Itsa - posted on 11/09/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
Every time I come on here I see something about "not having own money, having to ask hubby" etc...
Why aren't you people MAKING sure your home is a smooth running ship? All crew (family members) have an important roll, and they should all know what that/those rolls are!
Have family meetings! If you're the one who stays home and runs the house, make sure that hubby and you have a joint account. Make a deal that a certain amount is set aside for monthly groceries, etc. Whatever you have left in that account can be used or saved for YOUR or the kids personal use (ie a new top, shoes, etc).
If you need or want something outside of the normal budget simply ask hubby or your partner to sit down and chat and state reasons why you need/want this item. If he says no, it's probably not doable!
Remember, EVERYONE is under a lot of stress right now. Money is tight, work is hard! We all know about the job markets, recession, etc. Help make things less stressful by making things run smoothly at home for the working person, make things easier for EVERYONE by talking!
Maybe it's just us, but I NEVER have trouble asking for money! If we need groceries, he;s certainly not going to shop for them! If he says "I just gave you money" I show him the receipts and stand my ground. If I want/need something, I simply ask. I get either a yes or a no and a reason why!
I want this to be a spot where all of us moms can talk about this, tell our stories, help other moms get through this!
Tell me yours!