Dinner with another women am I being crazy please give your opinion

Kirsty - posted on 07/18/2012

to be fair he shouldve told you if he was going for dinner with another woman!... if he has nothing to hide then why not tell you?.... then again he may be innocent but just didnt think to tell you.... either way you should sit and ask him to be honest with you and tell him your feelings about this situation

Danyell - posted on 07/18/2012

Seems like you have every right to be upset. But don't jump to conclusions. He might be right on his feelings for her, but just because he says they are just friends doesn't mean that is what she feels. If he isn't telling you than he may know its wrong but don't want you to be mad. Most guys don't think and when it comes to ladys they are just clueless. He may think the friendship is harmless but is unsure of how you will react. And it maybe harmless. Talk to him tell him how you feel. Ask him what he would do or feel if the shoe was on the other foot. But if he still wants to meet up than my suggestion is ask him if they can meet at your home. Tell him they can do their work at the kitchen table and you will keep the kids ocupied. Make him some study snacks. That way you seem supportive but you can also see how they are with each other. Good luck

Amanda - posted on 07/18/2012

I know my man has partners of both genders that he studies with. They often study at a restaurant. However, he is up front me with about it, so I never worry. Follow your instincts.

Cleaver - posted on 07/18/2012

my husband had a small group of friends 2 girls and 3 guys the 2 girls are with 2 of the guys, if he told me that he was going out to dinner with B or Annie i wouldn't but (yes there is a very big but) both of these girls have been with their boyfriends since high school and not to mention (unless they are amazing actors) they love me. although if i found out that he was going out with Dakota i would raise a fuss and get pissed because i know how he felt about her and when we were having a rough patch a year ago she said some horrible things to me.

Kendra - posted on 07/17/2012

His relationship is inappropriate and it sounds like if he's not already cheating, he is certainly laying the groundwork to do so. This should not be tolerated. If he wants to hang out with other women, he should have stayed single.

Christine - posted on 07/14/2012

Did you really need to ask for our opinions to figure out that what hes doing is sneaky and disrespectful to you? You need to talk to him about this and then go from there. That kind of behavior should NOT be tolerated it breaks trust which is a HUGE foundation in any relationship.

Corinne - posted on 07/14/2012

I'd be really upset too. When Mike started uni, our fisrt child was 1yr old. I went through all her early years and my second pregnancy on my own, as he was also working full time. He also went to end of term dinners and after lecture drinks without letting me know or inviting me. It hurt like hell that he'd talk about his friends and I didn't have a clue who they were. He was never 'up to' anything, but felt really bad when I told him how left out I felt. I'd given up my career and lost friends when I had kids and him sharing his time with these friends felt like another punch in the gut.
He needs to take your feelings into consideration and put you and your family first. If it is hurting you that much, insist that he stops going and spends the time with you instead.

Stifler's - posted on 07/13/2012

Maybe he feels it was wrong because you're upset about it, not because he did anything with her. I honestly didn't think to invite Damo to uni end of term dinners and stuff I didn't think he'd be interested in meeting uni people. It's also hard to include people who don't have the feintest idea what anyone is talking about. He got upset that I never invited him anywhere and I realise I was wrong now.

Katherine - posted on 07/13/2012

I would be upset too. Studying is one thing, but going out to eat is quite another. If he doesn't stop I would INSIST he does!

Momma99 - posted on 07/13/2012

No he doesn't tell me where they are or where they are going He is 32 and we have had a rocky past. She said they are just friends and so did he. But then he also admited to being wrong. So hmmm if your just friends why was it wrong

Amanda - posted on 07/13/2012

Danyale,
I guess it just depends on how old your husband is and what your relationship is like. What is alewine? Does your husband tell you where they are and what they are doing? Are they meeting to study or just to hang out?
Amanda