did anyone have a c section? was it emergency or chose?

Crystal - posted on 03/21/2010

Michelle,

I had to have c-section with my first son because of failure to progress at 10 cm!!!!!! Once I was at 10 cm my son stopped progressing and I ended up pushing for 8 hours. Finally they had to do an emergency c-section. However, afterward I felt just as you did. I felt like I was not a true women because I could not deliver normally either. It took a lot to really cope with it but eventually I realized I am more of a women. C-sections endure more pain than a vaginal birth and more of a recovery. I had no help to care for my child after he was born, my husband had to work and so I had to cope with the pain and care for him. It took a lot with your stomach all gapped open and stapled shut so I feel I passed more obstacles then most women. In fact, when my 2nd was born I went with a repeat c-section. It was awesome I got to pick the date and no harsh labor pains. Plus a repeat c-section is not as painful as the first. Good luck to you and remember, you are not a failure because only you could bring that beautiful baby into this world. God Bless.

Karen - posted on 03/21/2010

Do you really feel a failure? You are a mother to a 10 month old and that is pretty impressive if you ask me. I have had 3 c sections and I'm not sure that it matters how your bub gets out as long as it does and both of you are safe and healthy. There are so many other things to worry about. Don't worry about it, focus on the important things.

Cyndie - posted on 03/21/2010

I was lucky enough to have my girls naturally. But I don't think that anyone should feel like a failure if they have to have a c section. In the end the finished product is what is important. A healthy happy little baby, don't ever blame yourself for something you had no control over. And yes you can have a natural birth after c section. I know several of my friends who have done just that. Just remember child birth is very unpredictable so don't be upset if it does not go to plan..

Semra - posted on 03/21/2010

Yes I had a similar story. I went into labour 1 week before I actually gave birth. I lost my mucous plug the next day and I had contractions throughout the week which were very close and building up in pain. Because of this, I never got a chance to sleep for the whole week, day or night. I went into hospital the following thursday and asked for something to help me sleep. The pain relief did nothing and I was so tired that I wanted to die. I did not know how I could push the baby out that tired. Nothing happened over night and the following morning I was still only 2 cms dialated after a week of pain. They broke my waters at 9:36am and I went to 8cms naturally with happy gas. It was so long and so intense that after so many hours they gave me an epidural cause I was so exhausted and I thought I was going to die. I passed out and woke up 2 hrs later, they told me that my contractions had slowed down and the baby was in distress. I had to get an emergency c section. I was terrified but I am so glad that happened because I think I would have died and same with my baby. I recovered quickly even though the first 2 days were really hard. The only reason I will ever have more is knowing that they will have to be c section. I had such a traumatic birth experience that I never wanted to have anymore after that.

Leanne - posted on 03/21/2010

i had my eldest son naturally but then had my youngest son who is now 2 by csection.. i had to have him by csection as i have a problem down there that prevents me from delivering naturally.. i wasnt told before my first was born wish i was though! would have saved a lot of grief..

my youngest was 10 pound 11 ounces so, i guess it was a good thing that i did have a csection anyway!!

no matter how the baby is born, you have still delivered a baby.. regardless of what part of the body it is delivered from..

All the best, Leanne ♥♥♥

Alison - posted on 03/21/2010

With my second child I had a emergency c-section due to his heartbeat not recovery quick enough after contractions. I was 8 1/2 cm dilated. It was very scary for. Worrying about the baby, people all around me in minutes. I did share those same thoughts, but my husband helped me get over them and realized that our baby boy and myself were healthy. Personally, I would do what ever to deliver a healthy baby. But now almost 5 years later, 7 1/2 months along with the third baby, I would love a vaginal delivery.

Steffanie - posted on 03/21/2010

My first two were regular vaginal births, my third one was a c-section. It was an emergency because the doctor didn't realize that he was breach. It was the most horrible, painful experience I have ever had. I had a really bad feeling about being awake, and told the doctor that I wanted to be knocked out. They told me it was best for my baby if I was awake. It was horrible, painful and scary. I felt the doctor cut my son out of me. Then I thought I was dying because I was screaming so loud, and in so much pain. After the doctor removed the baby, he than put the gas mask on me. The last thing I remember is looking at the bright light above me, and thinking I was dying and passing out. I would never consent to have another c-section while I am awake. It hurt more than both of my other deliveries combined. I didn't feel like a failure, because it was the doctor and nurses fault for not checking to make sure my child wasn't breach. I was more annoyed that I had to go through the pain of being dilated to ten before the doctor figured out Dylan was breach. If I ever have another child, I want to be put out. I don't want to feel the joy of birth. I have done it, it was painful and scary. I can enjoy my baby after I wake up without the trauma of feeling myself being ripped apart.

Tracy - posted on 03/21/2010

You're not a failure. Far from it, you have a beautiful healthy baby. I had two c-sections, and yes I was dissappointed that I could not deliver vaginaly, but I got over it after I was finally able to hold and nurse my baby. The important part is not the delivery, but what happens during the rest of your childs life.

Kylie - posted on 03/21/2010

Hello Michelle! There are so many women like US who feel they have failed child birth because it is so swiftly taken away from them due to having a c-section, whether it be emergency or not. Almost 4 years ago, I gave birth to my daughter. Unfortunately, this was done via c-section too and like you, I felt like such a failure. Women these days make it such a burden on themselves to "want" to give birth vaginally. It is implanted in our heads that unless you give birth vaginally, it doesn't make you a real woman. It is because of this propoganda that we feel failures to the birthing world. However, who has rights to depict what makes a woman, a woman by how they give birth. A woman is depicted by the person she is! Not by how she gives birth.

YOU my dear, are not a failure! The good news I have for you is YES, you can still have a vaginal delivery with your next baby (whenever that is). It's called Vaginal Birth After Caesarean or for short, VBAC. There's plenty of information available on the internet about it. That's where I found out VBAC is possible for the birth of my due baby in August. I'm pregnant again and I have researched it all. All I (you) have to do is, find a doctor who will deliver vaginally after a c-section. However, it is best to keep in mind that Vaginal will not always be possible. Explore your options and know your facts, so you can "stick it" to the next doctor that tells you, without any medical reason to back it, that you have to have a c-section again. I hope this eases you and makes you feel better! You're more of a woman now, than you were before you had your precious gem. Be proud!



Take care...



Kylie

Michelle - posted on 03/21/2010

wow my dauther is 2 now and i still feel that way.im on the waiting list for councelling and that is one of the things im really struggling with.i also had an emergancy c section with failure to progress babies heart going down etc.i thought i was the only one to feel that way but obviously we are not alone.i feel like a failure and was quite traumatised by it all.

Alena - posted on 03/21/2010

I had my first son c-section due to him being face up. My second son I had what is sometimes called VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarion). It is not a failure your 10 month old is here and that is all that matters. Though if you have a Cesarion and due it again the more you have that done the more your odds increase if you were to try vaginally there is an increased chance of Uterus rupture. But once does not put you out from experiencing a vaginal birth.

Heidi - posted on 03/21/2010

I had an Emergency C less than an hour after walking in the door for my 2nd. I was already 6 cm when we got to the Maternal Newborn unit and the baby was breach with a foot already presenting. I wasn't given a choice, as this is a very dangerous delivery for both mom and baby. I was whisked off to surgery, where my spinal wore off before the procedure was complete. My physical recovery was pretty quick, but my mental recovery took much longer. It was months before I could talk about my birth experience without bursting into tears. Now I have a fat and happy, healthy 8 month old. And we are both doing wonderfully!

Kari - posted on 03/21/2010

I had to have a c-section because my daughter has Spina Bifida and it would have compromised her to have a vaginal delivery. I don't feel like a failior because I feel lucky that it was found or else her SB could be worse today. The only time I've felt bad about it was watching the Ricky Lake movie The Business of Being Born. I still feel bitter about the woman I watched it with who paused it when I left the room (trying to avoid watching that part because it was making me feel like a bad mom) and then she wanted to discuss in length the 'facts' of the movie and how women who have c-sections don't bond as well with their babies. You did what was best for your baby and you, and unless you went into the hospital thinking, "What ever I can do to just get this overwith" then you're a good mom.

Jamie - posted on 03/21/2010

I had no feelings of regret in the way the both of my sons were born. I educated myself of my options and I did ALLOT of reading on risks and such. I really tried not to set myself up for a dissapointment. I knew the c-section was the best choice for my first son, as it was needed and my dr was VERY good at letting me know what was going on..Everyone has different birthing experences. My 2nd child was also born via c-section this time by my choice, since I had had a previous c-section and I knew the risks and knew it would be better!

Tania - posted on 03/21/2010

I had a elective C-section 3 weeks ago, as my baby's head was turned completely the wrong way. When my dr opened me up, he was lying even more wrong, and had to deliver him using forceps, his head was so big she had to cut my opening bigger with scissors to get his head through the incision. I got up and walked the next day, didn't have any pain, bathed myself etc. Came home and did the washing etc. Wasn't painful at all, I could get up and walk without help. I'm not dissapointed for trying natural, there would have been complications anyway, and I didn't want an episiotomy and all the trauma down there, so I opted for a clean cut which now even 3weeks later, you cant even notice, it's healed so well!

Kiran - posted on 03/21/2010

I had two cesareans since both the babies were diagonal and in case of my elder one, the water bag had burst so we were left with no option since the pains had not started. My husband was very supportive and he helped me a lot to cope up with the post natal depression. It is very normal to have post natal depression and ur not a failure.

Angela - posted on 03/20/2010

I had a C-section. I was 42 weeks and on my induction date my water broke. I was 10cm but my baby wouldn't drop down far enough so I had my C-section. My healing went fast and I didn't mind it. All I thought of was I was happy that my son came out healthy and that I didn't have to go through all the pushing that some moms have to go through. My son was 9lbs 12.7 oz. So I would have torn down there for sure so I'm lucky that I didn't even have to worry about that because i hear some women have a hard time healing from that. Don't feel like you failed because you didn't. You cared your baby for all that time and brought him/her into the world. You should be a proud mommy.

Kristi - posted on 03/20/2010

I had an emergency c-section with my son after 18 hours of labor and 4 failed attemts at an epidural. Since it was an emergency I was put to sleep so i was not aware until later that he was blue and he to have CPR immediately after birth. I was sooooo thankful for the c-section. 13 months later i had an elective c-section with my daughter (which rocked my world). My son was still a baby and I was not allowed to carry him and i felt so guilty. I suffered almost 12 months of post pardum depression and did not bond with my daughter for almost that long. They are now 2 and 3 and I love and adore them both! It does not matter how they enter the world, it only matters that they are safe!

Kristi - posted on 03/20/2010

I had an emergency c-section with my son after 18 hours of labor and 4 failed attemts at an epidural. Since it was an emergency I was put to sleep so i was not aware until later that he was blue and he to have CPR immediately after birth. I was sooooo thankful for the c-section. 13 months later i had an elective c-section with my daughter (which rocked my world). My son was still a baby and I was not allowed to carry him and i felt so guilty. I suffered almost 12 months of post pardum depression and did not bond with my daughter for almost that long. They are now 2 and 3 and I love and adore them both! It does not matter how they enter the world, it only matters that they are safe!

Kristi - posted on 03/20/2010

I had an emergency c-section with my son after 18 hours of labor and 4 failed attemts at an epidural. Since it was an emergency I was put to sleep so i was not aware until later that he was blue and he to have CPR immediately after birth. I was sooooo thankful for the c-section. 13 months later i had an elective c-section with my daughter (which rocked my world). My son was still a baby and I was not allowed to carry him and i felt so guilty. I suffered almost 12 months of post pardum depression and did not bond with my daughter for almost that long. They are now 2 and 3 and I love and adore them both! It does not matter how they enter the world, it only matters that they are safe!

Jamie - posted on 03/20/2010

My first son was born via c-section, it was sort of an emergency, I had been in labor 36 hrs, water broken, and having pitocin enduced contractions, I was only 4.5 cm dialated, he was already have issues, he didn't pass two of the 10 points on the apgar scale at my last apt, I had two bioprofiles, I think is what its called and he wasn't passed the one for his breathing and diaphram contractions were not in synch, and they said I could risk him being born two weeks early, he was good weight and I was 37 weeks due. His inital dd was Oct 24, 2004 but he was born Oct 12th 2004 @11:01am, my labor had stalled and he wouldn't fit threw my pelivs, we determined that his head was wayyy too big...Good LUCK!

Amy - posted on 03/20/2010

Hi Michelle,

After pushing for three hours I ended up having a c-section. At first it was hard for me with the simple fact that I felt like a failure b/c I pushed for so long with no result. I've gotten over the fact because I didnt have much of a choice because his head wouldnt go over the bone and it was for his own safety because I also had a fever making the doctors think there was a infection when in reality my body was just reacting to the labor. It was for my sons own good and he was a healthy baby who is now a adventrous toddler.

Asia A - posted on 03/20/2010

Hi Michelle,

I have had 1 emergency c-section & 2 planned c-sections. I also felt bad when i had to plan the 2nd one, i felt I failed because I didn't do it the old fashion way and that my kids birthdays were picked by us! But it was the best for the babies and they are as healthy as any of their friends and it was nice being prepared for their arrivals (since we knew exactly when they wre going to be here). Its been 2 yrs since the last csection and as I look back i now have no regrets and think how do hard women have it with all the labor and the waiting!

Ann

Asia A - posted on 03/20/2010

Hi Michelle,

I have had 1 emergency c-section & 2 planned c-sections. I also felt bad when i had to plan the 2nd one, i felt I failed because I didn't do it the old fashion way and that my kids birthdays were picked by us! But it was the best for the babies and they are as healthy as any of their friends and it was nice being prepared for their arrivals (since we knew exactly when they wre going to be here). Its been 2 yrs since the last csection and as I look back i now have no regrets and think how do hard women have it with all the labor and the waiting!

Ann

Asia A - posted on 03/20/2010

Hi Michelle,

I have had 1 emergency c-section & 2 planned c-sections. I also felt bad when i had to plan the 2nd one, i felt I failed because I didn't do it the old fashion way and that my kids birthdays were picked by us! But it was the best for the babies and they are as healthy as any of their friends and it was nice being prepared for their arrivals (since we knew exactly when they wre going to be here). Its been 2 yrs since the last csection and as I look back i now have no regrets and think how do hard women have it with all the labor and the waiting!

Ann

Regina - posted on 03/20/2010

I had my daughter by C-Section. My biggest concern was bringing her into the world safely...and since she was not progressing safely thru the delivery on her own, I felt it was my duty AS her mother to have the C-Section. I believe it was the most loving thing I could do to help her come into the world safely. I would rather her come that way, than to have been in danger by going "natural". Having or not having a vaginal delivery is not what makes you a mother... it's what comes after! Besides...who is to say what's normal??? If we were all the same, the world would be a really boring place! Enjoy you baby! They grow up too fast as it is!!!

Briona Morris- - posted on 03/20/2010

I had an emergency c-section with my son after being induced and only getting to five cm and his heart rate going low because he was on his cord. I did get to leave the hospital on the second day and was up and around even going to the store by day 4. So my c-section experience wasn't too bad even with the traumatic way it played out. Then with my second (a girl) I got to pick her birthday and still got to leave the hospital on day 2 and was up and around about day 4. I never feel bad about "how" I delivered because in the end I have two beautiful children and that is all that matters.So don't let any one tell you that you got the easy way out, because there is nothing easy about going through labor and then having a baby yanked out of your abdomen!!! I am proud that I brought my children into this world and there is no one that could make me feel bad about how I had to do it! Good Luck to you!

Theresa - posted on 03/20/2010

I felt the same as you. My first was born c-section due to not dialating past a 3 and then he went into distress. My second born repeat c-section after we seen the same problem arrise. At times I still feel blue about having the have C-section. But then I wake up and smell the coffee par say and thank god every day that our technology was / is good enough that my doctor saved both my childrens lives and myself in the process, Which I know my husband is thankful for also.All I can say is it gets better with time!

Anna - posted on 03/20/2010

yes and yes. my water broke at 24 wks. i was at rush hospital until i was 25 wks, that night i thought i was cramping from an infection from having a broken water bag for a wk but i was in labor. i was 10cm and her lil legs were coming out when they checked me. i was rushed to the o.r. and put to sleep. i guess they had to push her back up b4 they could remover from my stomach. that was almost 6yrs. ago. me and rose are doing great. rose is healthy 5 1/2 yr. old lil girl. when she was born she was 1lb 13 oz now she 52 lbs. big difference!

Anna - posted on 03/20/2010

yes and yes. my water broke at 24 wks. i was at rush hospital until i was 25 wks, that night i thought i was cramping from an infection from having a broken water bag for a wk but i was in labor. i was 10cm and her lil legs were coming out when they checked me. i was rushed to the o.r. and put to sleep. i guess they had to push her back up b4 they could remover from my stomach. that was almost 6yrs. ago. me and rose are doing great. rose is healthy 5 1/2 yr. old lil girl. when she was born she was 1lb 13 oz now she 52 lbs. big difference!

Shaimaa - posted on 03/20/2010

i had c section 5years ago.after sometime u will handel this.u will be a great mum.do not worry

Shaimaa - posted on 03/20/2010

i had c section 5years ago.after sometime u will handel this.u will be a great mum.do not worry

Debi - posted on 03/20/2010

I had two emergency c-sections. The first was because my daughter was full breach and under stress. The second because I was having twins and was showing signs of developing toxemia...I was already at 38 weeks gestation, so they decided to go ahead with it. I haven't really felt a since of failure, because I know things happen over which we have no control. There is nothing that I could have done any differently that would have brought about a different outcome. I do have a feeling of having been cheated that has been hard for me to cope with. However, when I look at my three beautiful, healthy children, it doesn't seem to matter much anymore! Every cloud has it's silver lining :-)

Pamela - posted on 03/20/2010

I am a fellow c-cection mom! and now gramma to two C-cection births. Neither were our choices. I labored from Wed to Friday morning and due to stress on the baby, had a c-cection. After that I had three other children, all c-cections. My cervix would not open.

My daughter completely dilated but could not deliver the 10lb1oz. boy. then due to a miscarriage two years later and subsequent pregnancy a few months later, the doctor and Mom decided to have c-section for risk reasons.

I remember feeling such the failure also, but now I am so thankful that doctors can so easily perform such feats. I am alive and so were my children, when not so long before I had mine, many mothers and children lost their lives in childbirth. Celebrate the new life you hold and Thank the Lord for everyday you get to love this child. I lost one of my children at 18 yrs old in a snowmobile accident. Most of my most precious memories of him are when I held him as I nursed him and played with him in his youth. I was a stay at home mom and although it cost financially and we did without many things that so many now take for granted, I am so thankful that I saw his sweet face as much as I did. God Bless you and your new baby!

Karyn - posted on 03/20/2010

Hi Michelle,

My son was an emergency c-section when he went into distress. I never felt like a failure- even though I was 100% set on going natural... not even drugs! I realized that I carried him for 9 months and was going to care for him for another 18 years- no small feat! When I was pregnant with my daughter I had to have surgery to put a pace-maker in very early on so I was told I needed to have a repeat cesarean due to the stress on my heart if I had to have another emergency c-section. If I had been healthy I might have tried going natural- though I was more scared of that than the c-section b/c I knew what that was like...

Jelena - posted on 03/20/2010

mine was an emergency C section(baby was facing up and suddenly his heart rate started dropping - fast - later I found out he had the cord wrapped around his neck twice) But we are both fine, I feel sorry that I didn't get to see him until I came back to my senses. I did feel violated since I felt everything(epidural didn't kick in yet and I felt them pulling something out of me with the greatest pain ever)

Katie - posted on 03/20/2010

I also had my son via c section and it was emergency, it was very hard on my i was in hard labor for well over 14 hours and couldnt dialate past a 7, and was so druged that when they took me in to have him i kept falling tyo sleep the only thang i can remeber eas my husband walking in and setting down and my doc telling him to get up and take a picture didnt get see but a glimps of him he had lots of problems his heart rate was very low and suger was high! i had him at 3:38 p.m and didnt get to hold him til 9 pm! they had to put him under the light because he was very yellow and every time someone would come in the room the door would scare him and he would cry and i couldnt get out of bed to comfort him i didnt feel like i was even his mother! i got to change my first diaper the day i got to come home witch was 4 day after having him! it got better after i got home i feel like i missed alot those 4 day and im now a stay at home mother! Hope my store helps!

Amanda - posted on 03/20/2010

I had an emergency c with my oldest and I did have a hard time coping for a while. Five years later I decided to have a planned c section with my daughter and it went wonderfully. I do sometimes feel like I missed out on the whole natural thing but I am glad that I made the decisions I made. both kiddos are healthy and happy... that is all that matters.

Stephanie - posted on 03/20/2010

I had to deliver my daughter through emergency c-section due to fetal distress. She is almost 3 months old now, but it was the most horrible experience of my life...I had doctors and nurses screaming in my face because I wanted to wait for my husband.

Amy - posted on 03/20/2010

I had a normal non medicated delivery with my first son at 19. Then with my second had to be induced at 38 weeks due to bp and got to 8 and had to have a emergency section too. I was told that he was at a weird angle. No other answers. I coped just fine. The recovery was much harder than normal. I was up and moving within hours of haveing a normal delivery.

Jelena - posted on 03/20/2010

mine was an emergency C section(baby was facing up and suddenly his heart rate started dropping - fast - later I found out he had the cord wrapped around his neck twice) But we are both fine, I feel sorry that I didn't get to see him until I came back to my senses. I did feel violated since I felt everything(epidural didn't kick in yet and I felt them pulling something out of me with the greatest pain ever)

Rosee - posted on 03/20/2010

I had an emergency c-section and my second child was a planned c-section. The best advice I received was that it doesn't matter how you deliver a child.you delivered a child!!!!! The is no normal or not normal..just conceiving, carrying, nurturing, having a child. Pretty darn special no matter how you look at it!!!!

Theresa - posted on 03/20/2010

I actually am so grateful that I had both of my girls via c-section. I think a lot of it has to do with how sucessful surgery and recovery was. I was up and at em' within a few days, so it really was not a longer recovery. I would choose a c-section over a natural every time!

Vanessa - posted on 03/20/2010

I had 2 c-sections.....When I had my oldest son in 1992..I only went 4cm, then stopped so they told me ..I wasn't going to progress anymore..So only option I had was c-section..I didn't look at is me failing in anyway..Some women are made to have children the natural way..Some aren't....When it came time for my 2nd son...Doctor already knew my history, So we didn't even go the natural child birth way....C-Section #2...When I look at both my sons and see all the joy they give me or is giving me..I'd do the C-Sections all over again just to have them...Please don't think of yourself as a failure because thats not it at all....If I was to even have a third child..It wouldn't be the natural way it would also be a C-Section...

Mary - posted on 03/20/2010

I had an emergency C-section almost 8 yrs. ago w/my son. I had no water (sac) at all, it had slowly leaked out w/out myself or my doctor realizing it. They tried to induce labor, but my baby's heart rate started to drop so they whisked me off to the ER....we had no idea how long he was without protection, other than this my pregnancy was wonderful and the best experience ever...even at 40!! My son was born with absolutely no issues/problems...he was as dry, as was the inside of me, as an alligator...but it could have been drastically worse...I thank GOD every day for the gift of my son.

I always figured I was too much of a wimp to have a "natural" birth anyway...LOL...and I was and am forever grateful and thankful that my son was born Healthy and Happy ! ♥

Brittany - posted on 03/20/2010

Now I my second child was scheduled c-section and that was my choice due to the long labor and complications from my first child.

Brittany - posted on 03/20/2010

I had the same problem with my 4 year old. I got induced on a mon day morning and by wedsday I got to an 8 and wouldnt go any further. our heart rates dropped due to long labor so they took us in for emergancy c-section. It was hard for me too, I felt the exact same way. But I also couldn't breast feed after everything due to infection. The best way I looked at it is that if I would of did it "normally" then something would of went wrong. I figured it wa God's way of protecting me and baby. Take it a day at a time and keep telling yourself that it is NOT your fault. Your body may just not have been ready.

Joy - posted on 03/20/2010

I understand how you feel.My little girl was delivered via emergency c section due to the fact after being in labor for 2 weeks I only dilated to just past 1 cm. You work your whole pregnancy towards a "normal" delivery just to realize your body can't do it. But you know, I think we have to realize how lucky we are to live in this day and age where we can safely deliver a healthy child no matter the complications. Just think how blessed you are to be able to hold your little one and just think of the c-section scar as a battle scar. :)

Heather - posted on 03/20/2010

FAILURE??? Look what you brought into this world, it doesn't matter how they got here. Furthermore, what did you have to sacrifice for 9 months to keep that baby healthy?? What will you have to sacrifice for the rest of your life to benefit them. Many women feel like a failure because they cannot get pregnant, look what you have done and be thankful and enjoy every minute. BTW I had 2 c-sections and mine were by choice. With my first I was 38 years old and the baby was 1 month early and I decided that a c-section would be less stress on the baby. As it turned out the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck twice and around his arm once and we would have had to have an emergency c-section anyway. For me this was definitely the right decision and I don't regret it or ever feel like I've done something wrong. I'm sure there will be plenty of things to beat myself up over in the next 20 or so years, so I think you can let yourself slide on this one.

Heather - posted on 03/20/2010

I had an emergency c-section with my son. He was drowning in amniotic fluid, so they really didn't have much of a choice but to deliver him that way. I didn't feel like a failure at all.. My biggest concern was that my son was going to be ok. Woman who have c-section should be proud of them selves... It takes alot to go through a c-section. Yes, we would all love to be able to push our littles out and enjoy seeing them being born, but sometimes we just have to deal with the cards god has dealt us.. My son being born by c-section, saved his life!! So for me, I thank god for My c-section everyday!!