Do you feel stigmatized as a stay-at-home mom?

Nikkole - posted on 12/16/2010

i need to learn how to crochet lol i make bows for my daughter and blankets for everyone i love doing that stuff!

Brittany - posted on 12/16/2010

I thankfully don't get it from family but that would be very hypocritical of them (all of my sisters are stay at home moms). I do get asked by my husband's family about when will I go back to school... I tell them, "Well when child care magically becomes free finishing up my degree might be an option."

Honestly I would rather stay at home crocheting and painting, I can always sell them for a nice bit of money. I love making crochet headbands. I do abstract paintings and drawings. I just need to learn how to sell them.

Nikkole - posted on 12/16/2010

yea im 22 and i have an almost 3year old and a 5month old and when i tell people im a stay at home mom there like WELL why dont you help you husband??? Im like UH i take care of his kids,cook,clean,do his laundry, EVERYTHING so i think i am helping or they will say Oh well i wish i could stay home all day!

Nelly - posted on 12/16/2010

I feel the same way my children are 16,14,12 and 10 yrs old.

Jamie - posted on 08/03/2010

I do at times, I feel like people look down on me for being a stay at home mom, even though I work from home and bring money into the household (E-bay & babysittling) I feel like people hear stay at home mom n they think Lazy or something when thats deff not the case! When I hear people talking down about my working status, I remind them that my children will have the knolege that I was always there for them growing up! I have the most important job ever and I would never trade it for a less rewarding job!

Davine - posted on 08/02/2010

There are many times where I felt stigmatized for being a sahm. I recently got a night time job to help us out. we live in an area where there are no jobs and it was hard for me to find one. I always heard from mostly my inlaws that it was ridiculous for me to stay at home and i should be working and there was no reason i couldnt put the kids in daycare. My MIL constantly told me how she did it and took care of the kids and blah blah blah! And now that i work part time its why dont u work more hours and why cant u do ALL the housework during the day...well like u have all said, there is a laundry list of things to do during the day but the number one on the list is taking care of ur kids!!!! And that should be every parents priority! So I say walk a day in my shoes to all those who think that being a sahm is nothing! Its the hardest job in the world and anything extra is just that its EXTRA!!!!!

Stifler's - posted on 08/02/2010

I feel that people think women should go back to work AND do everything around the house AND still have time to raise children properly and read them stories AND look good and be social. I'm not superwoman and I don't see how me not working is not contributing to society. Mothers have been staying home from work with children forever. People can get off their high horse.

Kate - posted on 08/02/2010

A lot of mom stay home in the area where l live. A lot of kids are home schooled, too. l almost feel like l'm not doing enough if l don't home school them when they are old enough. A friend of mine has never sent her kids to public school, always schooled at home, and it amazes me how many hours a day she and/or her husband spend teaching the boys.
So l don't feel stigmatized for being home with the kids, but l might feel stigmatized one day for not home schooling them.

Kristy - posted on 08/02/2010

the way i see it is that i'm doing whats best for my children i have a 12 week ols and a 3 year old and i'm planning another 2 or 3 kids somewhere down the track.I may not get paid for what i do at home but i certently do work
2 loads of washing per day +
2 loads of nappies per day +
2 beds, 1 cot that need to be made
the dishes have to be done 3 times daily
bathroom and landry to be cleaned
lounge and dinning room need cleaning
3 meals to be cooked
but the most inportant thing is 2 kids to play with and get my full attention
Now try to tell me that i don't work so the next time some one has a go at you for been a SAHM run this list off and ask them to do this every day by themselfs without help than they can comment