did i make the rite decision?

Autumn - posted on 11/24/2008

You are mom and you know what is best for your kids. You made the right decision.
But it looks like you are struggling with a new decision. Go back to work or continue to stay home? If you really want a job outside the home, look into something that gives you the same schedule as your kids. After me and all my siblings started school, my mom was looking for the same thing. She started working in the school cafeteria to have our same schedule. She didn't spend as much gas money as when she drove across town. She was always home when we were. And best of all, the kids thought she was "the coolest mom ever". I always heard, "Your mom is super nice! Nicer than the other lunch ladies!" A big popularity boost for me (and I needed it! lol).
Another option is to take a hobby that you like and find a way to market it. I have so many mom friends that do Photography, or make custom hand bags and all sorts of home businesses that have nothing to do with an outside company.

Suzanne - posted on 11/24/2008

thank-you, my son has started full time school already and is in year 1. its so hard to find a job for when the kids are at school because when it comes to holidays im back to square one again :0( i have seen ads and things to work from home but i dont really want to try that as alot of them turn out to be scams i think.they ask you for money and you ever make any, lol i cant afford to do that!! i guess ive answered my own question really as long as i can afford to be at home its probably better for all of us in the long run.

Elsa - posted on 11/24/2008

Now that there's more info, I have to agree with Rachel. I do think that spending that time with your child is important. Before we decided to move, my mom tried to get me to stay where we used to live (we were much closer to her then) and said I should work in the evenings. I would hate to miss out on that time with hubby since he works days, and also I would never see my kids when they're in school. Your 5-year-old will be in school fulltime soon, I would stay home until then, and then look for a part-time job during the time when the kids are in school.

Elsa - posted on 11/24/2008

My guess is the decision was to become a SAHM, otherwise Suzanne wouldn't be in this group. There isn't always a wrong or right decision... sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. I know many people who returned to work, some because they LOVE their work, others because they can't afford not to.



I love staying home with my kids, and have moved to a cheaper city so that I could. Just like a job, it has it's good days and bad. Now that I am a mother to 2 (expecting 3rd), I know it was the right decision for us because daycare for 3 kids would be more than my paycheck, I'm sure.



Right now, a friend and I run a SAHM group and we get together a few times weekly... that way we don't go crazy at home. I also plan on starting my own business on the side so that I'm not relying on the income, but at least I have something to do when the kids are all in school.

Rachel - posted on 11/24/2008

spending that oine on one time with ur children is extremely important, im my opinion i wouldnt go back to work for a couple years and when u do i would get a part time job where u only work nights a couple days of the weeks and dont work weekends so u can spend all day with ur kids =)

Suzanne - posted on 11/24/2008

i know,sorry, lol was thinking out loud.when i had my first son, age 8 now i wasnt working, i had my second son now aged 5 and when he was about 2 i started working in the evening, just to make things a little easier for us all. (my husband was working in the day) when my now 5 year old started nursery everything was good and i didnt noticed the strain my job was having on my youngest until he went into reception class. my eldest was already settled and has learnt the basics, numbers writing skills etc.. but as i was going off to work in the evening i wasnt noticing that time i should have been spending with my youngest teaching him essentials and just having time with him as he was at school all day and i was at work at night. now i havent been working for the last 8 months and my son has improved in all areas but i dont know when is the right time to think about going back towork or even going back, i just need to do something that contributes and i dont feel i am, i am willing to make sacrifices but not when it comes to my childrens education and as the eldest one is doing so well i didnt want the youngest to feel left behind. its so hard to find a job around children, did i do the right thing leaving my job or was there a way to help my son but keep my job?

Rachel - posted on 11/24/2008

first u have to tell us what decision u made before we can reply!