I was so upset when the doctor told me a c-section was absolutely necessary. I begged to be induced but she assured me it was too risky. I am still struggling with the fact that I had a c-section because of the increased risks in future pregnancies, because I will have to go through it again, and because I am limited on the number of kids I can have. Maybe I don´t want to have moire than 3 kids, but maybe I do, and why should I be resitriced?! The recovery, in my case, was complicated and long and painful and depressing. However, I think that with any c-section it is important to focus on the positive things - I delivered a healthy baby girl, we both survived a potentially fatal situation, and recovery, although hard for me, is often not too dificult for many people.

Whitney Rose - posted on 03/26/2010

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I was so sure I would have a perfectly normal childbirth. I was even up for at least trying without an epidural (although I doubt I would have gone through with that). I spent so much time thinking about it and preparing and motivating myself for the event. But then, at exactly 37 weeks, things took a surprise turn for the worst. I noticed a strange change in my vision and I checked my blood pressure and it was 180/120. I had been showing signs of preeclampsia, but by that point, I had severe preeclampsia (with no other symtoms). I had to go to the hospital immediately, since with blood pressure like that, I could have stroked out or the preeclampsia could have progressed to numerous things, including major organ failure. I was so upset when the doctor told me a c-section was absolutely necessary. I begged to be induced but she assured me it was too risky. I am still struggling with the fact that I had a c-section because of the increased risks in future pregnancies, because I will have to go through it again, and because I am limited on the number of kids I can have. Maybe I don´t want to have moire than 3 kids, but maybe I do, and why should I be resitriced?! The recovery, in my case, was complicated and long and painful and depressing. However, I think that with any c-section it is important to focus on the positive things - I delivered a healthy baby girl, we both survived a potentially fatal situation, and recovery, although hard for me, is often not too dificult for many people.

Jennia - posted on 03/26/2010

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I had to have my 2 yr old daughter by emercency c-section because she turn her head at the last second and was stuck on my pelvic bone. I felt sad that i didnt get to watch her be born but when i saw her for the first time that didnt matter any more.

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