Disruptive Behavior Disorder---Who has experience?!?!?

Ladean - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 4. She has disruptive behavior disorder. Anyone else out there have any experience with this?!?!?!!

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I had a student with ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder. His IEP changed the next year when he was diagnosed emotionally disturbed with conduct disorder. He knew how to push all of my buttons. It helped our situation once I learned to remain calm and use a non threatening tone when dealing with him. I also held my hands behind my back when talking to him which was another technique that was recommended to me. Structure, consistency, routine, and increased supervision (especially during non structured times) were tools that helped me get through a very challenging year. His mom was a single mother with no insurance and couldn't afford the behavior therapy that had been recommended for him. We helped arrange a parent skills training class for her but she didn't show up. Her son was very large for 10 and super strong. He had violent tendencies when he felt threatened so keeping control of your own emotions was a must when dealing with him. I don't know your daughter's situation but I do wish you the best. Learn as much as you can about her disorder and take advantage of the programs designed to help families in your situation. There are very specific skills and strategies that you can learn and they'll help you deal with it. Therapy will also teach your daughter coping skills and strategies of her own. Good luck.

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Christy - posted on 07/04/2010

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Is she seeing a psychiatrist on a regular basis? Is she on meds? I feel for you, esp with the violent tendencies. I hope it all works out for you.

Beth - posted on 07/04/2010

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My 9 yo son was just recently diagnosed with Disruptive Behavior disorder with ODD tendencies, and Mood disorder- nos. He also has been labeled with "specific" learning disability and s/l disability. We have had to lock meds and sharp knives, scissors, ect up in a safe, in our room with a padlock on the door. When he first started acting up, he was about 18 mths. We passed it off as "terrible twos". At almost 10, he's still acting up. He's been supended 3 times (threatened to rape a neighbors child at school, threatened to rape a boy's mother, and threatened to rape his principal and several school staff.) He's been thrown off the bus several times for throwing stuff, hitting the driver over the head with a dictionary, ect. He was diagnosed with Oppisitional Defiant Disorder at 6. One thing I can't stress enough is to be consistant in disapline, stay calm when your daughter is at her worst. Also, your school system or doctor's office can help you find a counslor for your daughter. My son is on Abilify, to help control his moods, but it's not working as well as it should. My son has a case manager, shrink, counslor, and he sees his guidance counslor during the school year. The family's safety is a priority, as well as the child's. I've had to call the police to restrain my son, after he tried to stab his sister in the chest with a pair of scissors. Good luck.

Ladean - posted on 10/14/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

What is it? How did you come to the conclusion that is what your daughter had?



In my reply to Amanda, I gave the explination of it and a link to a website with great information on it. 



I came to the conclusion that this is what my daughter had after contacting our local counciling office about her behavior (on both instinct and CYS suggestion).  I tried talking with her pediatrician about her behavior and he kept assuring me that it was just a phase and she would grow out of it soon.  I have 3 younger sibilings and a son older than she is.  I knew from experience that it was more than just a phase, that is why I contacted the counceling office. 



They asked tons of questions (asking her older siblings, both her father and myself, teachers at daycare, babysitters and other family members) and observed her behaviors.  The councelors are the ones who diagnosed her.



Some of the things she does are:





Periods when she refuses to use the toilet and uses her bedroom floor instead causing us to have all the carpeting removed from her bedroom and vinyl flooring put down instead.

Being mean to animals to the point that I had to get rid of all our pets.

Extremely violent towards her brother and myself (causing several ER visits for both of us).

Shouting and screaming to the point that our neighbors thought she was being abused and called Children & Youth Services to come investigate.

Stealing.

Setting fires.

Purposely destryoing other peoples and her own things.

Threatening to hurt people (our worst nightmare was when she told her older brother to be quiet or "I will cut you and make you bleed until all your blood comes out and you are died." It's her favorite threat.)



There are locks on a couple of my cabinets now to keep all the medications and sharp objects in and the key never leaves my pocket.  These are steps we have taken and what we have gone through so far and that's how we know what she is afflicted with.

Ladean - posted on 10/14/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

What is it? How did you come to the conclusion that is what your daughter had?



In my reply to Amanda, I gave the explination of it and a link to a website with great information on it. 



I came to the conclusion that this is what my daughter had after contacting our local counciling office about her behavior (on both instinct and CYS suggestion).  I tried talking with her pediatrician about her behavior and he kept assuring me that it was just a phase and she would grow out of it soon.  I have 3 younger sibilings and a son older than she is.  I knew from experience that it was more than just a phase, that is why I contacted the counceling office. 



They asked tons of questions (asking her older siblings, both her father and myself, teachers at daycare, babysitters and other family members) and observed her behaviors.  The councelors are the ones who diagnosed her.



Some of the things she does are:





Periods when she refuses to use the toilet and uses her bedroom floor instead causing us to have all the carpeting removed from her bedroom and vinyl flooring put down instead.

Being mean to animals to the point that I had to get rid of all our pets.

Extremely violent towards her brother and myself (causing several ER visits for both of us).

Shouting and screaming to the point that our neighbors thought she was being abused and called Children & Youth Services to come investigate.

Stealing.

Setting fires.

Purposely destryoing other peoples and her own things.

Threatening to hurt people (our worst nightmare was when she told her older brother to be quiet or "I will cut you and make you bleed until all your blood comes out and you are died." It's her favorite threat.)



There are locks on a couple of my cabinets now to keep all the medications and sharp objects in and the key never leaves my pocket.  These are steps we have taken and what we have gone through so far and that's how we know what she is afflicted with.

Ladean - posted on 10/14/2009

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Quoting Amanda:

What is this??



Disruptive Behavior Disorder is a "umbrella" term for 3 other conditions (AD/HD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder and Conduct Disorder).  A child is diagnosed Disruptive Behavior Disorder - NOS when they meet criteria for more than just one of the 3 conditions.  The following link explains it much better than I can.  http://www.mhawestchester.org/diagnosech...

Michelle - posted on 10/10/2009

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What is it? How did you come to the conclusion that is what your daughter had?

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