did anyone have a c section? was it emergency or chose?

Shannon - posted on 03/25/2010

I had my second twin by emergency c section after trying for an hour to deliver naturally. My baby turned and his arm came out up to his shoulder. He then got stuck in my pelvis. I was rushed off for the c section but because I had not had any drugs I was forced to have a general anasthetic. This meant I was asleep for the entire delivery and my husband was not able to witness the moment either. I will always feel sad that I wasn't aware of his entrance into the world. I was with his brother and sister. He was 6 hours old before I even saw him. The main thing was he was born healthy and I can still share all the other moments in his life.

Becky - posted on 03/25/2010

I have had both an emerg and normal c section. It is NOT how you have your baby that counts.. Remember you had carried and cared for that baby up to the point its time to arrive.. Then you have to care for that child for ever! Your baby is not going to grow up and say my mom didnt have me natural and had a c section thats why im the way I am..lol..Be a great mom NO matter how you had your baby.. Getting them here is all that matters!

Gretchen - posted on 03/25/2010

I feel you completely. I too had a Non-Emergency c-section after 30 plus hours in labor. I found out he was malpositioned(afterwards) but that could have been helped. I too was at 8cm for quite a while. I now know that with a little manipulation and changing of position my son would have been born vaginally.



Please go check out ICAN. International Cesarean Awareness Network. www.ican-online.org There is a large community of women who feel the same way you do.



You need to explore your feelings and not just say you should get over it. Suppressing those feelings could lead to future issues while pregnant or giving birth again. Fear of what we feel is usually the main decision maker in our lives. The what-ifs often override the actual facts of life.



There is no reason to think you cannot have a VBAC. The actual risk for women after 1 prior cesarean is between .05-.09%. The 4% or higher number(s) is often thrown out by doctors as a scare tactic for women to just do what will be easier on the OB. Surgery is faster for them and they do not have to labor sit. The NIH (National Institutes of Health) just had a conference on VBAC and determined that ACOG(American Congress of Obstetricians) as well as the ASA(American Association of Anesthesiologists) to reconsider their guidelines for VBAC. It was also determined that VBAC and RCS(Repeat c-section) carried the same general risk, but that women undergoing elective RCS were more at risk for complications(blog clots, bladder damage, as well as hysterectomy) than women who delivered vaginally.



Do take the time to read and reasearch on your own. If that means that a VBAC is best for you or a RCS is best, make the decision for yourself. That is the power of choice instead of being chosen for. Best of Luck

Kendra - posted on 03/25/2010

I had a c section with my little guy. I said thru my entire pregnancy that I would go completely natural, no drugs, as little medical interference as possible.. I ended up being induced cuz of low amniotic fluid, 44 hours into it I was still barely feeling the contractions and was only dilated to 1cm :(. So they explained that because I had cervical cancer and three procedures done to get rid of it, my cervix has too much scar tissue to soften enough to open. The doc gave me the option of c section due to my body failing to go into labor.. My husband and I talked it over, literally 20 mins later I was on my way to the OR! It was scary as hell but it went smoothly and I now have a beautiful baby boy!! After, my doctor came in to check on me and I told him I was upset that I couldn't (and can never) do it naturally. He told me "there are no winners or losers in the delivery room, only babies."



.....thanks dr Mitchell ;) that's the best advice anyone could have given me at that moment.

Annette - posted on 03/25/2010

i had to have a c section for my first and i was 17 mine was an emergency due to having a cord prolasp i was had to deal with but if i didn't have it then i would have lost my daughter and/or myself so it was the best way i have had 2 natural births after that 2nd onr just with the gas and the 3rd with nothing at all you are not a failure

Jean Marie - posted on 03/25/2010

I told my OB at my first visit at 9weeks pregnant that I wanted a c section. I felt that if something was to go wrong during childbirth that t was going to happen to me. I know it sounds very negative but I've seen through different family members and friends the results of thing that went wrong during regular child birth. For example, my girlfriends daughter was "stuck" in the birth canal and by the time they gave her a cesection, her daughter now has some brain damage, and another family members son has permanent damage to his left arm leaving him with no feeling and no growth in his arm. My son was born at 9ponds 11ounces and I know that I probably would not have been able to push him out. He was born via csection and it was the most peaceful experience! There was no pain and we celebrated the same way you would with a vaginal birth. I don't feel that I missed out on anything and I don't feel like a failure.

Michelle - posted on 03/25/2010

I delivered my first daughter via c-section after 36 horus of labor and never progressing past 1cm, so I know your feelings but don't feel like a failure. You still have the best outcome possible you got your baby here. I have since had two more c-sections for whatever reason my cervix will never dialate and I am ok with that as long as I can get my babies here the safest way possible.

Jennifer - posted on 03/25/2010

I had an emergency c-section. I tried to deliver normally, but my 3rd daughter's placenta broke. I had placenta previa, but they told me it went away. I felt like I had been an incubater for the baby and not it's mom. Then I read articles that say that most who deliver by c-section don't treat their child the same, and show lest interest in them because they are a c-section baby. That woried me so I tried extra hard to not do that to her. THe recovery from the c-section was fine, but the guilt I felt was over whelming.

Ronda - posted on 03/25/2010

I had to have one with my now 3 1/2 year old daughter. we didn't find out what she was and wanted the surprise but since i ended up having a c-section cause i wouldn't get past 5cm so it wasnt much of a surprise for us being that i had to be knocked out and my husband couldn't be in the room with me. the drs told him and he then told me as i was coming to after the surgery. so with my next i'm wanting to have a vbac so that i have that chance to experience normal birthing for when my daughter is having children i can answer any questions she may have.

Kendra - posted on 03/25/2010

I had a c section with my little guy. I said thru my entire pregnancy that I would go completely natural, no drugs, as little medical interference as possible.. I ended up being induced cuz of low amniotic fluid, 44 hours into it I was still barely feeling the contractions and was only dilated to 1cm :(. So they explained that because I had cervical cancer and three procedures done to get rid of it, my cervix has too much scar tissue to soften enough to open. The doc gave me the option of c section due to my body failing to go into labor.. My husband and I talked it over, literally 20 mins later I was on my way to the OR! It was scary as hell but it went smoothly and I now have a beautiful baby boy!! After, my doctor came in to check on me and I told him I was upset that I couldn't (and can never) do it naturally. He told me "there are no winners or losers in the delivery room, only babies."



.....thanks dr Mitchell ;) that's the best advice anyone could have given me at that moment.

Angela - posted on 03/25/2010

I had an emergency c-section due to severe neurological pre-eclampsia at just 24 weeks and 4 days gestation to save my life. Toby was born weighing just 669 grams. I felt like such a failure not from having a c-section but from having to deliver so early.

I soon learnt that I am not a failure, this unfortunately happens to a lot of woman.

It doesn't matter how our children came into this world, what matters is that they are here, they are happy, they are healthy and they have parents who love them and devote their time to them..

To this day I still find it hard to look at someone who is heavily pregnant BUT that does not make me a failure - I just grieve for that last part of the pregnancy - I only got just over half way. I could spend every hour of every day feeling like a failure BUT then I miss out on living and my family misses out on quality time and it would mean I am not being the best mum for my son.

Reality is I would have died had I remained pregnant and so would Toby. We were given the option of whether to give him treatment or not and told he only had a 50% chance of survival. Luckily after four months (121 days) in hospital my son came home and is a happy and healthy 21 month old (17 months corrected - developmentally). He still has a long road, may experience delays in learning, is the size of a small 1 year old, has had to have laser eye surgery and the list goes on BUT I saw a number of premature and full term babies die in the neonatal intensive care and that woke me up to how lucky we are and how "failure" is just not a word we should use.

Getting pregnant is a miracle (if you read all the articles), staying pregnant is a miracle, and having a full term healthy baby is a miracle NO MATTER how they are delivered.

I will have to have c-sections from now on as I had a classical c-section, which means I was cut up and down, not across and the risk of rupture is too great. Fingers crossed I make it too at least 34 weeks next time as the baby will be able to breath on its own and start feeding straight away.

Never ever feel like a failure, feel luck to have a happy, healthy child. Anyone that tells you otherwise can go jump!!

My sister had her full termer via c-section and had a natural delivery with her second.... it comes down to what the doctor deems is best for you and your child.

C-sections are performed to save babies lives when they are getting stressed and (like in my situation) to save mother's lives. They are necessary in a lot of situations.

Sorry for the long reply BUT I had so many people including my mother-inlaw who I no longer talk to unless it is really necessary tell me I had failed.... people like that are just not worth your time.

Angela - posted on 03/24/2010

I had to have an emergency c section, as my contractions had stopped my sons heart. His heart had been stopped for a min and a half, when they finally got him out, and he was not breathing. He is now 10 yrs old and he is my miracle baby. I felt like a failure too, as all my other children were normal births. It was only when I started to look at everything that had happened along the way, that I felt ok with it. It did take a couple years, and I did not have anyone except the Lord to talk to about this, and at the time my faith was not very good. I had to work through it by myself, I am a stronger person for it and I can help other moms to understand that it is not their fault. There is always a reason for something happening the way it does. I am truly very blessed to have him. God bless and have faith!!

Amy - posted on 03/24/2010

I had an emergency c-section. Went into labor at 36 weeks 5 days and the baby was breech. I had been praying the entire pregnancy fthat I wouldn't have to have a c-section. However, I am thankful for it now because my baby had a knot in the cord that would have killed him had he turned and I had pushed him out. I have dealt with the c-section ok. I am just very thankful.

Diane - posted on 03/24/2010

I had 3 c-sections, the first was an emergency and the last 2 due to problems with the first child. In no way did I ever feel a failure, I still have 3 beautiful and healthy children. At first I was resistant, until the Dr said the baby wasn't progressing, when I found out the baby was in danger, I changed my mind pretty quickly. Isn't that what we as mother's are supposed to do take care of our children even in the womb. But I would never say one way is better than than the other.

Christina - posted on 03/24/2010

I had an emergency c-section with my 2nd son since I had previa and was bleeding at 38 weeks. I actually thought the recovery from the c-section was better than vaginal birth with my 1st son.

Amy - posted on 03/24/2010

PS. the private hospital I had my baby at has a 70% C section rate, 40% of those are elective, the other is emergency.

Amy - posted on 03/24/2010

I had an elective C section, after all the stories I heard from other Mom's in Mothers group, I'm really glad I did. With medication you don't really feel that much pain, and you are more worried about Baby then self anyway. I would do it again if I had another baby.

Tina - posted on 03/24/2010

17 yrs ago I had an emergency c section with my son because of a prolapsed cord afterwards i fell into deep post partum depression and I don't remember the first 2 years of his life. I feel as if it destroyed me after the emergency c section. but my relationship with my son is very strong and I love him greatly. I went on to having a planned c section 5 years later and it was wanderful.

Kari Lynn - posted on 03/24/2010

I had an emergency c section with my first because I went from 9cm - 8cm (was closing up) She was 36 weeks 4 days 5lb 6.5oz when I delivered. I felt like a failure but didn't tell anyone because I had my baby girl who was healthy, so how did I fail? Also, when my cousins are having 10 lb babies naturally and I couldn't squeeze out a 5 lb nothing... it got to me a little. When I had my 2nd 16 months later, I planned the section and was happy I did. My doctor told me that if I had delivered vaginally I may have ruptured my uterus because it was so thin (this saved me incase I am interested in #3) Believe that everything happens for a reason (even if it sucks) and remember it doesn't matter HOW the baby is born, just that they are. You are wonderful and good job!

Daniela - posted on 03/24/2010

My son is almost 2. I wanted a natural birth and ended up with a c-section. At first I felt like a failure, but it subsided because the most important thing was that my son was healthy and so was I. I like to watch "Deliver me" on TV and actually there are so many moms with c-sections out there

Candice - posted on 03/24/2010

I had a planned csection because of an accident in 2006 i was hit by a truck and it broke my left hip my pubic bone my pelvic bone and my left sacral bone. i became pregnant in 2008. my body was not responding to the dilation process. i was 39 weeks and only dilated 1cm. my hips werent seperating because of the accident so that was the safest way for me and my son. They didnt even know if i could carry a child after the accident. Im very grateful for the csection. please dont feel like a failure. I did for awhile too but that was the only choice for me. I am very happy now my scar is very small almost nonexistant and i have a wonderful son who is one now. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. and look at it this way. Its alot easier it was painless lol :)

best wishes to you and yours

Sonja - posted on 03/24/2010

I am a 47 year old married but separated Mom and wife. I have had 2 kids c-section. One was emergency. She didn't have any water to turn around and the head was up towards my breast. My 2nd kid was also c-section because of my first kid. If you want to contact me @ SweetRose6296@yahoo.com, we can talk more.

Heather - posted on 03/23/2010

When my husband and I went to birth classes for our first child we got some really great advice from the nurse doing the class. She said don't have specific expectations because so many things can happen when you are going through the birth experience. There is a lot of pressure on mothers now to do everything "naturally" but some times its just not how its going to work out. Mothers shouldn't feel bad or ashamed if the pain is too much and they need some pain relief. We can't help needing a c-section. I took the advice to heart and I'm glad I did because I also stopped at 8 cm. My daughter was face up and she was also a bigger baby. Being ready for anything helped me not freak out when they told me I'd need a c-section and not to feel bad afterwards. Its the same with breastfeeding. Some women do really well with it/and child and some can't or have real problems. Sometimes our "idea" of how we want things to go can put too much pressure on us. We are expecting number two now. I know they will want to give me a c-section again but I know what to expect and I'm ok with it. Try not to feel bad about something that was out of your control. You made a beautiful baby and that's the best and most important part. :)

Rosa - posted on 03/23/2010

My first child I had an emergency c-section because I didn't dilate. My pelvic opening was small for vaginal birth. Then for all my other 4 kids I had planned c-sections. I do not feel bad about it. I just look at it this way: My vaginal is intact and no vaginal pain from tearing & stretching... LOL but I do applaud the courage the mothers who had vaginal birth. I hear it is tough and painful but that at the end the baby is worth it. :-D

Jenn - posted on 03/23/2010

i had to have a c section for my son because I got to 91/2 then went back down to 7 with swelling and my son wasn't liking the pitosin either so they took him then 11 1/2 months later i had my daughter by c section by choice and was glad since there was a cord wrapped around her neck. and i was going to try to have her as a vbac but just had to have her taken c section. lol i felt a little like a failure initially but then realized that i was just fine.

Mari - posted on 03/23/2010

I have had two c-sections due to difficult pregnancies. First one was emergency c-section, since baby went into destress at 6 month and he passed away after 6 days. The second pregnancy was also c-section, since I was high risk pregnancy, they discovered I was diabetec in pregnancy, so I cannot really say much of a choise here but you should not have felt like a failure because you are not. You created this little loving person and your body worked really hard all those 9 month and you delivered this little one healthy and into secure world, no ... It is miracle of what we can do! You still gave birth to a human life :)

Kimberly - posted on 03/23/2010

I have had 3 c-sections. The first one was an emergency. I stopped dilating at 9cm. I look at it like there was a reason that it happened this way. I felt like a failure after my first one, but then I looked at it like I was still able to bring a human life into this world and that makes it all worthwhile.

Jody - posted on 03/22/2010

you are so not a failure....my oldest (17) was a c-section at 41.wks....she just didn't want to come out....she was feet first & thank goodness for it.....I've had 2 more c-sections since and am glad for it....from all my Mom friends that have had c-sections....the healing is faster & better........I know all are different but a c-section does not make you any less of a mother............

Nyssa - posted on 03/22/2010

Yep, I hate my scar. It's from my belly button down because it was an emergency c-section. They said they cut it that way becuase it was the quickest, but now I look like I have a butt on my belly. So, when someone tells me they had an emergency c-section, and they have a "normal" incision, I kinda wonder why they couldn't have done that with me. My husband couldn't even be in the room. It was the first time I saw him cry. Thankfully the doctor that did the surgery opened my uterus with an incision allowing me to have a vbac if I wanted. I have had 4 vbacs since then. The first vbac, I had to go to a different hospital to deliver the baby because they didn't have a anesthesiologist(spl?) on call at the local hospital. I had to wait until I was 36wks along before they would see if I could do a vbac. They did an internal ultrasound to check my scar and for the thickness of my uterus. Thankfully my uterus was twice as thick as what they wanted for the risk of an uteranabruption. They wouldn't have done it if it was only so thick. So, after that first vbac, I asked if they would have to do that everytime-check the thickness-and they said yes. Well, we moved to a different state, and my new doctor didn't do it for any of my last 3. I'm so glad I did the vbacs. The recovery was a lot faster then the c-section, and a lot less painful. I only say that because my labors aren't that bad, and I've only had but little tears. If you look at your family history you can usuallly get an idea of how your labor will go...if your mom had easy labors, you probably will, too. All that said, if I do have another child (call me crazy), and it has to be c-section....I'm gonna ask to get a tummy tuck at the same time. lol Maybe they can get rid of my second butt. :P

J - posted on 03/22/2010

I have had two planned c-sections and they were both great experiences. First was due to baby's position and second was a repeat since I chickened out last minute. I was glad I followed my gut since uterus was extremely thin and may have ruptured during a VAC. I don't have any regrets what so ever. Recovery was quick - quicker with the second one for some reason. I have never felt a sense of failure for having c-sections. I was even one of those first time "must do it all natural" moms-to-be who and said I'd have one over my dead body! Once it was decided it was both births were wonderful experiences. It really does not matter how your baby comes out - the goal is to have a healthy child and a healthy mom. Try to think that what if you have not lived in this time when safe c-sections are possible. Moms and babies died of complications that we can avoid today! I have a friend who also have had a hard time getting over that she could not have her baby vaginally. She was in labor for 48 hrs and finally had to have an emergency cs. I believe that the emergency cs is harder for both body and mind in many cases. Enjoy your baby!

Brenda - posted on 03/22/2010

My scar is not going down. it goes across below my belly. It didn't heal the right way so now after 19 yrs it still itches and as I have gained wait after my other three children I have a pouch or pooch or whatever you want to call it but it is terrible because my belly starts on top of that scar. I look fatter than I am because of how my belly fat starts. I don't think that you are vain, I too hate my scar. Does yours itch? Mine still does especially when it is cold outside.

Brenda - posted on 03/22/2010

my first child now 19 was a c section. It was an emergency after having labor pains all night and going through all that pain and then finding out tht she was breach. I had no say in the matter, but it was what was best for the both of us. Don't feel bad about anything. It just happens. You are no less of a women or a mother for having a c section. You are a MOTHER no matter how the delivery went. Be proud of your child and the fact that everything turned out for the best. Plus you never know if you have any other children you can have a v back.....I did with my other 3 with no problems. You might too...and if not, well then it just wasn't meant to be. God knows what he is doing and why.

Angie - posted on 03/22/2010

After having two natural births, my third ended up in an emergency c-section, because the baby's heart beat started to decrease when I was 5cm....I must say, I had a painful recovery! So when I had my fourth child, it had to be a scheduled c-section, since I wanted to get my tubes tied and also needed to take care of an umbilical hernia that I got during my third pregnancy. BUT, my recovery with my last child was way better than the previous one. You shouldn't feel like you are a failure just because you didn't get to deliver "normally". Be thankful that your baby is healthy =)

Karin - posted on 03/22/2010

My first girl was an emergency c-section. Doc said baby was in distress. And when she came out, doc said that the cord was around her neck. Second one was also c-sec. Recovery is normal to me, but I didn't experience any labour pains. So wouldn't know how a normal delivery would have felt. Went for tummy massage after 3 weeks and don't feel any much of a failure. My kids were breastfed for over a year even!

Justina - posted on 03/22/2010

I had a emergency c section. After pushing for almost 24 hours. The baby's head was down there but they told me I had to have a c section. They said my pelvic area was to small.

Jennifer - posted on 03/22/2010

The fact that you delivered a healthy baby makes you far from a failure!!! My fisrt childe was an emergency c-section- after EVERYTHING in my birth plan went wrong. I was disappointed that thing did go how I had wished, and I was not prepared for the c-section or the recovery afterward. But I was happy to have a healthy baby home in my arms! My second child was also a c-section, not an emergency but because I was not going into labor on my own and the baby was getting bigger and bigger. My second c-section was harder than the first- but some of that was not having a lot of help around afterward and i was now caring for a toddler and baby. I went on to have 2 more schdeuled c-sections that were very easy to recover from. Not many can say they have 4 children and have never been in labor!



Don't feel like you failed anyone. The result was the same- a wonder gift!

Melissa - posted on 03/22/2010

Yea i had a c-section with my son but it wasnt by choice i had to have an emergency c-section cause i was only 7 months pregnant and my lil guy wanted to come out early and he did 2 months early. I did wish i could have had him normal but that wasnt the case.

Jessica - posted on 03/22/2010

I had to have an emergency C-Section after 14 hours of labor. My daughter's heart rate kept dropping and they couldn't get it to stabilize. So for me it was better to have an emergency C-section than have something happen to her. But I did have a bit of regret and wonder "If I would've waited just another hour would she have come naturally or died" But it's better to have the C-section and a healthy baby than to risk everything! If you need someone to talk to you can email me anytime! >Jessica

Jessica - posted on 03/22/2010

I had to have an emergency C-Section after 14 hours of labor. My daughter's heart rate kept dropping and they couldn't get it to stabilize. So for me it was better to have an emergency C-section than have something happen to her. But I did have a bit of regret and wonder "If I would've waited just another hour would she have come naturally or died" But it's better to have the C-section and a healthy baby than to risk everything! If you need someone to talk to you can email me anytime! >Jessica

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

i know what you mean. my children are all two years and two months apart but my youngest is 2 and to lose the weight.....yeah right. none of my children would brestfeed, my youngest couldnt but still no help there either. i hate to look at myself in the mirror.

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

i have had 3 c sections. my daughter is 6 my oldest son is 4 and my youngest is 2. the first was emergency the other 2 because of the first. i wanted so bad to have a natural birth, but it just wasnt in the cards. i'm not sure i would say i feel like a failure but very disappointed, sure. my thing is i did what was necessary to get my bundles of joy here. i promise you wont feel like this forever, hang in there.

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

imy first child was natural but 7 weeks and 5 days prem.

my second child was an emergancy c secion as i was 16 weeks early and he was in danger, un fortunatly he passed away after 55 hours. my third child was born via elective c section 3 weeks early because of the complications with the other 2.... the elective c section was just horrible i stayed awake and only had the epidural and let me tell you that was a STUPID choice!!! i would/ve much rather have been knocked out!! i fel like a useless woman as i will not be allowed any natural births again! i hate my scars (no stretch marks but c section scar is worse i wreckon!!) and i am struggling so much to even loose a small amount of weight! i am breast-feedin too! having the c sections have given me extremely low self confidance and self worth....

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

imy first child was natural but 7 weeks and 5 days prem.

my second child was an emergancy c secion as i was 16 weeks early and he was in danger, un fortunatly he passed away after 55 hours. my third child was born via elective c section 3 weeks early because of the complications with the other 2.... the elective c section was just horrible i stayed awake and only had the epidural and let me tell you that was a STUPID choice!!! i would/ve much rather have been knocked out!! i fel like a useless woman as i will not be allowed any natural births again! i hate my scars (no stretch marks but c section scar is worse i wreckon!!) and i am struggling so much to even loose a small amount of weight! i am breast-feedin too! having the c sections have given me extremely low self confidance and self worth....

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

imy first child was natural but 7 weeks and 5 days prem.

my second child was an emergancy c secion as i was 16 weeks early and he was in danger, un fortunatly he passed away after 55 hours. my third child was born via elective c section 3 weeks early because of the complications with the other 2.... the elective c section was just horrible i stayed awake and only had the epidural and let me tell you that was a STUPID choice!!! i would/ve much rather have been knocked out!! i fel like a useless woman as i will not be allowed any natural births again! i hate my scars (no stretch marks but c section scar is worse i wreckon!!) and i am struggling so much to even loose a small amount of weight! i am breast-feedin too! having the c sections have given me extremely low self confidance and self worth....

Roxy - posted on 03/22/2010

i had an emergency c-section also..

my son was breached and refused to turn so at first i requested a c-section because i didnt want to go through with a breach labour.. but when the doc tried to turn him around it sent me into a very fast and painful labour so the c-section turned into an emergency. when he was finally handed to me they told me he was very much stuck and all tangled up so there wouldnt have been a way for me to have him without the c section.

you are in no way a failure for having a c-section because in these situations you are saving your babies(and your own) life.. there are thousands apon thousands of women out there that have had them.. and going through such a major operation is a feat of its own.. then with your brand new baby you have to recover as well..

dont feel bad, in fact i congratulate you :)

JUSTYNA - posted on 03/22/2010

i had a c section... i went for eduction and got only till 3cm and i wasn't progressing they told me i could take a break they will take me off the medicine and we can try again or i can do c-section... i picked it at least i knew shes ok and i didn't want it an emergency one... i do regret not waiting but no one told me it could not work the assured me it will.... i am pregnant right now and i will c if i will be able to do it natural if not ohh well but i will do my best to have a natural

Ashley - posted on 03/22/2010

I had a c-section with my first and I felt the same way. After 12 hours of labor and pushing for two hours he got stuck and I ended up with a c-section. Luckily I found a great doctor with my second baby that was willing to try a VBAC (viginal birth after c-section) and everything went smoothly my second and third time around. You are not a failure having a c-section, it's a blessing that we were able to have c-sections so we can have a happy healthy baby! I've learned it doesn't matter how they are delivered, it just matters that we do everything we can to get them here safely ;)

Danielle - posted on 03/22/2010

I was asked outright by a woman if I was disappointed that I didn't give birth properly, and it din't take me long to realise that you have to be stronger than most to get through a c section. You not only have the emotional residue to deal with but a physical reminder of the birth for the rest of your life. I also had trouble coping, but then I realised that I had no choice and that ultimately I did the right thing by my son and me by having a c section. It saved both lives and I think we are so fortunate that we have the facilities to do so. You carried your baby like any other mother who gave birth vaginally, you love your baby like any other mother who gave birth vaginally and you can offer your baby the same love and opportunities as everyone else... how the baby comes to meet you doesn't determine failure or success... it's the quality of the person who makes a success. I hope you find peace in yourself. Good luck x

Tracey - posted on 03/22/2010

I had a c-section with my youngest child who is now 14, it was an emergengy due to the fact he stopped breathing, i found it very distressing afterwards, due to the way that it was done as it was in my final stages of labour. I suffered with post truamatic stress for some time afterwards but they assured me that it was the best way and the safest way to deliver him, due to the fact that they had to get him out very quickly, if they had not done this i would not have my son today. I am now 16 wks pregnant with another child and due to what happened then i now have to have another c-section, this time i'm more scared than the last as i will be awake the whole time and i am nervous about what happened with the last. I know lots of ppl who have had c-section and you shouldn't feel a failure for it, lots of women have problems that can't be forseen. I have had three other normal deliveries and had other problems with them that had to delt with in the delivery room. You have a beautiful baby that is alive and so are you, sometimes these things don't compensate as most mums who have had a normal delivery don't understand, but ppl i talk to now that are having there babies are actually jealous that i'm having a c-section as i will know when my baby will be born and as some mums have said to me my bits won't change lol. So don't feel bad about it.

Marnie - posted on 03/22/2010

I had my son C section due to him being breech, ten day before he was born they tried to turn him but it didn't work, so we had a date set for the c section, however i ended up going into labor before and it ended up being an emergency. However I had both of my daughters natually after. It is going to depend on where u live as to weather or not they will allow it. My first daughter wasn't a problem in the area I lived in however we moved when I was pregnant with my second daughter and had to travel almost an hour in order for me to have her natrually. Because of the complications that can happen with doing it natrually after a c section are big, but I didn't have a problem so there is always a chance for you to do it natrually too. Don't feel like a failer though remember that you made your baby and brought her into this world and it dosen't matter how she got here. She is a blessing no matter what. Keep your head up :).