Do any of you go crazy when you sit at home with your child every single day?

Jackeline - posted on 05/24/2010

My youngest son suffers from separation anxiety (he was a premie so I stayed home for 3 month after his birth) last year it was so bad he didn't go to school for the last six months literally stuck to my every move. Honestly I thought I would go insane. I feel your pain I also think you should get a job to feel some peace of mind the worst mistake I did was quit my job n be a fulltime housewife because now my son still wont leave me for only a few hours at a time. Go for it I wish you the best.

Brenda - posted on 05/24/2010

I completely understand where you're coming from...i lost the plot just before xmas last year and had to do something for my sanity and the love of my family - i've always been one that enjoys the gym, and they have childminding facilities - so three/four times each week we go to the gym - Ryley gets to play and I get some very important "me" time and the whole house is happier for it! If it's not work you get back into, find something that interests you - you'll never look back.

Brenda - posted on 05/24/2010

I completely understand where you're coming from...i lost the plot just before xmas last year and had to do something for my sanity and the love of my family - i've always been one that enjoys the gym, and they have childminding facilities - so three/four times each week we go to the gym - Ryley gets to play and I get some very important "me" time and the whole house is happier for it! If it's not work you get back into, find something that interests you - you'll never look back.

Yvette - posted on 05/24/2010

When I went back to work after I had my daughter I felt bad leaving her at daycare only two days a week and her dad watched her thursday's and friday's. I felt like I should be watching her and I would miss her. when I wasn't working anymore and became the stay at home mom I thought who in there right mind would want to stay at home all day everyday watching a baby! I have a 9 year old son and had to keep up with him and all his activities after school. It also doesnt help that Iam now 25 weeks pregnant. I feel run down at times so a part time job would help! I miss work at times but I also would have missed all her milestones!

ELIZABETH - posted on 05/24/2010

yes i get so sad depressed and i find i am a crap mom cuz i am tierd and need a break to get my self back together. i dont drive its allways windy and crapy where i live so walks dont sound fun. and i have no friends cuz i never leave the house to make any and dont really know how. my husband says go make friends i am like what do u want me to do post flyers on telephonepolls. lol ya i hate sitting in the house but i guess it will get better when my kids get older and in school.

Joanna - posted on 05/24/2010

I felt the same way, my daughter had colic until she was almost 4months old which made it feel even worse. But then I started going somewhere every morning... walking a mile to the nearby Starbucks for a coffee, or walking to the park, or driving to the big outdoor mall just to walk around and grab a sandwich for lunch, etc. Just getting out of the house every morning was SO refreshing for me. I didn't even have to spend money, but just being out was good for me, and my daughter enjoyed it too!

Andrea - posted on 05/24/2010

No it doesn't sound crazy. I have felt the same way for months now. My husband is in the navy and gone a lot. We have a total of 6 kids in our house right now and only 2 of them are it school. So I am home every single day with a 5,4,2, and 1 year old. I wanted to work, but in my case I would be working to pay a sitter. I think getting a job is good. I just started take classes online. Another thing that I just started to do that I found relaxing is painting. It really works. I really do understand what your going through. I hope this helped.

Christina - posted on 05/23/2010

I feel ya! I have a 2 1/2 year old & a 13 month old who if they're awake, they're SCREAMING! I'm about to lose my mind & have threatened to go back to work Many times. My husband doesn't mind me going back to work, especially since I brought home a pretty good paycheck as a medical underwriter lol, but with my babies screaming the way they do, I'm afraid to leave them with anyone for fear they will be abused. It sucks, but I keep telling myself that they will be in school before I know it & I'll be back at the job I miss.

Felicia - posted on 05/23/2010

Not crazy at all, I wish I would of gotten a job to get out more. My daughter is 16 months now and still no job. I do babysitting now at home which has its ups and downs but at least im not going stir crazy anymore.

Amy - posted on 05/23/2010

So glad you're doing better! Keep walking and breathing and setting small things to look forward to and savor.
I go a little nuts staying at home sometimes, but also do not want anyone else raising my child or sharing the memories of him growing up that I can never go back and recapture. Once he's grown there will be plenty of "me" time (consider lives of our parents, etc).. this is tough, but it's a small fraction of our lives that is so so worthwhile to invest in our precious 'blessings'.

Katie - posted on 05/23/2010

Thanks everyone, I love him but oh my gosh do i wish i could get out, I actually started walking everynight with him, we walk about 2-3 miles, I just push him in the stroller, and he loves it, it actually feels like i can breath that way....

Jessica - posted on 05/23/2010

I feel ya hun.. my 3 month old started teething and my fiance works 12 hour shifts 6 days a week. So just loading up the stroller and walking down the sidewalk helps.... sometimes just going to the park or the store helps a whole bunch.

Dorothy - posted on 05/23/2010

i am home with TWINS all day. so i can definitely feel your pain. my suggestion, plan something (even if it's little so it doesn't mess with his schedule too bad) everyday. visit a friend for a couple hours. go for a walk. take him to do errands with you. go for a drive. i find that just having one little thing to do each day really helps break up the day. if that's not enough, you don't even need to get a job... just start taking time for yourself. do the same things that i already listed but by yourself. or join some sort of group of club. pick a girls night out once a week or once a month. give yourself something to look forward to! whatever you do, if you are starting to go nutty... you need to do something! if you don't have anyone to leave your son with, maybe you could join a gym, a lot of them have babysitting services! i know some days, just going out to get the mail by myself makes me feel better! good luck... and take some deep breathes!! :)

Louise - posted on 05/23/2010

That sounds perfectly normal to me. Why not compromise and get a part time job. You will then have adult stimulation and then be able to give your child quality time. Some mums just can't hack being in the house all day and I can understand that. I love being at home and I fill my days with alsorts. My best mate went to work as that is what she needed to do to keep her own sanity. Nobody should have a go for that. Sometimes a mother who is out at work is a better mother for it as she will not resent being stuck in the house all day in solitary confinement. If you feel you want to work then go for it, start to look around for day care that you are happy with and then hit the papers for a job. Good luck in what you choose to do!

Itsa - posted on 05/22/2010

Of course! Sometimes I just scream into a pillow and cry for a few mins at how hard it is.... Then when it's all out of my system, I go back to my little bundle of wonder and give him a biiiiiiiiiig hug and think "it's not going to be this hard forever, he'll get older and we can do more things". But at the same time I'll miss being home in my trackpants and t-shirts with my little guy who didn't resist snuggles (well, not as much as he will when he's 2 or older lol!)

And remember, you're not alone!!!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 05/21/2010

I definately go crazy sometimes. My children are 6,5,2, and one on the way. Sometimes it feels like all I get accomplished in a day is cleaning and yelling "stop hitting your sister" or "Curtains weren't made to swing from" I found that if I stay home for too many days in a row, I even start getting depressed. I know I'm doing the best for my kids by being here, but sometimes I wonder what is best for me. I found that if I get out at least every other day, it really helps. I make trips to wal-mart just to get milk, but I stop and look at other things too, and take my time getting home. I'll take the kids to mcdonalds for an afternoon snack. I feed them at home, so that they aren't eating too much fast food, but I'll buy them a yogurt or apples or something and let them play while I talk to other moms there. We have a ton of second hand shops around my area, so I will go and see what they have, because the stuff in there changes constantly. If you feel you need to work, then do it. Some people just aren't made to stay at home and that is ok.

Brittany - posted on 05/21/2010

I feel the same way...I have a 4mth old little boy (who is teething) and i sit at home with him all day by myself i dont have a car or any friends in my area so i really am stuck during the day...as soon as my fiance gets home im always trying to get out of the house and go somewhere even if we just go to walmart lol

Mandy - posted on 05/21/2010

Absolutely!! Siting at home all day with no adult interaction could drive anyone crazy.....plus if your child is the only one you have chances are he is just as bored as you are and that can make him needy out of boredom. Try this site, www.meetup.com I found a playgroup/momsgroup there and there are many weekly meet ups to choose from, most are cheap or free, and you and your son can both make new friends....my group also has several mommy nights per month where everyone leaves the kids home with the dads and the ladies go out and have fun. I'd lose my mind if I didn't have my play dates.

Kelina - posted on 05/21/2010

Some women are born and bred to be stay at home moms, others can't stand being home. If you want to work go ahead, my sister went back to work two weeks to the day after my niece was born and it's made her an even better mother because she's not going crazy being with her kids. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 05/21/2010

If you can get a job then great, if not try going for a walk to the park or see if you can join a play group. It can get kinda tiring to be home all day long. I like to read when my son is napping, that way it "me" time and I am still able to hear him if he wakes up and needs me.

Gina - posted on 05/21/2010

I have 2 small kids and I feel the exact same way! A job would get me out of the house to interact with ppl that don't watch cartoons all the time and make a little cash on the side.
you're not alone in this maddness. go for it,get a job if ya want to.